Epidural vs. Natural?

Rickie - posted on 03/22/2010 ( 207 moms have responded )

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I am due in a week or so and am debating having an epidural or not. How bad is the pain and can you really feel everything including tearing without it?

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Jeanie - posted on 03/24/2010

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first of all, if you have any desire at all to have a natural birth, the key to accomplishing this is preparation, education, and more preparation. It may be a bit late in the game to be addressing this very important decision. Especially if you are having your baby in a hospital (rather than a birth center or at home), because of hospital norms and policies, you are likely to end up receiving one intervention after another, which interrupts the natural processes of normal labor and often leads to a c-section. Your decision is a bit more complicated than one of so I want to avoid pain or not, mostly because having an epidural often does not take away all the pain, and yet it greatly interferes with your ability to feel what you do need to feel, like when to push, etc., so then you end up having to have more drugs to help contractions, etc. It's a snowball effect.



Another BIG reason not to have an epidural (and subsequent meds, which are often imminent) is their effect on the baby.The baby will receive the drugs through the placenta as well and there are risks from these meds. You can do the research yourself regarding this.



Re: your question about the pain, yes, labor and childbirth can be painful. It can be one of the biggest challenges of your life. But it is do-able with some preparation, support, and education, as well as determination. Using an epidural is not a simple solution to this challenge. It brings a huge list of all it's own challenges, including a much higher chance of ending up with a c-section, which will keep you in pain for much longer than labor. Regarding tearing, with an epidural, you are more likely to tear, as you are less in touch with your body's own ability to know how hard to push during the pushing stage. Often with an epidural, you end up having to listen to the nurse to know when to push, when to stop pushing, and how hard. When you can feel your body, you know how hard to push (kind of like when you are going to the bathroom, so you don't strain too hard!)



I am a HUGE proponent of natural birth, obviously right?! LOL But I also support any mother's decision regarding any aspect of conceiving, birthing and rearing children. It's YOUR decision, but I reccommend educating yourself and then preparing yourself to accomplish whatever you decide. The caregivers you have are really important too-will they support (REALLY support) what you decide, not just say oh that's fine. It can get really tough during labor to get through the challenging times, if someone is constantly offering you pain meds. Your best bet is to have a birth plan, stating all your ntentions, and that you give a copy to your doctor, the hospital, support person (husband or friend or mother, whoever is going to help you in labor).



I wish you the best with your labor and birth! I hope this helped and that I didn't come off sounding like too much of an extremist. I had my 2 all natural and I am so happy I did. It was a challenge and I couldn't hav edone it without the support of my hubby and a friend who was there by my side through the whole labor and birth. (SEcond on was just my husband and the midwife--it was much easier so I didn't need more than my hubby for support) But I definitely recommend having a female (mom sis or friend), whoever you feel really comfortable with and who is supportive of you, in addition to your male partner. It can be tough for him to see you in pain, esp. if he is a worrier! Mine had to take a lot of breaks so it was great to have my friend there so I didn't feel I was on my own at any time during the labor. There was always someone there for me.



If you do decide to do all natural, with the short time you have left, I would make sure to read up and practice some breathing methods to help you relax during contractions. That is the only way to get through them. There are several methods, Lamaze and Bradley method, but what worked best for me was long, slow, deep breathing, and also some deep vocalizing (NOT screaming as they always show in the movies---totally Hollywood, btw).



Feel free to contact me if you need any direction re:resources, etc. I wish you the best! (I am a massage therapist but also training to become a licensed doula, or labor coach.)

Mary - posted on 03/23/2010

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To Sara Hoots: what a load of crap! Your insinuation that babies born to mothers who receive an epidural are "less lively" and require vigorous stimulation just to breathe is just flat-out untrue, and certainly not backed by any reliable, comprehensive, scientific studies. Perhaps those have been your BIASED observations...but, as an L&D nurse I can certainly state that I've seen more than my fair share of unmedicated births where a baby required stimulation and suctioning...particularly in the case of precipitous deliveries. However, I'm a little too intelligent to assume that ALL precipitous births result in that. AND...the epidural does NOT enter the mother's blood stream, so , no, the baby is not being "drugged". Nor is the babies state of arousal at birth indicative of long-term health. Any nursing student could tell you that the Apgars are merely reflective of the baby's status AT THAT TIME, and have no bearing on how "healthy" a child will be in the future, much less even an hour from birth. Boy, am I glad that you don't deliver babies at m hospital!! All of your misinformation, however well-intentioned, can be a dangerous thing.

