Domestic Violence & Suicide Prevention Resources

Wendy - posted on 04/23/2013

Hi Natasha,

Thank God, everything is going good so far and yes; still going strong. Thank you

Natasha - posted on 04/21/2013

Hi Wendy. How are you??? Still going strong I hope!!??

Wendy - posted on 03/25/2013

Hi Natasha, just wanted to give you an update on my situation. I took your advice, I packed my things and my daughter's clothes and left. Thank God I have the family of a friend that they took me in their home. It's been more than a week now since I left home, and I feel so much better, I already feel like I can start breathing again. Now I'm starting to think about the future that I want to offer my daughter, even looking for programs to finish my Master's degree. I want to thank you for your advice, and wanted to let you know that we are save and moving on from this situation.

Thank you.

Natasha - posted on 03/15/2013

Hi. You have to try to get to a shelter asap. Take your daughter and only 1 bag of necessities and make a run for it. Then you go to the police and file complaint and get a restraining order. You have to NOT think of yourself, job or anything else right now. Just get out of there please and DO NOT RETURN!! He will make all the promises in the world but NOTHING will change.

Wendy - posted on 03/15/2013

Hi! I need help. I am married and have a 4 month old daughter. My husband abuses me mentally and physically. I'm in a situation, that I don't know how to get out of here. I have no job and nowhere to go. I am so desperate, that most of the time I think that the solution for me would be just to kill myself, and he even told me to go ahead and do it, even gave me some pills do I would take them. Just today he was pushing me around and hitting me. He started drinking, and when he gets like that I try to leave him alone, even get away from him, because he gets very aggressive. I try to leave the house, but take my keys, my wallet and even my phone.
One time when I was pregnant, he didn't want me to go to sleep, and he kept following me around the house, even thought I was trying to sleep even on the floor, and I said that I was going to call the cops, an he took my phone and broke it. Then he started hitting me. I tried to get a divorce after that and in Texas you can't get divorce if you are pregnant.
So I stayed because right after that I lost my job, because of him. I've always been very responsible, never had any problems with anybody, or no even fights with any ex or arguments, I always try to walk away to cool off. But with my husband, if I try to do that he would lock me in the bathroom or in the closet.
Now I have my daughter, and I had hopes that things were to get better after the pregnancy, but it didn't. He even hit me two weeks after I gave birth and pushed me so hard that I fell on the floor and my stitches came off. My mom was here, and had to see that, how embarrassing, her only daughter being treated like that. And not only that, he kicked me and mom out of the house, and he didn't let me take my daughter with me.
Today is the same story, I even thought of leaving and maybe sleep in the car, but he took my documents and my daughters car seat. How can I leave without her? He doesn't even wakes up when she cries at night! And he is so drunk.
I really really don't know what to do, he threatened to kill me if I take my baby away, and that if I get a divorce he will try to make a case against me to take my baby.
I don't know what to do. And I really need to get out of here.

Natasha - posted on 02/17/2013

Hi there. Just want to know if you and kids are okay? Just recently read your post and worried. Nobody should be in this kind of situation..especially children!

Nur Azura - posted on 02/13/2013

How about living in malysia?

Tina - posted on 04/17/2012

Ii have been abused and my children by violence from my husband.everykind he has done.I had ihad him arrested in05.he had probation and anger man.all of that.but it seemed after his probation he was worse.he always anger and violent and it was always toward me.istayed cause he threatendif I left what would happento me.he found out that I was going to leave for he always had me followedand tracked my phones.last year he went to court and filed to have me leave my home.I have told the court how he was violentand showed documents.I was still out oft home for the judge said to protected yet she allowed the kids to stay with him.iwas told not until the divorce hearing and custody could something b done
Where he knew he would lose.he filed for a hearing withoutme knowing
And lied to the court saying I abused the children.and what I had him.he was granted the divorceand custody. I've gone for another hearing and have to wait.can I still get the divorce overturned on grounds of abuse.and get my kids away from
Him.he is still abusive. Violent and abused liquor around my kids.his so called friend who now lives with him and my kids does drugsand other inaporiate things.my kids have now picked up some of their things and worse they use and they r12and8.and he spends no time wit them just for her.can I still get everything overturned.they can have each other ijut want them.PS
ihave called some of those hotlines.and they toldmethat there much they can do where he hasn't hasn't us phiscially.can someone pplz
If you can help me.or tell me how ican.their lives and mine depend on it.he has told my kids what he would if the talked.and he told me he would make sure I'm gone for good.

