Has anyone had their tubes tied?

Tracy - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 207 moms have responded )

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I am currently pregnant with my fourth child and am 27 years old. All my children were planned but I think I am done now. I am really worried to have a fifth and am considering having my tubes tied. (After baby is born of course). But I have heard good and bad stories about it and am terrified to have surgery. My husband is going to have a vasectomy before the baby is born (due in 7 weeks) but I've heard about some couples still getting pregnant years after getting snipped. I've already tried numerous birth controls over the years but have such terrible side effects that I just can't handle the pill. I am considering an IUD but am thinking maybe something more permanent should be done. Has anyone else had their tubes tied and would you recommend it?

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Jennifer - posted on 05/11/2010

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i had one done after my 3 child. then my marriage failed since then i have met a great guy that has no children and i wish i have never had this done.

Angel - posted on 05/11/2010

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Yes I have had mine tied twice!! I had them tied after my third child was born then had them put back together(Tubalplasty) , in order to get pregnant again which worked. After my forth child was born by c-section I had them tied again and my forth is 10 years old. I have also recently had the Novasure procedure done to cut out my period all together. Good luck with your decision and the birth of your baby.

Wanda - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied after my fourth child... when I was 30. I didn't have nor have I had any complications from the procedure. I am glad that I did get the procedure. Raising children is a very demanding position in life. Four was quite enough for me.

Angela - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied after our 2nd child, A little bit of pain for a few days, but very effective! I got pregnant both times on the pill, so this was a great decision for us. Now I do not worry about it and do not have to take the pill anymore:)

Ann - posted on 05/07/2010

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hi there i had my tubes done when i was 25 it was a very big thing to me as i had already had 4 live births but had had alot of miscarrages contreception didnt work for me in any way i can only say it can be very painfull for some people and a few years later i really wished i had not had it done it was very hard to cope with also it made my periods very un stable there was no monthly cicule at all which the forced me at the age of 30 to have a it all taken away so please be very sure that this is what you really want as there is no going back when its done as for your chap i would also say the same to him be sure its what you both want and you no that you will have no regrets later in life i would probubly just use a condom and try another form of contriception as there is so many out now i here that the implant is very good but this came out after i was done hope this helps ann

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Christine - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have not had my tubes tied. I am looking into perment birth control. I talked to my doctor. I'm now planning to get the Essure. It works like getting your tubes tied but no surgery. its done in the doctors office. check it out www.essure.com

Kathryn - posted on 05/11/2010

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I am going to have my tubes tied at the end of my current pregnancy. I had a c-section with my daughter and was told that I would most likely have to have a c-section with this pregnancy. Most women that I know that are willing to have their tubes tied is because they have had and are going to have a c-section. If your husband is getting taken care of, I think that should be enough unless you have to have a c-section for your delivery.

Brenda - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied at the same age as you are now as well as having my 4th son.I had lots of trouble from it such as ; heavy flow, major pain( I was on pain killers for yrs), nerves were effected, I had 1 good wk a month. I have since had 2 go on birth control pills 2 regulate the flow and control the pain. I had to have a hsyterectomy abt 3 yrs ago, My advice is if ur husband is having surgery, then taht would be preferable. Good luck.Brenda

Melissa - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied and I love not worrying about birth control or any accidents. They can do it as an outpatient procedure and laparascopiclally so your down time is minimal.

Preet - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have three children and was done. I did not do well with the pill and with the IUD. I had my tubes tied immediately after my son was born. I had a C-section so I was already "open." The recovery then is all meshed in with the recovery after the birth of the child. I have heard that if you have a natural birth they do the surgery through the belly button but ask your doctor about the procedure. I do not know whether they would do the surgery at the time of the birth or how much time it would take to heal. All the best with the baby and take care of yourself.

TINA - posted on 05/11/2010

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Yes I did ! If U do it right after the child is born they can go thru the vagina . This is the easiest way , I had it done 10 years after my youngest one , I was out of work for 3 days & then back to work .was soar for almost 2 weeks . I am glad to have had it done ! no more pills , no more IUDS , spounges , condoms ,these things arent always 100% . GOOD LUCK ! I have had great luck with mine ! no more STRESSING !

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I had my tubes tied at 24 after my second child and c-section, the doctors wanted to be quite sure I was ready for something that permanent, said yes and had it done. I regretted it immediately but chose to accept what I did. Five years later I wanted more so sought out a reversal. Thousands of dollars later, and another surgery, we had two more, making all four c-sections. It has played a toll on my body. The TL alone caused other physical problems like mood swings, cramping. My husband had a V after baby four and we decided on that because it is now too difficult, life threatening really, to have anymore. Even if you don't think right now you will ever change your mind, I wouldn't do anything permanent because you never know, life changes all the time. A V for a man is also very sucessfully reversable, much more so than TL's. Best to you....

