epidural vs. naturally

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im about ready to have this lil tike and im almost full term...i have 5 weeks to go...my oldest daughter was 2 lbs 1 oz and i went completely naturally with her....i just want other peoples opinions on if i should get one or not....i dont know if delivery could hurt much worst than it did with her....any advice is appreciated

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Shameka - posted on 04/09/2009

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My first child was 8 lbs 7 oz. My second child was 8 lbs 5 oz. I had both of them naturally because there was not time for an eidural and I'm living to tell about it. It was painful, but in time you forget about how painful.

Heather - posted on 04/09/2009

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i have had one of each. I actually preferred the natural. It went faster and I had less complications. I think the biggest thing is preparation. My husband and I did the bradley method and a water birth(still in a hospital) and it was amazing.

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I have had two children and has both the epideral  and IV meds...the both had problems...with the epidural...I didn't feel the urge to push and still felt some of the pain...however I was numb from the waist down...which is a good thing...but if you do what that...then you need to get it ahead of time...after a certain point they cant give it to you.  As for the IV meds...I got that because I went very quickly into labor and there was no time for an epi.   However...I feel asleep...and woke up an hour later...feeling no pain at all...but felt the urge to push and was unfortunately not numb below the waist.  It really all depends on the situation.  Natural would be wisest if the baby is not that big...however if the give you medicine to speed up the contractions...take the epi...because the pain will definately intensify...I went through that in both deliveries.

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have had 4 children.  I had natural childbirth for all of them but one.  Each time the doctor has always encouraged me to have an epidural and the intense back labor of my almost 10 year old caused me to choose this method.  I do not know if it was the epidural or the backlabor, but the headache was so intense and the back ache so bad for 24 hours that I had to spend an extra day in the hospital and could not care for my child in my room for long periods of time.  With my last baby, I really paid attention and did not cave in my decision to have a natural child birth.  It was beautiful.  I had done birthing classes with my first 2 children, and with my husband's help it was no big deal and a bonding moment for everyone involved. 



 



Good luck and God Bless!

Michelle - posted on 04/09/2009

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I have had 4 children.  I had natural childbirth for all of them but one.  Each time the doctor has always encouraged me to have an epidural and the intense back labor of my almost 10 year old caused me to choose this method.  I do not know if it was the epidural or the backlabor, but the headache was so intense and the back ache so bad for 24 hours that I had to spend an extra day in the hospital and could not care for my child in my room for long periods of time.  With my last baby, I really paid attention and did not cave in my decision to have a natural child birth.  It was beautiful.  I had done birthing classes with my first 2 children, and with my husband's help it was no big deal and a bonding moment for everyone involved. 



 



Good luck and God Bless!

Kristi - posted on 04/09/2009

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I had my first son naturally.  When I went through labor it completely wiped me out, and the pain was excruciating.  The pushing phase lasted for an hour and I didn't even have the strength to confidently hold him in my arms afterward.  I had to get a few stitches, I was extremely sore, and all I wanted to do was sleep when it was over.



We just had our second baby on the 20th of March, and all I can say is....thank God for epidurals!  I hardly felt the contractions (at least until push time...and even then they weren't too bad), I was able to relax during the hard part of labor so I wasn't completely exhausted, and when it was time to push I only had to push 3 times before it was all over.  I didn't require any stitching, I was up and around within the same day ready to take a shower and have visitors, I wasn't very sore at all, and the recuperating process has seemed to go MUCH quicker this time around.



If you're open to the idea of an epidural, I say go for it!  There's a little discomfort while they get it all set up, but it's nothing when compared to the pain of those contractions.  Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2009

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by the way my first was 6, 13 and my second was 8, 3. im still glad i did it natural....i am very proud of myself!

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2009

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ya know i had both of my girls naturally and to be honest it hurt really bad. but the reason y i decided to go all natural with them is because sometimes the epidural wont work, or it can make pushing go faster cause you cant feel what your doing...and i have heard that it can also mess up your back. i mean if you want to be pain free thats fine, im not judging. I just kept making myself remember that it wasnt going to last forever and then i would have my beautiful baby in my arms. and everyone else did it way back when...so y couldnt i??? good luck with your delivery, and have fun with your baby!

