has anyone ever experienced an ongoing pregnancy after a termination? were there any complications

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Kerryn - posted on 06/11/2009

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Just to clarify, i did not want to have a termination i was pushed into it. I want to keep my baby i just want to know if there will b complications after the procedure that happend 7 weeks ago.

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Marina - posted on 06/21/2009

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I've read all the replies to questions and goodness, thank God for all the great moms in this world who know how hard and fulfilling being a mother is. I am very happy to hear that you and your baby were given another chance at life together. Enjoy.

Megan - posted on 06/21/2009

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sorry kerryn I did not read further I'm so happy your baby will be ok take care and my prayers are with you

Megan - posted on 06/21/2009

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sorry kerryn I had to post a quote to Tammi who had to put her negative two sense in on your situation Im so sorry about what you are going through I think initially you made the right decision you know whats best for yourself a woman goes with her first instinct my view on this now is for some reason it wasnt successful the first time. you now are at a point to do it again but it is going to be very painful for you and you need to think can you handle this emotionally because there is a big difference between 9wk abortion and 16 wk abortion. Have you thought about adoption. I feel for you I really do!

Megan - posted on 06/21/2009

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Quoting Joy:



Quoting Tami:

Im so sorry that you decided to kill a baby and then now have to live with that for the rest of your life. The repocussions of the abortion is minimal to a death sentence.


wow Tami its hateful people like you that actually need to take a reality check on life for you to tell this woman she was killing a baby and the repocussions of the abortion is minimal death sentence you are wrong the reason for circle of moms is so us mothers can give love and advice and be supportive to eachother so just like the other person whom made a comment to you if you want to debate this take it to antother forum you do not know the pain this woman had just simply making this decision you need to take a look at the bigger picture ...what about the women who were a victim of rape incest or simply knew they did not have the means to support a baby and did not want to raise a baby in poverty. I hope you really think about what you said because that was absolutely hateful and sick and that right there is not a true christian take a walk in that womans shoes!


 

Julie - posted on 06/16/2009

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Hi Kerryn,

it seems like this got a little out of hand and like you said you just wanted to see if their would be any complications after. I don't think there should be although there is always somebody who will have complications but in this day and age it is rare, although your body will go through changes like you have had a child especially if you are over three months gone. I do feel for you that people including my self have jumped on the band wagon and gone totally off what you were asking and hope you do well in your life, you will go on to have other children xx

Lydia - posted on 06/16/2009

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Kerryn

What wonderful news! I hope it all goes as smoothly as possible for you. Congratulations... :)

Kerryn - posted on 06/15/2009

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Just an update......



I received the rsults to my first Ultrasound and the baby is grossly normal, there is a growth in the placenta, however it will not effect the baby. My first Antenatal Appointment is this thursday, will let you all know how i go.



I do thank everyone for the help and support with this issue.



Regards,

Kerryn

User - posted on 06/13/2009

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God knew you didn't want to lose this baby.Praise Him for intervening with the procedure.I think your child will grow up to be a fine person. God must have a work for him/her to do:) I am adopted and I am always so thankful my mom did not chose abortion. ( I'm glad to be alive) I hope things go well for you!!

Amanda - posted on 06/13/2009

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God is giving you a second chance. Be greatful and pray that your baby will not suffer any damage to the limbs or any other damage. everything happens for a reason and if your baby did not die than it is intended to be on this earth.

Good luck, I hope you will raise your baby with good intentions. I dont agree with abortion but I do agree with second chances and you have been given one hell of a second chance.

Rhonda - posted on 06/13/2009

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Quoting Kerryn:



Quoting Rhonda:




Quoting Kerryn:

To User,

I said yesterday to my family, if it is a little girl i am going to name her Destiny Hope





Just a suggestion to think about...if it's a boy you could name him Destin Chance. (for a second chance at destiny...)    :o)






Hi Rhonda,






 






I do thankyou for your suggestion as i have been racking my brian for a fitting boys name and i think i now have it, Destin Chance is a fantastic name!!!






 






Thankyou Kerryn






Kerryn,



I am honored that you have decided to use the name!!! I debated on even suggesting it, feeling it was a bit intrusive on my part because that's such a personal decision and you didn't ask for help with a name. I hope you will keep all of us updated on how you are doing and let us know when Destin arrives. Praying for you!