Whether or not to have an unmedicated birth is a highly personal choice, and there is no right or wrong answer. It is something that requires preparation, as well as a strong support system. It can be an immensely rewarding and empowering experience for many women. However, it is not for everyone, and choosing an epidural does not make you any less of a mother, or woman.

Claudia - posted on 03/24/2010

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I had a natural childbirth and I won't lie, the pain was intense! But having an epidural often slows down labor and can lead to a c-section if you "stall". See the documentary The Business of Being Born for more info about this. There are health risks to you and the baby with an epidural. I was completely awake and aware and so was my daughter when she came out. It was a beautiful experience. The midwife handed her to me and she looked up at me with her eyes wide open, she wasn't even crying. The look on her face said "hello!" For the first several months of her life people always commented "she's so alert!" and I attribute that to her drug free birth. I did tear but I didn't feel it at the time, I didn't even know until the midwife told me afterwards I had torn. Then I got a local anesthetic for the stitches and that was mildly uncomfortable, but after labor it's nothing, lol! Women are amazingly strong, we have been delivering babies naturally for all of human history - you can do it!

Nawal - posted on 03/24/2010

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Ricki,



This is such a common debate many of us seem to encounter before labor. I was gung-ho about getting an epidural. In fact, during my pregnancy, I made certain my doctor and husband knew my mantra; “drugs are my friend”…lol. I have an extremely low pain threshold.



The anesthesiologist on call, however, botched the job. By the time I informed my doctor, I was ready to deliver. At that point the only form of pain medication I had was intravenous. I can tell you with all honesty that ‘pushing’ blocked the pain. I cannot explain it, but I felt no pain. I didn’t even know that I had a tear, until the doctor told me that the placenta had passed through and she was in the process of sewing up a small internal tear.



Months after my delivery, I was still thinking about the lack of pain during the delivery itself. The labor was unpleasant, while waiting for your body to make the adjustments necessary for the baby to pass. I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t, but that’s where the intravenous medication helped me.



I wish you the best of luck and a safe delivery.



~Nawal

Shannon - posted on 03/24/2010

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i didnt have a problem pushing at all...yeah we're women and strong but..theres no need to be in that much pain. i was very coherent after giving birth..and the baby is only in the room for an hour or so after being born..so you have no reason not to get one.

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Hilarie - posted on 03/24/2010

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I have done it both ways and hands down I would NEVER get another epidural! I could not feel anything w/ the epidural. I didn't even know if I was pushing and so I ended up pushing for over 2 hours! My recovery time without getting the epidural was so much easier. I only had to push for 5 min. and believe me, you will push with everything you have if you do not have an epidural:) All you want to do is make sure the baby is out a.s.a.p! With an epidural, the pain isn't there so you might not push as well. I must say, labor is very painful with out an epidural but, it was hands down the most empowering thing I have ever done. You can always opt to get a little something to take the edge off if it gets too intense. Whatever you decide go in with a plan because if you try to decide in the moment, you will choose an epidural!

Cory - posted on 03/24/2010

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Hi Rickie. It is a tough decision, but what ever you decide it should be what you feel is best for you AND the baby! And don't let anyone make you feel like you made the wrong decision! I can tell you I just had my first 3.5 weeks ago. I made the decision to go all natural before I even got pregnant! I very rarely take any type of medications! So for me it was a no brainer plus I wanted to make sure my baby experienced her birth without any drugs as well! I was in labor for 20 hours and my biggest advice if you decide to go all natural is to RELAX! If you are tense and uptight you will feel everything, if you let your body just relax and go with the flow it won't seem so bad! I know that advice is easier said than done, but I can tell you I was not relaxed for the first half of labor and once I was able to it was so much easier to deal with, I even fell asleep in between contractions, actually I think I slept through some of them! :) The other thing I loved about going all natural is after my baby was born I was able to get up and move around almost right away (after some bonding time with baby of course) I was given the option of the nurse cleaning me up or jumping in the shower, boy was that shower amazing! With the epidural you typically have to stay in bed for a certain amount of time. But everyone is different so again do what you feel is right and then stick to it and don't let anyone convice you otherwise! Congratualtions and good luck! It is simply amazing!

