Ever wake up mad?

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/15/2011 ( 123 moms have responded )

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Somehow... today I woke up angry. Like how shitty is that? How do you not even know how your day is going to be but just wake up mad anyway? I don't understand it and have done it a few times this week. Where on earth is this stemming from? Should I do some 'forgiveness' before I fall asleep, as something is carrying over to my next morning? What what what?
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Elizabeth - posted on 06/15/2011

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Emma, sometimes my husband will fall asleep when I'm trying to talk to him about something serious. I think with him, he doesn't know how to handle it and his brain shuts down because it happens when he actually is listening to my concern. Recently I've begun the conversations with, "this is a problem in our relationship and I need us to work together as partners to figure out a way to solve it." He stays awake a little longer. What if you went out for a cup of coffee and picked a secluded table to have the talk?

Nichole, I totally get what you are going through. My hubby feels like he is being attacked and all of his defenses go up. To give an example, "I'll say hon, if you spill coffee when you're pouring it could you clean it up right away so it doesn't stain the counter." He will hear. "You've stained the counter. You are to d*** lazy to clean it up. You shouldn't drink coffee. You can't do anything right." I suspect that your boyfriend has the same type of problem.

Jodi - posted on 06/15/2011

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I think the strength of character is in how you DEAL with it. It's perfectly normal to feel this way sometimes. We all have bad days. But it is how you cope with it that counts. Some people wake up mad and beat the shit out of their kids. Which obviously isn't ok. But most people manage to deal with it in a MUCH more constructive way, even if a little snarky.

I think you will be surprised how forgiving our children can be if we apologise to them when we have a bad moment. If I have been snappy at my kids, I am not beyond telling them I am sorry, I am just having a bad day and feel a bit overwhelmed, and I give them a hug and tell them I love them. And at the same time, I accept that sometimes they have bad days too, and forgive them for that.

Stacey - posted on 06/18/2011

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try rescue remedy... fantastic nature remedy that eases that prickly feeling that makes you want to bite someones head off and helps you keep clear calm thoughts.. I swear by it for me and my pre teen daughter

Amy - posted on 06/15/2011

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I sometimes wake up mad but for me it's usually because I don't feel like I have gotten enough sleep. I also think it has a lot to do with the sleep cycles at night, for examle if ny daughter wakes up in the middle of the night and I've gotten a 4 hour block of sleep I feel energized and ready to go, if I go back to sleep and only get 3 additional hours I feel completely drained and out of it. Also there are just some days I lay in bed hoping hubby will be my hero and deal with the kids and if he doesn't it makes for an angry mommy in the am, lol. I don't know if that really helps you since I just told you what I go through, but know you aren't alone!

Gail - posted on 06/18/2011

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according to dream therapy, it is usually something your subconcious mind wants you to remember and deal with. Ask for a dream about it and keep paper and pencil by your bed. Also low on vitamins, and as the others said, sleep.. also watch the moon cycles and your period.

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Moms - posted on 07/23/2011

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Sometimes I get like that myself. I do not know what causes it, maybe it's normal being a woman! LOL who knows, and good luck!! Hope your day gets better :)

Moms - posted on 07/23/2011

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Sometimes I get like that myself. I do not know what causes it, maybe it's normal being a woman! LOL who knows, and good luck!! Hope your day gets better :)

Delilah - posted on 07/14/2011

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Delilah - posted on 07/14/2011

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Amanda - posted on 07/13/2011

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sometimes it seems a little of both... I'm mad because i'm always doing it and because i'm not so much of a morning person. I want to make things better but don't know how.... any ideas??

Natalee - posted on 07/13/2011

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I feel that way sometimes too. I notice it more when I go to be upset or anxious. I can't stand the feeling of having a bad day before it even starts. Some days we have to fight for happiness and laugh,smile and love on purpose. I found that when I do that and not focus so much on feelings...my day gets better:-) I hope yours gets better too!

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√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 07/12/2011

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Hmmm... well if you always wake up mad I'd think it was more of the 'need caffiene', not a morning person issue. My mom has always been that way. Wake up, don't talk to her. Let her veg with coffee for an hour then everything is fine.

But if it's just more recent, or you feel that's not it, maybe you are mad at your husband, at always having to be the only one getting up in the mornings with the kids?

Amanda - posted on 07/12/2011

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Something I've noticed is I wake up mad everyday. Why??? I don't know. My husband and I argue because every morning until I get my coffee and woke up completely I am grumpy. I can't figure it out yet but its to the point my kids wake me up and leave me alone for a while before they ask for breakfast because they know how I am when i wake up.. I want to change that because I don't want them to feel that they have to stay away from me so they don't have to deal with me being grumpy. I know how you feel. I just wish I could find some help for it. I don't have too much help from my husband and he never gets up with our kids so I don't know...any ideas??

Shannintipton - posted on 07/12/2011

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I just keep posting to myself to bring back to the front. LMFAO. We should do that with this post. I add a disclaimer to mine. LOL

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 07/12/2011

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Thanks :) it got shuffled into the 'no one cares' file from all the postings on the Welcome page haha
Gotta keep it going somehow.. :)

Shannintipton - posted on 07/12/2011

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Thanks Nichole. I was wondering where that post went. Where do you stash it. Because I am always looking for members. I will throw yours with mine. Sorry I didn't think of that before. So stupid sometimes. sheesh.

