Has anyone had their tubes tied?

Tracy - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 207 moms have responded )

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I am currently pregnant with my fourth child and am 27 years old. All my children were planned but I think I am done now. I am really worried to have a fifth and am considering having my tubes tied. (After baby is born of course). But I have heard good and bad stories about it and am terrified to have surgery. My husband is going to have a vasectomy before the baby is born (due in 7 weeks) but I've heard about some couples still getting pregnant years after getting snipped. I've already tried numerous birth controls over the years but have such terrible side effects that I just can't handle the pill. I am considering an IUD but am thinking maybe something more permanent should be done. Has anyone else had their tubes tied and would you recommend it?

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I had a hysterectomy. We wanted two kids and got two kids. I had considered getting my tubes tied because we didn't want any more kids, but then before I could get it done, I started having horrible pain from endometrosis and ademyosis.

Even though I knew surgery was the best cure, it still took awhile for me to mourn the idea of what will never be (if that makes sense). I was 32 when I had my hysterectomy. The doctor removed part of my cervix, my uterus, and one of my ovaries. They were able to save my other ovary to help prevent early menopause.

Looking back, I am so happy I had it done. If I didn't need it for medical reasons, I probably would have gone with the tube tying. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

Alea - posted on 05/10/2010

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I am 31 years old and my youngest just turned four. I wished that did'nt get my tubes tied. I now wish that I should of got an IUD. I've had so many problems with my period. But everyone is different.

Odebt - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had my tubes tied at 27 right after my last delivery. I had it done in the hospital while I was there for the birth. As soon as I recovered from the spinal they took me in and did general anesthesia, went through my belly button and did it. Anyhow, I am now 52 and have no problems, never had any problems and I am happy as a clam I had it done.

Julie - posted on 05/10/2010

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My tubes are tied. I had to have a c-section with my last one and while they were there they cut and tied them. I have 2 kids with a miscarriage in between and I wish I could have one more child but am 46 and with finances and the economy its just not wise. I will say this i have a piece of mind knowing I cannot get pregnant and I do not have to take any pills or hormones to stop it so it is freeing in many ways.

Jennifer - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had my tubes tied after my second baby. The process is easy and very fast. it only takes like a couple of days to heal up and you are good to go.my baby was about 2 months old when I had it done. So far no horrible side effects or nothing has happened. but then again, mine were carterized.

Tricia - posted on 05/10/2010

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I am considering the same. My oldest son is 2 and youngest son is 7 months. I am 23 and a military wife. I know I am young, but I had preterm labor with both boys, spent a lot of time in the hospital with the 2nd and he still came early. I don't want to put our families through that again, or myself, or risk my husband getting deployed and me being pregnant with possible complications. I was supposed to have the procedure done the day after my second baby was born but he ended up in the NICU and they recommended I not be under while he was unstable. I still want the procedure done, my husband also wants to get snipped as well. To me it's the most sure way not to get pregnant again, however I am now thinking about the IUD since it can lighten your period!

Erika - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had mine done after an unplanned pregnancy which I had terminated (I was practicing 'safe' sex but even so ended up pregnant). The procedure was simple and fast and I would highly recommend it for those who want a permanent method of birth control. I had 2 children when this pregnancy occurred and I was not ready nor wanted any more children, so for me it was the obvious solution since the pill was not working for me. The procedure was done through my belly button and so there was no scarring involved or even a bed rest or restriction required.

Whatever you decide to do Tracy, I wish you the best of luck.

Deb - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had my tubes cut,tied and burnt when my daughter was almost 3 she was my second and my last and she is now 21..Two was enough for my husband and I so the decision for us was an easy one.No complications as far as the procedure goes,tiny cut around the belly button and one down by the hairline.The only advice I would give is make absolutely sure you never want any other children.Best of luck to you and your family and I hope your labor and delivery go smoothly and that you have a happy healthy baby :-)

Kristi - posted on 05/10/2010

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Look into Essure. It's permanent, but without the risks and discomfort of the tube tying procedure.

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My hubby got the operation while I was expecting. The reason that those couples got pregnant is because the husband failed to go to the follow up appointment!

