Does anyone else find this wrong?....need to vent BADLY!!!!!!

Angel - posted on 03/15/2010

Some people think they're so much better then others just because they weren't born with things like that. It's definetly wrong for sure!! Just because someone looks a little different then another doesn't mean drugs were involved. I can't stand when people asume things like that, someone's sick or different so drugs are the only explaination for it.

*Lisa* - posted on 03/14/2010

What a horrible woman! I'm sorry you had to go through that :(

Randi - posted on 03/14/2010

that girl is very wrong!!! its honestly sad what this world has come to if its not "normal looking" then its just horrific, my neice has a hemangioma on ther face and it honestly looked like she was punched in the face repeatedly..i cant tell u how many times people commented on my sis n law about abusing her baby..which in reality she is a great mom... advice i can give u is dont let people get underneath ur skin because they are to f*ckn stupid to use their brains.people who judge to quickly arent worth the time of day to spit on them if they were on fire and im sure karma the b*tch it will bite that woman in the *ss very very hard...i am very sorry u have to go through this but the only thing that matters is u love her and she loves u,,,,

Kate CP - posted on 03/13/2010

Yes, it's wrong and it's disgusting that she was such a stuck up snob that she just assumed the worst about you. This like what happened to your daughter can happen to any one for almost any reason. But, don't fret about her, honey. Karma will nail her ass soon. I only wish I was there, I would have given the woman a piece of my mind.

Melanie - posted on 03/13/2010

You poor thing! It's so sad when people just assume things. You shouldn't have to explain yourself to a stranger anyway.

Teresa - posted on 03/12/2010

she should be ashamed of herself. the only abnormality i can see here is her ignorance about love and lack of compassion, because the Lord didn't make us that way, being nice is a choice. I feel sorry for that little girl..... and i mean the one that had to go home with her. don't waste your energy on ignorant people like this. i declare blessings over the lives of your family. be blessed and take care of that little one who is deserving of your time......

Sandra - posted on 03/11/2010

Yes, it was wrong, but that is life. You are going to run into insensitive, boorish people. No matter what you would have said would have made a difference to this creep.

Jessica - posted on 03/11/2010

COMPLETELY WRONG!!!! I would have slapped her myself!

Amber - posted on 03/11/2010

That is VERY wrong but thats the stuff we have to live in these days people assume everything..

Veronica - posted on 03/09/2010

It was very wrong. Sometimes I really wonder what is going thru peoples heads when they speak. Well, then again, obviously NOTHING. I'm sorry that this happened to you. That mother could have handled that way better without interjecting stupidity into the conversation. Children are naturally curious especially when they see something that they haven't before. I hope your daughters surgery goes well. I had my first surgery when I was 2. (I have cerebral palsy) I've had 7 surgeries since then. Kids are resilant. Hang in there and try not to let others stupidity upset you. Good luck.

Bronwyn - posted on 03/09/2010

That is so sad... I wish i was there to tell that lady a thing or to. I am so sad you had to experience such heartless and cruel behaviour. I believe that in your heart you know the truth no matter what. You have a healthy baby and she is going to have along and fruitful life. Wishing you all the best for the operation.

Laura - posted on 03/09/2010

Well...I guess you can't fix stupid huh?

I think I would probably have looked down at my darling daughter and said to her...loud enough for that horrible woman to clearly hear,

"...And that's what happens when inbreeding is allowed!"

Janice - posted on 03/08/2010

All children are gifts from God. They are born perfect in his eyes and in his image. That woman only made obvious her own imperfections:ignorance, intolerance,hasty to judge.
She knows nothing of you or your life. Do NOT let her opinions matter to you. She only deserves our pity and prayers for patience and understanding. Nothing more or less.

Diana - posted on 03/05/2010

Hah hah hah - it's so bad it's funny! That poor 13 yr old daughter. Her mother probably accuses every 3rd person of being on drugs - loudly. If you ever see the lady again, maybe play the part - and overly dramatize it... nah, I guess that wouldn't be kind - but it might be more fun?

It's SO unfair when people make poor tired overworked Mom's cry.

Hang in there, I'm sure the surgery will be a success, and she looks cute as a button regardless (assuming that's her in your profile pic on the post).

Nea - posted on 03/05/2010

what a horrible thing to say or do. And it's even more upsetting noone came to your defense.

What is wrong with people? I'd be livid... unfortunatly; I would have to say w/ my bad temper, I would have hit her or hit her w/ the shopping cart.