Melissa - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have had my tubes tied:) I have 4 children as well.I have no problems and if you talk openly with your dr about it there really are no risks and you should be fine:) congratulations on your baby :) miss

Beth - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had mine done when I was in the hospital having my second and final child. I was 29 when I had mine done. The only thing I notice different is you get heavier periods, other then that it you don't want any more kids this is your best thing. I know of men who have gotten "snipped" and if you don't follow up and double check it worked then you could have your 5th one. Good Luck

Karina - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have I was 28 year old . I have 4 children. I'm fine I did not have no weird side affects. I'm 34 now and I'm glad I did it becuase I would of probably had more kids.

Deborah - posted on 05/11/2010

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At age 39 after 4th child, (last 2 pregnancies were high risk of Pre-eclampsia), I decided to be sterilised. Did not want to risk another dangerous pregnancy.
The consultant was trying to advise me against sterilisation, as even with keyhole surgery, it is a much more invasive surgery for women. He recommended my husband have a vascectomy instead.
Anyway as it was all about the high risk of another pregnancy for me, so I opted for the operation, which I had 5 months after last baby born.
I was given lots of care and attention from start to finish. Operation was via a small incision through my navel and tubes were cut and clamped. It was a very quick recovery for me.
That was 9 years ago now, and i have not suffered any different period symptoms than before. Personally I felt very relieved to be sterilised.
As you are only 27 and presume have had healthy pregnancies, then I would not recommend to be sterilised. I would also not recommend the vascectomy so young. Best to keep your options open for a few more years, and use a reversable birth control, such as an IUD. There are a few different and if one doesnt suit another will.
Best of luck to you. Debbie

Donna - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had a tubal ligation over 4 years ago. It was done laparoscopically (two tiny incisions, less than a centimeter long) and was a day surgery done under general anaesthetic. I was told not to lift anything heavy for a day or two, but otherwise there weren't any postop restrictions. The belly button incision was slower to heal, but I didn't have any complications. My husband had gone for a vasectomy first but followup tests showed it hadn't worked.

Keep in mind that vasectomies can be reversed. If you have your tubes clamped that might be able to be reversed too, but probably a much more invasive surgery.

Amy - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have mine done almost 18 years ago and have not had any problems. I was sore and tender at first because I breast fed and Kevin laid right across the scar every time but that only lasted a couple of days. I was the right choice for me.

Lindsay - posted on 05/11/2010

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My doctor said he wouldnt recommend it. So we went for a vasectomy instead. My 4th is 8 months old now. I took the pill for the 1st 2 months after his surgery and then stopped. Good luck with your decision :o)

Renee - posted on 05/11/2010

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Yes, I have had mine done. Because I've had 2 out of 3 children with heart problems, and heart surgeries, and another with Muscular Distrophy and I don't want to have anymore disabled children. Yes, they are wonderful, but very very stressful.. I'm 41 So I'm also getting up there in age too..

Shanna - posted on 05/11/2010

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Here, where I live, Whitecourt, Alberta, Canada, they highly try to discourage you from getting your tubes tided. It's way too invasive. They recommend the "Mirena" IUD. They are quite expensive (around $400), but most insurance companies cover it. I paid $8 for the dispensing fee. They are good for 5 years, but they are thinking that they could last around 7 years. Anyhow, I highly recommend it.

Joanne - posted on 05/11/2010

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i had my tubes tied after my daughter was born. i would not advice the man to get anything done because most of the men i know tha t had vasectomy done ended up with proscete cancer,

Cavelle - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied 13 months ago after a c-section for my second daughter,I have had nothing but trouble since I had them tied,my menstrual cycle now lasts 12 days and very heavy,I do not recommend it but everyone is differant.I guess you need to weigh the pro's&cons of having it done versus another baby,the choice ultimately is yours.My obgyn said that factors relating to family history has no affect from one to the next but mine has had nothing but trouble too,I still had a tubal due to the fact that I didn't want anymore considering I was 35 when I had my first,I got pregnant when she was 5 months old.I didn't want to take the chance,I wish you all the best-Good Luck with your decision.tc

Agatha - posted on 05/11/2010

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Have you ever thought about what unnatural birth control methods REALLY do to your body? With NFP there are no side effects!!! No surgery!!! As well as it will help your Marriage grow stronger as you are working together as a couple to make decisions. If your husband is afraid that meens no sex there are only about five days in a month that you are fertile and need to abstain!!! through getting to know your body and how it works you can naturally prevent pregnancy. check out www.ccli.org. Hope this helps!! God bless!! I will be praying for you!!!

