Heather - posted on 10/16/2009 ( 136 moms have responded )
ok my son is almost seven months old. I started him on cereal when he was 3 months and started fruits and veggies once a day at 4 months. He still only gets 2 meals a day that are not breastmilk. I ONLY breastfeed him, i do not give him any formula. His father started to get him for visitation. I was sending expressed breastmilk. This started back in October. He had him for 4 visits and he came home constipated the last 2 times. He did not have him for a month in which my son was not constipated anymore. One resuming visitation in september, my son was constipated again after every visitation (2x a wk). His clothes were coming back stained and the bottles were coming back smellng disgusting. I came to the conclusion that he was feeding him formula. I asked him many times to stop and tried to explain how my son was haivng trouble digesting it. He was also spitting up a lot of yellow which he had never done before. I must note that none of the fruits or veggies or cereal had caused any of this when he was not going to his fathers. His father refused to admit he was giving him anything and my son continued to come back constipated. I had to take him to the hospital one night where they confirmed his constipation and gave him a suppository to help him out. We went to court and the court ordered that he not feed him anything but water and that i stay in the area to be called upon if my son was hungry so i could breastfeed. Well he has had him 3 times so far and every time i have picked up my son, he is not hungry. My son eats every hour and a half at LEAST. he is a snacker i guess you could say. He is still constipated and still comign home with stained clothes that smell like formula and spitting up yellow. So where is his DR in all of this??? I have tired to talk to him about how to help out my son but he refuses to talk to me since i mentioned it was a court issue. He tells me that my breastmilk is the cause of the constipation and who cares what color he spits up. he said its only another 6 months that he will be breastfed anyways so its no big deal. He also said that only 1 in 10 women strictly breastfeed so its not big deal if he is given formula. He said i need to start getting along with his father and stop trying to make up things. He also told me to find another doctor if i did not like what he said. He told me that breast milk is no better that formula so who cares what he gives him. I was very upset because I knwo when something is wrong with my son and im the one that has to watch him cry and scream for hours to push out hard dark poop. I never tried to take visitation from his father but he has been told many times to stop giving him formula and now its a court order and he still wont follow it. I KNOW he is giving him formula but my lawyer says i need a dr statement saying he is being given formula before it can be taken care of. Well....that is a problem considering what his doctor thinks about it. He wont even look at anything cept for connors height and weight. I obvioulsy need another doctor but im afraid that once that doctor hears the word "court" they will do the same thing. Im trying to find somewhere to get his poop tested to prove its formula but i dont know if thats possible. I need help to stop him from feeding him formula and causing him pain. This has gone on for far too long. Just today i had to give him a suppository because he was straining and yelling on and off from 10am to 4:40pm when i gave it to him. He goes back to his fathers tomorrow and it will start all over again. Oh yeah, his father is trying to tell me that im eating something to make my breastmilk cause him to be sick when he goes to visitations. He also says i dont feed him enough.....but like i said,.....he doesnt call me to come feed him. I really dont know what to do. Im tired of my baby suffering, im tired of the stained clothes, and im tired of him lying to me. Im also tired because my son is not sleeping well anymore either, he wakes up screaming bloody murder instead of just quietly crying for me to come get him. Sometimes i have trouble getting him to eat when he is constipated. He also hits himself with his toys when constipated. How can his doctor tell me to get this out of my head??? and what can i do to prove whats going on ASAP to get this crap stopped. Please do not tell me to talk to his father about it again, i have politely asked him over and over again and he just says its my fault and denies it. Although he does say he has the right to feed my son whatever he wants to because he is the father. However, he does not have any rights because i have full custody and he has nothing but visitation rightnow PLEASE HELP
*****in response to some of the things you guys have written, he is almost 7 months old, and I do give him suppositories when he is constipated. Howver they are not supposed to be given a lot because they can create dependence on them. I have tried the juice, water, ect. and nothing seems to fix the constipation except the suppositories. I was unsure about stool samples because i have taken them to his DR before and they told me they couldnt do anything and laughed at it. Now I know i can get something like that done. Monday morning I will be contacting other doctors to get appointments. Howver, with new patients some take forever to get you in, is there a way i can get stool and allergy testing done without a doctors referral???? The allergy thing seems to make a lot of sense to me. If not allergies then I believe it is the extra iron from the formula because the stool is very dark.
As soon as I have proof from another doctor about what is really wrong with my son.....and my son is better again, I will be reporting his old doctor. Not that i hold a grudge, but no other mother should have to go through this.
Thank you everyone for your ideas and thoughts.