Kelcy - posted on 07/12/2011

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lol. my hubby loves me and put up with my crap. haha but i do understand what you mean.

Shannintipton - posted on 07/12/2011

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Maybe because it is fun. I do it sometimes and I dont know why. What a bitch I am . . . sometimes. LOL

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/24/2011

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Probably, being pregnant 2 years in a row can do that to a woman :) lol

I just was surprised when this happened to me because I've dealt with all levels of stress before but never woke up mad.. so it was new for me!

Thanks everyone who has been replying :)

Carla - posted on 06/24/2011

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Is it possible you may have a hormonal imbalance? I feel like I'm like that a lot, especially according to my cycle...

Shannintipton - posted on 06/22/2011

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I wouldn't say mad but getting annoyed. Its hot so my window is open. I forgot that it is trash days so the trash trucks are so loud. So that was annoying.



And then a crow was right outside my window carrying on. What about I have no idea. It was almost as loud as the trash trucks. J/K.



Thennnnnn they are doing some construction work down the street and all the big trucks come by my house to turn around. That is really annoying. So I am getting there.



** add to edit. Are you freaking kidding me. Now someone is jack-hammering in the condos down the street. That's it. Where are my ear plugs.

Laura - posted on 06/22/2011

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I have done the same thing & here this last week it's been about every morning!

Brandaseanna - posted on 06/20/2011

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as a matter of fact i woke up like that this morning. and i agree it makes for a real crappy day, and watch out 4 the person that gets in the way. i believe its from stuff we dont know bothering us coming out in our sub consious. so every once in awhile i will sit in bed listening to calming music and rethink my day and make sure anything that happened is over.

Rendie - posted on 06/20/2011

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I do this too!!! sometimes its so random I have NO idea why... Others I know what prompted it. I am a very vivid dreamer, so when I get really mad in my dreams, often times I wake up totally peeved!!!
I have a 4yr old and a 20mth old....
When that happens I try to give myself 5 minutes before I start dealing with the kids....then I tell them "Mommy woke up on the wrong side of the bed...come snuggle and help me feel better" They usually get in bed with me and I turn on the cartoons and they end up being silly, but not before they have both given me hugs and kisses.!!! This reminds me what I am MOST thankful for, and while I know I am still testy off and on, I can usually talk myself out of my "mad" cuz they are what I live for!!!
The days that I can't shake the angry... well I will admit it... I use any means necessary to keep them happy to inculde using Thomas, Dora, Diego, Lightning McQueen, and 'Repunzel' (Tangled) oh and Dispicable Me, to help me with the day!!! LOL

We all do the best we can with what we have at any given moment, and there are just those days, that it doesn't matter if your kid(s) are being angels we all know SOMETHING is bound to set us off.... just roll with it.
Besides, we all have seen those days where our kids have gotten up grumpy, so they know everyone has a bad day!! :o)

Tara - posted on 06/20/2011

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I've waken up mad plenty of times but it's usually because the night before i went to bed really stressed out. if you don't take a little time to yourself to think before you go to bed and clear your head, maybe you should try doing that.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/20/2011

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My husband is going to start waking up mad. He has to be at work by 6:00 a.m. and the kids will be going to bed at God know when just so they will sleep in. I don't know how he is going to do it. He is sooooo lucky to have me.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/20/2011

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I like to wake up an hour before my kids so I have time to myself. Like I don't have all day for that. lol But that is coming to an end. SUMMER NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Lisa - posted on 06/20/2011

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I find if I have a moment (on a rare day) I lay in bed for just5 to 10 minutes after I have first woken up. And it makes a diference to me, I am not divinghead firstinto my day. I have had time to process a little and it quiet.

Katurah - posted on 06/20/2011

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That happened to me. After I thought about it, I realized it was left over feelings from dreams I was having (or nightmares depending on your view point). It might be dreams you can not remember.

Janet - posted on 06/20/2011

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Waking up angry at the world is just making your life more difficult. Think of all the nice things you have going for you,
and try and resolve the difficult stuff, or learn to live with it.

Felicha - posted on 06/20/2011

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i often wake up andgry at the fact that i have to deal with a houseful of children over the summer!! it angers me so much that at times when i get off some morning after working a 12 hour shift, i just want to go get a room and let their dad deal with the noise!

Alyssa - posted on 06/20/2011

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I am also the one in my relationship who never wants sex. My husband begs for it all the time. Sometimes I do it just to get it over with. Then he asks me if I had a good time. I and I say honey that was all for you. Then he's like what? Like that just brused his ego. I did not even want it in the first place , I had to push my self just to do it.
But any way the angry thing I am the same way but I am an angry person always irritable. I don't tolerate bull crap well. I could wake up angry and go to bed angry 7 nights a week. Although that does not mean I was angry all day long.

Keri - posted on 06/19/2011

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Sometime I will wake up irritated because I didn't get that "one last thing" done the night before. I try to pick up that project where I left off, but if that's not possible I try to get over it and move on. There's not much else to do.

