does anyone co-sleep with their babies?

Marissa - posted on 12/21/2009 ( 296 moms have responded )

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my son is 5 months and we sleep in the same bed. Does anyone else?

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Nicole - posted on 12/21/2009

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I actually read an article my chiro gave me that talked about studies done regarding co-sleepers and they found that those children had increased confidence, a closer bond, and other positive health related issues. My husband is deployed and my baby and I cuddle. I think my husband is looking forward to cuddling with us when he comes home.

Jey - posted on 12/21/2009

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I do co-sleep with my son and since he is 2 yrs old I am trying to get him to sleep on his bed, The way I am doing it is for the first week I am sitting on his bed until he falls asleep, then next week I will sit on a chair in his room where he can see me until he falls asleep, then I will sit on a chair just outside of his room until he falls asleep and hopefully after that finally I will be able to put him to bed and go away and he will fall asleep alone. We do have a bedtime routine so that helps, and I do not do anything with him which requires any physical activity so that he knows is down time.

Lori - posted on 12/25/2009

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I didn't sleep with my daughter even though I wanted to because of my ex-husband. After our seperation I began to share a bed with my daughter becuse of lack of space and the need for both of us to have the extra security. She is extremely independent still and I have seen no bad side effects even though she is 3. I do know that cosleeping with infants is extremely safe unless the parents are extremely overwieght, use drugs or are drunk. In fact the US is the country with the least cosleeping occurences and the highest rate of SIDS. There is a direct correlation between cosleeping and SIDS. Also, the infant grows up feeling secure and knowing that their needs are and will be taken care of.

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Lisa Leon I't's nice to have someone to cuddle up to but in my experience if you let a child sleep in your bed until you get a man the child then dislikes them because they have taken mum away from them. Needs to cut the cord before a man comes into your life LOL. I had hell from my kids when a man came into my life.

Mary - posted on 12/23/2009

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I know how comforting it can be to have your child sleeping next to you. But this can be very dangerous. I am in law enforcement and was involved in an investigation where the parent accidently rolled on top of the child, causing the child to stop breathing. I am also aware of other infant deaths caused by this. Please be careful!!

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Tasha - posted on 12/29/2009

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My son will sleep in his cot all night, and wakens at half seven for his morning feed, after this bottle I bring him into my bed, I love it.

Genea - posted on 12/29/2009

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Yuppers! We start off every night with good intentions of my son sleeping in his bassinet. He is breastfed and usually about the time I'm getting settled in for a good nights sleep he is up wanting to eat again. So he always ends up right between my hubby and I. It's def his preferred place to be!!! Kind of mine too:)

Debbie - posted on 12/29/2009

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My son just turned 13 months. I have had him in his own crib by about 2 months. I would occasionally bring him in our bed when he would wake screaming. He got used to it immediatley and would wake screaming 3 and 4 times a night to get into our bed. Now for added pleasure his blood curddling screams are occasionally combined with throwing up. It has to be all or nothing with him. I miss having him with me, but it has been over a year since I have had a decent night sleep.

Helen - posted on 12/29/2009

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no, my husband is a very heavy sleeper and our little boy is a wriggler (can turn 30 + times a night) he was in a crib by our bed for 3 months then when i went back to work he went into a cot in his own room. He has slep through the night form 5 weeks 7pm -7am and i only ever had to get up to him when he had chicken pox. My little boy gets almost all of my time so our bed is just for us.

Kate - posted on 12/29/2009

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I starting sleeping with my 1st child when she was three months old and continued until she was about 17 mths old. I tried not to, as all the health professionals seemed to advise against it. We were both so tired, though, and I found we both got more sleep and were both much happier once I finally did it. With my 2nd child, I started co-sleeping from day 1 and the initial first few months were much easier. He is 11 mths old, and I am not planning on stopping it any time soon. Breastfeeding in bed is much easier then getting up to feed and then trying to get both of us back to sleep!