Cora - posted on 05/10/2010

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Hi Tracy, i had mine done after baby number 5 which was not planned, and i was 34. i,d wanted it done earlier but my doctor refused, there are lots of things to consider but for me this was my only option as like you other birth controls had side affects or just didn,t work. The procedure itself is done in day surgery as like a man going for the snip, but it can take longer to heal, its done by microsurgery through your belly button so leaves the tiniest scar ever,you will need help in the first 24 hrs as the general anesthic leaves you abit woosy but all that would be explained if you decided to go ahead with it, it felt alittle bit of discomfort for 2-3 but was fine after that and can honestly say it was the best decision for me and my partner. good luck in the future

Cathryn - posted on 05/10/2010

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i had my tubes cut and tied 22 1/2 years ago, when i had my youngest... i had complications with each pregnancy, was sicker earlier, and for longer, and with my final one had convulsions, while i was in the hospital... that was scary! but, i'd had 3 deliveries, and 8 miscarriages, and my doctor told me his concerns that i might not survive another pregnancy.
i have to say, though, that i DID feel ambivalent, for quite a long time... especially after i ditched my then-husband, and finally met someone who loves me and treats me as if i were precious and valuable. it would have been nice to have a baby with him.... and, it was really HARD knowing that my youngest was, and would always be, my youngest. i mourned the loss of my fertility, the loss of my ability to have another baby, as difficult as it was having them.
that all said, my delivery was by c-section, and i didn't have any particular recovery problems attributable to the tubal ligation. i wish you all the best... only you can make your choices..... only you should make your choices...

Tracie - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had my tubes tied 16 years ago after my second child and never regretted it. I did it the day after my youngest son was born and they kept the epidural in my spine overnight and the next day it was easy for them to add extra medicine and do the procedure. I have a small incision scar under my belly button but nothing else. I would recommend it

Cathie - posted on 05/10/2010

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I am 29 years old and have 2 children. If my second was like my first i would have kept going but my son has had many issues with feeding and gaining weight, and He's also a little devil. I decided to have my tubes tied when he was almost 1 year old. I think it is a great option as long as you are positive that you are all done having children. I would probably say for you, it sounds like you are really questioning it so I would probably wait. But i was fine after the surgery and I have the added bonus not worring if i am gonna get pregnant which is a big stresser off my back. Good Luck and God bless you with 4 kids, You must be an amazing woman!

Val - posted on 05/10/2010

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My son was 5 months old when I had mine done and he turned 30 on Mothers Day. I had no problems and no regrets. He was my second child and I was 23 yrs. old when I had it done. The only thing I can tell you is do your home work, really check into it and ask questions..

Holly - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had a tubal done 15 years ago and I really wish that I hadn't. I have cramps so bad every month that it literally feels like I am labor. I didn't have that problem at all before the tubal was done. I have several friends who have the same problem with the cramping after having this done. Yes it was the in & out same day tubal procedure where they make a small incision and go in through the belly button as well. I had 4 children and 1 miscarriage before I had it done. The 1st child was c-section and 3 natural births after.
It is your decision but just so you know there are some that do have a few problems after wards.

Heidi - posted on 05/10/2010

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I Have 2 sons at home it took me a while to get pregnante with the first one, but once I had him It was a matter of 6 months and I found out I was pregnant again. Pregnancy is very hard on me I delievered both of my sons early! I new that I was not going to be able to handle getting pregnant again with the health problems I have so I decided that getting my tubes tied was the best choice for me! My youngest it 6 months old and My oldest is 21 months I got the surgery 5 weeks after My second son was born and It has been the greatest decision that I have made! I have herd about the percentage of the chances of you getting pregnant increasing a little bit each year after you have the tubal and I have herd of people getting pregnant a few years after the surgery, But I also know people that have had there tubes tied for years and have no problems so it is hard to say if it would be a good idea or not! I am pleased with mine so far! As far as the pain I was better with in a week after having the surgery the worst part is the gas they use to blow your stomach up, but once it is gone you will feel like your old self again! I hope this might of helped a little bit if not I researched alot of stuff on the internet before I got mine done it might help you out in making your decision! Good luck! Heidi

Betsy - posted on 05/10/2010

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yes i have and if you really are done having children then i recomend you get it done but be sure you don't want any more children....i had to get it done for medical reasons and i wish i could have had at least one more child...good luck with what ever you choose to do!!!!!!

