does ayone else have this problem with leaving your child?

Britney - posted on 10/11/2010 ( 208 moms have responded )

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i am an at home mom to a baby oy who is 8 months old i am with him 24/7 (not complaining at all i love it) i have left him for maybe 24 hours altogher if that (15 mins here 5 there) but lately me and my hubby has been talking about haveing a date night but i get nervous at the thought of leaving him even when it comes to someone i fully trust with no doubt what so ever. i as just wondering if anyone else has this anxiety problem about leaving your childern and is there any thing i can do that would help.

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Jessica - posted on 10/16/2010

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That is a very normal feeling, especially if this is your first child. It does get easier as your child gets older (and with your second or more child). What I would suggest is start with short outtings away from your child wit ha trusted caregiver (such as Grandma). Make sure that your baby is able to take a bottle if he/she is nursing, because otherwise the baby and the caregiver will be frazzled when you return. Feed your baby before you leave, and keep the parting brief. Of course, be ready for cuddles when you return. Make sure whoever is watching your baby has your contact info in case you are needed, but try to relax while you are out.

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hey i so get it my little boy is 10 months i have only left him officially 1 and he was awake with a very close friend who my son has a good bond with(which did help) to go to a wedding cermony for 2 hours i hated it the whole time i was wondering if he was alright as i left when he was awake. i agree the best time would be in the evening once you put your child to bed. i yet to have doen it as i dont really trust anyone with my son the way i trust myself and husband, my son is very clingy to me as i am to him he is my first so i feel im not a good mother for leaving him its my job to be there for him at all times 24/7 which my husband hates as he thinks that im no fun anymore, but like i have told him once you become a parent things change you need to grow up and not do all the shit that you use to do when its just you two. so the only thing i cna suggest is go out for an hour or 2 once put you little man to sleep say go to a movie or dinner with your hubby once a month to start of with leave you baby with someone that you feel will do and listen to how you want your baby to be looked after, otherwise u wont relax at all, its hard trust me just from that 1 time it was hard, but better, if get what i mean. goodluck.

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I havn't had this problem at all. Our son Logan is now 10 months old and since he was around 5 or 6 months old he's slept at my mam's overnight to give us a little break every so often. But I fully trust my mam so perhaps that's how we felt comfortable with it. Is their a reason why you wouldn't trust someone 100%?

Jaycie - posted on 10/16/2010

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I have a few questions, ! 1 is this the only thing you feel anxiety over? 2 is your child more attached to you than any other family members? If this is not the only thing you feel anxiety over, you feel it about other stuff (ex. Did I forget to turn off the oven, Did I Hear a noise, Did my head lights turn off, much more) then you might have an anxiety disorder which you should talk to a doctor about before it gets worse... and to my second question if you child is more attached to you than any other family members you have to think about how this will affect him. You need to keep reminding yourself that eventually he is going to go to school, eventually he will have friends, eventually you will have to leave him at some point. But that's not to say you cant take baby steps..... the first night you leave him go ahead and be honest with your spouse and say you will be calling to check up every hour. and then make a goal for the next time to call less and less. Dont be afraid to leave notes for the baby sitter even if it is grandma..... go online and print of hourly papers like hey use in a daycare print them off and leave them for the babysitter.... when you read this later it will make you feel like you were there and you still had control. have the sitter write down every Diaper change (time, BM or wet) Feeding (time and amount) Clothing change (time and reason) and every other detail you want.

Pam - posted on 10/16/2010

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I have had this problem and I have had 6 children.3 things helped me.the first is that I had to tell myself that God is in control and I prayed for His protection of my baby.The second thing is to make your first outings short and close to home so you feel that you can get home quickly to baby if needed.The third thing is contact with the baby sitter.You need for your own peace of mind to be able to check on baby as frequently as you want through phone calls,texting or whatever.Tell your husband and babysitter to bear with you as You grow through this.You have very high protective , responsibility and nurturing instincts.You are a natural mother.Well done.Good luck.Our older children have all traveled widely around the world and have great careers,they say my nurturing,caring ways have given them stability and confidence:)

Jessica - posted on 10/16/2010

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I have the same problem. I have 2 kids, a 7 yr old son and a 14 month old daughter. I rarely leave them. But sometimes you need to and the only way to make it easier is to do it. It will get a little easier each time.
I'm hoping to have a weekend away soon!!

