GROW UP KATE & JOHN!!!!!!!

Lisa - posted on 06/23/2009 ( 32 moms have responded )

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I think Kate & John are VERY selfish.... They brought 8 wonderful children into this world & cant even give them the curtsy of having 2 parents together!!! GROW UP KATE & JOHN!!!!!!!

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Terri - posted on 06/23/2009

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I was saddened that they did not try counseling. Perhaps they did and we aren't privy to that information which is certainly their option, but if they did, it could not have been for too long. It is always sad when a family is torn apart.

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Libby - posted on 07/01/2009

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I really don't think we can judge their marriage/divorce based upon what the media is sharing with us. I don't even think that even though they have given us some information and made an announcement about it that we can make any speculation based upon these tidbits. Some things are just private and while this family is in the public eye we can't judge them on their choices based upon what we know when I'm sure there is so much that we don't know. I also don't think their situation (having 8 children) make it any sadder or more tragic as compared to another family that has 1 or no children. I think we should all just concentrate on our own situations and perhaps learn from others' mistakes.

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As a divorcee who raised 3 children. I say if you can't get along divorce is what to do. If a parent is going to be responsible they can do it divorced as well as married. Easier if your married true but not impossible. With 8 kids, which was crazy in its self, surely they both realize they are still responsible for the children's well being?

Jasmine - posted on 06/30/2009

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this is helarious!

divorce is more common than parents who are still happly married i was taken back by finding out my finace mum and dad were still together its so common to hear of split families. im from a split family and i turned out fine infact i think if my parents were to stay together it would have changed my respect for my parents and my up bringing! my parents are complete oppisites and i cant imagine what life would have been like if they were still together. i for one would no i wouldnt be happy and i no how happy my mum is now with my step dad and i grew up looking at those two and always wanted to find love like they have and i did! not to say i want that for my kids no one would but reality is it happens i would much rather my children and my 3 step children to be educated on it being acceptable than feeling that there not normal and frowned apon by others im like a best friend to my step daughter and 2 step sons and as hard as it can be sometimes i love them so very much and there very excited and happy to see daddy happy and our baby girl that arrives this september my step daughter cant wait to meet her little sister that to me is the best thing we both could give them! i dont agree with sticking together for the kids, kids shouldnt be exposed to constant arguing what is that teaching them to disrespect your partner and direspect yourself and that its ok to do so i dont think so!!!

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I agree that I was disappointed they didn't try counseling and it is sad that they are splitting up. But even without the "show", their odds weren't great. I saw a statistic not long ago about the odds of parents of multiples staying together....can't remember the exact odds but they weren't good. I just hope that they can work out some kind of schedule where the kid's lives don't get any more disrupted than they already are (with the papparazzi freaks hiding in the bushes and all). Secretly, I hope that somewhere down the line they will reunite...but that's just me being a hopeless romantic. I don't think they are being selfish though, no more than any other person would be in their situation anyhow.

Cathy - posted on 06/25/2009

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My issue is Kate's controlling, obsessive, drill sergeant parenting style. She is extremely rigid and uptight and the kids are going to either become just like her, or start rebelling against her. Jon was a better role model for them, I think, because he wasn't so anal about every little thing...I saw an older episode today with Kate screaming and running around in sheer panic because one of the younger kids got gum on his sock...and another episode where she flipped out because they were eating icecream and it was dripping on their clothes - I thought she was going to have a heart attack right there, the way she was acting. She seriously needs some therapy before she passes her frantic, melodramatic ways onto the kids (although I think it may be too late for the 2 older girls) Sad.

Jennifer - posted on 06/25/2009

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Quoting Sadie:

ah right still dont have a clue lol



They are off the tv show... john and kate plus 8!  a couple who have 8 children... 2-4yr olds and 6-2yr olds I think!

Tracee - posted on 06/25/2009

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I don't watch the show because the one or two minutes I've seen while channel surfing is just stupid and boring. This show and many like it need to be off of TV. After going through an unwanted divorce I know how hard it is and I don't think anyone needs to place judgment on either one of them. For those who don't have multiple kids (say over 4) we have no way of understanding how hard it is for either parent. Are they both selfish, no doubt, but no one is a victim here, just end the show and be done with it!

Amanda - posted on 06/25/2009

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Divorce isnt always a selfish act. Thank god they splitting up, those poor children are learning how NOT to have a relationship. Kate is abusive wife, and if it was Jon behaving like her, you all would be screaming how he abuses his wife, and how she needs to leave, but because its a woman being the abuser, many people turn a blind eye, or even make up excuses for her behaviour! It is not acceptiable! If she behaves like that while cameras are on her what does she do when they are turned off? I also believe she is nasty to her children, I understand raising 8 kids is stressful, but they have nannies, and a lot more help then the avg mother does, yet she still can not stop herself from treating her hubby or children like animals. Get this family off the tv, and force Kate into parenting classes and anger management!

