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I have been a "sleep coach" --- believe it or not :) I've been paid to teach moms to get their kids to sleep well! I'm more concerned with babies and moms' well-being than with my bank acct., so here is the big secret:
Unless your baby is preemie or sickly (in which case, by ALL means,FOLLOW DR's ORDERS) DO: FEED Baby at 6am, 10am, 2pm, 6 pm, 10 pm and NOT 2AM. Or, 7am, 11am, 3pm, 7pm,11pm and NOT 3AM. Either way, DO NOT ALLOW them to eat 1 drop except at those times 6,10,2,6,10 or 7,11,3,7,11. Period. They may have all the water they want. (They won't want very much if any, but it will make you feel better knowing they aren't dehydrated.) Sounds crazy but read on, please.
You will find within 10 days or possibly fewer, that your baby is the happiest baby in the county. This is simply because suddenly he isn't getting small snacks here and there, small naps here and there and then more small snacks here and there throughout the day/night. That can be confusing to Baby and to the digestive system and everything else. It is also HARD on Mom--nursing mom or not. He is getting a "large" meal every 4 hours, like clockwork, so guess what? His tummy digests like clockwork and his "timer" for sleep/play/eat gets set, like clockwork. ALSO, your um, boobs get set like clockwork!
I was basically the human pacifier for my firstborn for 6 weeks; going crazy, rarely slept, hardly ever even got dressed! Then I went to Dr. Denmark (who is 117 years old and on whose grave I will DANCE! :) She asked me how I was feeding the baby. I answered "Why, on DEMAND like all the books say!", thinking it was a foolish question. She very emphatically said, and I'll never forget it---, "DEMAND FEEDING MAKES FOR A DEMANDING BABY!"-- It was before Dr. Phil and, "How's THAT working for ya?" She was right. I went home; tried it, had a few good nights then a couple of terrible ones (crying like mad, ---both of us!) but then on Day 10 (hear the angel chorus?!) she slept from 12 to almost 7 am!!!!! 7 HOURS, which was nothing short of miraculous! For the previous 6 weeks, it had been a great night if I got 3 & 1/2 or 4!
From that day on, she rarely cried at all. It was night and day---no pun intended--- and she was SO happy! My boobs filled to capacity at 7, 11, 3, 7 and 11, every day, very noticable--just like Dolly Parton! There was a MEAL in there! Baby was getting meals rather than snacks. The mirror and bra told the tale and so did Babies' attitude. Another benefit was no more gas to speak of, unless I had beans or tons of acid like Orange juice and coke, etc.
Dr. Denmark's theory is that all those tiny doses of milk don't work thru if they don't get digested before another trickle or another larger snack comes down the gullet. They sort of ferment before they go on, and they blend with the new dose of milk. I believe it all. Everyone really saw the difference. I trained my baby (and my boobs) in 10 days. THANK YOU DR. LEILA DAUGHTRY-DENMARK! I love you!
I am not trying to get anyone's $$. Notice I didnt put a phone # nor any advertisemant whatsoever. I am not out to help ME. All of my kids are grown slept thru the night within 2 wks, afetr the 1st, who slept thru after 6, no thanks to anything I was doing! :) Really, Mom's, I just wrote it because it helped me and it helped my kids sooooooo much. They were very content and happy and rarely cried. They cooed and grinned most of the time, in fact. I firmly believe the reason is the schedule. It's one of those things that's sounds whack-o but the proof is in the pudding. If what you are doing is working, though, GO for it! If you are having trouble, prayerfully consider this or you may want to try BABYWISE books. They aren't quite so stringent in their scheduling. I for one, see "freedom", while nearly always WONDERFUL, can sometimes lead to a whole other kind of bondage. WAIT, easily freaked out people, PAUSE. Read carefully: What I mean is, sometimes, say in 3rd world countries, you see traffic as a free-for-all. Get there however you are able! No lights, no cops, no stop signs, any old vehicle ( or yak!) will suffice! But it leads to utter chaos. On the other hand, often times, some simple rules and structure, will lead to the opposite of chaos. Although we tend to think of RULES as binding our FREEDOM,
sometimes they actually give us our frredom. Traffic lights, stop signs and law enforcment serve you much better, in the end, than trying to drive around in a snarled free-for-all in an "anything goes, may the best man win" 3rd world country. That's all I'm saying about scheduling. And, as stated in the 1st paragraph, by alllllll means, if your baby is premie or sick in any way, PLEASE FOLLOW DRS. ORDERS or at least consult your physician. Happy zzzzzzzzz's.