Helen - posted on 12/29/2009

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no, my husband is a very heavy sleeper and our little boy is a wriggler (can turn 30 + times a night) he was in a crib by our bed for 3 months then when i went back to work he went into a cot in his own room. He has slep through the night form 5 weeks 7pm -7am and i only ever had to get up to him when he had chicken pox. My little boy gets almost all of my time so our bed is just for us.

Stephanie - posted on 12/29/2009

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i co-sleep with my 2 1/2 year old daughter and have for about a year. i'm a single mom so i don't have anyone else in my bed and i have to work full time so i love the extra time it gives me with her. i like having her close and knowing she's okay at night. i've read a lot on this and actually some cultures do it until the kids are about 5 or so. but having said that, i wouldn't do it if i had a husband (how would you ever have alone time) and it's probably going to be a doosy to get her to eventually sleep in her own bed. But in the end, we're both ok with it, so that's all that matters. I doubt she'll be taking me to college with her to rock her to sleep!

Corey - posted on 12/29/2009

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My 2 month old has been sleeping in our bed since day one...not every night and not all night long but enough to make her sleep comfortably she's been sleeping through the night since 1 week old and I think cosleeping is part of the reason.

Abbigale - posted on 12/29/2009

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My son sleeps in his bed until he wakes up sometime in the night and then he is in the bed with me and Hubby. He sleeps pretty wild so it is getting hard to have him sleeping with us and my hubby wakes up with back pain every now and again. But he sleeps in his bed if I stay up to rock him back to sleep (most of the time I am to tired so I just put him in bed with us). He also takes his naps in his crib, so its not so bad. But it is a pain in the butt when my mom keeps him overnight, because he doesn't sleep in the pack and play. She says he is spoiled but I know he just loves his routine and he loves to cuddle.

Renee - posted on 12/29/2009

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Mine is 6 months and she sleeps with me for the most part. I try to put her in her crib sometimes but she sleeps better with me so in return I get sleep.

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Yes, most definitely, I slept with my oldest until he was 3, and I still have my 23 month old in our bed. My husband and I have become very creative when it comes to imtimacy. I know people say you need to get them out your bed soon. But, I enjoy getting to feel the warmth of their little bodies for as long as I can. I love snuggling with them.

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Yes, most definitely, I slept with my oldest until he was 3, and I still have my 23 month old in our bed. My husband and I have become very creative when it comes to imtimacy. I know people say you need to get them out your bed soon. But, I enjoy getting to feel the warmth of their little bodies for as long as I can. I love snuggling with them.

Rachel - posted on 12/29/2009

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I have with both my kids. My older one ( 3 1/2) sleeps in a toddler bed now. My younger one still shares our bed.

Melissa - posted on 12/29/2009

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When my son was first born, we had a Moses basket that he slept in all of the time. We would just set the Moses basket right in his crib, and he did very well. Occassionally, we would put the basket in our bed if he was having a bad night, but since the risks of co-sleeping are so high, we made it a point to never let him sleep through the night with us. Now, he's 14 months old, goes to bed every night at 9pm, sleeps every morning until 9am, and I don't have to worry about him staying up late because I want to or rolling on top of him while I sleep!

Stefanie - posted on 12/29/2009

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I think you will find more people do than are ready to admit to it. We did with our first son, and he is now three and he goes to bed in his own room every night, since he was about 2, but ends up in our bed by the morning most nights. As long as you and your husband agree that it is ok, I think you will do fine. My son sleeps in his own bed when he stays at grandmas or his aunt comes to watch him for a night.

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Yes, and we love it! It's great for bonding with baby and they really benefit from you being there for them when they need you as opposed to crying alone in their crib not knowing why you've left them.

