Jennifer - posted on 01/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
My husband's grandfather died recently and we are still going through the grieving process. The problem I am having is my father-in-law.....he had the nerve to call my husband 3 hours after the funeral to ask about the will grandpa had left. I was appalled by his behavior. My father-in-law has always been somewhat of a problem and the woman he is married to (my husband's step-mom) is the mouthiest rudest woman I have ever met. I have learned over the 6 years of being with my husband, I have learned like he has for the years he has put up with her to ignore her criticism. My father-in-law is upset about the way the will was written and that he isn't getting all the money. I feel very strange having to explain to my son that Papa wasn't being nice. It was on my husband's birthday in October the day of that my father-in-law and his wife told me and my husband not to come back and that we were---well the words were all curse words.....they said this in front of our 5 year old.
I am having a difficult time trying to explain to Dylan in simple terms that Papa is being mean....I don't want to sugar coat this situation and make Dylan think that his Papa is just great. We are talking about a man who is manipulative and emotionally abusive. My husband had to grow up with this man as his father and is so wonderful, he was determined to never be like him when he became a father and he is nothing like his dad.
I was just wondering if anyone else has had this kind of family drama and how did you get through it??
Just to let you know we get along great my husband's mother and step-father and my parents...so Dylan has plenty of grandparents who will be positive around him.
Thank you for any advice you have for me....it is so greatly appreciated.