Help! I need DISCIPLINE Tactics!!!

Heather - posted on 01/07/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 5 year old is so hateful lately. He whines about everything, asking him to put on socks is too much for him! I've tried everything. I've taken toys away, we've had conversations, I've asked him if things are bothering him. We've read books on feelings and anger. I've tried the WWJD tactic and asked him how he feels if people talk to him this way. I've spent extra time with him. I'm at a loss. I think I've let him act like this for too long and now I dont' know how to make him stop. What are some discipline things I can try when he acts in a displeasing way. I try to pick my battles but this is just out of control. He has the sweetest heart but he just gets so mad and doesn't know how to handle it. How can I help him change this behavior?

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Evelyn - posted on 01/07/2010

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TRY TELLING HIM TO TAKE A BREATH A COUPLE OF TIME UNTO HE RELAXES, THE TIME OUT IS GREAT TO.I US BOTH BELIEVE ME IT WORK.BUT EVERY TIME HE GETS OUT OF CONTROL U MUST DO THE SAME .DON'T BE SORRY ONES FOR HIM BECAUSE THEN HE WONT RESPECT U.SOW GOOD LUCK.

Sheka - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have 3 daughters, ages 9, 7, and 8 months and one suggestion would be to not totally ignore him when he is being hateful but try to get him to understand that you will not respond to him when he is acting out. You have to be consistent. Always keep an eye on what he is doing but ignore him when he has a tantrum or is screaming at the top of his lungs. Let him know that when he is done putting all his energy into being bad that you will be ready to answer his question or cooperate with him on the good level when he is done. In other words, "if you cooperate with mommy, mommy will cooperate with you." Another suggestion would be to how him examples in real life ( when you're shopping, or at the park, etc.) of people's feelings when someone else is being mean or has their feelings hurt. Try to get him to understand that other people do not like or will not play with a child that is mean or is being a bully. Also, praise him for his good acts. However little they might be, they still need to hear that. Give him an incentive for having good behavior for a week and see how that goes. Put a good behavior chart up with an incentive for having good behavior. Children like to see that they are doing good, even at a young age. These are just things that have worked for my girls, I hope that they may work for you.

Carrie - posted on 01/07/2010

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well, as hard as its going to be , you need to discipline every single time he misbehaves till this is corrected, see what works best, corners , times out , spanking , whats going to work each child is different. Be sure when he dose do good you reward his good behavior. Even if its small say "that MAKES momma HAPPY" your being a GOOD BOY, when he dose bad say that makes momma SAD and because your acting badly this is whats going to happen______. Be trim don't let him slide. its hard its stressing your gonna wanna cry, you may cry, i have . but in the end if he get it and acts better, your discomforts we're worth it , if your little boy makes strides to being the good person you want him to be.

Sara - posted on 01/07/2010

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Its funny I just watched a supernanny with a 6 year old girl with the same problem. So Jo suggested that she go into time out whenever she would get real out of control. Maybe try putting him in time out? 1 minute for every year of age. Try being consistent too. If you just give up then he's going to know that he can walk all over you. Im not sure if you have ever seen supernanny the show but she gives some real good tips, but consistency is key!! Hope I helped a little :)

Christina - posted on 01/07/2010

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I've found with my kids when they were that little, time outs worked. I know this is going to sound bad, but, quilt trips, deep down they don't want to disappoint mommy (what I found out when I was about at wits end). Talking is a great way as well, don't key on just bad stuff, praise more then not. Even when you think there can't possibly be much positive. I told my counselor she was nuts when she said that, but then I tried it, the smallest things, thank them, good job, what not. Slowly my kids started going back to the sweet things they use to be.

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