Rhonda

Tamara - posted on 06/13/2009

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My theory is that things happen for a reason. God has a reason for your unborn baby to still be alive. Put aside what others feel or think and ask yourself how you would feel if this baby isn't kept. Keep it!! If the baby was supposed to be terminated then it would have been more successful than it was. Your baby is a big blessing from GOD! don't let anyone pressure or make you do something you don't want to do. You have your own mind and feelings about the situation. and if the doctors haven't found anything wrong with your baby then that is a bigger blessing. either way problems or not you are blessed to have another child. some women can't have children of their own. so keep thinking forward and care for the new baby to the best of your ability. if your hubby didn't want you to keep it then forget him. he was being a jerk and should want the unborn baby too. Good luck and may God Bless you in your life.

Kathy - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Joy:




Quoting Tami:

Im so sorry that you decided to kill a baby and then now have to live with that for the rest of your life. The repocussions of the abortion is minimal to a death sentence.







Soooo, Tami, you must know EXACTLY what it's like to be Kerryn.  Right?  I mean, since you feel like you have the right to pass such a judgement, then you must know all the ins and outs of her life, her situation, her reasons, you must be her best friend right?  I'm so glad people like you take it upon yourselves to be the conscience for us all......thank GOD we have you to be our moral compass.  Oh, and in case you didn't catch it....that was sarcasm.
This is one of the things I can't stand about Circle of Moms.  People like Tami, who use these boards as their personal forum to pass judgement on others.  Tami, do you know how to read?  If so, then read the original question again.  She was not asking for your opinion or view point on abortion.  She was asking if anyone had ever experienced what she experienced.  Why did you feel the need to say what you did?  It's not a debate about abortion.  It's people like you that ruin forums like this.  If you want to have a debate over the rights and wrongs of abortion, then START YOUR OWN TOPIC. 







 





Well this was the first post I saw since joining Circle of Moms - got the shock of my life actually .....seeing Tami's comment that is!!! I can't believe how similar Joy's post is to what I would have written!



I have found that those like Tami who are quick to judge situations in such a black and white manner just haven't had enough life experience to realise there are many shades of grey!!!



Being a new user, just curious....why can't I see Tami's post directly off Kerryn's post - does this mean it has been deleted?



Kerryn - we can only do the best we can with the situations we find ourselves in. It sounds like things are beginning to work out for you and I wish you all the very best!

Maite - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have heard of this happening and you are now left reevaluating your position. I'm sure your going through all kinds of emotions. You will be in my prayers. Good luck and be strong

Kerryn - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Rhonda:



Quoting Kerryn:

To User,

I said yesterday to my family, if it is a little girl i am going to name her Destiny Hope




Just a suggestion to think about...if it's a boy you could name him Destin Chance. (for a second chance at destiny...)    :o)



Hi Rhonda,



 



I do thankyou for your suggestion as i have been racking my brian for a fitting boys name and i think i now have it, Destin Chance is a fantastic name!!!



 



Thankyou Kerryn

Ashleigh - posted on 06/12/2009

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I will be praying for God to guide you as well as your pre-natal care specialists. i bet this baby cures cancer someday!!!

Rhonda - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Kerryn:

To User,

I said yesterday to my family, if it is a little girl i am going to name her Destiny Hope



Just a suggestion to think about...if it's a boy you could name him Destin Chance. (for a second chance at destiny...)    :o)

Pamela - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Sharee:

someone in my family had an abortion & 6 months after that b/c her belly kept growing she went back to the clinic & they gave her $ back & told her she was preg. & to go to her local hosp. & get an ultrasound b/c they could of sucked a limb or something off in the abortion process,but there was nothing wrong w/ the baby.She's 14 & healthy now.


I bet the lady in question really appreciates her lovely teenager now - sometimes things happen for a reason!

Pamela - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Sharee:

someone in my family had an abortion & 6 months after that b/c her belly kept growing she went back to the clinic & they gave her $ back & told her she was preg. & to go to her local hosp. & get an ultrasound b/c they could of sucked a limb or something off in the abortion process,but there was nothing wrong w/ the baby.She's 14 & healthy now.


I bet the lady in question really appreciates her lovely teenager now - sometimes things happen for a reason!