Nikki - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had my 2 while being diabetic. The odds were against me the whole way, but they didn't count on me being who I am. Had my tubes tied after #2 because, like you, I was 27... too risky. These 2 have turned out to be the very best decisions of my life & I am fulfilled. No need for more. If you are sure you have all you want, I would definitely recommend it.

Stephany - posted on 05/10/2010

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Hello,

I am a mother of 3 and my last child was born in August of 2009. I had a c-section and at that time I said I wanted my tubes tied because I had to premies and alot of problems with all three pregancies. I had my tubes tied last summer and I was happy with that decison I had made but now I wish I have never done it. For me just knowing that I can not have another child really upsets me. I have problems looking at or watching people that are pregnant or who just had a new born. If I could do it all over again I would choose not to have my tubes tied because I know in 5 years from now I may want an other baby. I just have to hope that I am one of that 1% who gets pregnant with a tubal. Then again everyone feels different about having tubal some people enjoy knowing that they cant have any more kids, some women have a lot of problems with tubals and some dont it is really up to you. I would say think about a little longer, ask your selft the one question I never asked my self "Will I want another child 5 years from now" if you say yes then do not do it if you say no then go for it but think really hard about it before you do it. You dont want to regret it. I hope this helps alittle.

Steph

(mom of 3 beautiful girls)

Missy - posted on 05/10/2010

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After having my 2nd kids, I got the Eesure done. Look into it... No surgery no pain and in and outta the docs office with in an hour... It is a spring they place in your ovaries and the scar tissue grows around it and it take about 3 months for it to work... I highly recom the Eesure!!!!!

Sharon - posted on 05/10/2010

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I had my tubes tied 34 years ago, and 5 years later had another child. But the times are changing and I am sure it is not that bad now. It works 99 of the time

Alicia - posted on 05/10/2010

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this is kind of an old post but I am 27 now have a 4 yr old and 7yr old..I had my tubes tied Dec of 2005 a month after my youngest was born...I have not gotten pregnant since, no complications and I was 22....so I guess all in all it depends on the doctor. good luck :)

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I had my tubes tied in 1991. Had NO physical problems. Only problem was second-guessing myself...I have two sons, and felt a bit coerced by my now ex-spouse. Looking back, it *was* the right thing and the right time. If you don't have troubles with anesthesia, should be good to go. However, despite the bad stories about vasectomies, why put yourself through it all?

Merry - posted on 05/09/2010

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I had my tubes tied.I would not recommend it.People told me and I didnt listen.Go to a specialist who does female stuff.I had trouble and come to find out thought it was possible a cyst.Turned out had a hyterectomy and during the percedure my gynocolgist stated that my pain was noted from scaring from the tubal.Cramps also worst than ever.Another nice bonus never discussed.Please go to a ggggggggggggynacoliist there are other tx s that can be discussed.Dr. dalaney here in Fbg Tx helpped me.Good luck.

Sande - posted on 05/09/2010

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I have had my tubes tied and found that the sugery was not as simple and painless as I was lead to believe, Definately talk with your Dr. aand prepare yourself , from what I was told the vesectomy is easier on a man then a tubiligation is on a woman. and if you follow everything the dr. says with the vesectomy then you should be alright.and not get pregnant , just remember to follow all the doc's orders after the vesectomy.