I'm sorry no one was there to help you and I hope you forgive the woman for her ignorance. Don't give her the priveledge of being in your memories.

And as for the store: I would have called and complain to the general manager and threaten to press charges for being harrassed at their store. (just threaten) and made them aware that I didn't appreciate some woman attacking my daughter verbally for no reason. and that the next time this incident happens; even w/ another mother, someone will be quick to put an end to it. ( yep, I would have flew off the handle BIG TIME)

... wow, I'm angry! ... I think you handled yourself quite well.

anyhoo... I'll be praying for your daughter's quick recovery.

Good Luck

Kristin - posted on 03/05/2010

I'm so sorry how for how that woman treated you and for the moronic things she's teaching her daughter. I'm appalled at what the surrounding people did as well. I hope you never go back to that store and think you should tell friends and family to not go there either and why.

You know what's what with your daughter and how it happened and that it will be repaired. Give her a big hug and smile and know that she is perfect just as she is. Good luck to you both.

Lacinda - posted on 03/05/2010

dont stress over idiots like that. just be glad your daughter will be raised right and not like hers!!!! people are rediculous anymore! and good luck with your daughters surgery!

Shannon - posted on 02/28/2010

Wow! She has issues. I'm soo sorry that happened. I'm shocked at her ignorance. WOW! All I can say is karma has a way of working itself out.

Diane - posted on 02/28/2010

Very wrong

Renae - posted on 02/28/2010

OH MY GOD!! How could someone just assume it was because you took drugs? What sort of ignoramus would automatically assume that??? I wish you had decked her. What a b*tch. I dont normally abuse people but that seriously called for it, if you had given for a what-for she would have deserved it. I cant believe some people!

Katherine - posted on 02/27/2010

ASSume :)

Michelle - posted on 02/27/2010

One word for people like this my dear, IGNORANCE!

Jessie - posted on 02/27/2010

Wow! really?? I would say that lady has some issues of her own that make her judge others without knowing anything about them. Also, I do not believe in not bringing a child in the world because of deformities or abnormalites. When they gave me an option (like the do most people) to have an amniocentisis done to check for abnormalities I chose not to b/c it didn't matter. I was 24 and didn't have any issues so it wasn't required and if my child had had any abnormalities when they came out I wouldn't of regretted having her. Anyway, not saying those that get those shoudln't that is just why I chose not to. I am truly sorry for this womans actions, and now there is going to be another like her b/c she is teaching her daughter that this is correct behavior.

Sue - posted on 02/27/2010

Yes it is wrong. There are a lot of ignorant people in the world. My son was born 10 weeks premature because of preeclampsia. I got asked if drugs were why he was born so early and was now so small. It made me so angry!

Ashley=) - posted on 02/27/2010

wow i am usually the type that doesnt let things get to me but reading that and if i were you i would of been so upset and left with my mouth on the floor.That lady as a problem god love her and try not let this keep you down.She was way out of line and you know karma is a great thing.what gos around comes around:)

So glad to hear your daughter is doing well:)

Lani - posted on 02/27/2010

YES! However you cant let yourself get bogged down by other peoples own issues. Move on. Your better than that.

Sheree - posted on 02/26/2010

I am speechless and think it was just plain rude. I agree with Tracy though. You can help your little girl but there is no cure for that horrid woman.

Tracy - posted on 02/26/2010

Think of it this way: you can help your lovely little girl, that lady has a terminal case of c**t. There's no curing that.

Niki - posted on 02/26/2010

yeah i think that was very wrong, and if i was u would have probably kicked her, but i would really try not to get that upset about it, just think about where it is coming from, obviously this women has some sort of problem, if her first response to her daughter is that ur a drug users because ur child looks a little different from other children, and she clearly has a problem if her teenage daughter had the gull to just stand there and stare, so it is not saying much about both of them. I am 30 years old and my mom told me if u have to stare at somebody who looks different, then instead of just staring at them and making them feel uncomfortable, why don't u ask them a question about it politely, it will make them feel better than just being stared at. and i think that if someone asked u a question about ur child, it would make u feel better to answer their curiosity, then just to have someone look at ur child like she if a freak.
My little girl is 16 months and she might have scoliosis like her father, but even if she doesn't, i am going to teach her that it would be nicer to ask a question then to just stare. I am sorry that someone made u feel bad, and I am going to apologize to u on behalf of the horrible women, I am sorry I should not be so scared of the things that i don't understand and should not have made those comments to my daughter, not knowing ur story.
I hope this helps u feel better :)

Rosie - posted on 02/26/2010

some people are ignorant asses!! the first thing that pops into my head when i see a child that has a deformity is not drugs. it wouldn't even cross my mind unless the lady was puffing on a crack pipe at the moment. i would automatically think a birth defect that nature caused.

even if the lady was smoking a crack pipe, who the hell am i to say anything? i'd go on my way and be thankful that i've never touched the stuff in my life.

good luck with the surgery in march! take care!

