Exhusband on the sexual abuse registry

Gina - posted on 12/15/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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How is it that the law sucks. my exhusband is on the Sexual abuse registry and is allowed to have our children stay at his house overnite. How is this possible and what can we do to help prevent this

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Blackwood - posted on 12/15/2009

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Are you kidding me? If the charges have anything to do with a child (yes, if he was "with" a girl who said she was older is one thing), but if has to do with a child. I would fight it, there is no way that a sexual abuse offender should be alone with any child, no matter if that child is his own. Fight, fight, fight.

Linda - posted on 12/15/2009

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Quoting Gina:

The charges on him with the kids say they could have healed without scaring and the other charges were sexual exploitation of a minor child... I just dont think that it is right at all



Sexual exploitation of a minor — Elements of crime:
(1) A person is guilty of sexual exploitation of a minor if the person:
     (a) Compels a minor by threat or force to engage in sexually explicit conduct, knowing that such conduct will be photographed or part of a live performance;
     (b) Aids, invites, employs, authorizes, or causes a minor to engage in sexually explicit conduct, knowing that such conduct will be photographed or part of a live performance; or
     (c) Being a parent, legal guardian, or person having custody or control of a minor, permits the minor to engage in sexually explicit conduct, knowing that the conduct will be photographed or part of a live performance.



I would seek legal advice on this matter, via an attorney and or a health proffesional. Mabey try to get a social worker involved. Make yourself heard. Hope this helps and wish the best for you & your family. ~LMOwens



 

Dawn - posted on 12/15/2009

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documentation is your best friend...In case the law or the courts don't want to take visitation, then prove that he is unfit as a parent...there are alternate routes to achieve the same result. You don't want your kids there, then start documenting everything, if he doesn't do something that is basic care of a child, write date and what. Document everything!!!

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Jan - posted on 05/20/2013

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I suspect my child was abused in the past but she denies it. I have her in therapy for behavioral problems. how do I get her to talk

Susan - posted on 03/17/2013

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It depends on why he's on there. He may have just gotten drunk and relieved himself in public. That's all it takes to get on that list these days.

If he's a pedophile, you need a better lawyer, or the kids need a guardian ad litem.

Gina - posted on 12/16/2009

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Hey Jenn... Thanks just want to let you know that the children were under the age of 14 and part of it was for child exploitation of a minor

Paula - posted on 12/15/2009

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Have you checked the laws in your state? I certainly would. It may take going to a lawyer-but make sure it's a good one. Or if you can't afford-try Legal Aid. (I think that may be based on income, but if you're only asking questions, not for legal representation, they may help you for free-if at all possible-GO IN PERSON. It is much harder to turn down a person than it is a voice on the phone) And you have to be persistant. Don't let this go! It may take YOU starting a campaign in your state to get the law changed. DO you, or ANYONE you know, know a state senator or representative? Talk to them. They can help! Your should be listed in your area-wide phone book or you can look online. Once again-be persistent. If the first one you get to talk to is an older, good ol' boy type, keep looking til you find one that will help you. It doen't even have to be one from your particular area-this is a state problem-not a local problem!

How do I know? My ex-husband went to prison for sexually abusing his son from his first marriage (not my son). He is now out of prison and has NO visitation, even though the child is now in his teens.

Good luck-I hope this helps. I will be thinking of you.

Stay away from good ol' boys. They may be against sexual abuse, but they are weak when it comes to doing anything about it. (just from my experience)

Vixi - posted on 12/15/2009

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I think you should see your health visitor/solicitor or someone who has authority and can help you with this. If that was my daughters dad I'd stop contact. Surely if he was convicted then he is a threat to the child, his or not!!! Do what you think is right by ur child/ren hun!! x

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Honestly, as a sexual assault victim myself, I can tell you that law is truly on the side of those registered. I also know that there is a lady three houses down from me that was arrested and charged with molestation of a juvenile and she still has full custody of her two children. Apparently, according to my uncle, the family court sees no reason to take children away from those that are registered on the registries unless they were charged with crimes against their own children. So, unless your ex-husband sexually assaulted his own children, chances of them being taken away from him are very slim to almost none...and it sucks!

Maggie - posted on 12/15/2009

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If he has a prior issue with children then you need to take it back to court. Make sure the judge knows about the previous problems. At the very least the visits should be supervised and I don't think overnight!!!

Sarah - posted on 12/15/2009

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Fight, Fight, Fight. Be a broken record (only way to get things done), get a great layar and Good Luck. I hope they relize that your childrens' saftey is top!

Tamera Marie - posted on 12/15/2009

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I was not only molested as a child, but it was someone that was very close to the family and there were no signs that any adult knew about, him being on this registry list may be a sign that you need to save your children from this happening to them...its a very horrible thing.

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i wouldnt leave my daughter wiv someone like that for 5 seconds!! let alone overnite!!

if u dont want ur kids thier then i would look into the situation more!
good luck x

~Jennifer - posted on 12/15/2009

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ok, for example - I have a friend who has been on the registry for 20 years. He was 'just' 18 and slept with a girl that SAID she was 16, and turned out to be 15.

He went to jail for it, and is now on the registry. He also has a daughter and has since adopted his wife's 3 children. Would I leave him alone with my own daughter?

Yes. I would.

So again, it depends on the circumstance and the exact charge, age, and relationship to the 'victim'.



If you're that worried, or don't know the exact nature of the charge -it should be a matter of public record. Consult with a family lawyer, or call legal aid for assistance.

Gina - posted on 12/15/2009

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The charges on him with the kids say they could have healed without scaring and the other charges were sexual exploitation of a minor child... I just dont think that it is right at all

Medic - posted on 12/15/2009

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well it depends on his threat level and what he is on the registry for.....

~Jennifer - posted on 12/15/2009

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It honestly depends on what the charge was, the age of the 'victim' involved and relationship to the victim.

Some charges carry more 'weight' than others in the eyes of family courts.

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