For those of you that spank your kids...

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User - posted on 01/25/2010

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That to me is a problem..Just like anything else you do with and for a child...there is a thing called to much. If you spank your kids all the time then what shows them that different actions have different reactions..My childern know that if they get spanked they have not only crossed the line they sailed way the heck over it. I wont spank because they didnt pick up a toy but I will spank if they endanger themselves..Hope that makes more sense to you.

Kelsey - posted on 01/25/2010

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I wasnt spanked as a child, so I guess thats why it seems so weird and wrong to me. My mother was very gentle and positive with me as a young child. It just seems like something that has no place in 2010. I understand the last resort thing, but what about the moms who regularly spank their kids every time they act up?

User - posted on 01/25/2010

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I dont believe there is anything wrong with spanking. there is a problem with abuse...But I dont believe my childern will be scared because their mom popped them on the butt. But on the same note I dont believe that spanking is the only option to use.When my son ran out in the middle of a busy intersection time out was not going to show him how serious his actions were. But after his spanking he never ran out into the middle of the road.

Sharon - posted on 01/25/2010

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Wendy - if you hit your child when you are angry - then you're abusing your child.



Never lay hands on a child when you're angry. There is a post'er here who does that frequently and admits it and it disgusts me beyond belief.

Dana - posted on 01/25/2010

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I do time out more than spanking because my children are very smart & listen well but I do spank my kids only for safety reasons.My children know if the oven is on(which they can see & I will say & let them know Im cooking)than its hot so if they come in & touch it,I will spank them.My children know to hold my hand in a parking lot so if they get away from me & run in that parking lot,I will spank them.I do not like spanking my kids but I dont wont my children ran over or burned!I hope this helps you to understand why I spank but Im only one mom.

Mel - posted on 01/25/2010

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some mothers use i as an only option I know plenty of those I dont judge them but I dont really like it, and I think if your brought up with it you are more likely to spank your own because its the norm to you, if your not then you prob wont. Thats what ive found anyhow I was smacked I turned out ok and I smack, well I tap because mine is only 21 months but I will smack when she is older.. Alot of my freinds smack and they were smacked as well. I think its effetive but not the only thing that works. You have to be firm enough in whatever punishment you choose. If a child repeatedly does something after being told no then its time to smack

Kelsey - posted on 01/25/2010

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I dont understand why you think its the best way to discipline... Is it because its the only way you know, or because it seems to be the only thing that works? Im just curious as to why some mothers choose to spank.

Wendy - posted on 01/25/2010

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i dont agree with spanking ...however i did tap and i meen tap on the hand or bottom a few times not out of frustration more to get there attention......Violence only teaches Violence when you are mad or frustrated hitting them only teaches them that hitting is what you do when mad or frustrated............

Inci - posted on 01/25/2010

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i dont know.. i think it depends first on how old the kid is.. i mean lets be honest kids do need to know the difference between right and wrong, and punishment and rewards! mu baby is still 5 months old so i dont think i will be spanking her anytime soon,, bt sometimes to be honest i shout at her..and she gives me that cute smile so i forget why was i shouting at the first place:)

Sharon - posted on 01/25/2010

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It is the punishment of last resort. I haven't needed to spank any of my kids more than once or twice in their lives. The oldest is 14 and the youngest is 7. I'm pretty sure the last any of them were spanked they were about 5 or 6 and it seems to me they were always spanked for not listening.



They listen really well now.

Mel - posted on 01/25/2010

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I think its just a personal choice some parents choose to and some dont. I smack, and I dont know about other countries but it is not illegal here in Australia. I know mums from the US who spank/smack. I see a few people like yourself who dislike smacking and think its realy wrong. I guess everybody has different views. and Why ? For discpline

Kelsey - posted on 01/25/2010

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Yes, Im not trying to be mean or judgmental, Im just honestly curious...

Inci - posted on 01/25/2010

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i dint understand your inquiry dear? do u ask why some moms spank their kids?

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