Smash - posted on 03/26/2012

This is a ridiculous thing these days. So many TV Shows running to highlight this issue. We need to take all the possible actions against it.

Cindy - posted on 11/18/2011

I would just like to say that I was in an abusive relationship in the past, prior to having kids. My ex attacked me and my home and the police were called. I didn't really have the strength to peruse it at that time but the police insisted on charging him, I found that they were able to regardless of how I felt about it. I had to move out of my home and into my parents house and let my ex live in my home until he was eventually evicted by the police. I still didn't move back in though. The case went to court and I found that they were not sending him on an anger management course, as they have found that this can make the problems worse instead of better. Instead of an anger management course they were planning on sending him on a course especially for domestic abusers. I was quite surprised by that so I thought it's worth mentioning. I have no idea if the course took place or worked, I thanked my lucky starts that he was not allowed to contact me and moved on.

Christian - posted on 11/09/2011

Thanks this is a help for me. I am doing research on domestic violence . I hate it when a guys or any person think they can prey on another person just to try to control them. I

Marie Jayne - posted on 10/19/2011

Thank you sooo much for posting all this information very helpful and valuable..

I had a very abusive stepfather, and did actually consider suicide. Then i thought of all the hurt and upset it wouldve caused my mum so thankfully i didnt go ahead. Sadly i lost my mum to Lung Cancer last September and found things extremly hard but ive got my beautiful daughter to keep me strong and focused. Tho it could've been a different story if it wasnt for her.

Rati - posted on 09/20/2011

Thank you .....much needed information. I have considered suicide but I thank God I did not go through with it. I have found so much meaning in my life knowing and being led by Christ. I thank God for the faith in me which has moulded me to be a stronger and better person. More people need to find that inner strength to beat negative feelings about presenting situations. With God - we can do all things - including overcome difficult situations.

Gabrielle - posted on 06/27/2011

Suicide is not even an option in my book. I'm sorry for your loss. There has to be a terrible amount of pain.
All of this information is definitely helpful. Please find what works for you.
The only suggestion I can make is to ask yourself what are you supposed to learn from this?,How are you going to help others in the same situation?
Please realize that Everything happens for a reason. It's your choice to figure out what to do with what you're given...the possibilities are endless. Noone really gets to decide to end a life. Every life is a miracle.
I know it's not always easy to see that. Sometimes it takes a stranger telling you, sometimes a family member... Either way, please seek help. Other people can help, seek them and you will find them. God bless you. He never gives you more than you can handle. If it seems like too much, then please ask someone to help you. Amen.

Lisa - posted on 06/20/2011

As a surviving spouse of suicide, I would like to say that it is not something I would ever want any family to go through. My husband committed suicide September 2, 2009, and I still cry about it and wonder why. If you ever think that your family will be better off without you think again. Think of a time later on in life when your child, mother, father, sister, brother, or husband may need you to be there for them... if you have committed suicide you will not be able to be there for them. Also think of all the time you will have lost getting to see them grow up and all the money they will have to put into a funeral or even counseling so they may try to come to terms with why you have done what you did. It's not even so much the money aspect that gets me... It's more the fact that you won't be there for that child that loves you beyond any reasoning, your parents, your siblings, your spouse... Please think about what you are doing not only to yourself but to your loved ones. Please seek help if you feel there is no way out. ♥ Lisa

Mel - posted on 06/04/2011

thankyou

Katie - posted on 06/02/2011

This information needs to more widely available. I was in an abusive relationship until just over two years ago and I had help from a health visitor :-)

Meghan - posted on 05/19/2011

God bless you for all your concern....The world is truly a better place because of people like you!

Jean - posted on 05/17/2011

Thank you for posting this :)

Dianne - posted on 05/16/2011

Contact PASCH http://www.peaceandsafety.com Peace and Safety in the Christian Home. PASCH is a resource for women seeking support against domestic abuse. God does NOT support violence against women. Contact: http://www.peaceandsafety.com/

Elizabeth - posted on 04/30/2011

Fantastic. Good on you for supplying this information.