Kristy - posted on 03/24/2010

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well i have had 3 and the last was my worst!! I had one every time. But I also have a friend or 2 that has not. It all depends on the person :) good luck!!

Cheryl - posted on 03/24/2010

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I planned to have my first natural. Took classes & everything. At 8 cm I just couldn't take the pain anymore & had an epidural. So much better! Second, planned an epidural, inept anesthesiaoligest did wrong, pain was not blocked, and the contractions were very painful. Dr. had to use a local down there at the last moments for epeziotomy. You don't want to tear any way you decide to go believe me. Pain was great but eventually you forget, so the question is, do you want to go thru it. But whatever you decide it should be right for you!

Christee - posted on 03/24/2010

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You can't decide on this until you are in labor! I didnt want to use any drugs, told my doctor that, but after being in labor for the whole day, I was exhasted, crabby, in pain, and needed some rest. The epidural allowed me to forget the pain, relax, and sleep a few hours before i had to push.

Amanda - posted on 03/24/2010

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You can definitely feel everything, and I mean EVERYTHING! I feel its important for a mom to feel that as God intended, but that's just me. FYI, when the baby is delivered, the pain miraculously stops! Its amazing! The best pain control would be moving around, don't let yourself get strapped to a bed. The movement takes your mind off of things and lets you find a more comfortable position.

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For the record-I am not for or against either one. It is a personal choice! In my Lamaze classes, the instructor told us that if you go into labor thinking that you'll get an epidural if you need one, then you WILL end up getting an epidural! I went in thinking that exact thing (if I needed one, I would get one) I now believe that she was right! I was induced due to baby's heart rate dropping and he was 6 days late already, so the contractions could have very easily been harder and faster than a natural delivery? I made it to a 4 cm (which was very hard for me) and I finally said yes to the narcotics (they made me be able to relax between contractions), then I said yes to the epidural (I think the narcotics helped me not feel "getting" the epidural as well). I was able to sleep until time to push! I had 4th degree tears because they ended up using the vacuum on him because his heart rate kept dropping. I remember the entire thing and did not feel ANY pain. I enjoyed the delivery process SO MUCH that I would do the exact same thing for my next child. When my friends or family ask me what they should do- I always tell them- get the narcotics first, then the epidural, but remember-I was induced and EVERY delivery is different! Try not to stress about it and let us know how it goes!

Michelle - posted on 03/24/2010

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It's going to hurt, because it's supposed to. (unless you're numb down there) And it will be the worst pain you will ever go through. BUT it's worth it. I have 7 children with 1 set of twins. I didn't get the luxury of pain meds because I had "spontaneous births", where the first labor pain was hard because I was already at 7 cm when it started. Though I had to feel everything, I was blessed with only a 45 min or less of labor with only 3 to 4 pushes....except for the twins. The twins hurt worse because the second baby had to squeeze through and I was already torn and sore...but I made it through. Don't worry, you'll be fine. Us girls have a powerful pain tolerance!! Besides, I heard that it's hard to push with an epidural. :/

Renee - posted on 03/24/2010

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I went the whole natural thing 26+ years ago, and don't recomend it. I remember whining about the pain. Even though I was given a shot of a local aenesthetic, I still felt the tearing. Back in the 50's, women were knocked out during birth, and their babies were just fine. Technology has advanced so and has provided medication. IMHO, use it!

Shannon - posted on 03/24/2010

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i had an epidural with both of mine and they came out just fine!!no signs of being full of drugs or sleepiness.past all their tests with perfect scores!!!

Shannon - posted on 03/24/2010

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WELL i have to disagree 100%..childbirth was the worst pain i have EVER experienced in my life. i dont believe women exaggerate how much pain their in..to get to men. BECAUSE IT HURTS LIKE HELL!!!!

Claire - posted on 03/24/2010

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No epidural! Birth is natural and not somthing to be "cured" with anything! We are woman and we can do it!! I was 18 when I had my 1st, and she was a healthy size. In labor for two days, active labor for atelast 7 hours and I did it! They key is good support in the room there with you!

Jeannine - posted on 03/24/2010

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Labor is faster and so recovery without the epi. I went completly natural all three times. The pain can be intense but you live through it and as soon as it's over your fine. It takes a while for the drugs off so your kind of drowsy if you take them and that's not how I wanted to spend the first few hours of my childs life. It is true standing and walking helps. Good Luck!