Stacey - posted on 05/11/2010

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had my tubes tied after the birth of my 2nd baby, wasn't hard to make the chose because i had a c section so they did it when i had my son. the recovery was not so bad good luck.

June - posted on 05/11/2010

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I tied my tubes almost 9 years ago. A day after giving birth to my third and last baby. If you don't plan on having any more kids, I would recommend having your tubes tied. If you have a C-section, they can do it at the same time. I had natural delivery so had to do it the day after. No complaints and no more pregnancies since.

Julie - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied at 23, after the births of two children. I do not regret having done so. I don't have to worry about unplanned pregnancies and birth control.

It isn't a decision to be taken lightly, though. My doctor counseled me to seriously consider my decision and whether or not I might consider another child at a later time.

As far as the procedure, I was tender and sore around the abdominal area for a couple of weeks. The procedure was relatively non-invasive. They went in through my bellybutton.

Laura - posted on 05/11/2010

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I gave birth with my third daughter 33 years ago. Had her around noon one day and had the tubes done the very next day. They were abe to do the bikini cut at my belly button. I haven't had a bit of trouble. I have never regreted it. As for your husband, still let him to his snip as a back up. Trust me you will both enjoy it.

Yolonda - posted on 05/11/2010

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i have three children and my last one is almost one i got my tied in sept. of last year .i was sore for about 4or 5 days but it wasn't a bad pain . they went in by my belly button and were i had my c-section at it was not bad at all.

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I had my tubes tied right after my fifth baby was born. I was 35. If I had to do it over I would have had my husband do the snip snip. Being put under is pretty serious and it takes time to heal. I think I am kinda angry that he wouldn't do it but yours is. I would check the odds of getting pregnant. It might not be as bad as you think.

Hailey - posted on 05/11/2010

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i have had mine done but like Rebecca i was having a C-section any way. i did read that they have newer ways of blocking your tubes without surgery, its a procedure where they put little springs in your tubes. here's the information sight you might want to talk to your doctor about that especially if planning a vaginal birth http://essure.ca/Home/WhatisEssure/tabid...

Marjorie - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have had my tubes tied and I was relieved. I however had mine done immediately follow my last C-section, so i was already opened up. I have never heard of men fathering children after a vasectomy. I think it is easier for your husband to do the procedure. It is quicker and less invasive for him than for you. Also I believe that is you change your minds LATER on down the road you can reverse the procedure.

Traycee - posted on 05/11/2010

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Instead of getting your tubes tied you should look into the Essure Procedure. It is a permanent birth control method without any cutting and only like a day or two of resting. My doctor only does the procedure on Thursdays so that you have Friday-Sun to recoup before Monday rolls back around.

Eradys - posted on 05/11/2010

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Hi Tracy!! I had my tubes tied 7 years ago and I can complaint. The doctors only made two little incisions one on your belly bottom and the other two or three inches down, at the end you go home with two bandages and the procedure is only 15 minutes. and my doctor tied my tubes in two places. After that you rest for two or three days. I haven't feel anything or had any pain at all. Good luck!!

Gwen - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied, it was a simple in and out procedure. I was 30 and made the decision not to have anymore children. The surgery is not complicated and the pain after is very minimal. The only thing that I have to say about it negatively is that I have notcied that I gain weight easier. That could be due to age as well. I have also heard that a vasectomy isn't always a sure fire procedure. IUD is a great method but its not permanent. If its fear of surgery that you are battling I wouldnt worry about that.

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After having my 4th I had my tubes tied. It was great, the hospital got me in the day after he was born, so I didn't have to schedule it at a different time. It was quick and the recovery was not any different the the recovery with my other kids. The only restriction was no lifting over 15 lbs. for 2 weeks, so I couldn't carry the baby in the infant seat, but since I had a stroller it wasn't a big deal. I did it because my husband had had a blood clot and it was much more dangerous for him to get snipped, then me.

Megan - posted on 05/11/2010

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I AM 30 AND HAD THIS DONE IT AWS NOT BAD i WAS ONLY REAL SOR FOR TWO DAYS THEN IT ALL GOT BETTER I ALSO HAD AN ABLASION DONE AT THE SAME TIME IT STOPS YOU FROM HAVING PERIODS MOST OF THE TIME i HAVE NOT HAD ON SINCE i HAD THIS DONE IT IS WONDERFUL

Shannon - posted on 05/11/2010

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reading a lot of these posts helped me come to a decision on if i want it done... this will be my second child and seems like i have had nothing but complications with this one... gonna tell my doc that if i have to have a c sect to tie them while they are in there... i know this post was to try and help you decide but it helped me as well, thank you

Danielle - posted on 05/11/2010

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I wanted to get my tubes tied also, but I was scared cause they said I could still get pregnant. They told me about essure.com you might want to go look at the website, the procedure is more effective than a tubal and there is no cutting or anesthesia.

