Genderless?

September - posted on 05/25/2011 ( 72 moms have responded )

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Witterick and David Stocker have decided to keep their baby Storm's sex a secret from the world and are attempting to raise him/her without a gender. The only people who know Storm's sex are his/her immediate family members, the midwives present at delivery, and a close family friend.


“In fact, in not telling the gender of my precious baby, I am saying to the world, ‘Please can you just let Storm discover for him/herself what s (he) wants to be?!.” Witterick writes in an email.


The Stockers have two older boys, Jazz and Kio, whose sex was not kept a secret. However, from an early age they have been given the freedom to choose clothing from both the boys and girls sections of stores as well as to decide what length to wear their hair.

The Stockers got the idea to keep Storm's sex a secret after reading X: A Fabulous Child's Story by Lois Gould, in which a child is raised not as a boy or a girl but as an X. The couple plans to keep Storm's sex a secret as long as the three children are comfortable with the arrangement.

Some of the Stocker's friends and family members have been supportive, but others believe that they are forcing their ideology on their children and setting them up to be bullied.

What do you think?

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Amber - posted on 05/26/2011

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SEX= Physical attributes (hormones, genitalia, chromosome....etc)

GENDER= The role that society assigns to a person based on their sex.



Just because you have female sex organs, does not mean that you identify with the guidelines set up by society for the female gender..and the same goes for males.



If the world didn't place such an emphasis on boys versus girls, this wouldn't even be necessary. I try hard to keep things gender neutral for my son until he picks something out for himself. Then I just go with it.



I do believe that these parents are taking it to an extreme, but I understand their reasoning behind it. They just want to let their child choose who they want to be without the world telling them who they are supposed to be.

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I think they are actually taking away some of this child's identity. Our gender is a big part of who we are. Anyone who thinks boys and girls are the same have never observed a room full of little children. Little girls rock baby dolls, boys throw them. Some girls are more 'rough and tumble' some boys are more caring and sensitive but that does not make them less male or less female. Children are who they are, any parent who has tried to change the behavior of their child can attest to that. We can guide them and teach them and love them unconditionally. Also children who get too many choices without a parents guidance often just turn out as spoiled brats. I fear these parents are doing more damage then good.

Tracy - posted on 05/26/2011

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Every human born into this world has a gender - to "hide" this from a child is simply crazy. We, as parents, are to nurture and protect our children and to help them to become decent, caring adults, regardless of gender. By "hiding" it, it's simply creating an issue that shouldn't even be there in the 1st place, rather than just raising your child to be the best they can be.

As for parents allowing their children to make decisions, I'm all for that, within reason. A young childs mind is not developed enough to process information and reasoning as we do as adults and therefore require our guidance - allowing a child to make such adult decisions, I would think is not at all healthy for the childs sense of self. This is just my opion and wish nothing but the best for this precious little child.

Joanna - posted on 05/25/2011

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this seems to be popping up in every community...

I understand WHAT they're trying to do, but it's a bit extreme. The children should definitely have a choice in who they are, but they should also embrace who they are, gender and all. My daughter LOVES boy stuff, but knows she is a girl and is proud of it. We let her pick out her clothes/toys from the "boy" section, and encourage her to play with whatever sparks her interest. We love that she just does what she loves, and not what she "should" love just because of her gender.

Emilie - posted on 05/25/2011

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I think this is crazy. It is like a thing I saw a few years ago on TV (a true story) where a boys penis was accendently amputated during circumcision, so the doctor offered the family a deal to raise the child as a girl and they would do surgury to make his parts look like girl parts. See he had a twin brother. They were going to see if the children would behave the same because of genetics or if the one child would act like a girl because they said he/she was a girl. He ended up commiting suicide later in life. I think it is crazy to let a child choose his/her own gender because genetics has already decided what and how they are going to be, but they need to be brought up in a normal way. I let my son watch Dora and Barbie and play with what he wants, but I am not going to let him wear girl clothes or have long hair. People need to draw the line somewhere.

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Try - posted on 10/09/2012

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It's better to tell them "this is true" and have them find out later you were wrong, then to deprive them of any guidance whatsoever. And I am a transsexual, but you have to remember how rare we really are - one every several thousand. What are the chances this child will need this? Versus the chances they will be harmed by it?

