He got me pregnant on purpose without me knowing

Jackie - posted on 01/13/2010

If you accepted to have sex without protection to start with then the fault is on both of you. If he is not willing to help with the baby, is he atleast helping pay for what the baby needs? If not you need to get that part taken care of. If they don't know how to make a bottle or change the diaper properly as the mother runs a daycare.. I would suggest not taking the baby over there anymore. Its not the baby's fault that there is a bad situation between you and the baby's father. Your baby's health and concerns should be priority to you as well as the father. If I were you I would check into other places such as friends or neighbors you trust, your family to watch the baby for you. There are even day cares that you can take your child to that would sound better and care for you baby better then what your sayin the baby's father is doing.

Nicki - posted on 01/13/2010

i hope this isn't too blunt but forget the fool!! my baby daddy is a loser but insists on seeing his children and my kids would be better off without him! lol good luck

Louise - posted on 01/13/2010

Can i ask how he got you pregnant on purpose? I can only assume you agreed to sex if not you should report him to the police.

Lou

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2010

Unfortunately he does sound selfish. My husband at the time got me pregnant on purpose so I know how that feels to have ur trust betrayed. My sons are wonderful and even though it was hard to accept at the time. He used that to keep me from leaving him & then I was on my own to care for him & I tried to leave him again & he promised to make it work and I agreed to have another child since we were married. Before he was born, his true colors still showed and I raised them on my own without his help. He lives 5 mins away too and has their whole lives and across the street from their daycare at the time but he was always too busy to help out too. You have the right idea, it's about you & ur son--it's his loss. to address Lou's comment---when you trust that ur birth control has not been tampered with and u know ur cycle and what days are not safe--to have that person violate that by intentionally causing "failure" to ur birth control--what are the "police" going to do?? It's a violation of ur trust same as if a man gets told "opps" I'm pregnant when he is lead to believe that birth control is being used properly. 2-way street.....I never thought of that & it happened to me.

Carol - posted on 01/20/2010

Forget him. Plus, if he got you pregnant on purpose without you wanting to be, that doesn't make sense. You are both in the boat. He didn't hold a gun to your head and force unprotected sex, in that case you would call the police. Sex out of marriage gets you a lot of grief and heartache, I know. I would forget him. He is not responsible, he has no respect for you nor the baby. He is overwhelmed with the fact he has to be playing a role in the child's life. The back and forth business is not healthy for the child. The child will feel tossed back and forth. Sorry but you need stability and so does this child. I am sorry to sound rude, but your situation is like many others, and yes there is a way. I would have him take a parenting plan and finish it and see where it goes from there!

MaryAnn - posted on 01/20/2010

you can debate all day over the "He got me pregnant on purpose"- I think she knows now that it "takes two to tango" They are both EQUALLY responsible for Eli. NOW.. to move on.. You cannot force Eli's dad to be in the pictue.. sure, you can go after him for child support, but will that make him Eli's Daddy? No.. Move on..Raise your beautiful baby, love him, keep him safe, be the best mom you can be. I know it's stressful..i've been there.. had a relationship, had a baby, raised the baby alone.. I had to learn to let the anger go, because if I didn't i would've been full of hate.. and hate isn't good when you're rasing a child. You will get through it.. My baby is almost 18 now.. and well adjusted..