Shannon - posted on 03/24/2010

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YES!!!!!!!!!!!!! you can feel every horrible pain. I had epidurals with both my children. Epidurals are soooooooooooooo WONDERFUL.Both of my babies came out just fine and did not act like they were drugged or sleepy(like some crazy people say), actually just the opposite. And dont ask your husband or whoever for advice, YOUR THE ONE WHOS GOING TO BE IN ALL THE PAIN!! You need to decide what you want as soon as you get there because there is a cutoff time.You cannot have an epidural until your 3 centimeters and I think after 7/8 they wont give it too you????...and by then your in so much pain.I promise you will be a much happier person and it will make the very long process so much better.

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I think everyone's labour is different. I have a high pain tolerance and I had planned to go all natural but by the 30th hour I was too tierd and just couldn't take the pain and got the epidural. I wish I got the epidural sooner! The only problem was I had a midwife and when I got the epidural there was a transfer of care to the OB who did not respect my birth plan. I think you should have a plan of what you want to do but be flexible...babies have a mind of their own from the start!

Alison - posted on 03/24/2010

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This is a very personal decision. I did not want an epidural, but after my water broke, I was begging for one, and I have a pretty high pain tolerance. The epidural was not bad at all. I hate needles which is why I dreaded having one. I had to have a C-section after 12 hours of labor, so I was going to end up getting one anyway. Just know that whatever decision you make will be the best one for you.

Becky - posted on 03/24/2010

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I went natural (not by choice) with my 1st delivery and remember that the pressure of the baby's head and ability to move around minimized pain. Breathing helped tremendously too! with my 2nd delivery I broke down and got an epidural only to discover it only worked on half of my body. I still felt intense pain on one side which then inhibited my ability to push. It was a horrible experience and the doctor needed to use a vaccum to assist with the delivery. With my 3rd delivery - there was no time to get an epidural but I really really wanted it b/c the pain was unbearable. But literally the moment the baby is out you FORGOT every ounce of pain you just went through. Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 03/24/2010

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I had a epidural and it was the worst thing i did even though in the end i would have needed one (had a emergency c section) i would never recommend it to anyone. You have to stay completly still and as the were giving it to me i had a contraction well can you imagine trying to sit still through that so it hit a nerve now i have to worst back pain still after 15mths. Im am now pregnat again and its like i can even walk for longer the 10mins without bein in tears. If i had to do it again the would have to knock me out before i let them, My advice is the pain of labour would be 10times better than havin to put up with what i am in unless u had to get it.

Katherine - posted on 03/24/2010

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Everyone feels the pain differently so don't exclude anything unless you feel very strongly about it. By the time you are actually giving birth the tearing will be the least of your concerns and won't be noticed with or without the epidural. Which ever decision you make the outcome is worth it.

Katherine - posted on 03/24/2010

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Everyone feels the pain differently so don't exclude anything unless you feel very strongly about it. By the time you are actually giving birth the tearing will be the least of your concerns and won't be noticed with or without the epidural. Which ever decision you make the outcome is worth it.

Michele - posted on 03/24/2010

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Honestly, it is hard to tell until you go into labor. I had my first child last year and I had back labor pains. Which I was told later, is the worst type of labor. I had an epidural because the pain was too much for me.

Dawn - posted on 03/24/2010

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Of all the options available, epidural would definitely be last on my list. I had a completely natural birth and never thought I was dying of pain or anything. I just remember feeling pressure and my uterus tightening. My worst pain was in my hips and back from the pressure, but it was bearable. Our bodies are built to do this, all we need to do is relax. If you can relax, the process will go that much more smoothly. It is different for everyone, but I can feel confident in telling you to aim for a natural birth and then go from there. Try for natural...you can do it!!!

Sara - posted on 03/24/2010

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They tried for an hour and a half to give me an epidural...that in the end didn't take. I didn't rip the doctor cut me. They froze me first so I didn't feel that but I could feel my daughter coming out. It was amazing! I felt very in control. And as soon as the shoulders come out all the pain is gone. They didn't have me froze to stich me up but it wasn't that bad....I would say labour pains were worse. My girlfriend had the epidural and she ripped...We both really enjoyed our experience. I think it comes down to what happens... be prepared that anything can and will happen and try to stay focused and calm. Good luck to you Rickie!!! It's the most beautful thing in the world to experience!!!!