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Kerryn, I really feel for you, especially in the situation you find yourself in. It is your life and you should do what you feel is right for you. My younger sister (20) has a 5 month old, and when we found out she was pregnant our mother wanted her to have an abortion. My sister personally thinks that abortion is murder and didn't want to do that, but my mother kept at her about it. My husband and I made it very clear that we would be there for her no matter what she decided to do, but ultimately it was her decision. So the best advice I can give you is to do what you feel is right for you, because you are the only one who will be living with your decision. Good Luck, and I will pray that you find the answer that you need. Gloria

Vanessa - posted on 06/12/2009

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I also have never had any experience with this exact situation. I have learned a lot though by reading everyone's posts. I would say to consult with a physician that you trust and have some tests done to ensure that both you and the baby are okay. Having been through a divorce while pregnant I can understand the stress and hurricane of emotions. Take the time to find someone to talk to that you can trust. You need someone to vent to and to help you find your way to a new life plan. Going through that process is very empowering and will help you believe in the future again. Good luck:)

Pamela - posted on 06/12/2009

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I have never faced the dilemma and personally would only have an abortion if it were for the safety of either myself or my child however I think every woman has the right to choose as long as it is very early in the pregnancy. I had two babies and because of pressure from my father (I was a young bride and mother) I took his advice and decided not to have anymore children at the ripe of age of 21. I had an IUD inserted in my cervix which was at the time quite a reliable form of birth control. I was later to find to my surprise that I became pregnant with the IUD still in place. The doctor removed the IUD and said I would lose the baby but against all odds the baby survived full term and to my delight I had a 10lb 7oz baby girl. I was so thrilled because I really wanted another baby but didn't want to disappoint my father. My husband was also thrilled as we are today awaiting that little baby girl's 2nd child in 6 weeks time. I'm now 55 and my daughter is now 30 with a little boy aged 2 ,pictured in my profile photo with me. I hope she has a girl this time! Sometimes procedures don't work for a reason, in my case it turned out wonderfully!

Sharee - posted on 06/12/2009

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someone in my family had an abortion & 6 months after that b/c her belly kept growing she went back to the clinic & they gave her $ back & told her she was preg. & to go to her local hosp. & get an ultrasound b/c they could of sucked a limb or something off in the abortion process,but there was nothing wrong w/ the baby.She's 14 & healthy now.

Tiffany - posted on 06/12/2009

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you can always request for a level 2 ultrasound which they takes their time to see the babys body part and etc are in well healthy shape and etcs. Also congratulation with the pregnancy.. this baby is a miracle of hope. .. such a cute baby name you have for a female. God bless and congrats.

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Hi Kerryn,
I pray there are no complications for you and the baby. God will bless you and this baby regardless of the circumstances. He is by your side if you just lean on Him. I had an abortion a little over 12 years ago and I still regret it to this day, but that was my choice. I know I am forgiven because God is a wonderful God. I pray blessings to you and your family. God may just have a special purpose for your child! :)
God bless!

Tara - posted on 06/12/2009

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If you've made it the additional 7 weeks and an ultrasound showed the baby to be healthy, I don't see that you should have any further complications. If you are concerned, definitely ask your doctor for a blood workup and another ultrasound to determine if there might be any difficulties for the baby. Sounds like the baby was very determined to stay with you, so I think that both of you should be okay :)

Holly - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Kerryn:

To User,

I said yesterday to my family, if it is a little girl i am going to name her Destiny Hope


Kerryn,



That's a beautiful name and very fitting.  As far as your original question, I really do not have any answers because I do not know anyone who has been in this situation.  I will certainly keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  I know this situation must be very difficult.  Take care. 



 



Holly



 

Holly - posted on 06/12/2009

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Quoting Kerryn:

To User,

I said yesterday to my family, if it is a little girl i am going to name her Destiny Hope


Kerryn,



That's a beautiful name and very fitting.  As far as your original question, I really do not have any answers because I do not know anyone who has been in this situation.  I will certainly keep you in my thoughts and prayers.  I know this situation must be very difficult.  Take care. 



 



Holly



 

Karly - posted on 06/12/2009

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i think that if the abortion didnt work that baby has happend for a reason unknown to any one... i hope it all turns out the right way for u.

Jennifer - posted on 06/11/2009

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WOW! A lot of interesting responses. I have never even heard of this before. I guess something’s are just meant to be. Keep us posted and best luck to you and your family.

Gayle - posted on 06/11/2009

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Kerryn, all I can say is God has a reason for all things that happen to us. I am not for abortion but i will not condemn as I am not their judge. God may have other plans for you and you were meant to go ahead and carry this baby. God knows and understands. Put you hand in His and He will help you through this.

Cherylyn - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hi Kerry.

I had the same thing happen to me, I was around 9 weeks pregnant and already am a single mum of 4, so I decided the best thing was to abort, and yes I sturggled with it emotionally and after I did it, was wracked with guilt. I got the pills called cytotec I did it and waited, I was rushed to hospital and they did a scan saying th cervix was opening and the heart beat wasn't very strong, so they sent me home and after a couple days the bleeding stopped as did the clotting etc. I went back to work and tired to move past what I had done, anyways by the June I still felt ill and bloated and went for a scan which showed the baby was 14 weeks and his heart beat was strong as ever, I ahd to go for fetal anomily scan to make sure to damage was done to the baby from the pills and he is fne, now 6 1/2 months old and a real little angel.



