Angieisin - posted on 04/29/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )
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The father of my kids is possibly due to get out of jail soon for breaking the protection order i have agianst him a number of times with calls to my cell phone calling me a prostitute crack whore showing up at her school etc etc. He has been in there for over a month now when the warrents for the breaks finally caught up with him and he was denied bail. he fired his father as third party cause he didnt like his dad telling him he had to stop calling and leaving msgs on the machine saying nasty things ( like the time he called and sang a song on the machine about the bi*%h and c**t he fell for) i could go on and on and all of it has big huge long stories that lead to it but all in all i dont know what to do anymore he hasnt seen the kids since christmas cause he never replaced his dad as third party and its not my job to get a third party not that anyone i know would even deal with him he has alienated everyone i know with constant txt msgs or calls name calling etc . the kids (at least my 5 yr old has gotten so much better emotional wise and behavior wise since she stopped going there she never asks for him and before he went into jail she never even bothered to try to even answer the phone when it rang. she seems to have no interest in even talking to him... i dont know if hes going to try to get a third party but honestly i dont even want them going there i know that sounds horrible but i just know that hes prob putting all this horrible stuff into thier heads and putting them right into the middle of stuff they dont need to be in. Ive heard him ( it couldnt have been by accident no one is that stupid) on the phone with my daughter purposly upsetting her talking abou ther friend that moved away telling her that its horrible that she never got to say goodbye but that mom was being mean and wouldnt let him take her to say goodbye that that was idiotic and she should feel sad about not saying goodbye cause it was such a terrible thing. i had a big talk with her about her friend moving away and she was fine with it we even got her address so she could write to her he pulled that and it took me an hour to calm her down ( i know all this because she puts him on speaker phone well he talks and i heard it all before she started crying and i took the phone and hung up on him :@. we have a court order for custody he never showed up to court said he didnt know about it... even thou they served him. Its joint custody i have primary care and control all final decision making he has " reasonable periods of care and control with advance agreed upon notice with set times of start and finish" ( he next to never follows times or gives them ,his advance notice is horrible which when he trys to pull that he doesnt get the kids then flips out about it,)
people tell me i should go back to court and get sole custody that with the jail time and the breaching i could get it easy but my worry is that if i go back then the judge will put in set visiting times and im scared of what hes going to put my kids throu what hes going to put into thier heads or if he will even bring them back. Its never about the kids he says i am using the kids to get back at him for all the wrongs hes done but im not i just want to be allowed to move on with my life i have moved on but his crazy behavior is making it difficult to do anything! hes making it about me not the kids if i wanted to repeat many more long stories and examples it would be proof enough why cant he see that thou? i dont know what to do anymore? should i go back to court? should i wait to see if he even tries to get a third party? Im really wishing i personally knew a lawyer right now :(
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