Alisha - posted on 10/16/2010

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It will pass --I was the same--Now i have 2 and its easier to let others help--Im not saying leave him with just anybody but remem it DOES take a village to raise a child-- I only let my mom in law keep myson and now he almost 3 has seperation issues with going k3 anyway --You need a break enjoy the best of two worlds to have a bundleof joy and time to relax-- Take advantage it took me sooo long now I take it when I can get it --Haha I was you at one point you are just a great mom-- You do it when your ready but know its ok

Samantha - posted on 10/16/2010

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hiya i no what ur going true.i was the same when i left my baby for the first time.if you have someone that u can trust then ur baby will be ok.you and ur hubby need time for urselfs.its ok to be nervous its ok to be were all mums its our job to worry.

Sarah - posted on 10/16/2010

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I would advise that you try to go out. It is important for your child to become used to being cared for by other adults. Throughout his childhood other adults will care for them, in school, church, nursery, at other children's birthday parties etc and your child will enjoy these experiences much more if they know its ok for you to leave and that you will always return to them.

Bernadette - posted on 10/16/2010

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wow Kayla, I'm sorry if it came across that way. I wasn't trying to put down anyone who leaves their kids with other people at all. All I was saying is that I feel bad doing it - not because I feel it's unfair to imposition people, or because it's irresponsible to leave your kids with baby sitters in order to have fun - all I'm saying is that I feel bad doing it because I just don't like to leave her. This is my problem of not being able to let go, and feeling guilty at doing it for my own pleasure, as well as the fact that I miss her when I do. It was in no way intended to say that people shouldn't leave their kids for a while to do something for their own enjoyment. I think that it's important to do so. All I was trying to do was to reassure Britney that she is not the only one who feels this way about leaving her child, which was the question that was asked.



I did not say that I think it is wrong, and when I pointed out that my husband and are having trouble connecting, I was actually saying that yes, we do need to do something like this. However, my parents look after my daughter two full days a week, for nothing, and I feel like I am taking advantage if I ask them for more than this, even though I know they are happy to do it. But I don't want to push the boundaries.

Jamie - posted on 10/16/2010

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find someone you trust and knows your having anxiety and talk with the hubby and let them know your going to call and check up, start out slow up the road for dinner,ect and if all goes well movie or drinks. your a mom and worries are normal, but you also do not want the child so dependable you can branch out once in awhile, its good for both you. plan it and get out and take the hubby out!

Kayla - posted on 10/16/2010

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@ Bernadette, I feel like your post is attacking me for having a single night out with my husband for our anniversary. It isn't something we make a habit of, and it was a special occasion. I rarely ask my family to watch my daughter, typically only one day a week for an hour in order for me to go to school for a hybrid class. I go to school online so that I can spend more time with my daughter. I don't go out and party, and we didn't do that on our anniversary. Me and my husband planned a very romantic evening for the two of us, and it's perfectly normal and healthy. It is normal to miss your child while you are away. But there is a point where you have to let go. There is nothing wrong with having a person who you trust with your child watch them for one afternoon or even night (under certain circumstances). Everybody will have different opinions on what they think is right or wrong, and in my opinion having a single romantic night with my husband is not wrong. And even as you said, you and your husband are having problems connecting. That is a perfect example of why you do need a date night, some time with your husband. Me and my husband were having that same problem and he was even resenting the time it takes to care for our daughter, because he wasn't really getting any with me. Just taking aside a little time every once in a while does wonders for a relationship. It did for mine at least. This is a very well known topic in psychology, and psychologists recommend it as well. I understand people having a hard time going out if they don't have somebody they trust to watch their child. I wouldn't have done it if I didn't.

Charlene - posted on 10/15/2010

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Dear Britney
I think most parents will have had this fear over the centuries. I can tell you that I only ever have asked my Mom to babysit my child who is now 15 yrs old by the way, and who still looks after Skye on occasion because we don't believe in leaving our child without any supervision at night. However, when she was a baby we used to take her with us when we went out but I was very strict with myself - I would not fuss and bother over the her while we were out - in fact my husband and I have shared all duties in raising her over the years. And I mean everything from changing nappies to sex talk. I think even more important is that you and your husband focus on looking after your relationship because that needs even more nurturing after having had a child. So the idea of having a date is fantastic and must be cherished. Bottom line you married your husband forever and your child will only be with for a relatively short time in comparison. So you must learn to let go, but do it in a way that is gradual and suits your lifestyle. Hope this helps!