Jaime - posted on 06/25/2009

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Really, why judge them. I am sure that what happens in there relationship happens in alot of other's relationships but we all don't see it because we are not on a realtiy TV show. I personnally could not even imagine having 8 children, trying to provide for them keep my home clean and tidy, and have time for each one of the kids?

I like the show because we see the kids grow up, experience new things and see alot more of this world than all our children will.

Taryn - posted on 06/25/2009

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I definitely agree with you that they are selfish. They care more about their public status than they do about trying to work things out for the sake of their kids. I understand that sometimes people just can't work things out, but I think what makes me the most disgusted is the fact they chose publicity instead of their children!!

Nina - posted on 06/24/2009

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It is so sad that the dynamics of a good relationship which begins with: A man needs respect and a woman needs love, was definitely void in the relationship. I usually do not pick sides, but Kate showed a general lack of respect for her husband and she is so guarded and controlling, he could not possibly show affection towards her. Kate seems to have some real emotional baggage which she brought to the marriage. I know he is no angel. But being treated like a child and discredited in front of millions would wear on anyone.

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One of the best things that any two parents can do for their kids is to love their spouse. Every marriage is hard, but every marriage is worth it.

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Wow, how quickly we all become so judgmental. Regardless of what we "saw" or "heard" there's always 2 sides to every story & theirs is no different. We need to walk a day in their shoes before we can sling judgment their way. My heart goes out to any parent faced w/a divorce whether or not there's 1 child or mutiple, tv "celebrities" or not. They're still real people faced w/difficult decisions and both seem to be making their children a priority. Stop your judgments & hope for the best for all of them.

Krista - posted on 06/24/2009

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They can't even stand to be in the same room together anymore! That's not a marriage worth saving! I think they're doing the right thing! Staying together "for the kids" is a stupid reason, because they wouldn't be doing the kids any favors by staying miserable together and trying to pretend that everything is okay. Sometimes divorce is the best thing for a family...marriage doesn't always work out and some people just shouldn't stay together.

Jenni - posted on 06/24/2009

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sadie, they're a reality tv show family... (soap opera) but they have really cute kids! lol

Angela - posted on 06/24/2009

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Divorce happens, It is so much better for a child to know that his/her parent loves them no matter what... and to not be put in the middle of fighting all of the time. It is best when a couple is happily married, but if you have ppl cheating ect., then it's time to go it alone. I know that for me having gone through it twice, raising my kids on my own is far better than staying with a man who is acting like a selfish child and treating the mother of his children badly, with words and actions. All children deserve to have a positive example. If one parent wants to bail, then it is better to bail and leave the kids in a stable environment on one parent, then the caos of two unhappy fighting adults where verbal and emontional abuse is going on. There is no way someone can act the way Jon and Kate "seem" to behave towards each other and have their kids be okay in the long run if they continue their pissing match.

Jenni - posted on 06/24/2009

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personally, if i were Kate and not only cheated on but publically humilated by my partner... no amount of marriage councilling would help me to fall back in love with him... and i DO NOT believe in staying together "for the kids" if nething staying together will do more harm than good... the kids will NOT being happy or well adjusted in a home where their parent aminosities towards each other...

my partner has a child from a previous relationship where they fought constantly and every time she got mad she would run off and cheat on him with random guys she met online... so should he have stayed with her for the sake of their child and both of them be completely miserable? would that have been a good example for his daughter to grow up with? that it's normal to be unhappy with the person ur with?

now she is with someone that is a really good guy and treats her well with 2 children of his own from a previous relationship and she is doing great... she even went back to school... and as far as we see they get along far far better than my partner and her got along... she is happy

as for my partner and i, he is far happier with me and we get along great...

and as for us and her, we alll get along very well! so i believe it's better for their daughter to see us all happy and to be in happy, loving environments rather than a hostile one

Ashley - posted on 06/24/2009

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divorce happens everyday. why is it ok for a normal family to split because of whatever reason but just because they have 8 kids they shouldnt split. i personally think they should. she's a b**** who treats him like shit. and what's she showing her kids? that it's ok to treat our partner like a peice of crap, completely belittle him infront of how many people. i say good for him, i hope he finds someone that treats him better and hope he's finally happy in life.

