For an 8 month old...CIO or comfort?

Hannah - posted on 03/22/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Emily - posted on 03/23/2009

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I like a routine and comfort myself. I am prettty firmly against any type of cry it out method. There are middle grounds that involve waiting for a few minutes to see if the crying escelates before picking the baby up so if the child isn't in agony or distress that might be something that works for you. you don't have to cosleep with your kids and breastfeed them on demand til they are two years old (like me) but you shouldn't leave tehm screaming for longer than a couple of minutes either.

Kay - posted on 03/23/2009

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well i used to lie them down,pat their back's and sing a babys lullabye,or rock their pram's,at time's,take them for a walk// or just rock them to sleep in my arm's,

Sara - posted on 03/23/2009

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Hey Hannah! I think it's really up to you and what you feel comfortable with. We did a "progressive waiting technique" (Ferber) with my daughter, and I think it was right for her. But, it is not for every child and it invovles a lot of crying and if you don't think you can handle it, you could try other methods. Do you have your little one on a nighttime routine? Routines before bed help them to get ready for bed and after a while it's almost like they have a Pavlovian response to the routine and they become tired right away. We do bath, bottle, book then bed with my little girl, and she barely makes it through the book. I also make a point to put her down while she is awake and drowsy, not totally asleep. That way, when she wakes up in the night she will remember that this is where she fell asleep and have an easier time going back to sleep. I think for me, I just didn't want her to have to depend on me to soothe her to sleep, I think it leads to disruptive sleep for her which is what I wanted to avoid, so that's why we chose a Ferber approach, to have her learn to self soothe. I also read "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" and found that very helpful. It talks about the science of sleep and gives some approaches to try based on a childs temperment in order to get them to learn to self soothe. But I totally stand by the routine, it works! Good luck!

Brigette - posted on 03/23/2009

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I pretty much would be saying exactly word for word with Julie Saint (3:03pm) comment - except I only have 2 of my own.....but been around many! :) At the end of the day - you have to do what you need to do - for you! ;-)

Selina - posted on 03/23/2009

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i hate to leave my kids cryin but sum time u have to other wise they no wen they cry u will come runnin , wot i do is wait til hes sleepy thn take him up to bed with a warm bottle feed him in the bed room then put him tobed he will cry as i vwalk out but i have to leave him you will proble notice that ur child will cry thn stop and go quite 4 a little bit , thats because he/she is listionin to see if u are coming neva leave ur chlid to cry longer then half a hr i go check afer 15 n i find it hard not to go in sooner, i say no longer thn half a hr because if u av got a boy it could damage him leadin to him not bein able to have children wen he is older. i hope i have bin some help.

Patty - posted on 03/23/2009

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Quoting Julie:

I have four kids. I found kind of a middle ground. When they were about 6 months old I started laying them down when they were kinda droopy eyed but not asleep. Then would rub pat and rub them in their crib until they fell asleep. After a few days of that I started putting them to bed awake giving them a kiss, saying prayers and leaving. They would fuss for a few minutes and then usually go to sleep. I only had one that really fought me and with her I would go back in after about 5-10 minutes of really crying..not just fussing and pick her up and love her, but never leave the room with her and then put her right back. They need to know that when they cry you will respond, just not necassarily give in :) Of course now that they go to bed on their own so well if they wake up they obviously need some sort of comfort, but they know that once they are better right back to bed they go!



I agree 100% with you i do the same with baby and pla to do the same with my next i find it work wonders

Keely - posted on 03/22/2009

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i dont like to CIO but recently i have had to with Connor. He is 7 almost 8 months and in the last week he has started fighting double! After making sure all needs are met, i have to let him cry for a bit and then go calm him down and love him and get him to back to sleep. He fights sleep normally but its been a battle to get him to not only go to sleep but stay asleep. HE will purposefully wake himself up when he realises he is getting tired. i still have to swaddle him quite a bit just to hold him still. I guess i am kind of at a loss at how to get him to now self soothe. Neither my husband or i are very good at doing that for ourselves even now as adults. ANy who i have rambled long enough!





Andrea - posted on 03/22/2009

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Its personal prefrence I did a little of both I let them cry for a couple of min because there is a time when they have to settle them self and then alwaysa cuddle.. I never let them cry for hours and hours but a few min here and there dose not hurt.

Mel - posted on 03/22/2009

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CIO def at 8 months! my daugher got into a habit recently of crying for about an hr or more before she got to sleep but has learnt now (shes 11 months) and when she was younger she'd sometimes cry til she made herself throw up she'd get that upset. sometimes u just have to teach them how to go to sleep by themselves.

Julie - posted on 03/22/2009

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I have four kids. I found kind of a middle ground. When they were about 6 months old I started laying them down when they were kinda droopy eyed but not asleep. Then would rub pat and rub them in their crib until they fell asleep. After a few days of that I started putting them to bed awake giving them a kiss, saying prayers and leaving. They would fuss for a few minutes and then usually go to sleep. I only had one that really fought me and with her I would go back in after about 5-10 minutes of really crying..not just fussing and pick her up and love her, but never leave the room with her and then put her right back. They need to know that when they cry you will respond, just not necassarily give in :) Of course now that they go to bed on their own so well if they wake up they obviously need some sort of comfort, but they know that once they are better right back to bed they go!

Kate - posted on 03/22/2009

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Personally I can't let my kids cry it out, it's too difficult and I always go in their room to comfort them, so I choose comfort.  It's a completely personal decision, though.

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