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2011

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@ Jennifer, I understand and respect your comment. I do understand the publicity point in the matter, but I have yet to find that they were the ones to make it open and public. Instead they defended themselves after the fact. That's besides the point though. I do find this as letting the child decided "who they are", just because the parents do not tell anyone outside does not mean he/she will not know for themselves. This is where society comes into play to tell us what is or is not the norm. I don't feel they are pushing their beliefs on the child either, once he/she becomes old enough to talk it could very likely tell the whole world that it has a penis or a vagina (based on the idea of the parents I'm sure they will explain it) and at that point in time the whole world will be watching because we cannot seem to stay out of other peoples lives. There are obviously more pressing matters in the world like starving children, global warming, and natural disasters but issues like this one have to be headline news for a week, it shows us what society really is and how unaccepting we are of difference and change. @ Krissy all children have "gay tendencies" it's apart of nature to explore your sexuality. I'm sure even this families children are and have gone through the same thing. Giving your child the independence to choose his/her own clothing and even sexuality is only the issue of the parent not the child. Many believe homosexuality is a born in trait, and no matter what you do you cannot change the fact that, that child will be "gay". Instead you will probably instill fear or shame in that child for having these feelings. Which in turn can lead to young age depression and suicidal thoughts. Suicidal rates in teens are up yes because of bullying, but more so these teens are afraid to express themselves to their parents or tell them what is going on so they can get the help they need. I will go back and stand by my statement that children learn to be intolerant from their parents, so to prevent bullying it needs to start at home. I only see disciplinary action acceptable in how kids dress if they are 1) dressing to make fun of another person 2) wearing an inappropriate outfit (mini skirt, belly showing looking like a slut type). I buy my kids clothing because its just easier for me to go to the store than to bring the whole troop, but if my son came and said he wanted a dress, I would ask him why he felt that he needed it and if it was for him personally and emotionally then he could have it and wear it. If anything it would make him more eccentric and interesting in today's society.

Krissy - posted on 06/02/2011

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@ nicole i accually know my son has gay tendancys but im not going to influence them by any means it is his choice weather he is a girl boy or gay but as it is he has autsum and has a very hard time trying to get out his emotions un till he shows it all the time then and starts to ask questions only then i will ask him if he likes boys or girls like girls things to wear girls clothes etc. i know my out spocken babbling almost 2 yr old will just come out and say what ever and it mb her that tells me how he's feeling as they are very close . but thye will have phycological issues from the morons out there why do you think there is a high suside rate? it is because the kids are getting tormented for being different mostly being a dork or what ever i was tormented at school because my mother used to spend most of her time trying to dob the other teens in at school also she was that domineering then i was never socially interactive with anyone my age as she said even christian ppl whom she was friends with and we went to church were a bad influence on me as they tyred to get me out to help me grow up including youth group was bad but at least i was allowed to go every know and again and this made me very socially dleayed as i was never allowed independance still to this day have issues trying to communicate with ppl typing is now the only way i can communicate the best i can . it is the parents who need to let things go to a certain point not too domineering and not too slack that the boys can wear a dress to school just because they want to. or a girl like shiloh pitt who thinks shes a boy and has a boyish -but not quite hair cut but at least her parent s are trying to let her know she is still a girl but she can dress like a boy. thus parents NEED to be supportive but disiplenary in how thier kids dress out the house

Jenni - posted on 06/02/2011

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Nicole. No, I wouldn't care if my son or daughter were transgender or homosexual. Not AT all. Just because some of us didn't say it, doesn't mean we have a problem with it. To me that's a given that I would support my child in who they are, so I didn't feel it needed to be mentioned.



But the difference I see is that it's up to the child to decide for themselves *who they are* in our society. The part of this I don't agree with is making a science experiment out of your own child and drawing media attention to them to make a statement about your beliefs. It just doesn't sit well with me. I'm not saying it's the worst thing in the world, I said; I can appreciate the sentiment of raising an ungendered child. But I fear they are hiding behind; doing what they feel is best for their child in an unconvential way... when really they're using their child to make a statement to the world on their beliefs.