Jill - posted on 03/24/2010

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I had an epidural, it was nice to concentrate on the birth, but I couldn't feel my legs for a long time, and several hours after. That's the drawback, once you have it in you can't get up and walk around.

Delilah - posted on 03/24/2010

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it depends on the person. I had natural with 2 kids and it was the most painful thing ever. if you have back labor, meaning your baby is backwards, face up instead of face down, then it will be extremely painful. don't limit yourself to no epi, if you go saying I want to do natural but find yourself in a lot of pain, ask for the epi its not the end of the world. why should you suffer when you can get some relief. I'm due for my 3rd in August and want my epi this time and I want it a week in advance. LOL good luck

Karen - posted on 03/24/2010

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went all natural with both children, in a birthing center, with midwives only. they taught us, gravity is your friend. i didn't want to be "tied down" to a hospital bed, not being able to be in charge of my own pain. It was difficult, but it is definitely possible. I would do it again if I had plans of having another child. Both were 8 lbs and I didn't tear with either, another midwife benefit, they do all necessary to keep you from tearing, ripping. i used the birthing tub, birthing ball, and delivered in "nontraditional positions." Midwives, and possibly some doctors, will allow you to move around, walk, do whatever necessary to work through the pain. Not sure I could've done it stuck on my back in a hospital bed. First baby came in 11 hrs, 2nd took 24 or so...

Nikita - posted on 03/24/2010

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I went totally natural i was 2 weeks over due when the day came i was so glad that i dint warry about the pain i made jokes and wised him on i was 13 hours in labor and i just couldn't wait to see him just think of your baby and tot the pain

Erin - posted on 03/24/2010

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Don't make a decision now. Just wait and see how it goes. If you want to try natural, that's fine, but don't rule out the epidural so that if you decide you can't do it anymore, your mind is open to it.

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Siobhan - posted on 03/24/2010

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hi i had an epidural and am due my 2nd baby in 4wks , would definitely recommend it its brilliant, i will be lookin for it again.

Mariam - posted on 03/24/2010

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I'd say that not taking an epidural is same as having as headache and not taking pain killers hoping it would subside on it own. I have one daughter whose now two, and took epidural on her turn. However i just got one shot, because i took it when my contractions became less than 3 minutes and after that it wasnt possible for the epidural to be injected because of body spasms and it hurt nd hurt alot so i took it. After that it was a rollar coaster ride. But according to everyone in my family, i was lucky to have my first baby within seven hours of my labour pains.

So good luck with yours and i would recommend epidural,

Tracey - posted on 03/24/2010

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decide as you go, i went through my first like that and ended up haveing tha gas and pethadine, doing it on my hands and knees helped, dont lie on your back! i dont think haveing an epi is worth the risk, its a needle in your spinal cord, unless yoou need a c section

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Definitely Epidural, although my girl was 10lbs 15oz and I was induced which apparently does increase the contraction pain. I couldn't have done it without one and was 5 minutes away from having to have a c-section. One thing I will mention is that I was cut to aid delivery and this was fine (they numb it and you don't feel a thing). BUT, and this might be a rare thing, after 4-5 days my stitches came undone and I had to heal naturally. This took no less than 2 months and I have to say it was the most painful thing that I've ever had to endure. I could hardly move anywhere and it really got me down. I've not met anyone else that this has happened to but will say that with my second child I am considering a c-section simply because there is no way I could go through that again, especially with a baby and a little girl needing attention.

This is not meant to scare you. I still intend to have another. Just make sure that they do a thorough job with the stitches (if you even need them). Safe to say, I'm all tickidy boo now and am loving being a mum :-)

Maria - posted on 03/24/2010

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I was in pain for 15h...it was the worst thing I have ever felt- than I finally got the epidural...from that minute on it was a walk in the park...

I would never go without it again....

than again, lots of women say it was not like that for them....and the pain wasn't too bad...wish I could say that...