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My boys are 10 and 7 now. But, yes, hubby and I co-slept with them when they were babies. We have a king size bed, though. :) Whichever baby it was would take naps in his crib but sleep with us at night. As a nursing mom, this allowed me to get SO much more sleep! I remember waking a few times in the morning with my breast hanging out where I'd fed the baby, but I didn't wake up enough to remember doing it! Since they took naps in their cribs, they were easy to transition to sleeping there when they were about 6 months old and ready to sleep through the night.

Diana - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Brandy:

I have 4 small kids (1-5) and 2 big kids (10-13) the 4 little ones always co-sleep and sometimes we make a giant pallet and all 7 of us sleep together! My husband has learned to use his allotted 6 sq feet of sleeping space!



I couldn't help but giggle at "My husband has learned to use his alloted 6 sq feet of sleeping face!"

Emira - posted on 12/29/2009

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My doughter is 3.5 years old and my son is 10 months old. We all sleep in the same bed including my housband :) . I don't see any problem in co-sleeping.

Casey - posted on 12/29/2009

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We co-sleep with our 14 month old. First he starts out in his crib & the 1st time he wakes up, then he comes in with us. We're still comfort nursing & so that makes it much easier! Our 3 year old joins us in the early morning as well. Whatever keeps us all happy and sleeping!!

There is nothing wrong with co-sleeping. I couldn't "train" my children to sleep by themselves by letting them cry. How humane is that?

Keri - posted on 12/29/2009

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I do not think this is a good idea for personal reasons as well as for safety reasons. I think it's a bad habit to get into. My child is 4 months and has been sleeping in her crib ever since I brought her home from the hospital. She in still in her crib in my room but not in my bed.

Ashley - posted on 12/29/2009

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Everyone is different and you have to do what you are comfortable with. I personally co-sleep for several reasons. I have twins and am nursing. When they were very young they slept in bassinet next to my bed. But about the time I would nurse one the other would wake up. Or if I woke the other to nurse him with brother they were impossible to settle back down for sleep. But from day one in the hospital I would fall asleep nursing them and they would just stay in the bed with me. I love it and my hubby does too. Yes, the love life is a little iffy, but their is nothing better than waking up to two smiling toddlers in the morning. And because we all got a better night sleep, mama and daddy are smiling too. Now if you are a heavy sleeper or your partner is, I do not recommend this. Or if you drink or do any kinds of drugs, or if your partner does. This is a nono....big time. I am a very light sleeper and I sleep with one kiddo on either side of me. I know where they are when I fall asleep and wake up.

I have found that my hubby and boys have bonded a lot more than I think they would have otherwise. He loves snuggle time and the boys look forward to it as well. They are 17 months old and will probably sleep with us until 2 or so. IMO they are just not big enough to sleep on their own. They still comfort nurse at night, especially if they are teething or don't feel good and I don't want to wean them anytime soon.

Good luck, I know you will make the right decision for you and your family.

Edna - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Katie:

It is nice in the beginning. You feel closer to them and it makes you feel good, but your love life can suffer from it. Also the older they are when you transition them from your bed to their own the harder it is to do. I co-slept with my first two, but I don't plan to with my third. Just because your kids sleep in their own room it doesn't mean you love them any less.


Mh! I have a four year old and my husband has been away for about three and a half years till now. So I have been sleeping with my four years old, since then, I do not know if it is health anymore. But I enjoy it and I find it Ok!

Alisha - posted on 12/29/2009

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I let my daughter, now 5 mos, sleep with me in our bed until about 3.5 mos and transitioned her to her crib. Mostly because I needed to get better sleep but Im not sure that I sleep better now because Im always listening for her cries. I do let her sleep in my bed when she refuses to go back to sleep in the middle of the night. I think it really helped us bond but my husband has slept on the couch in our office for at least 4 of the last 5 months. I like it, he doesnt...