Sharon - posted on 02/26/2010

Uh yeah, that was hella wrong. I probably would have been to floored to even come back with one of famous bitchy comments. I might not have been to floored to hand the baby to someone so I could chase her friggen ass down and beat her to death with a gossip magazine.

Charlotte - posted on 02/26/2010

Aren't you so glad you handle the world better than she does. Its people like that make you into a better person and cause you to strive to be the best you can be and nothing like that. It will come back to her. But be thankful you are better than that. Even if you were who she assumed you were it is no business of hers and her opinion certainly does not count.

Sonia - posted on 02/26/2010

That absolute cow!!! I would be totally livid too you poor thing, all the best for your wee ones operation hope the whole family gets thru with as little stress as possible !! :-)

Dominique - posted on 02/26/2010

You know i read this post earlier and after reading it i had my 41 year old mother read it and she said that she would have went off on that lady. She said that lady had no reason to say anything not knowing why she had a abnormality. Me and my mom both agree that we would have decked the lady too. Thats bull that someone who doesn't know the situation would even say anything, whether your young or old doesn't mean anything, there are tons of older moms who are on drugs why is it only us young moms who get the stares and get the bad name. Screw that i would have decked her.

Julie A. - posted on 02/26/2010

wow way to have a closed mind, i feel sorry for that teenager knowing how her mother is raising her to think. Yeah i would have been furious too.

Tausha - posted on 02/26/2010

I think that is totally wrong, there are some cruel people who are quick to judge:( I can only imagine how you felt, and this woman had no heart, to make you feel like that. It was an unfortunate accident, She had no right to speak to you like that! It really irks me that there are mean people in this world who don't understand being different. I am hearing impaired, and I know what it is like to be looked down upon. It is out of your control! Keep that chin up and be proud of having a beautiful daughter!

Abbie - posted on 02/26/2010

You should have nicely set your daughter down and slapped that woman!!! Next time stand up for yourself. You will always get opinions from people that drive you nuts. You know you didn't do anything wrong so the hell with her!!!

Jade - posted on 02/26/2010

Thanks for all the support Ladies...I will put up a post once Chloe has had her operation to let you all know how it goes. I really appreciate it.

Theresia - posted on 02/26/2010

First I just wanna say, I hope everything goes well with the surgery. Second, WHAT A B*TCH, people can be such asses sometimes. thats makes me so mad. Im so sorry you had to go thru that. YES IT IS WRONG

Becky - posted on 02/26/2010

What a horrible, small-minded woman! To assume you took drugs and keep it to herself would've been bad enough, but to go off on your for it, and in public, nonetheless... Oh my goodness!! I don't even know what I would've done! I would've been devastated! I'm sorry you had to experience that.

But it's obvious that you know what a precious gift your daughter is and that you are a wonderful mother to her, so try to ignore it and just console yourself that you are a better person and are raising your daughter to be a much kinder, more compassionate person than that woman's daughter will be. heck, her daughter will probably end up on drugs with a mother like that!

September - posted on 02/26/2010

Yes, completely wrong! I'm so sorry to hear about that. Please don't let comments from ignorant people hurt your feelings. I'm sure that you're a wonderful mother and really, that's all that matters in the end. Hang in there and good luck with the operation in March :)

Firebird - posted on 02/26/2010

I probably would have punched that woman out. That is so rude. I know a woman about my age who got her arm wrapped up in the umbilical cord when her mother was pregnant with her. She only has half an arm and 5 pea sized nubs where her fingers had started to develop. She is such a sweet person and her mother did not take drugs! These things happen sometimes, it's not anyone's right to go making such crude assumptions like that!

Tracy - posted on 02/26/2010

What a nasty, trashy, judgemental ****! Not only did she fail at being a decent human, but at parenting her child decently too. She has allowed her daughter to have abysmal manners and that judging others without any knowledge of them is just dandy. That's intolerable.