Nicole - posted on 06/02/2011

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This just so happens to be what is wrong with society today.. When the parents can't get it out of their head that being different is a bad thing how do we expect our children to do the same. It's parents that create bullies not the children themselves. They learn from our actions and guidance, and if they are not brought up in a neutral home with neutral values things such as homophobia and racism will go without being prosecuted. I see many in these posts that say its ok for their sons to play with barbies, play dress up, and play with baby dolls, but I also do not see any of these posters saying it they would be ok with their child growing up to be homosexual or transgender. I do not see psychological issues coming of this, instead I see a family trying to make a difference in the world even if it is one child at a time.

Krissy - posted on 06/02/2011

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it is not our business ..but ..they made it ours by publicising it and i think that witterick is a twitterick and david is just dumb, the poor boy called jazz i mean really jazz for a boys name?? these kids are not only going to feel extreamly confuesed in puberty but they will most likely be tormented for being different , there is difference between different and 'different'. these parents are going to be the first to complane when any of there kids are teased and if a boy wants to dress up in pink ,wear dora or anything girly or a girl vica versa thats fine but as parents we need to let our children know that they were born a piticular sex but in the end doddle or not you are you but no parent should help confuse the situaton by 'letting them choose to be a x or y' it is widely known that most boys who are brought up with no sister will like playing kitchens dressups or play with dolls in trollys( my boy loves girly thing but there is a limit like wearing his dora jump suit out the door to the shop.but i will let him wear a mascilan pink )and girls who delve into trucks cars dirt etc... and a two sex family as i have my almost two yr old loves being a tomboy but she also loves being girly. if she wanted to wear thomas a super hero outfit out id let her to an extent, thus as i said parents need to draw the line and publically letting the world know your letting your kid be genderless is going to bite them on bum when the kids grow up they WILL end up with phycological issues and will need to be delt with tormented by others or by the fact their parents did this etc....

Sara - posted on 06/02/2011

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These people are INSANE!!! I have a 22 mos old son & a 4 mos old daughter and I dont care what kind of toys my son or daughter plays with...my son has a baby doll stroller (its red and has planes, birds, boats, etc on it) and he has a baby doll that I got for him when I was preggy with my baby girl. He dont play with the baby doll (its in his toy box and he just dont play with it), but loves his stroller. Sometimes he pushes his trucks around or his sippy cup, etc. And Ive put bows and clippys in his hair when I was preggy to see how big they were size wise on his head to get an idea how big they will be on the baby, but he just laughs and thinks its funny. My daughter wears bows everyday, has her ears pierced, wears dresses/very girly stuff, most days shes head to toe pink! But even in completely gender neutral colors or even blue she looks like a GIRL! And I know when shes older that she will be playing in the mud with my son, and he'll be playing barbies with her. But to decide to not say what Sex your child is, is just INSANE!!! Honestly I can see this kid getting bullied later on, I can think of a ton of remarks kids could and probably will use!! And that baby is clearly a BOY! lol.

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2011

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I don't think it's personally MY business what this family is doing... and I think raising the children to play with what they want and dress how they want without worrying what's made for boys and whats made for girls is GREAT! I just feel for the aunts, uncles, grandparents who want to announce their new family member and arent even allowed to know.... I just know personally, that if that were my grandbaby, I'd be trying my best to change a diaper, BEGGING to babysit so I'd know. That's all :)

Nicole - posted on 05/31/2011

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I personally believe it is none of our business what the child's gender is, nor should we care. If the child is being taken care of and not being abused then I am perfectly fine with it. I would like to know what gives us the right to judge these parents actions. Because they want to instill different values in their children is no concern of ours. I do hope that some people will realize the value of trying to raise a more understanding and open minded generation. I commend this families actions.

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2011

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I think it's ridiculous how much media attention they're getting from this.

I also think it's a bit ridiculous to completely disclose the sex. (although i've seen the picture of Storm and it looks like a boy ♥) I don't see why family membesr and friends knowing the sex of your child would "force" that child to grow up one way or another.

