Does anyone know how to get a 15 month old to stop hitting people?

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2009

I like supernanny for the most part, but dislike asking for an apology. I taught my daughter that an apology should be sincere and not just something you say to get out of trouble. When she was older, I explained the idea that sometimes it was just diplomacy.

Jennifer - posted on 10/14/2009

Pay attention to when she does it. She is probably just after attention. take away your attention, but never let her get away with it. don't hit back and wait for her to stop. It is very age appropriate behaviour.

Stacy - posted on 10/14/2009

I have been watching a t.v show called Suppernanny, and have come up with ways to disicapline my children forr bad behavier, and reward them for good.The show is on Style t.v.. I put my kids on a "naughty" bench or chair, and set the timmer just for a couple minutes. Before they can get up I tell them why they are there, and ask for an apoligy. It may take them awhile to get the idea of a "naughty" spot, but it may work if you keep at it. When she gets up put her back, don't give in, be repitative. first time you seat her, tell her why. the rest of the times if she gets up, don't say anything, just place her back on the seat. I suggest maybe watching Supper Nanny, you may get some really cool idea.

Tonia - posted on 10/14/2009

Dats true after a while the kids stop being afraid of mama but u put ur foot down girl. if u look'em in the eye and talk low with ur teeth together and don't make no other face beside business and tell that child to stop and u will not be dealing with it any more. catch it right b4 it escalate to him hitting and grab him quick where he don't know where he is. And tell No!!!! Stop it and then the punishment.

Sarah - posted on 10/14/2009

My now 3 yr old son used to hit me, my mother and other toddlers around that age, too but not my husband. We would enforce the time-out corner and kept repeating the fact that "hitting was bad" and that it can hurt ppl. He hasn't been in time-out for almost a year now but at the time I felt hopeless and frustrated, too. I still have the 'hands are not for hitting" book in his room. I think he went through the 'terrible twos' early but nothing prepared me for the 3s! Hahaha...you think you've passed one phase and then you run into another!

Victoria - posted on 10/14/2009

my son went through that phase...All we did was ignored it and it worked...Kids look for reactions from their parents weather its a good one or a bad one.....Time outs at this age usually dont work...if she does it again, just ignore it and go do something...dont go to far from her tho...eventually she will realize that she gets no reaction form hitting....If its not hitting she's doing, its throwing food off her highchair to see what mommy's reaction is, or pulling all the books off the bookshelf....its all a phase, so dont get mad at her, she is just exploring the world around her....hope this helps...good luck =)

ALYSIA - posted on 10/14/2009

MY SON WOULD ALSO HIT AND WHAT HELPED HIM WAS TIME OUTS BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THEM RIGHT I THINK YOU CANT DO IT IN A PACK N PLAY THATS THERE PLACE FOR COMFORT AND SLEEP OR PLAY I HAVE A SET SPOT IN OUR HOUSE FOR TIME OUT AND THE MINUTEW HE HITS I PICK HIM UP PUT HIM THERE AND TELL HIM WHY I PUT HIM THERE. IN THE BEGINNING ITS HARD BECAUSE SHE WILL TRY TO GET UP BUT YOU HAVE TO KEEP PUTTING HER BACK AND SHE WILL H=GET THAT SHE CANT GET UP FROM HERE UNTILL SHE SITS THERE FOR AS LONG AS SHE IS OLD SO LIKE A MIN AND A HALF

Carla - posted on 10/14/2009

my daughter was like that for a bit but she just grow out of it ,sure your little 1 will 2 x

Carol - posted on 10/14/2009

it is a phase, that they all go through...telling her firmly No hitting, consistently. will help...they get fustrated when they are that age, and they have no way of talking to you...just make sure that you do not allow it., by reinforcing the No HIT!!!! good luck

Jasmina - posted on 10/14/2009

LOL!!! :-))) I have the same "issue" with my son. He start to hitting me after one game we have played ...-I make a "balloon" with my cheeks and Peter make- BooooooooomB!!- at first it was funny..but now..He is slapping me on my face every time when I hold him and say: Mama BoooooooomB! It's not funny anymore :-))) I say NO..and he Mama Boooomb...!!

He is stopping with that when I made sad face like: Honey ..it's hurting me..Do you want your mom to cry? - and he is :-/ like..Nooo...



it's all game for them..be patient and keep telling her that is not funny, and it's hurting you...I don't know..maybe they will stop after they found a new "game" ;)



Punishing will not help her, neither to you!!!! so don't do that!!!...if you slap her on her hand or bottom she will be just more nervous, aggrieved (she is a little human bean right?), fretful..and after this the chance that she will hit you again is ...99% !!! For 1% chance that she will not do that anymore..I would never make my baby to cry and be nervous...Because..They are in the period when they are learning what they may, and what they may not do..keep talk and talk..it's call a "first education" from the parents..it's normal in her age..



The only 'punishment' that you can use is to show her that -Her mama feels bad and sad about it. Kids don't like to see how his mom is sad :-) believe me!

Maggie - posted on 10/14/2009

You have to be consistent in whatever punishment you choose. Stay calm - give her a warning. If she does it again then she gets the punishment. Check out the llink below on the super nanny website.

http://www.supernanny.com/Advice/-/Super...

Melissa - posted on 10/14/2009

I know some people don't agree, but I have a 16 month old that RARELY hits, because when she does, she gets a smack on the bottom or hand, and time out. I do spank, and rarely have problems with it anymore.

Amanda - posted on 10/14/2009

i just went through the same thing with hitting. my son is slowly stopping. time out works for us. he'll hit me once and i'll warn him if u do it again time out. i can see him thinking if its worth it. he'll actually keep his hand in the air while he's thinking. but he won't hit me the second time. my time out is a bland mat in the corner of my office. no toys or evan fun things to look at. he hates time out, good luck

Jackie - posted on 10/14/2009

I had this issue with my oldest. I use to hold her hand that she hit me with no matter where we were. I explained that she gave up the right to use that hand when she decided to hit me and it was mine for how ever long. If she decided to hit me with the other hand I would then take that hand also and say it again to her. Definitely do not give in no matter what you do. It is a phase and it will stop if you are stern and make it clear its unacceptable. She is just trying to see if she can become the alpha dog and you don't want her thinking she is.

Eleanor - posted on 10/14/2009

Sometimes kids are not afraid of their mums. Try being strict with her and not smile when telling her no the next time she does it. Also tell her if she does it again you will punish her. And make sure if she does it again you will really punish her by letting her face the wall for 5 minuites. That is how i discipline my boys. Hope it can be helpful for you too.