I say everything happens or a reason, and as hard as it is to manage, be it financially or otherwise, there is always a reason why these things fail. take care

;o)

Belinda - posted on 06/11/2009

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Kerryn,

good luck with it all and I hope none of this has deterred you from aproaching this site in the future.

Belinda

Kerryn - posted on 06/11/2009

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To User,



I said yesterday to my family, if it is a little girl i am going to name her Destiny Hope

Cindy - posted on 06/11/2009

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You've gone 7 weeks just fine, i would think that since it was unsuccessful there won't be any further complications, however please be sure to continue with prenatal care as long as you do remain pregnant. It's possible you may suffer from a problem with your cervix, which can be a complication of abortion to begin with, and have nothing to do with the fact your termination wasn't successful. In terms iof growth the baby survived, and will be just fine barring any normal complications of pregnancy.

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Sounds like this little one is a survivor and I would count him/her as a blessing. I just watched a speach given by a woman that survived a late term saline abortion in the 70's. She is a survivor and I think this baby was meant to be. Regardless of your circumstances I think this one wants to be born. Think of the love you have for your 8 month old and ask yourself if you could kill him/her. This little one might be what you need.

Rhonda - posted on 06/11/2009

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Quoting Julie:

Listen at the end of the day there is no right and wrong it is down to the individual and I agree make your own topic and stop hurting people and think before you speak. Perhaps I should not bring religeon in to it but I am a psychic medium and although we all have choices if a baby is aborted or the lady has a misscarrige it is because the baby was not ment to be on this earth and would have lived it lives, The baby will continue to grow in Spirit and will still be around the mum what ever decision she decided to make, this would have all be known in the spirit world before the lady even got pregnant...


Julie,
Not speaking of this matter only, but at the end of the day there IS a right and wrong unless one is an athiest or agnostic. I don't believe that if a woman decides to have an abortion, that means the child "was not intended to be on this Earth..." It simply means that it was a choice SHE made, not God. Wow, that's justification for 'ya.



 



Kerryn,



I'm sorry Kerryn, that you were even in an overwhelming situation to start with where you felt termination was necessary. It must have been a difficult for you to do. Even though I feel it is a wrong decision for anyone to make, I still am not judging you. Everyone just has one opinion or the other and nary the twain shall meet.



I'm afraid I don't have an answer to your original question posted but really wish you well and hope everything turns out positively for you and your children.



 

Julie - posted on 06/11/2009

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Listen at the end of the day there is no right and wrong it is down to the individual and I agree make your own topic and stop hurting people and think before you speak. Perhaps I should not bring religeon in to it but I am a psychic medium and although we all have choices if a baby is aborted or the lady has a misscarrige it is because the baby was not ment to be on this earth and would have lived it lives, The baby will continue to grow in Spirit and will still be around the mum what ever decision she decided to make, this would have all be known in the spirit world before the lady even got pregnant...

Julie - posted on 06/11/2009

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Quoting Joy:



Quoting Tami:

Im so sorry that you decided to kill a baby and then now have to live with that for the rest of your life. The repocussions of the abortion is minimal to a death sentence.





Soooo, Tami, you must know EXACTLY what it's like to be Kerryn.  Right?  I mean, since you feel like you have the right to pass such a judgement, then you must know all the ins and outs of her life, her situation, her reasons, you must be her best friend right?  I'm so glad people like you take it upon yourselves to be the conscience for us all......thank GOD we have you to be our moral compass.  Oh, and in case you didn't catch it....that was sarcasm.
This is one of the things I can't stand about Circle of Moms.  People like Tami, who use these boards as their personal forum to pass judgement on others.  Tami, do you know how to read?  If so, then read the original question again.  She was not asking for your opinion or view point on abortion.  She was asking if anyone had ever experienced what she experienced.  Why did you feel the need to say what you did?  It's not a debate about abortion.  It's people like you that ruin forums like this.  If you want to have a debate over the rights and wrongs of abortion, then START YOUR OWN TOPIC. 





 

Julie - posted on 06/11/2009

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Hi Kerryn, did you mean like a twin pregnancey if so I know two people who lost babies but went on to have a healthy baby and that was the twin that was left and another friend was actually carring triplets and she lost two but still kept the one and had no problems, hope this answers your question,



Julie x

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Quoting Tami:

Im so sorry that you decided to kill a baby and then now have to live with that for the rest of your life. The repocussions of the abortion is minimal to a death sentence.