My daughter knows she's a girl, as does EVERYONE in our lives - BUT they STILL know that she doesn't like playing with "girl things" all the time - she has barbies, princess wigs, dump trucks, a 4wheeler, a princess bike, a train table plus a kitchen set.... she is still allowed to be her own person. Hell, my father in law even bought her a blue .22 and a pink camo 20g shot gun (don't worry, she's 5, she hasn't shot them yet. lol)

Do I think Storm'll be traumatized forever? No - do I think Storm's grandparents deserve to know for their own bragging rights? Sure do!!

that's fine if you want him/her to be able to grow up however he/she wants (clothes, toys, etc) BUT I don't think you need to keep his gender a big secret in order to do so.

Jennifer - posted on 05/31/2011

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I think this is kind of stupid to attempt to raise a genderless child, as it will not only not work out, but it also will cconfuse the child as he or she grows up. We have genders for a reason, not for them to be ignored.

Melissa - posted on 05/28/2011

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Umm... they are not keeping the child's gender secret from the child, just from outsiders... It is not a case of forcing a gender on a child it is trying to let them be themselves without societal constraints. The siblings know the child's gender, the parents know the gender, the midwives know, the child will know their gender and will be the one allowed to tell other if he/she pleases. Why would the child be confused about their own gender???

I don't understand all the the people that say that they are screwing their child up because they don't want to talk about their child's sexual organs with others. I did not keep gender a secret once my children were born but I didn't have an ultrasound when I was pregnant and I was appalled by the reactions of people when I could not tell them if I was going to be having a girl or a boy. People think it is their right to know certain things and are completely offended when you don't indulge them.

Also, the children are homeschooled/unschooled and luckily the community is a lot more open minded and kinder than the mainstream and it won't be as much of an issue.

Katie - posted on 05/28/2011

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I do not agree with this. Children do not fully develop the judgement part of their brain till almost 16 years old (some later). Regardless of what anyone thinks parents influence their children to wear what they want them to wear and act how they want them to act. If you ask your son if he wants to wear a dress and u push the issue just so slightly hes probably going to wear it. Same thing with girls. But I don't agree with letting them be "gender neutral". Call me crazy but I believe in God and the bible wants boys to grow up to be MEN and girls to grow up and be WOMEN. That doesn't mean your child acting the same as everyone else or letting society determine their gender. Its letting GOD determine their gender. It really has nothing to do with supporting your child or not any good parent supports their child but also leads them.

Pamela - posted on 05/28/2011

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Brilliant social experiment!
I wouldnt want to experiment on my kids though. Life is hard enough.

Tracey - posted on 05/28/2011

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What about public bathrooms or even bathrooms in school when s/he will have to decide which to go into?!

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I feel that there is diffently a differenace in how a boy and a girl are treated, I've heard so many times with my son "oh he's a boy, he's suppose to do that" and when getting a gift we go to the cars, BUT he also has 2 days and will play "tea party" with is cousin. I have made it clear from the beginning that I will not put a label on my son as far as what he wants to do, if it's dance, baseball or music. I strongly believe that there are different pressures for each sex and I don't want to put any unnessary pressure on any of my children. With that being said, my sister's daughter is only 9wks older then my son and they are both very different. My son loves cars and plays with them all day, but if he were to pick up a barbie that wouldn't bother me AT ALL, I mean so far all three of his cousins are girls. He has a friend at daycare and they have "kissed" each other on the face and I don't care one bit, at his age 21 months it mean only love and if it meant that he did in the end be gay that wouldn't bother me at all. I dont' think tho it's a good idea to totally keep a sex secret. I may in the end do more damage to this child. Storm is now in the news and talked about. When Storm goes to school he/she will hear people saying things like "oh that's that kid that didn't know the if he/she was a boy/girl". I feel like we need to stop putting the pressures on boys and girls but I'm not sure if this is the way to go about it.

