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I have a 12 year old son from my first marrage. His father has not been in his life and is an alcholic, druggie and dead beat. My husband that I have now has been the dad for the last 8 years and treats him like his own. Last Easter in 09 my ex calls from the hospital and asks for help. I went and saw him since he hasnt talked to his family for over 10 years and is in the hospital because he drank himself almost to death. He wants to see his mom so I reunite them. This is when things go downhill. The mom(grandma) wants my son to be in his dads life thinking its going to make him wakeup and stop taking drugs and drinking. I let them meet once (after asking my son) and then see if anything changes. Nothing does, the dad actually goes back into a facility for drinking again. The grandma(mom-n-law) conitues to try to get me to let my son be at her house knowing that he could be around his druggie dad (whom she is protecting, houseing, hiding..cause he hasnt paid C.S. in 2 years). I tell her that My husband and I think its a bad idea and that sh can visit my son here at our house. We have an argument... I don't trusst her, My husband isn't blood and has no say in the matter ectera. Well, she doesn't call, write,e-mail for a whole year. Shows up a couple weeks ago, interupts our birthday dinner for my 7 yr old. Tells my son she misses him and wants him to vist... really pressures him. Tells, him they will come by the next day and pick him up for dinner. Long story short. My son doesnt want to go. I take him out hen they are supposed to pick him up. My husband tells them that our son is uncomfortable and doesnt want to go. They threaten to sue. Never heard from any lawyers... They sent him a card yesterday, saying... we love you and miss you so much, please come and see us. Any advice from other moms is appreciated. I told my son that he is old enough to make up his mind if he wants to see them. He seems unsure but the card really made him want to see them. Sorry I know the post is long.