Cheryl- Chris - posted on 04/09/2009

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Reading some of these posts.....a lot of you said you were able to have an epidural at 6 cm. I don't knof if this is doctor's choice, but I was told with my first that I was too far along at 5 cm!!!! (I ended up not needing it....but still) I am not trying to take away from the orginal question, but I thought I would ask.

User - posted on 04/09/2009

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Epidural, Epidural all the way. Why go through un-necassary pain??? Had it with my first boy and all was good, i thought with my second, i want to go natural, but oh my god, the pain was un bearable, so i decided to have it again at 6cm. And i know 100% i will have it on my third. A liitle tip though, if you decide to have it then inhale the gas and air while they are putting in the needle as u dont feel that either then. The slight downside is that u do have slight weakness in your back afterwards. Whoever in my opinion invented it was GOD. Hope this helps..

Shayna - posted on 04/09/2009

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i would definitely get an epidural. why do things with pain if you can do them without pain, and you will definitely be in control of your labor. my doctor told me that she hates when women do it without an epidural because the are not in control of their labor or enjoying the experience because of the great pain that they are in. i would definitely talk to your doctor and go from there. Even tho the guy that put my epidural in had to do it 5 times just to get it right i would definitely do it again because it will help with your labor.

Michaela - posted on 04/09/2009

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The thought of having an epidural made me sick & scared tbh hehe... My friend got paralised from that before , because they put it in the wrong place!



I didnt have any pain releif with my daughter , she was just short of 7 pounds so a normal sized baby at birth... tbh call me weird , but I think its more of a mental thing giving birth , I didnt find it very painful , just very uncomfotable & I was irritated by the contractions lol

Kelly - posted on 04/09/2009

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I ended up having my son naturally by mistake - I was 4 cm dilated and wouldn't budge. My delivery nurse was very much into everything 'natural' (I was not) and she refused to get my doctor when I asked for drugs. Finally when he came in to check I asked him for SOMETHING but not an epideral (I am almost phobic of needles) he came back with 2 needles for a paracervical block, and was immediately the love of my life (LOL). It was perfect, but it only lasts an hour. When I told my husband that I felt it wearing off, my doc came back with 2 more needles but when he looked I had dilated the final 6 cm in an hour and was crowning. So, I had no choice but to do it naturally and honestly speaking it hurt more than anything in my entire life. :( My doc told me to stop pushing when it stopped hurting - well, it never stopped so I delivered in 17 minutes... and had to have reconstructive surgery a year later for a perineal fistula, as well as huge amounts of scar tissue.



I think that natural is wonderful... but not for me. If you have a larger pain tolerance and can control when you push I think it would be fine. But each woman is different.



Good luck!!

Kristin - posted on 04/09/2009

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Natural all the way. I had all 3 of my children natural and would not change anything.

Whitney - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had a midwife with the births of both of my children, my daughter is 2/12 and my son is 1 year. I did not have an epidural with either of my children and am actually very happy that I didn't. I found having a midwife to be very helpful, she really helped me through my contractions and helped me to stay strong and relax. If you can get a doula or just have a really awesome support group to help you through your contraction I say do that! For me personally I found that massage on the back and not laying in a hospital bed but being able to stand and walk around and lean on others really helped. I definetely suggest finding natural ways to make you more comfortable during labor. I have a lot of friends who really enjoyed being in a warm bath or in the shower, not my thing but I hear it really helped several of them. My babies were 8 and half and nearly 10 pounds and I actually found my sons birth to be easier even though he was larger. I will admit child birth naturally was the hardest thing I think I have ever done in my life but I was happy to really get the experience of what birth really is, it was beautiful. I figured we were meant to have our children naturally and if our bodies couldn't do it that way then we wouldn't have them that way. I am also personally terified of needles and I have heard about horrible migraines that you can get for days after the babies are born if the epidural isn't done just right and I really didn't want that on top of having a newborn and the leftover pain from child birth while trying to breat feed. However, it is a personal decision for every mother and I feel that everyone should do what they feel is best for their baby and themselves. Good luck with your birth and I am sure you will have a beautiful baby!

