Guardian for Court

Danielle - posted on 02/22/2010

He told me she does have a room, and he does have males there. They smoke and drink and are in college and those come hand in hand these days it seems. His girlfriend thinks she is my daughter's other mom but she has only seen her once and it is all over her facebook how she is the best thing that has ever happened to my daughter Emma, and Emma's dad has it all over his facebook how he is the best dad in the world. His whole family thinks they know everything there is about her, and that they can control what I do with her. I have talked to the court house about changing the guardian but they say it can't be done because she was appointed

Sandra - posted on 02/22/2010

Overnights at his place? Would the baby have a room? Are the two roommates male? How does the girlfriend feel about his baby? With all the recent babies in the headline news, you would think a guardian would agree to more strict guidelines regarding taking your baby into not only your baby's fathers life but his roommates and girlfriend as well??? My friend had stipulations to her baby's dad being able to have his child overnight in his home such as her own room and no other males there! Take him back to court for the child support or call the state child support....if he is military they should take it out of his pay automatically...do you have any documented proof regarding any incidents regarding his anger/violence etc? If you do, take it to court girl! Is it possible for you to contact the guardian's boss and talk about changing the guardian??

Isobel - posted on 02/22/2010

I had a child advocate (guardian) during my court case...it was a nightmare...my ex is pretty charming, and she tended to believe everything he said (she pretty much ended up thinking I was the devil and that my ex deserved custody) thank god he had crazy work hours and the judge could see through his bs, cause otherwise that tool would have given a drug addict loser custody of my kids.

Danielle - posted on 02/22/2010

We were never married and the only experience he has had with her is at his mom's house. He did take me to court for visitation and he gets everyother weekend for five hours on saturday and sunday. She was not breastfed because I couldnt. He does only have day visits, but when she goes there she has anxiety and does not eat and just screams the whole five hours she is there. The guardian is saying that when he leaves his mom can have his visitation which I do not mind, but she will be having a baby in may and overnights would not work. The guardian is pushing a lot for overnights and she is not visiting his house but his mom's and is not going to visit his place, and i know she will be going there. Her dad has two roommates and a girlfriend that live there. I keep saying how we should wait for legal custody and physical custody until he comes home, and she keeps saying how if he wants her to have her last name she should. The guardian does not seem to care that he is abusive and has anger, drinking, and drug problems. I also do not think he should be entitled to benefits because he is not a good father, and he seems to think that everything should be his way and he can change the parenting time to whatever he wants. He also has not paid for a single thing for her, even though he has a child support order and does not pay it. He wants to be a father without the responsibility. His name is on the birth certificate because he signed the recognition of parentage, but when he came into the hospital he said where do I sign my life away? I am just really worried and do not know what to say to the guardian to make her listen.

Corine - posted on 02/20/2010

I would love to make some suggestions but I would like some more information. The first question is if you weren't married does the fathers name appear on the birth certificate? Is he taking you to court for custody or visitation? I would like to say that if the guardian is pushing for the last name to be changed to his it could be so she is entitled to benefits from being his dependent (in a sense) since he is in the military. I would voice your concerns to the guardian and ask her for her reasoning behind some of her suggestions, and understand she is trying to make suggestions that are in the best interest of the child. I am not trying to upset you just trying to give you another point of view.

Samantha - posted on 02/20/2010

im not really sure what your situation is but i dont think you should do anything your uncomfortable with. if you have custody you have the right to say no. Do what you think is the right thing. And dont let anyone make you feel bad for it.

Amanda - posted on 02/20/2010

Where you two ever married? If not there is no need to change your babys last name if you dont want. As for over nights, is your baby breastfeed? Does your ex have any experience with babies? Does he know how to make a bottle, or change a bum? Sorry for the strange questions, but in the middle of the night these are pretty important skills needed to keep care of a 4 month old. Personally I dont think any child under 1 needs to be away from mommy for a night, but on the other hand the father has rights to their child too. Can you speak to him about just day time visits for now, until you are comfy with over night visits? He can even have her for the weekend, just drop her off at bed time and you drop her off the next day in the morning.