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Okay we went to visit my mom this past couple of days and I couldn't wait to get out of there. My sister in law and mother made me feel like such a bad mom with the way I act towards my daughter. It seems my "laid back yet firm" approach to the way my daughter acts really makes them feel like they need to "talk" to me about my parenting style in that not so many words fashion.
I know my daughter is not "innocent" when it comes to rough play with my nephew and she starts a lot of the things he gets in trouble for but I've gotten to the point where if I don't start ignoring some of her behavoirs then all I'm going to be doing is diciplining her and I really don't want to be the "over the top" type of parent I see around me. I want my daughter to figure things out on her own with a little direction from me with out me telling her exactly what to do unless the situation calls for it.
I even got a "talk too" because I yelled at her for pushing a "special needs" child out of her way when she was at the playground and he wasn't moving fast enough for her. In my mind that was a situation I needed to step in and direct her becasue I didn't want her pushing the boy, who was scared to go downt he slide, and hurting him.
My mom, however, has now finally realized how much of a handful my daughter really is because of her indepence......part of her personality showing through in full force. But it takes her having to watch her by herself without me around to remember what a handful she is and why I have taken the approach I have to parenting her. My daughter knows what to do and will do it when she has to but if she has a chance to show you her indepence she will fight you to do so.
So does anyone else get that "bad mom" feeling when out and about with the grandparents?