does anyone have idea's for a 4year who is scared of monsters? i cant even close my eyes or go onthe phoen with out him crying

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Monica - posted on 12/17/2008

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Last year my daughter also went through the "monsters" at night stage. We came up with a night time game, that may sound silly, but it sure did ease her fears. We told her that monsters are only cranky because they are hungry, and if you give them cookies, they become silly cookie monsters. So before bed, we would pretend to bake cookies and make lemonade and whatever else she decided the monsters needed. I cant believe it works, but it does. :)

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Nancy - posted on 01/16/2013

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Sylvie - posted on 12/17/2008

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My older brother scared the monster out of his room with a baseball bat, , closet, under the bed and told him if he comes back give me a call and I will come back but I scared him really good he said.

Tricia - posted on 12/17/2008

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I have a "special" dust that I sprinkle around my kids room that repels MONSTERS!! It's actually just cinnamon and babypowder that I keep in a little pouch. We sprinkle it around and the "monsters" hate the smell and never come around. This dust is also good for bad dreams!! Good luck!

Genevieve - posted on 12/17/2008

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Give him a spray bottle (you fill with scented water...maybe glitter...with the MAGIC MONSTER SPRAY) and have him unwrap it. Making a big deal out of how he can magically tackle his fears might help. Maybe have him watch Monster Inc. and explain that most monsters are afraid of kids and will get sick if he were to touch them! He is at a age where the unknown is very scary. It is the fear of no control over things in life. It isn't a fun stage, but a sign that he is maturing! Continue to let him know that you & Daddy...grandparents, etc. had the same fears and sometimes still get scared, but that you have overcome that fear.

Hartini - posted on 12/17/2008

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I asked my daughter who was 4 to draw the monster on a drawing paper....of course it was not scary at all!! I had to convince her that it was funny and not scary....she laugh at the pix. Before she went to bed, I took her magic wand and together we "shoo" the monster out from her bedroom to the front door and tell the monster not to come back cause she is not scared anymore....It works!!

Hildur - posted on 12/17/2008

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We went over seas when my baby boy was 18 month and my daughter was 2 when we came home she had had a nightmare ( staying with her grandparents ), we brought with us a krokodile wery soft toy one, she took to him right away and now he is being lent to my son when he has nightmares or is scared of monsters. And also they have a night light and that helps to.

Rebecca - posted on 12/16/2008

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As other moms have suggested, we also used "Monster Spray" every night, which for us was air freshener covered over with a new label. It worked beautifully, and gave my daughter the feeling that she was doing something about the problem, and I think the scent that stays in the room was a reminder that all was well. I like the lavender suggestion...

Karen - posted on 12/16/2008

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Yes I agree with the water bottle idea and spray for monsters but make sure you lock other spray bottles away such as exit mould as that takes the paint off the wall.

Kim - posted on 12/16/2008

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My daughter was 3 at the time when her friend a 5 year old boy was talking about the movie monsters inc, and she was petrified to go anywhere that had a shadow and was afraid of her closet. We tried the scary spray, and I would find wet spots all over the walls, she would get hold of the bottle when I wasn't looking. She wouldn't go to bed, and after about 2 weeks My husband and I just started telling her that everything we watch on the TV is make believe, and we would never let anything bad happen to her, and our persistence paid off, she has no problem going to bed, there are no more scaries, and she loves watching the Harry Potter movies, along with Monsters Inc. Good luck and just be patient.

Brittany - posted on 12/15/2008

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Monster Spray! Just get a can of air freshener and help him to spray it when ever he is afraid, tell him a little story along the lines of monsters don't like the yummy spray, I went threw this with my son and it worked like a charm, and our house was always smelling fresh and clean!

Tracy - posted on 12/11/2008

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Monster spray is the best... and you can always remind him of the monsters he likes. Elmo, Cookie and Grover (sesame street) - mike and sully (monsters, inc) are monsters too... Excellent suggestion to try to find out if there's anything else going on behind the monsters... sounds like there is a fear of something involving you, very normal - but important to discover.

Suzanne - posted on 12/11/2008

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You could try something that my friend taught me. Get an old empty spray bottle, when the child is not looking fill it with monster-b-gone juice (tap water). Before bed go in the bedroom with the child and spray the room, under the bed, in the closet etc.

Monster - b gone. the greatest juice in the world for getting rid of monsters!

Laura - posted on 12/11/2008

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i dont know what is going on. i have been asking him . i am going to ask the teacher if there is something going on at school. we dont have anything going on at home that i can think of. this is soo frustrating.

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We "mailed" all the monsters to Connecticut-- wrapped them in a box and delivered it directly to our mail carrier (who was in on it). But, Have you asked him about the monsters? What they are doing? What they look like? etc....They may be symbolic of a fear? Have you had an changes in your house or routine lately? I would talk to him about what is going on too? Because if there is some underlying cause for these monsters, even the strongest monster spray/powder/fight or delivery box won't take them away. I wish you the best of luck. Remind him of how loved he is and how you will always be there with him to keep him safe.....that may be all he needs.....

Michelle - posted on 12/10/2008

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This is what I did when my daughter was between 3& 4 . It is going to sound crazy , but it worked .

I took a box of baking powder and labeled it "Monster Powder ." When she would say she was scared or that she saw a monster ..... I would go to her room or where ever "The Monsters " were and sprinkle the powder everywhere .