Crystal - posted on 10/15/2010

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My hubby and I take our daughter with us on date night or have date night in. We are able to go to nice restaurants as long as we plan ahead and make sure that she's fed and changed. We also go to movies at a drive-in in order to see movies without bothering other people.
Our daughter is 8 months and is learning to behave well when we're out. It is frustrating to have her with us all the time, but we're not ready to leave her with any of the people that we have available right now. Our families all live 400 miles away.
The main point is that we do have a specific night set aside for dat night so that we don't get into a rut of always eating in and then going about our separate business.

Jessica - posted on 10/15/2010

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My daughter is 4 1/2 and I still have that problem, but not as bad as before. I only work part time, about 5hrs max. Over time it does get easier.

Fiona - posted on 10/15/2010

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I felt the same way the first time we left my daughter at home with my mother and went out for dinner. All you can do is take the plunge and go out somewhere not far from home. It gets easier each time its natural to worry that way.

Bernadette - posted on 10/15/2010

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it is hard. My daughter was about the same age when I first left her with my parents as I had to go back to work. I was only going for 2 hours a day, and it was so hard I cried the first couple of times. She is now 18 months, and instead of a couple of hours a day I now work 2 full days a week. She stays with my parents for this time, and while it has got a lot easier, I still miss her like crazy and wouldn't do it if I didn't have to. Some mornings it is particularly hard to leave her, like if she's not in a very good mood, or not feeling very well. I think there have only been 2 occasions ever where I have left her with them in the evening to go out, and I felt bad both times. I really only ask them to look after her so I can work, not just so that I can have fun even though I know my parents love having her, and she adores being with them. It's just that I feel bad asking other people to look after her just so that i can go out and enjoy myself. Sometimes I think that my husband and I should have the occasional date night, as we aren't spending much time together at all anymore, and aren't really connecting too well at the moment. I think that we need it, but the thought of leaving my daughter when I don't absolutely have to is difficult for me. We are having another baby in about 5 months, and while I know our time will be even more stretched then and we should get some time together to try to get our relationship back on track, I also keep thinking that I only have 5 more months to spend with my daughter before she is no longer an only child so I want to spend as much time with her as possible. It's silly, I know, since if we did go out it would be at night when she goes to bed anyway, so it's not like I'm spending time with her. But it's still hard to let go...

Kayla - posted on 10/15/2010

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It is difficult at first, but it is also important to set aside some time for you and your hubby. My daughter was about 7 months old when me and my husband had our first anniversary, and we had my grandma watch our daughter overnight. I have not had my grandma watch her a whole lot, but she comes over to play with her and has a great relationship, and I have no doubt she would not do anything to hurt my daughter. Worst thing she would do is spoil her rotten. While it was difficult for me, it turned out to be a great night with my husband, and it actually improved our relationship because he was starting to feel a little neglected. Once you have a baby, most men end up feeling a little bummed out that they don't get as much time with you, so it's important to set aside some time every once in a while for him and let him know that he's very important to you too.

Jane - posted on 10/15/2010

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All Mommies have that anxiety some more than others. The best thing to do is just do it and you will see everything will be okay. You time with each other and time away from the baby so that you can have some fun a HAPPY MOM equals a HAPPY BABY. Don't worry your baby will be fine. They too have separation anxieties and the sooner you allow your baby to be with out you the better for both of you. I have raised three children and wish someone had told me this when I was raising them.

Kay - posted on 10/15/2010

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I am now 62, had my first at the tender age of 15 twins, they however did not make it past 3 days. I often wondered if this was a factor in my fear of leaving. I now today have 3 beautiful children 1 girl45, boy44, boy40 ~ all of whom I am very very proud to call mine they are wonderful people. Have 6 beautiful grands and one Great grand~ I must add I am just as protective of them. Good thing we are a very tight nit family~ I would have to say that deep feeling of connection was a positive ~ I fully understand the need to bond with your mate...and make that relationship a full bloom ~ In our case...my husband is a go getter......always has been very busy in his education and work considered it my duties to full fill the home needs, suppose this could be seen as a generation thing......but.....I feel the Mothers role is to provide emotional growth and guidance and the Fathers role non less important teaches strength in independence and confidence and it is the duty of both to provide spiritual foundation. Family is a ongoing process....... :) even still ..... Give it your full Love/attention and in the end you can smile and say...........you lived your life with complete devotion and made the world a little bit better place for ones less fortunate ~ In the end... I see if you leave those precious little ones to others who love them as deeply as you.....they will be cared for well and you can come back refreshed to the honorable job you carry! Oh and if anyone is wondering… yes still have the same wonderful man I married at 15

