HELP! Baby Shower that ISN'T a Baby Shower...

JoAnn - posted on 07/15/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hello! My sister is having her first child (a girl) in November and we are planning a shower for her in September.

However, my sister is what she likes to refer to herself as a "Shower Snob". She doesn't like the whole idea of a shower (she can't explain to me why). She does want to have a co-ed "get together" and have people bring gifts, but she doesn't want to open them in front of her guests. (I told her she has to suck it up and deal with it.) She doesn't want to play games (which is fine with me!) - just eats and gifts.

My question is what do we call it if it isn't a shower? A celebration? A celebration of what? She wants classy & elegant - not typical shower - no baby "theme".

Also, is there any way we can get around the opening of the gifts?

Any advice/help is greatly appreciated!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/16/2013

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Quite frankly she is being a pain in the ass. I would tell her to do the research and figure out what she wants. Tell her it is not really fair to invite people to a shower, but not call it a shower or a celebration of new life, and expect the presents. She is being rather rude. Really, showers are for everyone to celebrate the new life you are bringing into the world, so if she doesn't want a shower....then in my opinion she should not expect presents, and just have a frigging party for no reason. She is being unreasonable with her expectations. The party is for a celebration of new life....the presents are not for her, but the baby.

JoAnn - posted on 07/16/2013

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She wants to call it a Celebration - but a Celebration of what exactly? Getting pregnant? Becoming parents? Not having a period? It's already going to be co-ed and I know that is acceptable. As far as I know it is going to be at a private "club" in our area, which is kind of like a restaurant. I don't think we are going to be able to avoid the present opening considering most of the people that are coming will expect her to open them. (Most guests will be of the older set-in-their-beliefs kind, not the younger more open-minded set.) It's not the when, where and who to invite that is the issue. It's the fact that it's a Baby Shower that can't be called a baby shower or be baby themed. But it needs some sort of theme so people know what it is and what to expect. I need creative ideas in regards to "theme" and invitations. Everything I see is "babyish" and she doesn't want that.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/15/2013

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I would ask HER what the hell she wants to call it. People may not know to bring gifts if it is not a "shower" and certainly showers can be co-ed. Best place to have it is a restaurant of sorts and maybe that way she will not have to open presents. It is pretty rude not to...but I know how it feels to not want to open presents in front of others. That is how I am, but she really should.

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