Jenni - posted on 06/24/2009

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well i dont blame them for splitting... why would anyone stay together when they are miserable together... isn't that a terrible lesson to teach your children????? that you stay with someone even if ur unhappy with them?

how is that a happy home to raise children in?

i wouldn't stay with my partner if he cheated on me and we didn't see ne way of working out our issues.... so i can pretend everything is ok and lie to my kids?

staying with someone and *faking* being happy with them for the sake of ur kids is lying to ur kids... you dont think kids *know* that ur unhappy? is it healthy for kids to see their parents fighting all the time?

yes i know... you should always try to work out ur problems first but if you can't get past them and you can't see urself ever falling back in love with ur partner b/c of what has happened between the two of you then there is nothing else left to do but split... unless you want to lie to ur children and live a fasade

Jennifer - posted on 06/23/2009

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Quoting Jo:

LMAO I can't believe that anyone actually gives a rats ass.

Who cares! I'm sorry, but just cause they have 8 kids doesn't mean they have to stay together! If they can't be civil together then they are doing what is best for those 8 kids by seperating. Whether it's 1 kid or 8 kids or 12 dozen kids.... people change, people grow in different directions, and if Jon wants to be a 32 yr old college guy, and Kate wants to be a writer and they can't get along together then they sure aren't helping those kids by staying together and being miserable.

This is kinda the whole idea behind them gettin sick of the TV show too... people care so much about their lives now that people who have no clue except what they read in US Weekly think they have the right to be MAD at them, tell them to grow up, critisize them for making decisions in their lives.

Whether they get back together, whether they divorce, whether the kids end up as presidents or drug dealers, it's gonna happen one way or another - mom & dad arguing together or mom & dad civil apart - I'm gonna say the latter is the better of the 2 evils.

If they stayed together for the kids and faked it - how the hell do you think those kids would feel in 10-15 years when they are all grown up and Jon & Kate divorce and say "we stayed together for the kids"? Even more so, these children will be living EVERY DAY, with it being DOCUMENTED, the whole entire world seeing it... just to be told the happiness was FAKE! Anyone who thinks them staying together for the kids is a good thing, I think you need to grow up. I think anyone who is telling them to grow up, needs to grow up.


I agree wit this lady!  Its real people making REAL decisions with thier life! not someone elses opinion on how they need to live!

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LMAO I can't believe that anyone actually gives a rats ass.



Who cares! I'm sorry, but just cause they have 8 kids doesn't mean they have to stay together! If they can't be civil together then they are doing what is best for those 8 kids by seperating. Whether it's 1 kid or 8 kids or 12 dozen kids.... people change, people grow in different directions, and if Jon wants to be a 32 yr old college guy, and Kate wants to be a writer and they can't get along together then they sure aren't helping those kids by staying together and being miserable.



This is kinda the whole idea behind them gettin sick of the TV show too... people care so much about their lives now that people who have no clue except what they read in US Weekly think they have the right to be MAD at them, tell them to grow up, critisize them for making decisions in their lives.



Whether they get back together, whether they divorce, whether the kids end up as presidents or drug dealers, it's gonna happen one way or another - mom & dad arguing together or mom & dad civil apart - I'm gonna say the latter is the better of the 2 evils.



If they stayed together for the kids and faked it - how the hell do you think those kids would feel in 10-15 years when they are all grown up and Jon & Kate divorce and say "we stayed together for the kids"? Even more so, these children will be living EVERY DAY, with it being DOCUMENTED, the whole entire world seeing it... just to be told the happiness was FAKE! Anyone who thinks them staying together for the kids is a good thing, I think you need to grow up. I think anyone who is telling them to grow up, needs to grow up.

Heather - posted on 06/23/2009

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I to was sad to see them annouce they were separating and wish they would also try counseling. I think in my opioin that it was more than John could handle and didnt say something before all these babies came. But it to late now and should be thankful they were able to have more. But any ways I just think he is immature and kept saying I'm only 30 so what your still a father and need to make right choices for the kids and not for him self. Did anyone notice he has ears pierced and dresses like a college kid. I think I read rumor also he was looking at a apartment in Trump tower wow. Maybe he needs to save that money for college or be a grown up and buy a house.

Sabrina - posted on 06/23/2009

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The only thing that I liked about the divorce agreement was that the kids will not have to go from house to house. And with the way the paparazzi is lately that is good. The house they have protects the kids from pics and they can enjoy their lives. And besides being able to stay at their home with only one parent it will be just like the other is on a business trip. Which they are already use to. I think that Jon was too young to handle the stress right now. Thigns seemed to go down hill after he quit his job and I'm sure she had a say in that. His job was like his release from everything. It is sad that the kids wont have both parents at the same time but I think it is better then having two parents fighting all the time. Thye dont need to be around that.

Sejal - posted on 06/23/2009

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I am really disheartened with that thought that Jon and Kate are going to seperate...it is definitely their personal issue but it will deeply affect the psyche of the 8 wonderful kids that they have...they will never have enough of both the parents...I think they should revise their life plans for the sake of their beautiful children.

Erica - posted on 06/23/2009

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so sad. Eight children with eight different emotions......my heart goes out to them.

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