Pauline - posted on 10/15/2010

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Just do it - knowing that how you are feeling is very normal. However, the longer you leave it before you do it, the harder it will be. A good mum is all the better for feeling rereshed by an evening out. The other people to think about are your husband and yourself. Not healthy to be so consumed with a baby that you both don't matter anymore. You do - so go out first for a short while and then extend the times, you will feel panicy at first, but little by little you both will adjust. If baby cries well he/she wont die, its going to be an adjustment for you both but this continues on all thru life in one way or another. You are preparing your baby to grow up healthy and a balance person and in the end you have to totally let go but you never stop being their Mum. From a Mum wiht 4 grown up children and 5 grand-children. It's hard but it's true - so go enjoy and don't be too hard on yourself. Your doing it for your baby as well as yourselves.

Nicki - posted on 10/15/2010

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I think evryone does

I rember one time we got my daughter to nana and papas and didn't make it our the door your not alone trust me .. I still have to follow the bus to school the first day and can't wait for the day to be over so i can see her she is 7.

Alicia - posted on 10/15/2010

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I don't look at time away as being self-centered. Frankly, we do a lot of things together as a family, but I also want my daughter to grow up with a mom who has a life and can model for her a range of interests and activities. I also want her to learn that she is not the center of the universe, that daddy and mommy have time together alone and that the love, affection and passion we have because of that is obvious to her.

Bethany - posted on 10/15/2010

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I was the same way. I'm still like that actually! My daughter was 9 months old the first time I left her and it was only for about 2 hours. Just so my husband and I could spend some time together. She will be 2 in Feb. and I have only left her over night twice and a handful of times for babysitting with the grandparents only. Its hard and I have cried both times I have left her over night and I am always anxious to go pick her up, My husband and I love our time together but we really enjoy being with our little girl too. It does get easier each time you do it and even though you miss them you know they are ok. Just do small amount of time at first. Only what you are comfortable with. Don't let anyone pressure you into babysitting or staying over night. That's what happened to me and it is very irritating. I've become more ok with it but I only do it when I feel that I'll be ok. Just don't forget how important it is to spend time with your husband and its your baby so you can call to check in as often as you like.

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Well, in my case the time away is going to be a little longer. After 3 p.m. today I won't see him until 9 p.m. or so tomorrow. I've never went that long without seeing him. Also, while some people feel quality time alone is important, I just don't get that. My parents have been married over 30 years, closer to 40, and we did EVERYTHING as a family. Thinking you need "quality time" just proves that as a society we're getting more and more self centered.

Alicia - posted on 10/15/2010

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I know this is common since I have heard about it, but I simply have never experienced it. I don't get it. I love my daughter and love spending time with her, but at the same time I enjoy maintaining a healthy marriage and having time away--it makes me appreciate her all the more. So, can't help you there, especially if you say you have someone you trust. I mean, seriously, the kid is going to be sleeping...

Susan - posted on 10/15/2010

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It's tough to do, but it's a good idea to get him accustomed to being with other people. It allows you a little more freedom and it will eventually help him as he gets to be school age. If you spend 24/7 with him and then send him off to school, it'll be really tough on him. Start out slowly and build up time. Before you go on your date, have someone watch him while you run some errands or something. I'm lucky that my daughter has 2 grandmas that fought (and still do after 8 years) to watch her when I'm away. My daughter's been on vacation with her dad, her grandparents, her best friend, has been camping with Girl Scouts, and she does awesome being away from home. Of course I miss her while she's gone and she gets homesick and calls often, but it's given her some fun opportunities.

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I work, but for the first time I'm going to spend time overnight with some girlfriends for a friend's wedding. I'm dreading it, not because I don't trust his father, but because I don't feel like I get enough time with him. But at the same time I know this is probably one of the few times I will get to see my close friend who is moving away.

Genna - posted on 10/15/2010

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you know your not the only one i think about it everytime i leave my little one with her grandparents cause ya know they do things different than whats done today so its like they dont know the things of today lol anyways i dont mind it and its nice to know you can still trust someone so ya can have a break for once

Tina - posted on 10/15/2010

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Its completely normal, I am not a stay at home mom, I work full time but when I first went back to work I was a nervous wreck and he was staying home with his dad cause he happened to be off that day, but even though he was home with his daddy which is an amazing father I still was sooo scared. It has got much easier since then, but I still dont let my son stay out over night at even his grandparents house, and I could trust them completely.. Its natural to be nervous, go on your date you will be amazed how much better you will feel afterwards, you need a break here and there just for your own sanity, Im sure you love every moment with your child but your entitled to a break every once in awhile!! Your son will be just fine! Go enjoy yourself!!!