Jackie - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had an epidural with my son nearly 7yrs ago. About 30min after the epidural was in place I was walking around, "sitting" on a birthing ball, and doing all the positions that facilitate descent, not confined to the bed as commonly percieved. With the epidural I still felt the contractions (a HUGE relief for me) however they were bearable. The down side, my sons heart rate dropped which is not all that uncommon. However the nurses and the anesthetist are monitoring for this reaction and are very prepared to correct it.Spinals on the other hand, numb you completely (very disturbing if you ask me) in fact it felt as though I was hoovering over the bed. Under this drug you can not move around- I had this experience with my daughter a few years later before the surprise c-section (breech). Talk to your obgyn about options there are tons. Cervical bocks can be used (drug admined to cervical tissue to lessen pain), demeral which was mentioned earlier, and a whole bunch more. Good luck!

Christine - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had an epidural with the birth of my first-born, nearly 15 years ago.

Placement of epidural was excellent, no hassles there ...... BUT

I have had problems with my neck ever since. Within several months of giving birth my hand was going numb and I was on anti-inflammatories for many years. Since that 1st year, I have had physio on my neck once per fortnight.

Apparently there is MUCH anecdotal evidence for this outcome



Bottom line - epidural vs natural - your choice ..... consider the LONG term consequences rather than the immediate consequences.

Tracy - posted on 04/08/2009

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i had my first naturally....and it was horrible. so my second i had an epidural and i wont do it any other way.

Tracy - posted on 04/08/2009

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i had my first naturally....and it was horrible. so my second i had an epidural and i wont do it any other way.

Kristin - posted on 04/08/2009

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Bring on the drugs.  Why go through that pain if you don't have to?  Everything turned out just perfect.  The poke in the back was nothing compared to what I would have felt.  Good luck.  You'll make the right decision...whatever that may be.

Amanda - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had an epidural for my son who was over 8 lbs. It was great. I would do it again if I had another child. I had no problems at all. I couldn't feel my legs and the pain was nothing more than a little pressure. I had no issues with knowing when to push. There was no denying that feeling! Unless you know this baby is very small, I would keep the option very much there! Good luck!

Amanda - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had an epidural for my son who was over 8 lbs. It was great. I would do it again if I had another child. I had no problems at all. I couldn't feel my legs and the pain was nothing more than a little pressure. I had no issues with knowing when to push. There was no denying that feeling! Unless you know this baby is very small, I would keep the option very much there! Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 04/08/2009

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I went natural with my first son, I didn't make it to the hospital in time, long story! But I wanted the epi. For my first son it felt like I was in a bad situation because my water broke from stress, I wasn't even dialted or ready to go into labor! But I was induced with my 3 son and had the epi right off the bat and it was wonderful, I was chatting with my mom the whole time and relaxing, watching tv. I enjoyed that more than anything, i actually told my doctor if I could have always done it that way I would have 5 kids by now!:) It is really to each its own, I think in some situations it can make your labor longer, so I would try to wait unless you have rapid labor!





Bariaa - posted on 04/08/2009

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Honestly, NATURAL !!! my first was natural , and with my 2nd I had to have an epi, cause Dr thought I might have problems(i didn't ) and if i have more kids natural is the way to goooo.. plus after u have this baby u forget alll the pain ( at least I did )

Maggie - posted on 04/08/2009

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i had the epidural. not only did i want it for my sake, but i also had no choice while giving birth with my daughter. i had high blood pressure and my protien was high, so it was given to me early into labour. i know that people are going to tell you that there are many bad things and risks that go with it, and it is most likely true, but you have to do what is right for you and hopefully from all of our advice you will come to find out what that is.

i am soooooooooo glad for the epidural because when it wore off i thought my pelvis was snapping in two.

Letitia - posted on 04/08/2009

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I have one daughter. She's eight years old. I wanted to do a natural childbirth. I was afraid of the epidural in the spinal column thing and I wanted to remember every detail and not have any unneccesary drugs in my new baby's system. But I found out, even with the best of intentions, you have to be a little bit flexible based on your situation. After 12 hours of pretty painful contractions, my water still hadn't broke and I wasn't dialating, so they gave me the petossin shot  to "hurry things along" and I went from pain that was manageable to pain that was off the charts. I gave it a few more hours in excrutiating pain and they checked me again and I still wasn't dialated enough. By now about 30 hours of labor had been going on, I hadn't eaten or slept. I was exhausted and starting to freak out because the pain had been going on so long I didn't think I could take anymore. I almost sent the epidural guy away and I'm so glad I didn't. They are experts and very careful and while I thought it would be hard to sit perfectly still while he did the shot, somehow it wasn't. I was able to take a short nap and when I woke up the baby was ready to come. There was pressure, but not pain and I had the energy to actually do the birth! My daughter was 8 lbs 6 ounces and perfectly healthy. Not being able to walk for a day without help was just fine. I had time to just lie there and hold my beautiful baby.