Lisa - posted on 05/27/2011

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The parents are confusing the issue. Technically a baby is determined by their gender being male or female. A child decides their gender identity meaning are they feminime or masculine.
I think it's sad. Instead, they should embrace the wonderful life and raise the child to be strong and simply love and respect who they are as well as who are others are.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/27/2011

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I doubt there are many families out there where the mom's and dad's still conform to stereotypical gender roles. Heck my own parents don't even conform and they were raised in the 50's.
My daughter knows she's a girl and yes she loves pink, Hello Kitty and Disney Princess. But she also plays non traditional girl stuff. Heck I used to dress my brother up in our mom's clothes and he wore my nightgowns (which caused our grandma to say his name was Joan instead of John) but he knew he was a boy. He's also married and he and his wife are about to have a kid of their own.
I also have to wonder if the mom's trying to take out her anger on her mom because she has such an out of the ordinary last name... Witterick? Is she thinking FML?
BTW, I'm guessing Storm's a girl.

V - posted on 05/27/2011

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Is Witterick a male? I think the child will figure out what it is by the time it is in preschool. I think life is complicated enough, that it isn't neccesary to make the child figure out what they are. It's pretty sad.
I think you should be proud of what you are, male or female.

Lucy - posted on 05/27/2011

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they are the parents n can decide what they want but the truth is that will not change the biological gender of the child so no harm.

Jenni - posted on 05/27/2011

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It is a bit extreme. I do want to eliminate as many gender specific attitudes as possible for my children. I don't want my children to feel they have to conform to social classifications of gender roles. BUT... I think forcing them to go sexless is a little too progressive for this day and age. I could see this backfiring on the parents. Fine for now but as their child gets older and becomes independent he/she may resent their parents for any hardships he/she may endure because of their decision.



I've known a few girls and boys when I was growing up who were convinced they were the opposite sex. They didn't need any influence either way to know *who* they were. But the thing is; we have a difficult time telling the difference between "SEX" and "GENDER". (As Amber pointed out). I think it would be more appropriate to support their choice if they make it on their own accord. I just don't see the point in refusing to name a child's sex. You can let them decide for themselves what 'gender' they prefer to be without denying their sex. Like most children, they will probably enjoy activities, dress, attitudes of both gender roles. Supporting your daughter in playing football, supporting your son in playing barbies. That is the way to breakdown gender roles.



And that is the key point I'd like to make; sex or 'lack there of' does not have to determine gender roles in society. When Storm ages he/she will KNOW what sex they are and will still live in a society that differentiates between gender roles. There is no protecting your child from social norms, stereotypes, ideologies... short of locking them in the house for the rest of their lives. This child will see that girls dress a certain way and boys dress a certain way. They will come to their own conclusions on comformity despite the efforts of their parents to deny him/her their sex.

It is just too progressive for today's society. I appreciate the sentiment... but I don't think it's going to make all that much of a difference once their child hits 6 or 7 years old. If they are teased then they will reject their parents even more.

Allowing their child to assign his/her own gender is still classifying them as a 'gender role'.



I'd prefer my children to understand that whether they are a boy or a girl they can still enjoy the same things as the opposite sex. They don't have to conform to their gender roles.



@Brenda... well, that's not entirely true. They do have operations and hormone pills for that.

Brenda Michelle - posted on 05/27/2011

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I agree that the parents are setting Storm up to be bullied & very much frustrated. That is so sad. Parents are supposed to offer positive guidance & instruction. God created us to be man or woman. We don't have the option to choose unless one is a hermaphrodite. BTW its ironic the name that they've chosen for this child is exactly what they are creating in the child's life !!

Kristin - posted on 05/27/2011

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Sounds like to me it is a parents cry for attention. Somebody needs to hug them and tell them it's going to be okay. I agree with everyone on here who thinks this is ridiculous.

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i have no prblm with gender neutrality. the things that have been associated with either gender have changed and flip-flopped through time. BUT there are differences btwn (most) males and females, even the way the brain is "wired". so i agree with not making ur children conform to a societies way of thinking. my daughter can play sports, get dirty (all while wearing a dress usually) and wear what she wants...but she is a girl with a vagina and there is no denying that.

Katherine - posted on 05/27/2011

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The major difference is raising a child without a gender, not a child who can be gender free.

Truth - posted on 05/27/2011

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Wow! This is so inappropriate. Children look to the adults to gain their gender identity. Another case where adults are treating their children like adults. Children do not have the brain maturity to understand their parents choices and they cannot live an androgynous life.The consequences of this will affect their children for a lifetime.

