DRINKING ALCOHOL DURING PREGNANCY BENEFICIAL?

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2009 ( 325 moms have responded )

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I have heard lots of controversy here on circle of moms over the last couple of weeks as to weather or not alcohol during pregnancy is harmful or beneficial. One person keeps telling me it is the norm for people to have the occasional drink while pregnant and most people do drink while pregnant and I have always been told that there is no safe amount and to completely abstain from any and all alcoholic beverages.
This really has me thinking and curious about what other mothers thought on this topic.
So I want to know does the majority drink while pregnant, is this the new norm Or is this person who told me everyone does it just mis informed.
Are we going to be seeing pamphlets in the doctors office telling us to drink to benefit our children?

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Carolee - posted on 05/01/2009

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Hey ladies this issue isn't about RIGHT or WRONG this is about WISDOM . RIGHT or WRONG can and will always be debated . Wisdom always rings true. We all want to be GREAT moms; but as WISE moms, we all want to do what is BEST for our unborn babies first . So in every decision like this, ask yourself what would WISDOM do . . . and do WISDOM :} Come check out my Circle of Moms group SHINE

Amanda - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Melissa:



Quoting Krista:




Quoting Melissa:

well all know its not beneficial Amanda. doctors will tell you its ok to have a glass of wine, so drinking in moderation just dont drink every day and baby will be fine. I almost didnt have a drink last night at my cousins because i am still waiting to find out if im pregnant this month but then she basically said to me "harden the F.. up i drank for 5 and a half months and my kids are all fine" so i had that drink only a 4% though and not more then one. not really worth the risk just on the off chance.








No, it's not worth the risk, Melissa, and your cousin needs to smarten the f*** up!!  Maybe she lucked out that the alcohol she irresponsibly consumed while pregnant didn't mess up her kids...or more likely, the negative effects just aren't apparent yet.  I quit drinking, even the occasional drink, the day we started trying to get pregnant, not the day I found out that I was pregnant.  Why risk hurting your unborn baby just to have a damn drink??  If someone can't stay away from alcohol while pregnant...maybe she should rethink having a baby.  I'd hate to think what other irresponsible decisions such a mother would make while raising her kids...









I dont agree with quitting drinking while trying to conceive i did this when i first started trying for a baby but by about a year later i had given up on the idea of conceiving because i just assumed i couldnt get pregnant. so when mine was 5 months we stopped using withdrawl just because i didnt want it to take another 2 years to get my next one. now my girl is 13 months and just getting the the time now where we want baby #2 as i want a two year gap. trying very hard not to get my hopes up though as im only 3 days late now. Like my partner says to me its just wishful thinking that i might be pregnant so theres no point in giving up drinking for the next few years waiting for our second pregancy to come along.






 






anyway sorry if i misimformed you about my cousin she didnt know she was pregnant for all that time that is why she still drank and all after that she didnt. shes had 6 kids though one died of SIDS but all were healthy babies :) anyway of course its all just personal views we all have our own. I would never want to have more then a drink at a time while pregnant but that is me and others will have a few drinks every now and again. I dont judge its each to their own






I would find another role model. the cousin doesnt sound like a very good one.

Amanda - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Joy:



Quoting Emily:

I cant really say for sure, but honestly...who NEEDS a glass of alcohol? Especially if you're pregnant. Is that beer really going to be worth it if it hurts your baby?






When I had my glass of wine at 37 weeks, I didn't NEED it.  But I was going nuts, scared as hell and had a lot of other stuff going on in my life and it calmed me down a little.  If one glass of wine was going to hurt the baby 3 weeks before my due date, then my doctor wouldn't have said it was ok.  That's the way I look at it. 






I think that far along a small glass of wine wouldnt hurt the baby, I would not do it but thats just me.



I was more posting this question about people saying it is ok to drink in moderation during pregnancy (2 drinks at a time 2-3 days/week)



I think 2 drinks 2/3 times a week is very excesive and will harm the baby however I dont htink the 1 glass you had 3 weeks before your due date is enought o harm.

