Has anybody else read the Love and Logic Magic for early childhood? I just finished it and I think it is awesome! I just want to know if anybody is a love and logic mom and has had success, Anybody?
Mary - posted on 03/21/2009
I haven't read that one, but I am a teacher, and I use the Love and Logic philosophy in my classroom. I did the Love and Logic in the Classroom program at my last district and after 28 years of teaching, I know it to be the most honest, and kid-empowering approach I've ever seen. I have no doubt the parenting books are much the same!!
Angela - posted on 03/21/2009
I haven't read that particular book, but I am familiar with other Love and Logic books by Jim Fay from a teacher standpoint. I have even taken his training which is also wonderful for parents to participate in. I could listen to him talk all day long. He makes everything sound so easy and it is easy to put many of his common sense strategies to work.
I like much of his work about avoiding power struggles with giving choices and natural consequences. For instance if the child wants to go outside but doesn't want to wear a coat because it is chilly, instead of engaging in a shouting match that gets nobody anywhere- offer this: Would you like to wear your coat or carry it outside? This gets the child thinking about making a choice which fosters the control and independence for himself and you win too because whatever option he chooses is ok with you. Your goal was to get him to take the coat. The natural consequence happens when he gets outside and realizes on his own that it is kind of cold out here, so he puts on the jacket and leaves it on! No power struggle at all. When kids are given boundaries that allow them a little freedom to participate in what happens in their world, they really come to have a great amount of respect for you because they realize you are playing fair with their best intentions at heart.
As a former teacher, I have worked with all age groups from 2nd grade through 5th grade. (ages 7-11) His ideas let the student feel like they have some control and independence over their decision making. They also learn to be accountable for their actions, thus creating responsible little people over time.
I have a 15 month old now, so I will definitely have to pick up a copy of the book you suggested! Thanks!
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