Becky - posted on 03/23/2010

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I really think it's different for everyone. For me, honestly, labor was not that bad. It just felt like really bad menstrual cramps or bowel cramps. The pushing on the other hand, now that hurt! I have had 2 babies, and did the first one almost completely natural - had an epidural at the end because they pretty much made me, and did the second one 100% natural. With my second, I did the majority of my labor at home, and I just sat on the recliner and moved around when I needed to and it was okay. Mind you, it was only 3 1/2 hours. If I'd had 23 hour labors like my sister had with her first, I can tell you, I'd've been screaming for the epidural!

So, I have nothing against them and I think they're a great thing if you have a long or difficult labor. My preference is to go without, but if I needed it, I'd get it!

Kristi - posted on 03/23/2010

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The pain can get pretty bad. Imagine your worst menstrual cramps EVER and multiply that by 100. I swore I wasn't going to get an epi but once they put me on Pitocin & broke my water, I was begging for one. Didn't have time though. The maternity ward was very busy that day & the baby wanted to come out before the anesthesiologist could get to me so I delivered completely drug-free.



Pushing actually feels good. It's a huge relief. The contractions don't seem as bad once you have started to push. I did feel some burning as the baby's head was stretching the birth canal but I just wanted her to come out so I pushed through it. I had a small tear and didn't feel it happen. That whole region goes kind of numb as the pressure from the descending baby increases, or at least it did for me. I barely felt it when the doc poked me with a needle down there so he could stitch me up.



I had pre-eclampsia so I had to be on magnesium. It relaxes your muscles so I was not allowed to get up and walk around like I wanted to. I think I would have tolerated labor much better had I been allowed to get out of bed and move around.

Lady Heather - posted on 03/23/2010

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I went natural partly by choice (I was hoping to do so) but mostly because there wasn't any time anyways. Had I wanted an epidural I couldn't have had one. The pain is pretty crappy, but I really think we all experience it differently so it's hard to compare one situation to the next.



I think being in a situation where you aren't sure really isn't a bad thing. You'll be more inclined to go with the flow. You could just request that you only have an epidural if you ask for it rather than having it offered. That way you know the option is there should you find you need it. In any case, all women should be prepared to go without just in case they go quick like I did. You just don't know how everything is going to go down.

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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i had demerol with my first, and stadol with my second. i don't recommend demerol, it makes you feel very "out of it". the stadol wasn't so bad. i never had an epidural, so i can't compare the pain medication to an epidural, but i will say that i felt the contractions very strong, and yes it hurt. the pushing actually gave me some relief. i had an episiotomy with both and never felt that.

Jennifer - posted on 03/23/2010

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Natural with all three: the first two I had back labor-so have something to massage your back with just in case and the main thing is to take slow deep breathes and sit or stand let gravity open you up!!! It is such an amazing experience to know that God allows your body to carry and deliver a precious child, WOW!!!

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As a registered nurse I've done my OB rotation and I work in the ER......so I chose to deliver with midwives.....and I didn't think the pain was unbearable at all, I dilated to 10 cm and pushed for 2.5 hours without any sort of pain meds...but unfortunately my daughter was wrapped up in the cord and could not drop into the birth canal, and I ended up with a c-section. *sigh* I'm pretty sure recovering from natural labor would have been much easier!!!

in early labor I just bounced on my exercise ball and walked laps around my kitchen and living room, as I progressed I just breathed through the contractions and swayed my hips.

The pain was the worst when I was lying on the bed to get monitored..once I could get up and walk around and lean over and sway my hips back and forth it was bearable. The tub helped too later on when I was in transition.

I just went into this zone where I didn't want to be touched, talked to or anything during a contraction and I was tapping my toes like a thousand beats a minute!!! Crazy I know but it worked :) I thought I'd want music and backrubs but I just wanted to internalize everything! Once they told me I had to have a c-section then I lost all focus and it really hurt and it overwhelmed me, but I totally think that its do-able without an epidural. Just my opinion though!!!

I will definitely be trying for a natural delivery with the next one :)

Hope that helps!!

Rebecca - posted on 03/23/2010

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My first I didnt feel it but still got it cuz I was told about the tearing hurt...my 2nd with out it and yah it hurt but it wasnt to bad if you can walk it out.....My 3rd i was going to get it but I live in a small town and they dont give the epidural and the pain didnt start tell the last 30 min...they say the Labor is faster with out the epidural.