Amanda - posted on 05/01/2009

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I think that they say drinking in moderation during the 2nd and 3rd trimester is okay, like a glass or two of wine a week. I agree with Amie, that the safe amount of alcohol isn't really known, because testing that would be unethical. That said, I did have one drink during my pregnancy - a half a glass of champaign when I was about 39 weeks. I don't think that I harmed my son, but I wouldn't personally be comfortable with drinking much more than that.



Now is this in the UK that you heard it was ok or in north america as well?  As far as my research goes I have only found articles related to the UK. And how did they come to the conclusion all of a suddent hat it is in fact safe in the 2nd and 3rd trimesters?



I have no intention of drinking any alcohol during pregnancy but I am very curious how if they cant test something because of it being so contriversal ad the risk of harming the fetus than how do they come to the conclusion it is sfae?

Megan - posted on 05/01/2009

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i wouldn't do it at all i feel guilty because what if something did go wrong with the baby later on i would feel it was my fault..

Emily - posted on 05/01/2009

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I agree, I dont think a single glass of wine at 37 weeks is going to do a lot of harm. But for me personally, there are better ways to calm down. Your baby drinks what you drink. There's no way in hell I would put wine in a newborns bottle. Thats just how I look at it. There are better things you can do to de-stress, then have alcohol.

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Quoting Emily:

I cant really say for sure, but honestly...who NEEDS a glass of alcohol? Especially if you're pregnant. Is that beer really going to be worth it if it hurts your baby?



When I had my glass of wine at 37 weeks, I didn't NEED it.  But I was going nuts, scared as hell and had a lot of other stuff going on in my life and it calmed me down a little.  If one glass of wine was going to hurt the baby 3 weeks before my due date, then my doctor wouldn't have said it was ok.  That's the way I look at it. 

Emily - posted on 05/01/2009

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I cant really say for sure, but honestly...who NEEDS a glass of alcohol? Especially if you're pregnant. Is that beer really going to be worth it if it hurts your baby?

Amie - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Krista:

Wow...where I come from, a woman sitting in a lounge drinking a beer at 8 months pregnant would draw some pretty angry stares.


I know a girl who was dragged out of a bar at 7 months pregnant by the bouncer. He even gave her a lecture the entire way and told her she was not welcomed back at that bar by the owner's orders.

Krista - posted on 05/01/2009

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Wow...where I come from, a woman sitting in a lounge drinking a beer at 8 months pregnant would draw some pretty angry stares. I had no idea that in some places doctors advocate drinking in moderation during pregnancy. One of my biggest fears is that I'll discover that I'm pregnant a few weeks in and realize that I had had a few drinks before I found out. I would be so wracked with guilt for my entire pregnancy, and any difficulties that my child experienced, I would have to go back and think, did my drinking cause that?? I'm much more comfortable staying away from the stuff altogether...even while I'm trying to conceive. I think it's the responsible thing to do. Doesn't everyone want to give their child the best start in life?

Sara - posted on 05/01/2009

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I chose not to drink at all while pregnant, I just didn't feel right about it. Some doctor's say that it's ok to have a drink every once in a while when pregnant, but I have found in my research that the facts are ambiguous about how it can affect the fetus. I would rather err on the side of safety, but I have friend's that would have a glass of wine every now and then in the last trimester and I didn't think bad of them for it. I would, obviously, never condone drinking in the first trimester, however. Just my opinion, I guess you have to decide what you feel right with.

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Well this topic is sure to explode! I think that in each country they tell women different things. I also think it depends on the doctor and which medical journals they read, which studies they subscribe to. Personally, when I was pregnant, my doctor said not to drink at all in the first trimester. He said that in the second and third trimesters I was allowed to have ONE glass of wine or ONE beer ONCE a week if I needed it to relax. As it turned out, I didn't drink at all during my pregnancy until I was 37 weeks. I started having Braxton Hicks and ONE glass of wine took the edge off. If I remember correctly I didn't even finish it. This was just my experience though...I'm certain there are many others who drank more, many who didn't drink at all. I would say a general rule of thumb, in my opinion, would be that it is best to avoid alcohol while pregnant.