Angela - posted on 05/09/2010

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I had the clamp done as well last year, it was done during my c-section with my second child at age 31. It was the best decision for our family. After I did it though, my nurse was talking about how others got pregnant after the procedure, which scared me, reading all these comments are making me feel better about that. No problems in recovery,however, I didn't know about the extra side pain that I was getting with the shift in movement. I think if you really don't want anymore children, you should consider going ahead with the procedure. Congrats on your pregnancy! Check this site for healthy pregnancy tips, honestly, I don't think I would have recovered as well if I wasn't in good shape during my pregnancy http://www.thehealthybelly.com/

Becca - posted on 05/09/2010

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Hi Tracy,
I am 26 with 2 children, and i had my tubes actually rubber banded 6 weeks after my second child. Same thing as tying, they just use rubber band to suffocate a small portion, so it "dies" and absorbs into the body.
My sister had her tubes done the traditional way of cutting and cauderizing, and ended up pregnant 4 months later. I am highly trustng in my procedure, and feel it was the best thing i could have done in my life. Kids are beautiful, but as moms we all know our own time to stop having them. I am highly in favor of it. I had the Laparoscopic Tubal Ligation, and has been highly affective for over 5 yrs now:) If you google it, you will get tons of info:)

Donna - posted on 05/09/2010

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I had my tubes tied in 1985 and I would do it again. I have had a hard time with my monthly cycle, but that could also be that I'm overweight. In 2005 I had an Endometrial ablation, (I think I spelled that right) done where they use a hot water balloon to singe the uterus lining. this procedure stops most women from having a cycle at all, but it only stopped mine for 10 months. My cycle is still better than it was though, it was worth the surgery to me.

Tracy - posted on 05/09/2010

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Do it! For me it was the easiest proceedure ever! Even though I shouldnt have been I was up and running around no problems. Mind you each woman is different good luck in your decision!

Anne - posted on 05/09/2010

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That was my best decision! I never had any problems or side effects and was tickled that mine were supposedly clipped, tied, and cauterized....(from what I remember...lol). My husband also had a vasectomy and were we to 'accidentally' get pregnant after both failsafes the child would have been named Houdini Jesus....!....lol. But seriously, I had no problems except after my son was born they doubled checked with me (I had previosly signed the papers) and I was anesthetized and the tubal was done. The problem was with the insurance company. They did not pay for the tubal ligation! I was in for childbirth and had I re-entered the hospital, they would have paid their 80%...So that is an issue you need to research with your insurance carrier!...that was a shocker...I was in the birthing room, NOT a surgical ward, and was still charged for all of it....hmm....But like Rebecca says, do your research and you will be fine....good luck!!

Heather - posted on 05/09/2010

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I had my tubes clamped, rather than the cut, that was 24 years ago, it was done through 2 incisions about 1 cm long, which was just below my belly button and down in the groin area. I had no problems at all from this procedure. You might inquire about this method as well, lm assuming they still do it.

Heather - posted on 05/08/2010

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After my having my second child and both times having trouble with high blood pressure and C section I was told by my doctor that having my tubes done would be the best thing for my for health reasons. I have had no trouble, keyhole surgery left me a little stiff and sore the next morning, but other than that everythings fine. There is different ways of having it done so I suggest talking it through with your doctor and hubby. I was olderat the time of mine being done so make sure it is what you and your hubby want. All the best, Heather

Brandy - posted on 05/08/2010

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I have 2 kids and my husband and i both wanted more unfourtantaly i am diabetic and had very difficult pregnancys i also had extreme reactions to birthcontrol so i had to have my tubes tied it was only done last month so i'm still unsure how i feel about it but it is a huge relieve to know that i should not get pregnant again

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I had mine tied when I was 29 - right after the baby was born. My Dr went through my navel - no scars and I have never had any problems. I'm from Houston, TX and my Dr. was Dr. Christopherson.

Trisha - posted on 05/08/2010

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Unfortunately I had a VERY bad surgery, so I won't go there. Sometimes I wish I didn't have it, but the dr. told me that is normal b/c I KNOW I don't want anymore children. It is suppose to be effective, however nothing is as my midwife just told me they had a patient get pregnant after having one. They did say it is very rare. If I was to go back in time, I would do it again if I didn't have such a rough surgery. I am happy where I am at w/the decision we made and know it is permanent. It has been 5 years and I'm happy w/the 2 children I have.
Good luck w/your decision and I hope whatever you decide works for you:)

Esther - posted on 05/08/2010

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I had my tubes tied after my 2nd. My husband didn't want to get the snip, snip so I just took charge. The good part was getting more pain killers after giving birth, and the surgery went great. The bad part was the pain after surgery. Because they cut you open (just a little) you get air in your body and that air makes very painful gass (sharp, shooting pain from my neck down to my arm and in my stomach). But, after all was said and done - it was well worth it! I never have to worry about icky birth control again.