Tami, you are most certainly entitled to your opinion.  So how does your hurtful comment HELP the original poster?  Why not skip over this thread insted of making another mother feel shitty?  Shame on you!  You're immaturity shows volumes.  Don't like the topic, don't reply!



 



To the original poster, I am so sorry you are gonig through this.  Whatever personal choices you made is your decision.  Please surround yourself with friends & family to help you during this difficult time.  If possible, begin seeing a family counselor/therapist  or social worker to help you sort out your emotions and feelings.   I wish you the very best.  If you wish to email me to talk or vent, pelase don;t hesitate to do so.

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Quoting Tami:

Im so sorry that you decided to kill a baby and then now have to live with that for the rest of your life. The repocussions of the abortion is minimal to a death sentence.



Tami, you are most certainly entitled to your opinion.  So how does your hurtful comment HELP the original poster?  Why not skip over this thread insted of making another mother feel shitty?  Shame on you!  You're immaturity shows volumes.  Don't like the topic, don't reply!



 



To the original poster, I am so sorry you are gonig through this.  Whatever personal choices you made is your decision.  Please surround yourself with friends & family to help you during this difficult time.  If possible, begin seeing a family counselor/therapist  or social worker to help you sort out your emotions and feelings.   I wish you the very best.  If you wish to email me to talk or vent, pelase don;t hesitate to do so.

Brandi - posted on 06/11/2009

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No doubt that you have a lot of stress. Do you have have family or friends that can help relieve some of the it? Are you a member of a church? If not, this may would be a good time to go call one. There are women who would be willing to help you and to listen to you. It sounds like right now, that you need someone that can listen. When I read your comment, I felt compelled to help. I have a six month old and 2 other children, so I know the stresses that come with that. During my pregnancy, my husband and I argued. There were times, that I wished that I was not pregnant. I almost hated the fact that I was pregnant. Today, I am ashamed with myself for ever feeling that way. But, back then, the feelings were real. Though you did not want to have this baby, this baby wants to live. He or she is a little fighter and I hope that you reconsider. Adoption is something to think about. I know of two families that are families because of being able to adopt. You have so much to think about. I will be thinking about you.

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Quoting Tami:

Im so sorry that you decided to kill a baby and then now have to live with that for the rest of your life. The repocussions of the abortion is minimal to a death sentence.


Soooo, Tami, you must know EXACTLY what it's like to be Kerryn.  Right?  I mean, since you feel like you have the right to pass such a judgement, then you must know all the ins and outs of her life, her situation, her reasons, you must be her best friend right?  I'm so glad people like you take it upon yourselves to be the conscience for us all......thank GOD we have you to be our moral compass.  Oh, and in case you didn't catch it....that was sarcasm.
This is one of the things I can't stand about Circle of Moms.  People like Tami, who use these boards as their personal forum to pass judgement on others.  Tami, do you know how to read?  If so, then read the original question again.  She was not asking for your opinion or view point on abortion.  She was asking if anyone had ever experienced what she experienced.  Why did you feel the need to say what you did?  It's not a debate about abortion.  It's people like you that ruin forums like this.  If you want to have a debate over the rights and wrongs of abortion, then START YOUR OWN TOPIC. 

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Hello! I am so sorry to hear about what has happened with you. These decisions are so heavy and when you make them and they don't work it can be triply devastating. I have to say that a similar thing happened in my family. I have a family member who was conceived AFTER her mother had a tubaligation (evidentally the egg was in the tube) and then survived a termination in which her twin was terminated. It is an incredible story and she is an amazing, healthy person. I have learned that most terminations only cover 80% of the womb. I write simply to let you know you are not alone and, whatever you decide, it may just be the universe's way of telling you your decisions are important. Wishing you all the best...

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ps- She's since gone on in life to become my old high school's principal and continues to make a difference in teens lives to this day! :)

Daniellebaker604 - posted on 06/11/2009

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In fact I have heard of this happening before! Believe it or not my highschool teacher was the baby that this happend to! She was born and her Mother chose to put her up for adoptoin (which she is thankful for the wonderful family that raised her///and even met her mother later in life) She turned out fabulous! In fact was a lasting impression on me in my teen years. She is a living breathing example of what happens when we allow what we may be trying to decide on our own terms...and allowing 'destiny' to take its course :) I could go on...but im sure you can get the pic :)

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