Jackie - posted on 10/15/2010

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It's normal, but it's important that you take some time for yourself and for you and your hubby. And resist the urge to call every 15 minutes to make sure the baby is ok. The phone will probably wake him up and make him cry and exasperate the sitter and you'll freak yourself out. As a grandmother, I speak from experience. I once hung up on my son, then stopped picking up the phone. I told him I appreciated his being a doting father, but he needed to rein himself in. Go out and have a little fun. Your son will have fun, too, and will be glad to see you when you get back.

Christi - posted on 10/15/2010

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The best thing is probably just to do it and find out that your baby is fine when you come back. Or for the first time you could plan it after you put your baby to bed. Maybe that would make it easier. Anyway someone else is always going to do things a little differently, but that is fine. It won't hurt your baby and wille help him get used to the fact that different people do things differently. And your relationship is important so it's good for your baby if you put time into that as well. And tell your babysitter to call you if somethings wrong but try not to call him or her!

Jakki - posted on 10/14/2010

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I agree with all the comments about 1) it's normal 2) take it gradually etc, but I do want to add that it is really important that as your child gets older you don't transmit your anxiety to your child. I've known a lot of over-protective mums, and I don't think it's very healthy for the kids (PS I'm not suggesting that you've over-protective at this stage, I'm thinking more about mums with older
kids who won't let them out of their sight).

One of our main roles as mothers is to prepare our kids for the big wide world, and to be independent human beings. Although it hurts to give them little moments away from us, it's a good and necessary pain, and you'll see them again soon...

Lucy - posted on 10/14/2010

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I think most moms experience that. I know it is very difficult but please make time for your husband. That date night will keep your marriage alive. Get a trusted relative or adult friend to come sit with him and you and your husband go somewhere, anywhere, even if only for an hour. The baby will be fine and your husband will love you even more.

Amy - posted on 10/14/2010

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for sure, I never got the honor of staying at home and I still had a hard time leaving my dd.

Jennifer - posted on 10/13/2010

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It is never easy to leave your baby behind. I would be worried even with my own mother, when Andrew was first born. It does get better, I recommend just starting with an hour at a time. Maybe take a walk or get some errands done. With each time out you will feel better about it. By the way it is good for the child to be around different people. They learn early to socialize and self sooth. It is also very important to remember you have 2 jobs now, not just 1. Being the wife is just as important as being a mother!

Bethanie - posted on 10/13/2010

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i have 2 kids and have been a stay-at-home mom all 3 years (with the exception of 6 months @ work. (not optional!)). the hardest thing i ever did was leave my son at daycare for me to work. but there simply was no choice in the matter at that point! but after he got a stomach virus at daycare and was forced to sit behind the babysitters front door on a foot mat, i took him out of there and quit working! sometimes it doesn't work out! but you can't keep your kids from the world and you can't neglect your relationship (agreeing with laquetta cox!!!). take baby steps. if possible start by letting the grandparents babysit! preferrably your parents. you know how you were raised and if they did a good job with you, it goes without saying that they'll take good care of your baby. that's what i did! now my hubby and i get one day a week for about 3 or 4 hours to be alone. out kids go sit with nana or mimi!!! :)

Michelle - posted on 10/13/2010

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I read this and had to double check if I wrote it haha. My boy is also 8 months, well soon to be 9. I have barely been apart from him. I am excited to be planning things far in the future so that we can drop him off at my moms and go out etc but then when the time comes I always make excuses. I am not sure if this is normal but my husband says he understands and he always watched him and makes me go take a bath or read or something so there is a break but I just can't grasp the idea of leaving him where I can't see him if I want/need to.

I am not sure if this helps you at all..but at least we are not alone on the matter.

Here's hoping...one day. I think I am just afraid of missing something important or maybe it's that he will be fine with out me (I almost lost him so I kind of hang on tight).

Kayla - posted on 10/13/2010

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I was the exact same way. My husbands mom wanted to spend time with our son some she recommended a date night for us so she could watch him. Me being a stay at home mom it was soooo hard. The following week I said we could leave him with her for an hour at first then we would work our way up. It got alot easier as time went on. We have since moved and at almost 3 yrs old I wish she was here to watch him and our 1 yr old daughter for a couple hours so we could go out to dinner or to a movie without having to chase a child around or worry about them eating. Trust me, that little time away will make you feel refreshed and bring a new since of joy when you see him again.