Do what you have to do to be safe and comfortable. Different people have different threshholds for pain and sometimes you just don't know until you're in the situation. Keep your options open.

Jessica - posted on 04/08/2009

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Are you fully aware of the risks and benefits of each method--- natural and medicated?  I think it depends on what you want out of your birth whether you should or should not have an epidural.  Do you want to have the freedom to move around and use different positions for coping with labor and pushing or are you comfortable being confined to the bed and pushing on your back?  Do you want to be able to use the bathroom on your own or have a nurse insert a catheter?  Are you willing to face the possiblity of using Pitocen in addition to your epidural to keep your labor going or do you wish for your labor to continue spontaneously?  What I recommend to any pregnant woman is to strongly consider hiring a doula, even if you're suspecting you'll be using pain meds.  A doula can give you information and assist you in choosing the options that are best for you and your birth.  They will let you know what risks and benefits are included with your options and help you bridge the gap between the nursing staff and your OB when it comes to your wishes and what's best for you and your baby.  You can find a doula by typing your city and the word "doula" into Google, or try a site for certified doulas like dona.org or alace.org.  Good luck! 

Audrey - posted on 04/08/2009

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I have done both. My first child was with an epidural. Although it helped ease the "pains" during a contraction, what I did not like was I could not get up and walk for several hours after I gave birth. You can not feel your legs. My second child was all natural and you can feel more, but you can get up and help bath your child after it is born. And I felt like my recovery was faster with natural.

Torrey - posted on 04/08/2009

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In the end you can have a game plan but it may not go the way you want it. I was going to be an epidural mommy all the way however my son wanted to come a lot quicker than I had expected. It really was not all that bad. He was 7.1 lbs.

Ashley - posted on 04/08/2009

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I did not have an epiderual when I gave birth to my son. I knew that I was going to need some kind of pain killer, even knowing I have a pretty high tolerance for pain. My friend who delivered only 2 mos before me had a pain medicine called Nubain. She said it alters your thinking so you don't think about the pain. I opted for that medicine instead of an epidural because I wanted to be able to walk around and use the bathroom if I wanted and I didn't want that feeling of not having my legs. The nubain really helped me, I only had one small dose and I slept through most of my hard labor with my son. I slept from 6 cenitmeters to 9 cenitmeters and his was my first child. So the option is obviously yours. If you want something to just make you feel comfortable and not be able to feel the whole thing Nubain was a great drug and not as scary as an epidural.

Ashley - posted on 04/08/2009

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I did not have an epiderual when I gave birth to my son. I knew that I was going to need some kind of pain killer, even knowing I have a pretty high tolerance for pain. My friend who delivered only 2 mos before me had a pain medicine called Nubain. She said it alters your thinking so you don't think about the pain. I opted for that medicine instead of an epidural because I wanted to be able to walk around and use the bathroom if I wanted and I didn't want that feeling of not having my legs. The nubain really helped me, I only had one small dose and I slept through most of my hard labor with my son. I slept from 6 cenitmeters to 9 cenitmeters and his was my first child. So the option is obviously yours. If you want something to just make you feel comfortable and not be able to feel the whole thing Nubain was a great drug and not as scary as an epidural.

Terri - posted on 04/08/2009

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Hi! I went completely natural with my daughter the first time and had an epidural with my son after and the comparison is crazy. Even though the natural I had pain but I was not groggy and I was able to attempt breastfeeding immediately. I was in equal amount of pain but it's far less controllable on the epidural and if you ever get a glimpse of the biggest needle ever as they are telling you not to move or you can be paralyzed as it's going into your spine and it doesn't even kick in that fast... go natural. trust me

Amanda - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had an epidural with my daughter who weighed 9lbs 3 oz...didnt feel a thing....I DIDNT have one with my second daughter and she weighted 7 lbs (OMG it hurt so bad) I wish I had one.....I was in a lot of pain and would deff. get one if I were you

Toni - posted on 04/08/2009

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I'm a huge Natural fan! I have three children all girls, they range in Birth weight from 6 lbs. 8 oz to 6 lbs 13 oz. I prefer natural because i've seen my friends who have had epidurals and it seemed like it took them a couple hours or even a day after delivery to be able to get up and walk around, or they complained that thier legs were numb for quite some time. With natural child birth, you pretty much feel fine after delivery. I can also tell you that each individual labor was totally different. My second daughter was actually the most painful delivery and she was my smallest baby. I wish you the best of luck in any decision you make.