Melissa - posted on 05/01/2009

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Are you talking about the lady who replied to me HOW OLD DO YOU FEEL AN INFANT SHOULD BE BEFORE THEY TASTE REAL FOOD SUCH AS A TASTE OF ICE CREAM???

Melissa - posted on 05/01/2009

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I think one of the big reasonas nobody know how much is safe is say you have a baby with FASD are you going to admit how much you drank probably not I am sure everyone fudges it. I do agree on no alcohol is best I dont see me needing it I have personally had BAD arthritis since being a teen and I took myself off of most the medicines for that it was painful everryday I had to work and stand up all the time so I think I cried a few times but it was worth having healthy baby boy. With my daughter I wasnt diagnosed yet we never thought it could be arthritis so she also wasnt exposed to drugs or alcohol,

Clariza - posted on 05/01/2009

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I dont think that the drinking is for the benefit of our children!
I think that everything is ok in moderation except for obvious things like DRUGS (prescription and illegal).
I will be honest w you and say that while i was pregnant I did have a glass of wine once in a while and I did have beer as well. I had one or two glasses a week. But sometimes I didnt drink for weeks at a time. The drink made me feel good. It helped relax my mind and helped me to feel like my old self (pre-pregnancy) again.
I had an on time delivery. I gave birth at a birthing center w a mid wife, in a birthing tub. My daughter was born very healthy and to this day has had no health issues and has never gotten sick (thank goodness). She is 8 months old today.

Lydia - posted on 05/01/2009

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I don't know that I would consider it beneficial!? There are some drinks that have some nutritional value. My friends GP recommended Guiness if she wanted a drink during pregnancy because the liquid iron and B vitamins are more efficiently absorbed than from multivits. I didnt stop drinking completely but I would have no more than 2 half pints or glasses of wine over any given week (and that wasnt every week). The decision about whether to abstain from alcohol or not is personal and depends on what information you have recieved. I'm a believer of do what is right for you but give it some good thought before you make the decision and be responsible about it.

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I think that they say drinking in moderation during the 2nd and 3rd trimester is okay, like a glass or two of wine a week. I agree with Amie, that the safe amount of alcohol isn't really known, because testing that would be unethical. That said, I did have one drink during my pregnancy - a half a glass of champaign when I was about 39 weeks. I don't think that I harmed my son, but I wouldn't personally be comfortable with drinking much more than that.

Lee-Anne - posted on 05/01/2009

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i beleive no to drinking i gave up drinking over 6 years ago as soon as i found out i was preg with my 3rd i just dont think that we should be feeding our babys acohole while they are in our womb they dont have a choice so as a mother we have to make that choice as what we put into our bodys is what our unborn bady eats or drinks

Mel - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Krista:



Quoting Melissa:

well all know its not beneficial Amanda. doctors will tell you its ok to have a glass of wine, so drinking in moderation just dont drink every day and baby will be fine. I almost didnt have a drink last night at my cousins because i am still waiting to find out if im pregnant this month but then she basically said to me "harden the F.. up i drank for 5 and a half months and my kids are all fine" so i had that drink only a 4% though and not more then one. not really worth the risk just on the off chance.






No, it's not worth the risk, Melissa, and your cousin needs to smarten the f*** up!!  Maybe she lucked out that the alcohol she irresponsibly consumed while pregnant didn't mess up her kids...or more likely, the negative effects just aren't apparent yet.  I quit drinking, even the occasional drink, the day we started trying to get pregnant, not the day I found out that I was pregnant.  Why risk hurting your unborn baby just to have a damn drink??  If someone can't stay away from alcohol while pregnant...maybe she should rethink having a baby.  I'd hate to think what other irresponsible decisions such a mother would make while raising her kids...