Kelley - posted on 05/08/2010

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I had my tubes tired with the thought that if I changed my mind later on I could just reverse, however the doctor snipped and burned so it would cost thousands of dollars we do not have.

Melissa - posted on 05/08/2010

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I had my tubes tied when my last child was born 15 years ago. She was born vaginally so I has surgery. I have a small scar under my belly button where the Dr. did the procedure. You still have to follow the post op instructions of course but I was back to my regular schedule of running a daycare within two weeks. If you feel its the right choice for you then I would do it. After all it is YOUR choice.

Lisa - posted on 05/08/2010

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have the IUD, its wonderful. i forget its there, no real side affects...i couldnt use the pill either.

Cynthia - posted on 05/08/2010

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No, I regret it.. I would get clamps put on your tubes instead, just my opinion. I had my tubes tied when I was 26 but I only had 2 kids. Then 5 years later I wanted another one. The clamps can be taken off much easier then getting your tubes undone. Talk about other alt. to ur OB... just my opinion. Good luck!

VICKI - posted on 05/08/2010

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Getting your tubes tied is a very simple procedure. I had mine done 5 or 6 years ago. No side effects and only about a 1/2" scar above the bikini line. You don't even see it. There is really no reason for both of you to have something done though. Don't be frightened, it is only an out patient procedure.

Christine - posted on 05/08/2010

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Hi, I can understand your concern and I was once there as well. I am a mother of three and totally knew I was done having children after the third child. My husband wouldnt have anything to do with having a vasectomy so I had to take it into my own hands and I did have my tubes tied, that was 9 years ago and no babies since!!!! So hopefully this helps you decide.

Shanita - posted on 05/08/2010

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I am 26 years old and I had my tubes tied. For me it was good because I had a c-section so my doctor did then but my surgery was great i had no complications and i was moving around really good after a couple days. I would still have had it done even if my husband had a vasectomy just because I would rather be extra safe cause I don't want anymore kids I'm fine with the ones I have.

Pattie - posted on 05/08/2010

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WOW, being a mum is the most amazing gift in the world. I am a mum of three sons my biggest delights are seeing them look outside of themselves and see the needs of others and act out of selflessness. Our boys are 19, 20, and 22 and they are the JOY of my life. Being their mum has been the most meaningful and stretching gift I have been given. At this point in time the most precious thing is hearing them say Mum, I love you and just hanging out together. I am humbled to see how much they all love God, love family, and that they are passionate about their futures. Our boys are the biggest and the best gift of my life.

Emma - posted on 05/08/2010

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I am 31 yr old mother of two and i recently had mine done.It really went well. I had it done on a thurs, and was back to work that next monday.I have mixed feelings i think the procedure was great, and I dont have to worry any more (hopefully) but I use to love sex and now have no desire for it.Now it has only been a few months since I had it done, so I am still reserching it. It might just take time to heal and get back to normal but other than that it was fine. But over all I was very pleased.Mine were cut I did not want the bands or whatever and Im not a fan of forign objects in my body unless absolutely necessary.

April - posted on 05/08/2010

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Where do I start? I've had mine done as well after a c-section and it does everyones body different... When my menstrual cycle comes on my cramps feel worse than contractions... The only good thing about it is that my cycle only last 4 sometimes 5 days whereas they used to be 7 to 10 days... My cramps are a lot worse... Sometimes I wish I would have done something else besides having a tubaligation... Like I said it does everybody's body different... I have two girls and sometimes I wish I would have had another one but I am always sick during my pregnancies and we were having it rough financially...

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I had my tubes tied 33 years ago and NEVER regretted one day. You may not be able to relax unless you do something permanent. A vasectomy is pretty sure but if you also have your tudes tied, it will be almost impossible. I had the "Band-aid" surgery where they go in thru the bellybutton and no surgery scars other than a little one aat the bellybutton and healing time is the same as giving birth. I had it done the same time as my last one was born. Hope this helps. LOUISE

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