found my 12 year old masturbating

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Jodi - posted on 06/14/2012

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Time to learn to knock on the door first. I NEVER enter my son's room if the door is closed without an invitation. I respect his privacy (and have no particular desire so see him masturbating).



Edited to Add: I just posted and realised you already have that advice. Just add mine to the masses. It is a perfectly normal thing for a pubescent boy (and girl for that matter) to do.

Michelle - posted on 06/14/2012

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I agree with the others. Start knocking and wait to be invited into the room and it's completely normal.

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I am experiencing the same thing. He is not shy about it and doesn't care if we see. I understand it is normal and doesn't bother me I just make him wash his own sheets and pillows. I also told him this is something that doesn't leave the privacy of the house.

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Apple - posted on 05/02/2014

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Was it a boy or a girl. It total normal. Just be sure others do not get involve and do not tell your friends. Let her or him know when they should do it. It ok in the open area of the house or in their bedroom. You be sure you do not masturbate them unless you what to be place on the national sex list for the rest of your life.

Holly - posted on 10/23/2012

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OH GEEZ!!!!! I am sure that was embarrassing!!!! tell them to lock the door! or if there is no lock, install one!!! and ugh! I would NEVER buy my kid a vibrator!!! thats a bit awkward!!!! when they are of age they can buy one for themselves... at that age their hand will work just fine!

Just - posted on 10/07/2012

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That is totally normal for a 12 year old support him/her not in a creepy way but you know no judging ect.

Maybe get him/her a vibrator because masturbating is a whole lot better than kids having sex

Laura - posted on 06/22/2012

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and then....well , it would be a real shock for any parent of any 12 yr. old boy if he DIDN'T...........as we all know this begins with every boy in the history of the world....at age 11 to 13...............it does not make sense that people find this a mystery or difficult to understand....and why even the moms who accept this as " normal",'NATURAL".....still freak if they see it,this makes no sense at all........ yes it must be private to the outside ( because of obvious reasons) )...but should be understood by family as a every-day..( or how ever often )..natural occurrence........

but the only " reason " the boy hides in shame in many families..is because it feels good..........what other reason could there be ...

for a history eye -opener...see : POSTS--"why do 5 yr olds play with their body parts,"and child masturbation" and " when is it time to stop walking around naked in front of your kids?". we can clearly see that all this about the nude body,and orgasms being ,vulgar,nasty and bad,..is socially or religiously imprinted on us all from birth...

...one time in a culture a boy covered his naked father passed out drunk,with a blanket...the little boy was executed,...........the dad was " Noah.....

....tell me this,if people had orgasms ( and intercourse did not exist,),,and babies didn't come from any contact...then would orgasms have to be hidden of frowned upon...among friends and family?....Just asking,.....( must still be hidden and private right? ) because it feels good.!........think about it

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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Well, what? Sit down and have the sex talk with him. Tell him you are sorry for walking in on him, and you will knock in the future. Let him know that even though he might be embarrassed, everyone masturbates and it is completely normal.

Not sure exactly what you are looking for here Katie, very vague post.

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