Andie - posted on 12/11/2008 ( 18 moms have responded )
omg I am in the middle of trying to "Ferberize" my daughter, tonight being the first night and it is killing me! I am sort of adjusting it, I started at 1 minute and added from there - we're at 6 minutes right now (and I did 3 and 5 twice bc I couldn't help it - but I haven't gone backwards yet) and I feel like I really need to be strong bc if I give in now it is only going to make it harder, I know the best way to reinforce unwanted behavior is to be inconsistent. It is just so hard bc my husband is on the second shift at Andrews AFB and so he won't be home for another hour...doing this alone is horrible! Any support from those who have tried this method before? I am a very hands-on mom who usually responds to my daughter asap so this is breaking my heart. :( I know it's going to end up being better for everyone, her current sleep habits are not healthy and she is not getting enough but that isn't making me feel any better when she's so pitiful I just wanna scoop her up. I tried looking up other methods but everyone wants me to buy their info. I know she's at a stage where this won't negatively affect her security but it's hard to keep that in mind right now. advice? support? do you think this is cruel?