Does anyone think that its common now a days for dad's to be stay at home dads and moms go out to work. Just wondering

Kelly - posted on 06/03/2009

My husband has said that I should go back to school to get my masters in nursing and he could stay home w/the kids. He doesn't realize that I wouldn't make that much more money. I also don't think he has the patience. When I work a 12hr shift daylight on the weekend, I come home to him pulling his hair out asking what took me so long. I think it is a great idea if it is possible. I applaud any family that is able to make it on a one-income budget these days.

Jodie - posted on 06/03/2009

Due to our circumstances at the time in a move to a new town for my promotion, we decided that hubby would stay home to look after the one, instead of working to pay for kindy, Four kids & 5 years later and he's still at home with 3 while the eldest started school this year. I wasn't to sure how he'd cope at first with a bit of a quick temper but I think it has turned out to be the best thing for him. He's learned great patience and has become their teacher and every day he has 4 little girls to play with and they absolutely adore him. And I must admit, I think he's doing a far better job in running the household than I ever would, plus he's now also started his own online business which he's always wanted to do but never really found the time. I think the only down side is that he lacks that external male friendship on a regular basis. If your circumstances permit I think a stay home dad is wonderful.

Amanda - posted on 06/02/2009

I think it's cool when the father is willing to stay at home with the kids. If you can afford it I think it is the best way to have one parent stay home. It doesn't matter if its the mother or the father. My boyfriend stays at home with our kids while I work and my kids are so much more healthy and happier being at home then in a daycare.

Yupawadee(Bird) - posted on 06/02/2009

It seems to be getting more and more common for dad's to stay at home whilsty mums go to work, jobs and equal opps in the work place allows us women to make a choice now. I know many men who would prefer to stay at home and watch the kids. Every situation is different. I used to feel that my hubby missed out on the joy of raising kids when he was at work but he works from home now so he rarely misses anything.

Hope - posted on 06/02/2009

I think its wonderful when dads can stay home with the kid(s) and mommy's go out to work if they have the better job. When I grew up both parents worked, I think my family is still like that, though I remember my mom saying if she could have stayed home she would have but she had to go out and work.

Hope - posted on 06/02/2009

Oh just to make it clear I hope no one thinks I am judging stay at home dads cause I am not just making conversation and thought it would have been a interesting topic.

Jennifer - posted on 06/02/2009

my husband is a stay at home dad, it has been about 5 years or so. He is on disability and is not able to work at a typical job. I am very spoiled as he does everything...cook, clean and school stuff with the kids. He is usually the only dad during school stuff though. Some of the moms are still in the stone age and dont seem to accept, but he's really good about ignoring those types. It works for us....although at times, I wish I could stay home.

Jeanne - posted on 06/02/2009

Is it common today for men to be stay at home dads??? Maybe not common but you see it a lot more. I don't see anything wrong with it, especially if the mother has a good steady job/career and the father wants to do it. I've also seen it where dad stays at home because mom makes more money and it gives everyone a stable base. I applaud any stay at home parent - as everyone knows it's a lot of work. I think it all depends on a persons character as to whether they can stay at home or not. Believe it or not my husband has even told me that he couldn't stay at home with the kids full time - so I guess it's a good thing that he makes the money in this relationship...lol.

Angie - posted on 06/02/2009

I have one friend whose family has chosen the Mr. Mom role and it works for them..Guess everyone has their own family dynamic that works for them

Becky - posted on 06/02/2009

My husband stays home with the kids. He is great. He is a much better cook than I am. He does everything for us to make my life easy. He has me so spoiled!! I try to get our girls away on weekends or my day off to give him his alone time. He does feel a little weird doing school acitivities-but he is getting used to it.

Tamara - posted on 06/01/2009

My husband and i have discussed this repeatedly as I seem to have much better luck finding work than he does. In his opinion, there's nothing wrong w/staying home w/our daughter because he enjoys spending time with her and hanging out with her and I agree with him.

Ashley - posted on 06/01/2009

i have a 12 month old and my next baby is due in July.i am going back to school in Sept and my bf will be taking parental leave so he will be staying at home with the two boys. he says he's looking forward to it but we'll see....lol

Hope - posted on 06/01/2009

I love staying at home with my daughter, But eventually I want to get out and look for work. Possibly go back to school as I want to take Early Childhood Education. But I might wait til she goes to school.

?? - posted on 06/01/2009

My brother in law is a stay at home dad because my neice has medical issues that 1 parents must stay home with her. He looked and looked and looked and tried and tried and tried and went through umpteen dozen jobs but they were all part time and he ended up quitting one to accept another that had a promise to be full time and it fell through and after months and months of that constantly happening my sister put out a couple applications and got a full time job so they decided he would stay home with my neice and my sister would go work so that there was a steady income.



It completely depends on the situation. If I could get a job that would make a donkey load of money, I would ask my partner if he would want to stay home with our son instead of going to work - he would probably say no solely for the fact that he loves LOVES his job and likes extra money.



But it's not weird or uncommon at all now a days for a dad to stay home. I would say it's more uncommon for a mom to want to stay home and not work.

Tanya - posted on 06/01/2009

I think what ever works best for the family - I have met some stay at home dad's, and they are great with their children and can handle them very well - Now my husband would be a different story..lol, he'll tell you him self he could not do it he is going crazy if I leave for a couple of hours on saturday! - he is thankful that I have what it takes to be a stay at home mom. Me and my husband agree that whatever works for the family mom's or dad's can stay home (my husband also says whoever will bring in the most money should be the one at work - but I just think whatever works for the persons individual needs is what is best not really the money , unless that is what is needed for that family!)