Mary - posted on 05/27/2011

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Children need affirmation from the adults in their life as to what is reality. I grew up without good affirmation or clear gender specification and it affected my self image for years. While I understand that these parents want the best for their child, the child still must function in society. Give your child the tools to be successful. Help them know who they are clearly by reflecting that back to them. Affirm that you love them unconditionally and that your love isn't dependent on choices. That is the job of parents.

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This seems like a sound concept to give your child more choices, to a point. However I do believe in being proud of who you are, and whether you're a boy or a girl, at some point in life it's better to embrace what you are then try to be something you aren't.

Mary - posted on 05/27/2011

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what the fark? who are these people?

So when the kid is6 and he wants to wear a dress (or some other example) will kids not tease? what about when they are 13 and she grows breasts or his voice breaks, would it not be confusing? what a load of bollocks.

You cant go round being what or who you want whenever you like. it just doesnt work like that in the real world, u cant have it both ways Im afraid.

Priscilla - posted on 05/26/2011

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I think that they are making their children's lives harder. It is great to teach gender respect/equality but there are extremes that are absurd. I have a little boy and if he wants to play with dolls, that is fine, but if he wants to wear a dress I am going to tell him "no, that little boys don't wear dresses." Part of being a parent is helping them discover themselves but another part is giving them the tools to function in society at large. There are social norms and, in most cases, men who wear dresses to job interviews are not going to be hired. And there are differences between men and women. It is just biological. So I think that the idea is just bizarre.

Debra - posted on 05/26/2011

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If you had a girl,than let her be one and same goes for the boy. You shouldn't change whats been given, ever

April - posted on 05/26/2011

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I think there trying to hard to be open minded!..Our children need our guidance too!

Joanna - posted on 05/26/2011

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Quoting April: "Have you ever looked at how little girls act? They carry purses, want to paint their nails, carry their dolls, etc. Those things are not taught, they are natural"



My little girl has never cared about any of that... She is not a doll or purse girl (although she likes when I paint her toenails blue.). My daughter has preferred playing in the dirt, holding bugs, lizards, and snakes, and watching football, ever since she was a tiny tot. So these things aren't "natural", they are just things that are either interests to the child or are taught by parents/peers. We let her do what interests her. And dolls are not it.



I also wanted to add a tidbit... In her preschool picture, she is wearing the same thing as 2 boys in her class... A blue polo shirt and jeans. She was proud of the outfit she picked out and liked matching her friends (most of whom are boys).

Amber - posted on 05/26/2011

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Gender is NOT sex! It has nothing to do with your private parts. Nor did the parents said that child wouldn't know about it's physical sex.

They said that they aren't making their child conform to society's preconceived notions of what boys and girls "should" be.

Gender, for example, is what type of toys they play with (trucks vs dolls) or color schemes (pink vs blue). Society says trucks for boys and dolls for girls. THAT is gender; it is social, not physical.

Kate - posted on 05/26/2011

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And what happens when the kid points at it's privates and days what is this??????????
And until the child is at an age to pick the clothes it want, then what to the parents dress the child in to make people wonder the sex???
It seems to me slot more hassle than it's all worth, POINTLESS

Kate - posted on 05/26/2011

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Children have parents for a reason! This is to guide them in life and raise them to be confident, responsible and independent!! This makes me angry, because unless the child is guided as to what is right he/she will end up emotionally scared and as that true story was told, probably killing itself! It is cruelty to the child to let them just figure it out what sex it wants to be.

April - posted on 05/26/2011

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This has to be some sort of a joke... right? I mean seriously, we are all born either male or female. It has been decided and it is not up for discussion.
Have you ever looked at how little girls act? They carry purses, want to paint their nails, carry their dolls, etc. Those things are not taught, they are natural.
I think this is really sad and really disturbing. I hope that these people and everyone on this board allows their children to grow up knowing who God created them to be and allowed to be confident in that rather than questioning everything including things that a child should never need to question.

Tina - posted on 05/26/2011

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studpidest thing I've ever heard. If the child decides it's not happy being a certain sex when it's older that's one thing. But this just sounds rediculous. What parent denys a child an identity what are they calling the child it.

