Do you think if Step Parent see's abuse they are just as gulity!?

Megan - posted on 07/10/2011

I agree Lori
again sorry Catherine

Paula - posted on 07/10/2011

I think anyone who sees or has knowledge of abuse/neglect or anything else that fits the category of harmful to another person and does not report it, is just as guilty.

Lori - posted on 07/10/2011

And do not count on child protection agency...they will give your kids to someone that will abuse them.

Lori - posted on 07/10/2011

The child is the innocent party...protect them at all costs...they did not ask to be here....they were made to be here...keep the child safe. Been there...saw the dog kicked across the yard....child slapped just because she had an opinion and I got right in the middle of it all! NOT OK!

Frances Fern - posted on 07/10/2011

Lets put a twist to this: you are the ex-wife and you know your ex-spouse is abusing his new family, Do you report it?

Margaret - posted on 07/10/2011

i can never find an excuse there is no such thing as just a spanking to me that is abuse

Teresa - posted on 07/10/2011

I think anyone, not just step parents, who sees a child being abused and does nothing, is as guilty as if they were the abuser, and some courts see it that way.

Lora - posted on 07/10/2011

Yes. If an outsider seen this and reported it to Child Protective Service and your child was in the home, CPS could take both children. You have to say something to also protect yourself and your child.

Janice - posted on 07/10/2011

If it is abuse YES Just a spanking NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 07/10/2011

Yes. Plain and simple if you see a child (or anyone) being abused and you do nothing you are just as bad, if not worse than the abuser.

Nicole - posted on 07/10/2011

Yes all parties involved and who know of the abuse is guilty.

Megan - posted on 07/10/2011

im sorry i didnt mean it like that. I wish the best for all of us! its a tough world out there and scary for that matter! god bless

Britt - posted on 07/10/2011

yes i know right! :)

Catherine - posted on 07/10/2011

no not u britt....that megan person. she says my son should not judge but yet my son is here reading this and cannot believe that ppl are against me and the barn theory. glad to hear u have reported. it is a step in the right direction. but sometimes u do have to take things into your own hands for the sake of protecting your own. this i do truely believe.

Britt - posted on 07/10/2011

Who are you referring to? Its not me , i have reported 4x

Catherine - posted on 07/10/2011

the day any one of 5 kids come and tell me or my hubby that hey have been abused in any way by anyone, verbal, mental, emotional, physical, there will be heck to pay. NO child deserves it. black, white, brown, blue, pink, yellow, polka dot, it dont matter. and i dont care about judge, jury, executioner, or cps. my 5 kids all know that home is a safe place. they can talk, express, be them selves and grow in love. that is what being a kid and learning is about. my kids are my life. i am their life. abuse is not in their vocabulary and not something they will ever experience as long as i am alive to prevent it. that is my and my hubbys job as parents. too bad there are parents out there that cant seem to their jobs. disgusting

Britt - posted on 07/10/2011

sorry to get anything started on this topic i just wish the SM of my bio's that live with BD , would stand up but in fact the children tell me she spanks them and treats her 's better than mine, i know she knows BD IS HURTING the kids and she should have charges brought upon her just like BD!

Megan - posted on 07/10/2011

that is okay but your son isnt a "judge," or "cps social worker." seeing the abuse. there fore word wont be able to help a such child unfortunately i wish you well.

Megan - posted on 07/10/2011

Whats up with the barn sayings I know biblical but you have to make sure your not arrest bound for holding children back just from what a child says, there has to be marks on the child to take out of the home/ removal

Catherine - posted on 07/10/2011

thats when u stand by your kids, forget cps, and remember the godd ol' back behind the barn theory. works every time. might be a bit "red neck" but ppl learn not to f%^& with your kids and the kids know who will stand up for them, protect them, love them, keep them safe, and where home is. can u tell me anything more important to a child?? i am sitting here with my oldest (17) right now he is in full agreement with me. good ol' barn theory!!!

Megan - posted on 07/10/2011

im in the social network field, if the such child refuses to talk, there is nothing a social worker can do. they can give out safety plans, but nothing. It has to be discussed with a familycasemanagers supervisor and a report stays open for 30 days. usually if unsubstiated its thrown out after 6 months in our state.



If there are frequent bruising then it would perhaps stay open. I agree with Britt a mother can protect a child so much. If you don't let a child go with that "parent," that committed the such abuse that parent can be held in contempt and a change of custody can be enforced (after so many contempt of court)

Hollie - posted on 07/10/2011

yeah i have had my 2 sk's both girls 3 and 6 (now) and THEY came back from BMs house saying that BM threw her on a couch, there was brusing , long....and CPS investigated it was all unsubstianted- since the girls WONT TALK. or didn't wanna talk, they were both at BMs house when interviewed so go figure.

cps says i coached them to say such abuse. Now that would be sick if that WAS true..

far from true. just saying i wish you well

Britt - posted on 07/10/2011

if CPS doesnt intervene there isnt anything you can do.

Britt - posted on 07/10/2011

HOW CAN YOU keep reporting soon its "false reporting," especially if the children dont talk while at BD s house?

