Melissa - posted on 12/03/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )
I'm looking for some advice on how to explain some adult situations. I have 4-year old girl twins and up until now, I just haven't mentioned some members of the family at all. My father and I don't really speak and haven't seen each other in about 10 years. I do, however, still speak to my half-sister. She has never actually seen or spoken to my kids, but has decided that she really wants to come and visit and meet her nieces. I am really struggling with how to tell my kids who she is. They are smart kids and I know that after I tell them that she is my sister, they will ask how that is and it will lead to questions about my father. I have no intentions of having them meet him at any point in the future because I know that he will never be part of their lives. He was barely a part of mine. I don't really know what to tell them about why they have never met him. They love their other grandpa and I don't want them to think they are missing out on anything, because they definitely aren't. I don't want to lie to them, but they ceretainly don't need to know the truth either. If anyone has any suggestions of how to explain things like this to 4-year olds, I would greatly appreciate the input and advice. Thanks.