Do you think single dads parent as good as single mothers?

Autumn - posted on 04/13/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I grew up in a singla parent family and my mother was always working and busy and we where not close. Mt question is do you think single moms or dads parent better? I am married and have my husband who helps a grate deal. I am only looking for debate. please no name calling and stuff. In my opinion its really the person that has the child but then some mothers seem to be born with the gene to take care of their kids when fathers have to learn it and yet still do it. I dont think i am asking my question good enough..lol...divorced parents care weight in to but i want to know the opinion of parents who dont have the babys Father/mother in the picture at all. do you think you would do better with them in the picture or what?

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Mariah - posted on 12/21/2011

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I am vehemently against the argument some people make that mothers have "instincts" that fathers just can't because somehow the mother bonds more because she had the uterus. My fiance was ten times more tuned in to his babies needs than his ex ever was. He just instinctively knew what to do, impressing their pediatricians and everyone who assumed the mom would be the one "tuned in." She was totally tuned out, incapable of assessing their needs, and constantly making bad decisions that made them sick and miserable. He is an amazing father and it is sad how many men are denied equal status, rights, and respect as parents just because they happen to have been born without a uterus! That's my soap box lol. Go single Dads!

Elaine - posted on 04/15/2010

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I think what happens sometimes in a divorce situation is that the parents are still angry with one another. This anger is sometimes unresolved-and the kids are caught in the middle.As to who is better at single parenting- I think it depends on the person.There are moms who are horrible moms -just as there are dads who can be horrible dads.The bottom line is there are many parenting courses out there-and I think anyone could benifit by these I think being a single parent is a challenge in itself. Anything you can do to help with this difficult task is a benifit to all.

Iridescent - posted on 04/13/2010

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Spell check, please.



I think the parent that wants and loves the children more should be the one with physical custody. There are so many dads that want that option and aren't even given a chance, simply because they have a penis. Most places around the world still assume mother has all the legal rights and the father is charged with kidnapping his own children for every little disagreement, even when it's to protect the children from the mother. I think that is wrong.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/15/2010

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kids that don't have one of their parents should do some councelling when they are young. I did. They need to know that it is not their fault and that some people just don't know how to be parents. Lke kim said don't talk negatively about the other spouse, your kids will come to their own conclusion on their own. My dad was like that, never there but I am married now ad my husband is a great father. Every person is different.

Kimberly - posted on 04/15/2010

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Either can be a great sinle parent. They just parent in different styles. Mom is usually the comforter and dad is usually the one that hands out discipline. It takes a awesome single parent to master both when the other isn't there
When kids are caught in the divorce, the worst comes out in any parent. The kids will always be in the middle at some point, it is how you deal with it in front of them that makes you the better parent.
I've never said anything bad about the kids dads in front of them. I know they are losers, the world knows they are losers...but I want the kids to find that out all on their own. I never want the kids to come to me saying that they never had a relationship with their dads because of me or what I said about them.
In the end, the kids all know who they can depend on and where to go with questions and troubles...its not their dads

Jennifer - posted on 04/14/2010

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My mom was a single mom, she raised my borther and I and did a fantastic job.
My father was never around and he has since passed.I do believe that it depends on the person. Men and women do parent different, but if you look around there is alot of information available to either parent to help you raise your child.
My stepfather on the the other hand raised two daughters on his own and then helped my mom to raise us. Its all about love and being there for your children either man or woman..

Sharon - posted on 04/13/2010

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I think any parents who can spell "single" are ahead of the game and bound to do well.

I think any educated, caring single parent, male or female can be a great parent.

Alison - posted on 04/13/2010

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I have a friend who is a single dad and did a much better job than his wife ever could have done. I think it depends entirely on the person. There are some really rotten moms out there.

Sharon - posted on 04/13/2010

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Absoultely! I am dating a single dad and he's wonderful. He's raised his son on his own for 14 years. His son is a wonderful young man. I have been dating him for 6 years and I have not once questioned his parenting. I also have a friend who is a single father of 2 young ones and he does a great job as well. Neither situation the mother was involved. I am a single mother of 3 and their father isn't really in the picture either. I think it just depends on what you are raised with to be honest. What kind of morals they have. Hope this helps out.

Firebird - posted on 04/13/2010

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It depends on the person. My friend Jimmy is an awesome single dad. He got full custody of his daughters because their mom was a horrible single parent. It doesn't matter the gender, if you're a great parent, you're a great parent.

Amber - posted on 04/13/2010

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I'm of the opinion that though you can be a successful single parent regardless of whether you are a mother or a father, I feel that kids do best when they have the balance of both parents, and it gives parents a break as well. Mothers can relax and let fathers do the disclipine and the rough-housing, and fathers can relax and let mothers do the discliping and the cuddling. and vice versa. Both boys and girls need a strong male role model just as equally as they need as strong female role model to help them develop a healthy relationship with each sex.

Michelle - posted on 04/13/2010

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I dont think you can really compare the two. Mothers DO parent differently than fathers...but thats not to say that one is better than the other. We carry our children around inside us for 9+ months so naturally there is a bond that fathers dont have. Then again...there is a bond between fathers and their children that mothers dont understand either. My boyfriend is a single dad....meaning that we are not married and he fits into the single dad category. He ADORES his son (as I do)....and I truly and honestly believe that he is a MUCH better parent to him than his son's mother!!! A single parent is a single parent....mom or dad. Im a single mother as well.....and Im a damn good mommy to my son!!! LOL. I guess it really depends on the person. Some mothers just dont care enough....as do some fathers.



My son's father is not in the picture. FINE BY ME!!! My son is better off. I think single parenting is what you make of it. You can turn it into a wonderful experience or a tragic one. I enjoy not having my son's father in our lives.....we dont need that kind of abuse!! I guess it really depends on the situation and the person who is the single parent.

Anna - posted on 04/13/2010

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It depends on the parent in my opinion; everyone is diffrent. I didnt have my dad in my life very often I seen him once a month but I am glad I was able to get to know him so I could make the decition myself when I got older instead of having negative thoughts on my moms side for not allowing me to see him at all. Hope that helps.

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