JIll - posted on 04/08/2009

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I NO ALOT OF PEOPLE R SCARED OF THE EFFECTS THAT THEY HEAR ABOUT FROM THE EPIDERAL,BUT I HAD IT WITH MY SON AND GOD IT WAS HEAVEN....IF U ENJOY THE PAIN GO NATURAL...IF NOT THE EPIDERAL IS SUCH A RELIEF TRUST ME...

Stephanie - posted on 04/08/2009

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I have had two kids and had them both ways.   My second one was natural and he was bigger than my daughter and I had the epidural with her.  I thought that it was going to be terrible to have one natural, but with my son, i really didn't have a choice, he came extremely fast.  I would probably do it again. 

Marie - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had my 10 month old naturally at my own house at the end of my own bed. We went to the hospital for their tour and info session and was NOT impressed with the process - I was a bit freaked out. I had a midwife from the 4th month of pregnancy. She brought me all the gasses and meds that I would need if I chose to use them. I laboured on the toilet, I walked for the first 7 hours of labour. When I transitioned I knew it was time and walked (with some assistance) to the end of the bed where I squatted until baby crowned. I did the last 3 or 4 pushes on the bed and whoop! Out came baby. Daddy was there with the camera and I had 3 midwives cleaning up the baby and me. It was a great experience!!

Thomi - posted on 04/08/2009

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With my first, which went quickly I had only a demerol drip to take the edge off, it was fine, he was 7lbs 8 oz with my second the dumb-ass nurse convinced me that would be labor for HOURS and should have the epidural. Biggest mistake of my life, I delivered within an 1 hour of having it and the after effect were awful. My son was 5lb 11oz. If I could go back I would forgo the epidual and just have a little demerol again. Good luck!

Thomi - posted on 04/08/2009

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With my first, which went quickly I had only a demerol drip to take the edge off, it was fine, he was 7lbs 8 oz with my second the dumb-ass nurse convinced me that would be labor for HOURS and should have the epidural. Biggest mistake of my life, I delivered within an 1 hour of having it and the after effect were awful. My son was 5lb 11oz. If I could go back I would forgo the epidual and just have a little demerol again. Good luck!

Thomi - posted on 04/08/2009

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With my first, which went quickly I had only a demerol drip to take the edge off, it was fine, he was 7lbs 8 oz with my second the dumb-ass nurse convinced me that would be labor for HOURS and should have the epidural. Biggest mistake of my life, I delivered within an 1 hour of having it and the after effect were awful. My son was 5lb 11oz. If I could go back I would forgo the epidual and just have a little demerol again. Good luck!

Beth - posted on 04/08/2009

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I think that it is great that you went the natural way the first time!!  You are a better woman than I.  :)  I had an epidural when I had my daughter.  It was the best decesion for me.  I had no problems, the guy got it in on the 1st try & it was smooth sailing after that.  It was wonderful.  I was still able to push when I needed to (they reduced the amount of meds) and was able to move my legs.  There just was no real pain, a little pressure but not pain.  I would make the same choice again!!  People will tell you about all the risks & it's true.  There are, however, risks with natural childbirth too.  There are risks with everything.  I wish you the best of luck w/your delivery....what ever decesion that you make!!!

Gail - posted on 04/08/2009

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I had a Vbac just over a year ago and had told my doctor I wanted to try go naturally, but it ended up being a back labor and a 9 lb 9 oz baby, so I soon changed my mind and took the epidural - and I"m so glad I did.  I could feel all the contractions (they felt uncomfortable, not painful) but in between the contractions we were chatting and wondering what the baby would be (we kept it a surprise).  Up until I had the epidural, it was very bad, and I think my pain thresh-hold is very high.  I don't know if I would have been able to hold out if it hadn't been back labor and such a big baby, but I"ll never really know.  Now when I look back on the labor and delivery, I remember it as a pleasant and exciting time.  If I were you, I'd keep the option of an epidural there for "just in case".

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