Has anyone else been pregnant and VERY angry!

Joanna - posted on 07/14/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I get sooo angry all the time. Usually at my husband and I don't want to be kissed, hugged, or even looked at. Even if I take break and go for a walk I'm angry as soon as I see him. I'm 21 weeks pregnant and he blames it on the hormones and says I just need to suck it up because he's not going to stop touching or kissing me. We have a 21 month old daughter and I get frustrated with her too but never angry. I love my husband but it seems like everyday I wish I could hurt him. We have no sex life and sometimes I even end up sleeping on the couch so he doesn't touch or cuddle up on me in the middle of the night.
Has anyone else ever felt like this before? What should I do?

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Jenna - posted on 09/03/2012

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Omg I'm 6 months pregnant I don't understand myself I feel crazy all the time I'm always fighting with my husband for him looking at other girls and I don't know if that's. Normal I feel like I wanna hurt him and the people around me I feel like I'm going to explode I get extremely dramatic and cry over every thing wich I later find ridiculous and I justy sometimes feel depressed and really confused :-(

Sarah - posted on 07/16/2010

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I feel your pain but i think mine is more that i have problems with how my husband is behaving! he works 10hrs a day and will sometimes work 6 days a week (hes only working 4 days/week now due to the factory not needing to be going 6 days) when he isn't at work he is on the comp playing an online game! i'm talking about 4/5hrs a day and on his days off its over 12hrs! which leaves no time for me to spend quality time with him! so i get mad that i'm basically being ignored and am treated like a roommate and not a wife! he says he'll get off the comp more if i stop getting mad about it but its a cycle that we both need to stop what we're doing for it to work! i have had alot of problems with my pregnancy... nothing serious but we've come close and when i've tried talking to him about it he just tells me to suck it up! he doesn't see that i need his support and that my horomones are going crazy! i find myself getting mad more and more everyday! i wish my husband wanted to cuddle and kiss... at least then i'd feel loved and feel like he wasn't ignoring me!

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OMG, I thought I was the only one! I mean I am like WWF cage fighting angry! For my 2nd baby I remember being in a store and the woman in front of me was doing a price check on 9 things & all of a sudden I got the urge to want to body slam her, then I giggled in my head knowing I was so pregnant again.

Once my husband threw away my strawberry jam & I was ready to explode over it. I am not the type of pregnant woman who wants to cry over things at the drop of a hat like I hear about, I wanted to punch people.

When I would feel angry I knew I was not being rational & I would make myself laugh over how worked up I was getting over some thing so simple, silly, or stupid. I would cool off & try to avoid blowing up, which I could normally manage to do.

Also with my 3rd pregnancy I have all the same symptoms again, but I am hyper aware if I become angry because I never want my children to think it has any thing to do with them, I never want them to think I am angry at them so that allows me to really come back down to earth very quickly now.

Kathy - posted on 07/15/2010

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Yeah I was a bear with both of my pregnancies. No touching-no kissing-no sex. Being pregnant was all I could handle. Afterward, I was much better and thank goodness my sex drive returned. My husband was understanding and good at deflecting. Of course it was his fault because he got me pregnant LOL Hang in there-you won't be pregnant forever.

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I agree anger is a form of depression & my OB told me they are realizing more & more that depression starts before the baby is even born in a lot of women. Did you have "baby blues" with you first? I was sad & angry with my family while I was preggo too, which seemed so odd because I was so excited to be having another child. I was depressed after my first two kids so I knew I would be with my third too, they sent me home from the hospital with a script for an anti-depressant that has really helped me. I'm sorry but tell your hubby he is the one who needs to "suck it up". You have all these things happening to your body and 9months is a long time!! Hang in there when you start to get angry try to think of the sweet little baby who will be a perfect mix of you & your hubby & is so worth going to hell & back for :)

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Heather - posted on 08/02/2010

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You described me to a T when I was pregnant! It didnt change either until about 6 months after I gave birth.....

Joanna - posted on 08/02/2010

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Thanks for helping me understand that I'm not alone on this one. My husband is still calling me crazy, which of course makes me even more angry, but I'm hoping that when this baby is born I'll return to normal. (or as normal as can be with a toddler and a newborn. lol) I'm just trying to keep in the back of my mind that so many other mom's have felt this way and that it's okay, every pregnancy is different. Best of luck to all of you.
Remember to breath and take it easy ladies!! ox

S. - posted on 07/16/2010

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i'm 28 weeks and i'm finding i'm not as angry as i was a few weeks ago but i am no were near a normal person, i actually feel sorry for my family for having to live with me. some times i'm angry and theres no reason for it at all. with my first two i was happy bouncie and glowing but with this one i feel like crap most of the time, i am also suffering depresion so that don't help and my husband don't understand what so ever.
i'm thinking it will pass fingers crossed when i have had the baby x

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Yep, I can sympathise. I breezed through my first pregnancy without many side effects at all so the hormonal mood swings with this one have been a complete shock. I think it is usually directed at your partner because they are the ones you have the strongest feelings for (in reverse) otherwise, except of course your children but then the "Mummy Instinct" kicks in and doesn't allow you to misplace your anger on them. I feel dreadful because I have an absolutely WONDERFUL husband & I know I am being totally irrational but I can't help it. I just hope it goes away afterwards.

Nikki - posted on 07/15/2010

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My husband used to call me me Miss clap on clap off. because I would go from HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY to bawling my eyes out then to SCREAMING RAGING MAD then back to Happy again, by the time he would clap his hands, my moods would change. Im an emotional person, I cry at commercials even to this day, im pretty happy all around and I can get angry but when i was pregnant all those emotions were intensified by a 100 and nothing could help me, thats one thing I do not miss from my pregnancy at all.......

Joanna - posted on 07/15/2010

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I have this crazy case of pregnancy rage with my current pregnancy. Everything bothers me. I'm even extra sensitive to noise. Sometimes our neighbor kids will be playing (not super loudly or at a weird hour, just playing like normal kids) and I want to scream at them to F@&% off, haha. I don't, don't worry, but I don't know why noise bothers me so much now. And most things my husband does sends me into tiny fits of rage as well.

Danielle - posted on 07/15/2010

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I'm right there with you...31 weeks pregnant with our second child. With our first I had a huge sex drive, this time it's pretty much non existent...I miss cuddling but I'm always so uncomfortable in the heat or just feeling sore in general that I can't stand being touched. I feel totally guilty about it but I can't control it. I had the baby blues after delivery with my first too so I know it's only going to get worse for a while after I deliver my second.

Diana - posted on 07/14/2010

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I was the same way when pregnant and we had 3 children. I felt so bad for him (after the baby came); but I was just miserable when I was pregnant. Nothing mad me happy, I was uncomfortable. Some woman just have problems with the hormone thing going on. I don't know what to tell you to do; because nothing helped me. I just wanted you to know you are not alone.

Kelly - posted on 07/14/2010

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Hi Joanna, im 25 wks pregnant and i have a ten yr old son. Im angry 24/7 at my partner, the worst thing anyone can say is to suck it up, the mere male doesnt understand what our body is going through, i get that bad that ive tried packing his bags and told him to get out, i have found that if i give him an hour a day of affection and explain in males terms how im feeling he usually leaves me alone.
I put it down to depression with what im feeling, depression has many ugly heads that can have alot of different symptoms my best advise would be to talk to your midwife or dr about what your feeling they are there to help, it's not an uncommom problem and dont feel embaressed to ask for help. I hope that has helped

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