My son who is 8 has a friend that was adopted from overseas. This sweet girl has very obvious Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. I find it difficult to understand her speech, but he has always understood her perfectly. He doesn't know she's different. He just knows she's his buddy. Just like at the park, all he knows or cares about is that there are other kids there, regardless of handicaps, color, etc. He's asked me about people we've seen out and about who were handicapped, and I always tell him that people are made differently to teach us all compassion and tolerance. Not to mention if we were all the same, the world would be one heck of a boring place! :)

Ignore disgusting rude people!

Brandy - posted on 02/26/2010

Jade I love my son so very much and yes he is one of the most loveing careing lil guys i have ever seem and i couldent live one day without him .and you are very welcome I mean what i say anytime you want to chat or vent fell free to contace me brandy219322@aol.com and may you and yours be blessed always

Desirae - posted on 02/26/2010

I feel your frustration...

I had a similar experience, but with my mother and not my daughter. While I was pregnant, My mother was on her deathbed due to pancreatic cancer. While walking into her house I had to help her sit on the porch before tackling the stairs to get in. She was very nauseous and vomiting from radiation and chemotherapy. As the neighbors were walking into their home, the man looked over and remarked, just loud enough for us to hear him, "F*ck*ng drunks!"...

I don't think it is morally right for people to take things at face value and assume the worst, let alone, start judging people for things that are beyond their control. Just as our neighbor, this woman was wrong to assume that about you, and even more so for saying it! Maybe she felt like she needed to make a point to her own daughter... but she should have educated herself first.

You are doing the best thing that can be done for your daughter. You brought her into this world with love, fear, joy, and maybe a hint of sorrow with the circumstances. You love her and you are doing everything you can to help her. Please focus on the positive and do not let what people say or think about you bring grief into your life.

Unfortunately... stupidity is not a crime, so this woman was free to go... and so was our neighbor(but not without skunk scent in the vents of his car). Sorry... I had to confess ;)

Jade - posted on 02/26/2010

I am just sooo upset about it because my daughter was smiling at this lady the whole time she was going off at me...In my eyes my daughter is perfect and i don't see anything wrong with her...Some people are just rude i guess....i hope karma comes around and bites her on the butt!

Brandy I actually have a friend that has Downsyndrome and i have been friends with him since year 7. he is the coolest guy ever!!! He had lots of friends at school and still has lots of friends. I will never forget the day that someone was being nasty to him at the bus stop and about 20 of us all jumped out of the bus and chased this kid down the street...Toby was laughing his head of and he couldn't stop telling us how much he loved us...he tells everyone that im his big sister and i love him like a brother. Al children are amazing and i don't understand why or how anyone can talk about them like they are nothing.

My Daughter is my world and im sorry kate but you can't have her...lol

thanks for the support ladies! :-)

Brandy - posted on 02/26/2010

I find it to be very WRONG! i'm a mother of a child with Downsyndrom and when he was lilttle we were shoping at Meijers and there was a women that had two young childern and one on the way and while there was a older couple playing and chating with my son this women had the never to say how do you take care of a child like that? then she said she wouldnt have had her kid if knew there was something wrong with them. I got so mad at her that i replied I think you should of had the blessing to have any kids at all with such a shallow mind. and I take care if him just like you would take care of any other child . I have to say It is such a blessing to be able to have such a pressous child. and know that you have all the love in the world to raise them. what people don't understand of fall to learn is there own problem. I am sure you are a great mother and love your daughter very much. and I'm here if you ever want to talk.

Jocelyn - posted on 02/26/2010

Ugg what a horrible woman! I would have decked her too; it is absolutely none of her business and she does not have the right to assume that you were taking drugs. *hugs*

Kate - posted on 02/26/2010

Of course it was wrong!!!! Unfortunately us mothers seem to get the brunt of a lot of rude people we come in contact with when we are lucky to even get out of the house. l think to myself l'm just glad these people aren't my mother, sister, or other relative.



l'll be thinking of you and sending you hugs. l'll be praying the surgery goes well, too.



lt does seem to me that when hardship strikes those 'holier-than-thou' people, they have a harder time recovering from it. One day life will pay her back. We don't know what hardships she will face one day.



l'm sure you are a much better person than that woman in the store. Try to not feel so hurt by her. Your daughter is so beautiful. After having 5 boys, l'd take her in a heartbeat. You are so lucky to have a good life.