LaVonne - posted on 05/11/2010

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I got my tubes tied when my son was 1yr. old at the age of 37. It was out patient surgery and it was virtually painless. I had my gallbladder removed at the same time. I was home in the afternoon. No heavy lifting for a few days. I had it done on a Thursday and was back to work on Monday.

One problem after tubal ligation, heavy, heavy menstrual cycles with bad cramps. A few years late I had an endometrial ablation. So now I have no cycle, but I still have the systems from time to time. I have a friend who had the same procedure and now she has very, very light cycles.

Dedra - posted on 05/11/2010

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I got mine tied 1/5/10! I have 3 boys (ages 7,6, and 8months) and knew there was no chance of me getting a girl, plus I am 30! I have had no problems since the surgery at all! I would only recommend it if you are ABSOLUTELY SURE you don't want any more children.

Lori - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had to have a c-section with my last child so I let them tied then. Had to problems whatsoever.

Kecia - posted on 05/11/2010

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Have you discussed this with your hubby? I had no problems after having a tubal ligation. it is not painful... minimual at the most... you might also want to discuss this with your gyn to see what they think.

Joyce - posted on 05/11/2010

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just get sterilised .it can be done when you have your baby .thats what.i.did .then you know you wont get pregant its more permant.good luck what ever you do .you fine thats easier.xx

Kayla - posted on 05/11/2010

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I'm only in my early twenties with my first child; however I remember when my mom had it done. They were removing a piece of her uterus due to cancer and with that done she wouldn't have been able to carry a baby so she didn't want to go through that all. It's been over 10 years and working fine so far. They have a new coil procedure that I saw on a show once; where they put metal coils in your fallopian tubes and the scare tissue that builds up around it blocks your tubes. It's as effective if not more so than traditional tube tying and it's not surgery at all (they insert the tubes through your vagina). You have to be careful for a month while the dcare tissue builds up but it will remain there forever after that.

Just might be omething to look into since it wouldn't require surgery! They also have a non-hormonal IUD that lasts for 10 years so you would need all of like 2 in your life and that's not so bad. It's called Paragard. Hope yout find the answers your looking for :)

Janet - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes "tied" when I had my son 27 yrs ago and have not had any problems. I was also 22 when I had mine done and the Dr had questions for me about the usual what if's but I told him I got pregnant with my son when my daughter was 9 months old and I am not doing that every 9 months. LOL If your Dr won't do it then I would find a OB that will do it for you.

Chantel - posted on 05/11/2010

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I have had a tubulication done about 11 yrs ago after having my 4th child. I am very pleased with the way things have worked out for me. I also had a small hernia remove while having the surgery done. I recommend it especially if you are truly serious about not wanting anymore children after your 4th birth. Congratulations on the birth of your 4th child. Trust me it is the best decision you could make more natural than anything else.

Sherrie - posted on 05/11/2010

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During my marriage counciling it was determine that my husband and I wanted two kids. I think knowing a head of time makes a big difference. I had my tubes tied after the birth of my second child,he was delivered C-section,so why I had to have surgery for that, why not get my tubes tied? Some people doubt having it done, b/c what if something goes wrong with the pregnancy or after the baby is delivered? I know my life and the life of my baby is in God's hands,so I had no reason not to believe I was doing the right thing. One of my close friends had her tubes tied by the same doctor as me and have been pregnant a couples times after her tubes were tied. Honestly it scared me at first, but the way I look at it-If I were to get pregnant-I would look at that third child as another Blessing from God. Best of luck!

Mary Jo - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had my tubes tied during my 4th c-section. It has been great. No worries about getting pregnant. I knew I was finished though. You have to know you are done for sure. I was older so it was an easy decision for me. I had my last baby at 38.

Jacsualem - posted on 05/11/2010

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Hello! I've had mine done back in 2003 when I was almost 23 yrs old. and now I regret!!! I just have 2 children and is so hard for me not to have another one. Just think about it very well because unless you have around 7,000 dollars to reconstruct them, is irreversible... Good Luck!!

Nicole - posted on 05/11/2010

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I got my tubes tied after baby number 3 and I didn"t have any bad side effects. I was a little sore for a few days but that is it. I am very glad I don't have to deal with birth control anymore!!! Hope this helps.

Christine - posted on 05/11/2010

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I had the titanium clips on my tubes shortly after the birth of our second child. I was 38, and had normal pregnancies and children, but knew for a fact I didn't want any more. The reason I did it instead of having my husband get snipped is because he was only 29 at the time. I figured if anything ever happened to me, he still had time to have more children if he wanted. We still don't regret the decision 5 years later.

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