Alisha - posted on 12/29/2009

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I let my daughter, now 5 mos, sleep with me in our bed until about 3.5 mos and transitioned her to her crib. Mostly because I needed to get better sleep but Im not sure that I sleep better now because Im always listening for her cries. I do let her sleep in my bed when she refuses to go back to sleep in the middle of the night. I think it really helped us bond but my husband has slept on the couch in our office for at least 4 of the last 5 months. I like it, he doesnt...

Alisha - posted on 12/29/2009

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I let my daughter, now 5 mos, sleep with me in our bed until about 3.5 mos and transitioned her to her crib. Mostly because I needed to get better sleep but Im not sure that I sleep better now because Im always listening for her cries. I do let her sleep in my bed when she refuses to go back to sleep in the middle of the night. I think it really helped us bond but my husband has slept on the couch in our office for at least 4 of the last 5 months. I like it, he doesnt...

Amy - posted on 12/29/2009

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Yes I actually co slept with my son until he was about 13 months old. I broke all the rules that many experts say and of course against the advice of many moms, but my son suffered from really bad colic. Honestly as a result he has transitioned to his big boy bed much easier (22 months and I am expecting a 3rd baby in 3 weeks). He is very secure and he has had little issues now that he is older with sleeping alone.

Erin - posted on 12/29/2009

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My daughter is now nine month old but co-slept with me a few times in the first three months, mainly just after nursing, but slept mostly in a bassonett for the first 3 months. She has been sleeping in her crib since then. I think it is important that they feel a bit of independence by sleeping alone. You may find when they get older, you may not be able to get them out of your bed, or you may have trouble getting them to nap alone, let's say at the baysitters etc. As wonderful as it is to have the baby as close as possible for as long as possible, it may not be the best thing long term.

Krista - posted on 12/29/2009

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I co-slept with my daughter, who was my second child. On occasion we had our son in bed with us but I wouldn't say it was co-sleeping. My daughter slept in our bed or on us exclusively until she was 5 months old. We tried at 4 months to get her into her crib but she got sick again and would stop breathing so we put her back in our bed so we could sit her up and be right there when she had problems. The transition to their own bed is worth it!!! I wouldn't suggest putting any kid into their own bed before 4 or 5 months, it's so nice to be able to get that closeness with your child but once they are sleeping well and starting to take over your bed?! no way! We needed our privacy and a more solid sleeping schedule so we took our bed back :) If you need tips on how to get your mini into his/her own bed, just ask!

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I did not sleep with my first and will not will the one I will have in July. It is a SIDS risk and plus I can't sleep well if he is sleeping with me! I had a cradle beside the bed within arms reach until he was 6 mo and now he sleeps in his own bed.

Tamara - posted on 12/29/2009

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Who wants to sleep alone anyways? What's so wrong with not wanting to sleep alone? Also lots of experts and moms agree that it is not only safe (if done right) but better for all involved.(see Dr. Sears - author of many books and 30 years of clinical experience)

Heather - posted on 12/29/2009

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noooo- its not safe to do it and if its a habit you continue on until they get older, they never want to sleep in their own bed.

Tamara - posted on 12/29/2009

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Yup. Been sleeping with him since he was born and now he's almost 2. Can't imagine how I could have done it any other way. I breast feed him and I am certainly not going to trudge out of bed at night to do it! It's lovely. Why should the most vulerable member of the household sleep alone?

Jackie - posted on 12/29/2009

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thanks for the reply i enjoy sleeping with my baby its just now that she sleeps so bad that i dont get a lot of rest at night so i am trying to transition her but when i but her in her bed at night she wakes up and i have tried to make it as comfortable as possible for her but i guess its because she has been in the bed with me since she was a month old

Star - posted on 12/29/2009

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I think it is really important to encourage your son to sleep on his own. I started placing them in their own crib at 3 months old and they now have healthy sleep patterns (now 10mos old). Getting a full, undisturbed sleep is so crucially important for your child at this age. And for you as well! This will also allow him to learn his own self soothing capabilities. The longer you wait- the harder it will be for him to adjust to it.