I dont agree with quitting drinking while trying to conceive i did this when i first started trying for a baby but by about a year later i had given up on the idea of conceiving because i just assumed i couldnt get pregnant. so when mine was 5 months we stopped using withdrawl just because i didnt want it to take another 2 years to get my next one. now my girl is 13 months and just getting the the time now where we want baby #2 as i want a two year gap. trying very hard not to get my hopes up though as im only 3 days late now. Like my partner says to me its just wishful thinking that i might be pregnant so theres no point in giving up drinking for the next few years waiting for our second pregancy to come along.



 



anyway sorry if i misimformed you about my cousin she didnt know she was pregnant for all that time that is why she still drank and all after that she didnt. shes had 6 kids though one died of SIDS but all were healthy babies :) anyway of course its all just personal views we all have our own. I would never want to have more then a drink at a time while pregnant but that is me and others will have a few drinks every now and again. I dont judge its each to their own

Krista - posted on 05/01/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

well all know its not beneficial Amanda. doctors will tell you its ok to have a glass of wine, so drinking in moderation just dont drink every day and baby will be fine. I almost didnt have a drink last night at my cousins because i am still waiting to find out if im pregnant this month but then she basically said to me "harden the F.. up i drank for 5 and a half months and my kids are all fine" so i had that drink only a 4% though and not more then one. not really worth the risk just on the off chance.



No, it's not worth the risk, Melissa, and your cousin needs to smarten the f*** up!!  Maybe she lucked out that the alcohol she irresponsibly consumed while pregnant didn't mess up her kids...or more likely, the negative effects just aren't apparent yet.  I quit drinking, even the occasional drink, the day we started trying to get pregnant, not the day I found out that I was pregnant.  Why risk hurting your unborn baby just to have a damn drink??  If someone can't stay away from alcohol while pregnant...maybe she should rethink having a baby.  I'd hate to think what other irresponsible decisions such a mother would make while raising her kids...

Mel - posted on 05/01/2009

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well all know its not beneficial Amanda. doctors will tell you its ok to have a glass of wine, so drinking in moderation just dont drink every day and baby will be fine. I almost didnt have a drink last night at my cousins because i am still waiting to find out if im pregnant this month but then she basically said to me "harden the F.. up i drank for 5 and a half months and my kids are all fine" so i had that drink only a 4% though and not more then one. not really worth the risk just on the off chance.

Amanda - posted on 04/30/2009

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Quoting Carolee:

Hello Amanda my name is Carolee . I don't drink . I don't like the way I feel or the stupid things Iv'e done when I have in the past . I think you should go with old " Better SAFE than SORRY on this one . Just in case it DOES harm your precious little cargo. Why not just WAIT :} It's only 9 months . Amanda When you get time Come over and check out my new Circle of Moms group SHINE .



I also think it is wrong to drink while pregnant. I agree why take the chance.



I just really wanted to know what other mothers thought of if anyone had heard that alcohol is safe

Amie - posted on 04/30/2009

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I never ever drank while I was pregnant.



It is recommended not to because there is no known safe amount. "They" do not know if it only takes a little or if it takes a lot. Further studies need yet to be done. But I don't see how those tests are going to get done since no mom that I know; having this information is going to sign up going .. Sure! Let's test this theory out and see exactly how much it takes to give my baby FAS.



Even at that though there will always be people who play russian roulette with their kids health and will drink during pregnancy.

Carolee - posted on 04/30/2009

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Hello Amanda my name is Carolee . I don't drink . I don't like the way I feel or the stupid things Iv'e done when I have in the past . I think you should go with old " Better SAFE than SORRY on this one . Just in case it DOES harm your precious little cargo. Why not just WAIT :} It's only 9 months . Amanda When you get time Come over and check out my new Circle of Moms group SHINE .

Carolee - posted on 04/30/2009

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Hello Amanda my name is Carolee . I don't drink . I don't like the way I feel or the stupid things Iv'e done when I have in the past . I think you should go with old " Better SAFE than SORRY on this one . Just in case it DOES harm your precious little cargo. Why not just WAIT :} It's only 9 months . Amanda When you get time Come over and check out my new Circle of Moms group SHINE .

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