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I think that it doesnt have to be as extreme as keeping the sex a secret. I totally support the idea of letting kids just be who they are and not have to follow and gender specific guidelines. I have always let my daughter be who she is. Sometimes she wears pink and sometimes blue. She plays with dolls, trucks, dress up, sports, everything that would be interesting to someone just figuring out the world and all the things in it. one day she asked me-- mommy are you a people?--i said yes and we talked about it for a minute. then i asked her what she was, and it was so cute when she said--im just a kid mommy. And she is right! But she isnt just a kid to me. She is my everything, my smart, beautiful, silly 2 year old Kamryn. And she will always be that to me and I will always love her no matter what kind of decisions she makes.

Amber - posted on 05/26/2011

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The way I see it, we celebrate individuality and differences in general. Highlighting the differences in sexes creates issues and stereotypes.

I have already agreed that they weren't going about it in a way that I would. But to say that parents who remain gender neutral will cause extinction of the human race is making this a much bigger issue than it really is.

As I said, I truly don't understand why this is such a big deal. Odd? Sure. Something so far out in left field that it can't be understood? Not at all.
Quite frankly, I don't think it would be an issue if the world weren't so hung up on who we're supposed to be, as opposed to who we actually are.

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I specifically stated how my family doesn't conform to normal stereotypes. I think that we need to be proud of the differences in gender because we are men and women for a reason. These parents are creating an issue with gender. Not avoiding an issue with gender.

Amber - posted on 05/26/2011

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So....if you don't conform to typical gender stereotypes then you won't be able to have children and the human race will die out?

You can be heterosexual and still identify more with the opposite gender. And if you identify with the same gender, there are still options. Sperm donors, surrogates, orphans, unplanned pregnancy resulting in adoptable babies, and foster children are some of those options. The human race isn't dying out because parents are going gender neutral, that's absurd. It's just as extreme an idea as their experiment is.

I really, truly don't understand how a person can't be proud of themselves for WHO they are instead of what's between their legs. Why does it matter so much?

When I look at my life, I'm proud of my parenting style, my volunteer work, my college degrees, and other things of substance that I've accomplished and have given me a strong, loving character.
I don't look in the mirror and say "Wow, I hope everybody remembers me as a woman when I die."

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For some reason this is really bothering me. First off, what percentage of people are unhappy with their gender or are gender confused? Maybe like 1%. So it seems to me like they are making this an issue where it probably wouldn't be otherwise.

Second, whats wrong with being a man or a woman? I am proud to be a woman, I find it a great honor to bear children and mother them. I have never felt like there was something I couldn't do because I am a woman. Yesterday I wen't out in the garage and built a raised garden bed with my husbands power tools. I did it all by myself. My husband cooks and he has also used my sewing machine (he made a quilt for his mom). I LOVE the differences between men and women, I think those differences make two people one whole. Women are strong in areas men are weak and men are strong where women are weak.

Letting a child make decisions and become their own person is one thing but I really think not giving them a gender will take away part of their identity.

What do I want for my kids? I want them to be hardworking, honest people who will be an asset to their communities and families. I want my boys to grow up and be proud fathers, and glory in that role. If I had a daughter, I would want her to be proud to be a woman and glory in her role as a mother. These are things to be proud of. If my children choose a different path then becoming a parent I will respect their choice and love them no matter what. Bottom line I want them to be proud of who they are.

If men weren't men and women weren't women the human race would die out! Maybe it will with people with this attitude. People who are making gender an issue instead of teaching their children to be proud of who they are. Be proud to be a woman or a man and proud for all that it means.

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OMG! I feel sorry for the poor children in the Stocker's family! I cant think of a better way than to get attention, then to pull a stunt like this! Grow up people and quit screwing up your kids! The poor child will be scarred for life! Way to go mom and dad!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 05/26/2011

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Uh what now? Sorry but that's just strange and it doesn't seem like a good idea. Letting the child choose his or her own clothing is one thing, but letting the child choose which sex is quite another. Besides isn't it bad enough that the kid has to go through life with the name Storm?

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