As soon as the powder was down the monsters were gone . Sometimes I had to do it a few times aday , but it really helped with the problem . Hope this helps ... Let me know

Laura - posted on 12/10/2008

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Thank you all for your wonderfull idea's . we will try some of them and see what happens.

he is going through this where he has to be on the same floor as me at all times. today he started to cry as soon as i went ont he phone. i was trying to nap while he was watching t.v. as soon as i closed my eyes he started to cry and say no u cant sleep. it is almost as if he thinks something is gonna happen to him while i'm sleeping or occupied. he has been hiding under his bed ALOT lately. he falls asleep under it sometimes. i can not wait till this is over

Karen - posted on 12/10/2008

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My husband occasionally has to fight the monsters in my son's room. We make a bit of a game. He goes in there, closes the door and makes a bunch of noise--my three-year-old cracks up outside the door, then daddy comes out and tells him that the monsters left and won't be back. My son is usually fine after that for a while. In fact, he hasn't said a word about monsters for a few months. He is still afraid of the dark though...

Jody - posted on 12/10/2008

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i use "monster spray" i just use a squirt bottle and mix in a little downey and some water. Makes his room smell great and keeps those pesky monsters away!

Kimmy - posted on 12/10/2008

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I received a book from the Veggie Tales series came with a CD.....it is AWSOME.....called God is BIGGER!! It has great story and song to go with it, all on what to do with the monsters.....The kids ask..*do I call the police?* and they answer.....NO>>>>>God is bigger than the boogie man........ect....it is a great book and they love to follow along and sing..and it really helps..

Kim - posted on 12/10/2008

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Have you tried "monster dust"? My son will be 5 on January 16th and is still (somewhat) scared of monsters. We he is, my husband and I sprinkle "monster dust" (aka: baby powder) where he thinks the monsters may be and that usually takes care of them.

Dara - posted on 12/10/2008

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My 4 year old isn't afraid of them but I used to teach at a day care where a little boy was and his mom sent in a sprayy water bottle (without water init) with him. And at nap time he would spray his pillow and everywhere around him- it was anti monster stuff (can't remember the name the mom used.) But this seemed to work

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My 3 year old did this last week, she came in to my room and told me the monster was in her room. I got up and we went to her room and i asked her to show me where they were and she did. I open the closet door and fussed at them mosters and told them to get out of our house and to never come back. It seem to work!

Linda - posted on 12/10/2008

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I was having coffee with a girlfriend the other day . when a women and her small child walked in and were waiting to be served.. the child went to leave the shop and she yelled at him to come back as the monsters woul dgethim.. All I could do was shake my head.. why do people do this to their children.. I have a 8 year old grandaughter that lives with us and she had trouble with sleeping too as she was afraid and kept saying there were bad things in her room.. so we have taken to lighting a tealight candle for her telling her that bad things dont like the light and she drops off with not rouble and we go in and blow the candle out when she is asleep .. there are many things you can try as it differs from child to child.. good luck...

Courtney - posted on 12/10/2008

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my little 20 month old is scared of monsters so we took her to the store and let her pick a safe from monsters night light now she is just fine you can try that

Vashta - posted on 12/10/2008

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I have a 4-year old also... He only seen them at bedtime... and I just put a night light in his room.. And that helped alot... And if he sees a monster anymore it's only when the night light is off.... and it's bedtime lol.. you might just try to find a comfort sorce that appeals to him even if it be a sippy cup of water for him to hold on to while sleeping to a favorite toy or blanket... So... Hopefully you find something that works... Good luck!

Debbie - posted on 12/10/2008

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My son is 8 years old still scared of monsters. This is children with a very big imagination in some way great in other ways bad. See that he does not watch any cartoons with monsters, the best to show him is cartoons like tom and jerry tweety and sylvester and stuff like that. they sometimes only see their own shadow en find its a monster, u might have problems later on with nightmares do tell him that he can just call you and you will chase them away. or otherwise tell him to dream the monster away.

Janet - posted on 12/10/2008

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There is a cute video called "There's a Monster in my Closet". It turns out that the monster is friendly and scared too.

Melissa - posted on 12/10/2008

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We did a MONSTER SPRAY for my 2 year old and it worked great. We just filled an empty water bottle with water and a calming scent like Lavender and then his daddy made a sticker for the bottle. Every night for about 3 weeks he would spray all around his room as he said no monsters 2nite. Then we would climb into bed and say our prayers and always at the end include a prayer for sweet dreams. This worked wonderful. He is back to sleeping thru the night and doesnt talk about monsters all the time anymore. We also limit TV time before bed which was something we never thought about before. We would always let him watch Dora or Spongebob before bed and that quickly changed. Good LUCK, this really does work.

Amie - posted on 12/10/2008

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My son who is also four did this a couple months ago, still does from time to time. You can't convince them their not real, they believe they are. What worked for my son was telling him that he could tell them to go away and giving him a toy bat at bedtime (as this was the worst time for it) so if they bothered him he could bop them on the head and tell them to go away. It seems to have worked, he makes a game of it now and goes monster hunting. Once in awhile we'll hear his bat swinging and hitting the wall but it's a plastic bat and not going to hurt anything. Might work for your son too. :)

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