Catherine - posted on 07/10/2011

i have read the above posts and really dont give a rats ass about income or bio or step parenting. i said before ABUSE IS ABUSE!!! report it and take the abuser(s) out behind the barn and show them how the abuse feels. kids are innocent. i was abused as a child. i have 5 children and i promise the world that if my children ever feel a day of harm i will make sure that the person who inflicts the harm will feel twice if not more. kids are the next generation of this world and if we do not teach them right who will. break the cycle now for the sake of the next generation

Kimberly - posted on 07/10/2011

@Jessie if that were my child coming home and saying that I would immediately be calling authorities and then calling both their father and their step mother demanding answers. If my child ever told me someone abused her hit her physically or abused her verbally u better be damn sure I will be banging on your door. Not coming on a mom blog site asking what to do. I mean seriously it's ur kids life here! Do not bash me for what I said. I bet she let her kids go back after hearing those allegations how is that any better than the step mom who sees it? Your kids came home and told u find some answers!!!!

Britt - posted on 07/10/2011

yes but if the SM is not reporting her own DH its becuz she doesnt want to lose 'income,' her life, she has NO Job and always protects the BD (her DH) IN this case.
Its not me. Me and others know better of whats going on in their household and im very upset about this

Hollie - posted on 07/10/2011

@Kimberly you shouldnt bash Britt this person just stated the SM of the children is doing this act - not her. Please read before you go assuming

Hollie - posted on 07/10/2011

Yes this is definitly a yes i doubt any one would SAY NO!
IF so they need to explain their reasoning.

Catherine - posted on 07/10/2011

Abuse is abuse! It does not matter who is doing it. It needs to be reported and stopped immediately!!! Anyone who stands by and watches a child be abused needs to be taken out back behind the barn........ STOP CHILD ABUSE NOW!!!!!

Laura - posted on 07/10/2011

Absolutely! I'm sure it's a difficult situation but the life of an innocent child is at stake.

Kelly - posted on 07/10/2011

Anyone who witnesses abuse and does not report it to the proper authorities is an accomplice to the abuse. If anyone ever witnesses a child, senior, adult being abused you should always report it to the local authorities.

Kimberly - posted on 07/10/2011

Not only that by why in the world would u defend an abuser????? This question should be reported and u and ur family should have social services up your ass.

Kimberly - posted on 07/10/2011

I'm sorry for saying this but why would u even need to ask a question like this? It seems to ask such a question u are either the bio parent doing it or te step parent sitting back and letting it happen. If neither u would never even think of a question like this. My advice to u is to seek help asap bc no matter what the case if u know it or do it ur both equally guilty so step up ad take the correct action. No child deserves to be treated that way no matter what they do wrong. U should be ashamed for asking something like that.

Julie - posted on 07/10/2011

there is no reason to ever tolorate abuse under any circumstances regardless of who it is!
i would have thought that was obvious.

Amie - posted on 07/10/2011

Yes, it should be reported. As long as it is not a false report just to hurt the other person. When dealing with step-parenting, there are many false reports only because the ex spouse wants to get back at the other one. The kids never win.

Kellie - posted on 07/10/2011

YES! By simply marrying the parent they have accepted a role as a parental figure and have accepted the duty to help protect their step-child

Robin - posted on 07/10/2011

Of course!

Gina - posted on 07/10/2011

yes. It is our duty as an Adult to protect children whether they are our own or others. As parents the instinct is stronger to protect children and we should act on it. In my opinion, if a SP sees abuse and doesn't do something about it, then they don't care about the step child. Do they think that if they have their own children with that abusive spouse that wouldn't abuse their children, that they will only abuse the children from the previous marriage. Or that if the SP brings children from their previous marriage that the abusive spouse won't abuse them.

Lisa - posted on 07/10/2011

If anyone see's a child being abused and does not report it they are just as guilty. As adults it is our responsibility to protect children whether we give birth to them, live with them, teach them or have any contact with them.

Angelina - posted on 07/10/2011

Yes ,anyone who witness abuse and does nothing about it is just as guilty as the abuser .

Nancy - posted on 07/10/2011

yep very true

Tamara - posted on 07/10/2011

I was thinking about this, if I was a step parent and seen the bioparent abuse their child, I would leave because that person would also abuse MY children with him, its like a man who beat his exwife/girlfriend there is ahigh if not 100% chance of him doing it to a future one.

Beverly - posted on 07/10/2011

It is also criminal and you can be charged with "failure to protect" which recently a bio dad and stepmom got 25 and 28 yrs in prison for this charge after a small child died as a result of child abuse

Anna - posted on 07/10/2011

Any adult wittnessing abuse should report it, regardless od their relationship with the abuser. It takes a village...

Kat - posted on 07/10/2011

Absolutely. There is not any justification for abuse. The step parent needs to report it and the family needs couseling asap.

Marie Jayne - posted on 07/10/2011

I certainly do, anyone who knows about abuse and does nothing about it is as guilty as the abuser, children need to know that there are"Grown-ups" out there that are there to help. Not that everyone out there stands toghether and lets the abuse go unpunished. Especially those in their own family. All abuse should be reported as We've all seen in the news and papers what it can lead to.

Bernadette - posted on 07/10/2011

I think any adult (whether a biological parent, step parent, aunty, uncle, etc) who sees a child being abused and doesn't stand up for the child is just as guilty. They are in a position to be able to help the child, who is defenseless, and choosing not to means that they are ALLOWING the abuse to happen. So while they may not be the one dealing out the abuse, they still had the power to make it stop and chose not to. End of story.

Kylie - posted on 07/09/2011

I they certainly are cause there turning a blind eye to a child being abused because they care for the other adult, no matter what any abuse should not be ignored I'm not saying they have to call the police but they can certainly say to the person what your doing is wrong and if u don't get help I'll have to go somewhere to get the kids help

Karen - posted on 07/09/2011

Sometimes it can be hard to admit to yourself that the person you married is an abuser. But the child's safety and well being should come before the feelings of the biological parent.