Ann - posted on 06/19/2011

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Remember - if you're too perfect (always smiley and happy and nice!!), you're not preparing your children for the real world. In the real world people aren't perfect ALL the time. So....don't stress! You're just preparing your kids for the real world.

Michelle - posted on 06/19/2011

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I have woke angry. I tell on myself. I explain to my daughter's that mommy is frustrated and together we will try to make it through this. My oldest daughter had a way with making faces at me so I would smile. I can remember doing the same to my mother. She can make some really goofy faces with her big eyeballs and chunky cheeks.
You have to take a moment and breath and tell yourself you know how you feel but the children are just baby's. and breathe through it. There is nothing wrong with taking that little second to try to talk yourself out of it or just to understand that you are not in the mood, but if we get through this nicely everything will be just fine.

Kasie - posted on 06/19/2011

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That happens to me sometimes, I just get so frustrated right away in the morning and it doesn't help when my son cries all day sometimes. I just set him in an area where he can play and not get into anything (crib if I have to) for like 5 minutes or something and go sit by myself and take deep breaths, cry if I need to, talk myself through it and go back and try to not be so frustrated. Sometimes if it's a really rough day, my dad or someone will watch him for an hour so I can have some time. I don't know where it stems from but I think just giving your self time here and there and not letting yourself get too crazy is a good idea.

Emma - posted on 06/19/2011

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The expression 'got up on the wrong side of the bed' comes to mind! If I wake up cranky it's usually because I'm still tired, although it can also be from dreaming crappy stuff all night too! Rather than trying to 'cleanse' before you go to bed, focus on calming yourself when you wake up that way. Recognising that it's from waking and not because of anything circumstantial is a great start, as you can rationalize your mad feelings and take a few deep breaths. Say sorry to your kids if you snap at them and let them know that you just woke up grumpy so they can try to ease you into the day.

Julie-Anne - posted on 06/19/2011

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I think there are a few reason why people wake up angry and grumpy. Both lack of sleep and hormones play a part, but I have also read that we process a lot of information and emotions when we sleep so unresolved issues become dreams where we play out different scenarios until we resolve that conflict within ourselves. I find this to be very true for me and I still have dreams where I wake up stressed out and angry about a highly pressured and incredibly stressful job I gladly left a few years ago.

I hadn't realised just how badly it was effecting me at the time although I knew I wasn't happy.

I think the fact that you can recognise where the anger is coming from makes it easier to deal with it and then you can avoid spreading it around. Try shaking it off in the morning by focusing on thoughts of good things, friends, family and upcoming events that are happening to you at the moment.

Angela - posted on 06/19/2011

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i do exactly the same thing. the worst is when i've been arguing with someone in my dreams and i'm mad at them even after i wake up.

Julia - posted on 06/19/2011

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I have found there is usually some underlining resentment of something that is going on within me that I have just not yet become intouch with. Sometimes I know what it is and sometimes I don't but if I can't deal with the issue at that time I put happy music on light a good smelling candle and maybe call a person in my life who loves me unconditionally. Thing is you have to make a consious effort in that moment of feeling crummy to lighten up. Even if it feels somewhat insincere and forced. A walk in fresh air helps too. Soon you will find you have lifted your own spirits and then it amkes everything else you have to deal with a bit easier.

Lisa - posted on 06/19/2011

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Holding a grudge is one of the most self-damaging things you can do. Forgive daily and pray daily. Remember God's blessings and remember He is bigger than any crisis you face.

Dezzy - posted on 06/19/2011

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I wake up mad often! Honestly, I think for me its a comibination of things, but as I've gotten older, I've noticed how certain foods actually piss me off. For example, I can pretty much count on the fact if I eat pizza, I'm gonna be a bitch! But also, I think lack of sleep and hormones have much to do with it! We have to deal with sooo much as women and mom's, who the hell knows where the anger stems from because its all justified!!!! Damn IT! Haha!

Stacey - posted on 06/19/2011

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Rescue Remedy is by Bach... Ask at your chemist.. they will help you find it..

Amber - posted on 06/18/2011

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I know what you mean, but I have bipolar disorder. Sometimes it is just a matter of making peace with life before bed, sometimes it's hormones, sometimes life just sucks. Everyone has those kinds of days. You are not alone!

Gail - posted on 06/18/2011

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REscue remedy is just that! I don't think I could have raised my raging teenager without it ! For BOTH of us ! Star of Bethlehem is invaluable also.

Melissa - posted on 06/18/2011

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I woke up angry this morning too! I remember being mad at my husband in a dream, and was still mad at him when i woke up. I had to give myself a talk about how whatever happen in my dream was not HIS fault! Hahah

Emiluz - posted on 06/18/2011

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i agree, i feel the same way i have 4 daughters ages 17 to 5 yrs old and i wish they got along better they fight with each other and waking up to them treating each other like that makes me sick plus i work night shifts and with not enough rest oh boy! when they hear me get up they scattered.

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I have only woke up mad a few times only because my hubby and I couldn't resolve our arguements the night before and I will still be pissed at him.

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