Marion - posted on 10/13/2010

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I know that for many many mothers this is a very hard thing to do. And I consider it normal. You know your child the best and it is hard to believe anyone else can care for him as well as you do for even a short time. I've had 5 children, all are grown now and gone through the same problems as you are now. I've had bad bad day care issues and really great day care people. I would trust family members above anyone else. Especially grandparents, or aunts or uncles, even cousins of baby sitting age. Start slow, make short trips at first, go out with your husband for a nice dinner . Then a dinner & movie. Christmas is coming, Go to a party.

I was most impressed and proud when my son & his girlfriend called me and asked me to babysit their neice & 3 week old nephew, they are now married when the parents of the children , and my son were going out for the night. I hadn't even met the parents yet. But I got great reviews from my son. I was surprised that I was chosen to watch this precious baby & his 2 year old sister.

So take slow steps and it will come. You & your husband need "date nights" .

Liz - posted on 10/13/2010

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i fully understand how u feel my son is now just over 1yr old and it just gets easier.... i write out a little routine for the person and ask if there is any probs just ring. But i try to have trust and respect for the person babysitting and try not stress, think positive and enjoy..... U will be an even better Mum when u take that time out for urself! X

Heather - posted on 10/13/2010

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Yes! It's hard for me to leave my kids too, even though they aren't newborns anymore. But its good for you and your husband to go on a date. So pick someone you trust to watch your baby and go out with your husband. I'm sure everything will be fine and it will be a little easier the next time.

Lydia - posted on 10/12/2010

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maybe try weaning yourself up to a whole evening. (Thats what I was doing but gastro kicked in and made an overnight separation necessary earlier than expected) Try having an hour out together then two then dinner and a movie - or whatever tickles your fancy for an uninterrupted date night :)

Dora - posted on 10/12/2010

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I had this problem and still have it from time to time and my son is 2 1/2yrs old. And to think my mom is the one who babysits him. I think it has something to do with the fact that I miss him so much when I am away from him. I love being a mom. I waited to have my son and got all the partying and going out and having a career out of me before getting pregnant. Now this is my time to spend with him. But just keep in mind you should definitely have date nights with your hubby. Trust me I know it is extremely difficult but you have to do it for yourselves. The first time we left our son over night I had a major melt down. I drank a bottle of wine by myself within 1hr and cried. Not good at all. It is a little bit easier now but we rarely go out unless it is a date night. A couple of times my hubby and I found ourselves rushing home to him. Just keep working on it. I know we still are.

Annabel - posted on 10/12/2010

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I was a little like that when I had my children but if you dont do it you will never do it..... try it and see how you do

Elizabeth - posted on 10/11/2010

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It's not just moms, it's dads too. My husband and I both cried the first time our daughter went to church with her Nanny and Aunt Hope with out us. Take it gradually, you want to enjoy the time together with out feeling uncomfortable about the time away from the baby. Maybe ya'll could start with a one hour dinner out then spend the rest of the night together with your baby. Maybe go for a late night stroll with the baby bundled up in his stroller later after dinner. You and your husband can gaze at the stares while the baby is just a arm reach away, and ya'll have also spent some alone time together. Then the next time you can go out for a movie. And then after that dinner and a movie. etc. Hope this helps.

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I am sure we all have it the first time around I know the first time I left my daughter I was a basket case and we left her and my oldest who is 9 with their grandma (my mother) who I totally trust. But I went with my husband to his event we came home and of course she was just fine and I got over it. Basically you just got to do it to get past it.

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Yes. I sometimes get anxious but then I think that it's for his best to get used to other people, and it's also good to have some time on your own/with hubby

September - posted on 10/11/2010

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Of course! I think that all parents deal with these types of emotions at some point or another. Just be sure that you're leaving him with someone you trust. It's good for you and your husband to enjoy a date night here and there. It's also good for your son to enjoy some time with a grandparent or aunt or uncle or a good friend of yours. Just try to relax and enjoy yourself, I'm sure your son will be fine and you'll feel refreshed after enjoying some alone time with your husband. My husband and I have a regular date night every other Friday. Our son who is almost 2 stays with his Grandma. We enjoy our date night and our son enjoys time with his grandma and a change of scenery.

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