Edie - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have had 5 kids. i had an epidural with all but I tend to think I cant handle it and am kind of a wimp. But the way I see it is why go thru all that pain if u dont need to. I had no problems and neither did the babies. It was great I was well rested for when the baby was born and cherished every moment. One did wear off right at the end of it, that baby was 9 pounds at birth. I had 4 epesiodimy (sp??) with every baby!!. That being said I would not change my experiances with any of them. I was comfortable and well rested. I highly recommend it.

Edie - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have had 5 kids. i had an epidural with all but I tend to think I cant handle it and am kind of a wimp. But the way I see it is why go thru all that pain if u dont need to. I had no problems and neither did the babies. It was great I was well rested for when the baby was born and cherished every moment. One did wear off right at the end of it, that baby was 9 pounds at birth. I had 4 epesiodimy (sp??) with every baby!!. That being said I would not change my experiances with any of them. I was comfortable and well rested. I highly recommend it.

Alexandra - posted on 03/23/2010

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My labor was pretty easy, all things considered. It was my first child, the contractions started at 8pm, but I wasn't sure if it was really labor or Braxton Hicks. By the time I got to the hospital at 9 the next morning, I still wasn't sure if it was the real thing or not because the pain wasn't bad at all! When they examined me, I was already 6 cm dilated. The pain didn't get too bad until about 1pm, which was when I demanded nitrous. But it did nothing. I felt a little high for about 30 seconds, but was still in pain so I stopped taking it after just a few minutes. I stayed mostly on my hands and knees, that was really the only position that was even remotely comfortable. I tried showering, but it didn't help, I just got wet.

I ended up going natural, not as a conscious decision, but just by the time the pain got so bad I wanted drugs, it was too late for the epidural. And, honestly, it was no where near as bad as I was expecting. (And my tolerance for pain is almost non-existent. I'm a wuss.)

Lisa - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have done both...my first was with the epi...which eventally wore off towards the end and the second was all natural except for something the nurse called pain meds on steroids lol but was givin to me through my IV for pain and it worked just as well as the epi...Honestly If this is your first child I would get the epi and no you really dont feel the tearing until afterwards and I barely tore both times but if was because I had an amazing dr that stretched me out while I was pushing...I was up walking around just 2 hours after I had both babies...everyone is different but if you are worried about the pain and dont think you can handel it def get the epi!

Lida - posted on 03/23/2010

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I had my first child with a spinal block. Not the same as and epidural. It is just one shot and it deadens everything. I felt no pain, except the excruciating pain of the shot itself, it does go directly into the spinal area and i wont kid you it hurt. My second i thought i would try the epidural since the spinal block worked so well, just waited too long to decide to do it the spinal. So i thought i would be smart and get my epidural right away and not have to worry about it later. The initial shot in the back took 5 tries and they still missed the pocket and i still felt every darn thing. And it really wasnt that bad. Good luck! :-)

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with my first i went into the hospital at 6 cm, and i handled the pain fine up until about 7 or 8cm. i took nubane to try to help with the pain, but it was unbearable. finally after being at 8-9 cm for hours i gave in and got an epidural.( i was afraid of the needle, not the drug.). best thing i ever did!! i slept, i enjoyed the rest of the labor. with my other 2 i decided to get an epidural as soon as it started becoming too much-around 6 cm.

also i've heard that babies are all sluggish and slow with an epidural, but all 3 of my boys were wide awake, and very alert. with my first i wasn't able to move around after delivery for a while, but with my other 2 i was up after about 10 min. after them stitching me up. i tore with all 3, but i didn't feel it cause of the epidural, so i can't comment on that part.

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I started out not wanting any medicine at all. The contractions began getting worse and I was given medicine through my iv. Tht took the edge of it off but before too long I was ready to give in and get the epidural. I had all the contractions in my lower back and it was terrible. Once I got the epidural I felt nothing, including even having to be told when to push witht he contractions. At the very end I could feel some light pressure but nothing much. I would never have done it any other way! Good luck!

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I had 2 of my kids with an epidural and 1 without (not by choice) and I would definitely recommend having the epidural. Yes, you can feel everything and you are more likely to tear without an epidural because the urge to push is so strong that when the doctor says "don't push" you want to rip his head off!! You don't get a medal for not having an epidural and for me it made the whole process so much more enjoyable. There is no difference in the alertness of the baby either. Many people will tell you that the baby will act sluggish or "drugged" but this is simply not true. All 3 of my kids were very alert and wide awake when they were born.

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