Amber - posted on 03/21/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )
We had our little guy about 9 mths ago. First Grandchild for both of our families. However we both come from divorce parents, so there are 4 set of grandparents. ANyways there is one set of the grandparents likes to tell us what and how to do things for OUR son. We let it go until now. They are married through the common law. SHe never had her own child, she does have three step-children.
So today what had happened... I was shopping with these grandparents and uncle when grandpa took off into the mall and grandma came to look for me and told me that they are going into the mall with my little guy. I just rolled my eyes and walked away. Well grandma said that I need to "stop being like this Im tired of it and he (my little guy) is ours too!" I told her "no he is ours (me and my fiance`s) and he is YOUR grandson, we decide what and where he goes and does. You both need to ask before you go and do something so I know where he is." by the way she was YELLING in the middle of the store where I was just talking to her. well Grandpa was coming back into the store but grandma didn't like what i had said so she went to him told him that they are leaving and left, while they gave little guy over to his uncle, who saw everything that happened.
I analsys this after, what really made me mad was that she said he (our little guy) is theirs, not becasue Grandpa took him out before asking me. At least I knew who my son was with. It would just be nice to be asked first since I am the mother.
So what I am asking here is two things: 1- Do I have the right to tell her that? I know its wrong place and time.
2- How can I make it clear that they mean alot for our sons life but we get the final say or we get to decide NOT them.
Thank you for all your help and suggestions in advance!!