Brianna - posted on 12/29/2009

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My 19month old still sleeps with me. I put her in her bed but she awakes in the middle of the night and gets in my bed. I also have my 10 week old sleep with me when he doesn't return to sleep immediately during a midnight feeding.

Pamela - posted on 12/29/2009

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I slept with all 3 of my children. Do it as long as it feels comfortable and natural to you. At 7, 11, and 13 they are all normal, happy and secure, By the time they were 3 years old they had all transitioned into their own beds. However, as a single Mom, I still invite them into my bed from time to time for one on one snuggling!!

Jackie - posted on 12/29/2009

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my daughter is 11 months and she sleeps with me and my oldest daughter is 3 now and she slept with me until she was almost 2. does anyone have any pointers on how i can get my 11 month old daughter to sleep in her crib and not with me?

Katrina - posted on 12/29/2009

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We have co-slept from the night he was born and he is currently 15 months old! It is so wonderful, and great for breastfeeding. We are pregnant and moving into a new house in a few months and we will probably transition him to sleeping in his own room a few months before the new baby comes.

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I always did every now and then with all my kids. I had their cribs/bassinets int he room with me though right beside my side of the bed. I loved sleeping with my babies. However, I didn't do it aaall the time as to not make them dependent on sleeping in my bed. My youngest child (daughter) is two now. She loves her own bed but every now and then she wants to go to sleep in mamas bed then I just transfer her to her own bed.

Kristin - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Cathy:

yes my daughter is two, and her dad died when she was 8 months old and I started putting her in the bed with me and now I cant sleep unless she's in the bed with me. I know we both need our space and I know it's time to let her start sleeping in her bed, but I dont know how to get her to start sleeping in her own room?


I'm verry sorry for your loss. That must have been really hard. I don't think you should feel pressured to put your daughter in her own bed at night until you are ready to, just as long as sharing a bed at night isn't a substitute for something else, like spending meaningful one-on-one time together or connecting emotionally during the day. If bed-sharing is beneficial for you and her then keep it, if not, then find another way. if you want to transition her to a bed, you might try giving her something special to look forward to at night when she's in her own bed, like a special story or book or maybe shining flashlights on the ceiling in the dark and talking to eachother. You could tell her about her dad or talk about all the cool things she's gonna do when she gets big. Just go with what feels right.

Nadine - posted on 12/29/2009

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I do sometimes, my daughter is 3 months old, sometimes it's just easier, that way I can feed her as needed and get some rest as well... Besides, there's no better feeling than cuddling up with your lil one and watching them sleep... :-) :-) :-)

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Quoting Nicole:

I actually read an article my chiro gave me that talked about studies done regarding co-sleepers and they found that those children had increased confidence, a closer bond, and other positive health related issues. My husband is deployed and my baby and I cuddle. I think my husband is looking forward to cuddling with us when he comes home.


Yes, according to research done at the University of Notre Dame it is safer for breast-fed babies to sleep with their mothers. Of course precautions should be taken to keep the sleeping environment as safe as possible. No heavy comforters should be used. The mattress should be firm and flat. I also put our mattress on the floor so that should the infant roll out, she doesn't have far to fall (but that was never an issue when they were so tiny anyway).  Also, especially for newborns, mother's warmth helps to regulate the baby's temperature and breathing. 







Here's the sleep study site: http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/index.ht...

Kristin - posted on 12/29/2009

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My 13 month old sleeps with me and since I still breastfeed during the night, it's convenient. My first child started getting too wiggly to sleep next to at about eighteen months and that's when I started transitioning him to his own bed. I just play it by ear. Glad to know I'm not the only one.

Cathy - posted on 12/29/2009

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yes my daughter is two, and her dad died when she was 8 months old and I started putting her in the bed with me and now I cant sleep unless she's in the bed with me. I know we both need our space and I know it's time to let her start sleeping in her bed, but I dont know how to get her to start sleeping in her own room?

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