FRIEND HELP!!!!!

HEATHER - posted on 11/19/2009

Thanks everyone!!! I should of added that the boy who threatened her with the shooting did get suspened for 1/2 the day. Nothing happened with the slapping. Thanks Melissa!! My daughter does stay pretty active, she's in basketball, swimming, and soccer. She has wonderful friends there!!! Unfortuantly we send our daughter to the next town over for school. It's a small school. From 4k to senior in high school there are 120 kids. Yes it's very small!!! We send her there because she has some hearing issues, and the school has more one on one time for her. I will continue to monitor and jot down the unfortunant events, but maybe the prinicple will be my best bet in the long run! Thanks everyone so far!!!

Melissa - posted on 11/19/2009

Wow.. kids can be so mean! My little one is years behind yours so my thoughts might not mean a lot to you, but I think it is time to step in a little stronger. Kids always bully and are always mean, that is a part of life unfortunately... however.... if she's been slapped by a little boy and was told by another he would shoot her... something needs to be done! That crosses the line from normal bullying! Her teacher needs a big wake up call. Maybe it is time to go to the principal with those two occurrences and demand something be done, if that doesn't help, the school board. Ask about bullying seminars for the student body, and do your best to look into that little boy who mentioned shooting... if he has thoughts like that, he is likely seeing it at home and child protection services need to be involved, and likely counselling or something else needs to take place before that little boy acts on his terrible thoughts. I am in no way trying to overreact, but this is something to make a big deal of. Your child should feel safe to go to school and not have to endure threats. I am happy to see you are not taking it lightly, as this is a huge concern! Go as high up in the ladder as you need to until something is done. I am sure there are other children in the school who are enduring much worse times and obviously the teacher doesn't notice or care enough to do anything about it.
It sounds like you or your daughter aren't doing anything wrong.. and I am sure these times will pass.. perhaps, if you're able to afford it, get her involved with some extracurricular activity to help her meet friends outside of school, which will surely boost her esteem, which will make her friends at school in the long run.

Kirsten - posted on 11/19/2009

If you've talked to the teacher about this already and she's done nothing to resolve it and hasn't made any attempts to determine what the problem might be then you should talk to the principal. Ask if you can have a meeting with all three of them to work out strategies to determine what the problem is and start to fix it. Also remember that some things happen in a classroom and can go on for a long time before a teacher learns what is really going on so you need to be patient once you know that the school is working to find a solution, it can take awhile.

Isobel - posted on 11/19/2009

My daughter has had times like these...I have gone to the school during lunch to drop my son off and found her sitting alone under a tree doing nothing. I know it's heart breaking, but unfortunately it's a part of life.



I talked with my daughter and found out she was being "bullied" by another girl, she wasn't physically hurting her but the other girl was getting all the girls to exclude her and not play with her. We talked about strategies for dealing with this girl and making new friends that weren't part of the other girl's group.



I know it's difficult, but she'll survive, and make new friends. Good Luck.