HELP!!!! I NEED SLEEP!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 64 moms have responded )

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HELP!!!! My son will be 7 months old Jan. 28th... He is waking up 4 or more times a night most of the time his eyes aren't open but he is fussy and then starts crying !!!! I put his passy back in his mouth if it is out... I give him his baby and cover him back up and he goes right back to sleep... But he will still wake up several more times and do the same thing... I have added cereal to his cup before bed i have giving him his bath before bed... I feel like I have tried every and anything! If you have any advice please let me know!! Thanks!!!!

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My 4 year old still has hers! I know, terrible, but I don't have the energy to deal with her giving it up...am going to in the next few weeks though! Because of that...I would maybe stop now, he is waking anyway, so try to let him settle himself without it perhaps! Can only give it a try!

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Erin - posted on 01/25/2009

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He has hit the stage my daughter just came out of. This is probably going to last another six months but it gets better. His body is restless. There is so much moving that he wants to do that he will try also in his sleep to move. For my daughter, we raised her bed at one end and it seemed to help. She tended to push against the angle of the bed and wear herself back to sleep and usually they do tend to fall back asleep. Its more of your will power not to want to go in there and cuddle with them to get them back to sleep. Work through it and the rewards are worth it.

Lori - posted on 01/25/2009

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I slept with all my kids cause I was very selfish about my sleep. and when the kids are older they were right by my bed so that I could just roll over and comfort and they would go right back to sleep... it is hard when they are too young to cover themselves... if he is active sleeper and uncovers alot and then wakes up cold try footie jammies... maybe he will be warmer...

Beth - posted on 01/25/2009

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We had the same problem with my 10 month old and now we're doing much better 90% of the time. We tried lots of different things and this is what worked for us: Usually when he woke up it was for his pacifier and then if we went in to give it to him, he knew we were there, so he'd cry even more to get picked up. We started by putting a few pacifiers in his bed so that if he woke up he could find one on his own. Then we did a version of the cry it out. We let him cry if he woke up about 10 minutes, then went in and rubbed his back until he calmed, then left. If he didn't go to sleep we'd let him cry another 10 min and keep repeating this. It was about a week of poor sleep for us, but after being tough for a week he figured it out. Now he's a fairly good sleeper. The only problem we have now is he stands up in his crib if he wakes up and his nuk falls out of the crib as he crying on the floor. But it's rare that he even wakes up now doing this until at least 5 am. I think now that he's crawling and standing and moving around more, he tires himself out. So hang in there. It does get better. I believe you need to do what you're comfortable doing. I read about many different theories and incorporated a few different ones that I agreed with. For us we had big improvements at 8 1/2 months. Good luck!! He will eventually get it.

Michelle - posted on 01/25/2009

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Do you have your son on a schedule with his sleep? I always put my daughter to bed the same time, some exceptions. also, give him a little time to cry...sometimes they will sooth themself back to sleep. I was going in on the first cries when Layla was younger, now I let her cry a few minutes if she screams then I step in.



Maybe the cereal in his cup in giving him gas! It wakes up my daughter from time to time.



have you read the book baby wise? it has a lot of helpful ideas in it about schedule.

April - posted on 01/25/2009

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Tiffany, I recommend Dr. Ferber's book Solving your Child's Sleep Problems. We just went through the same thing. Our daughter slept great from 3-6 months and then right around 6 months, started waking up multiple times a night and I was spending so much time in the glider trying to get her back to sleep in the middle of the night. Ferber's book is very interesting and his method works. After just 2 nights my daughter was going to sleep on her own and within a few nights she was sleeping straight through again without crying out at all during the night. And if she does cry out, I just wait and usually within 1 minute, she's asleep again. Good luck!! BTW - your son is adorable!

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2009

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Have you gotten any advice from your Ped? I have a 4 month old and she's had the same issue--I haven't had much sleep since she was born. What I discovered is that she has reflux and some allergies to formula. We got on reflux meds and after 7 different formulas I think we may have a good combination. I hope so--this last week the Ped told me to let her cry it out. I have to put in earplugs because I can't stand to hear her cry, but she seriously wakes up every hour after 2 am every night AND refuses to nap most of the time, so I am exhausted. We have the end of her crib elevated too. It's frustrating, I know. The Ped thinks that now that we have most of her tummy issues worked out that it's just habit for her to wake, because she goes right back to sleep once I go in and soothe her. We have bee doing the "crying it out" thing for about 4 days now and she's waking less in the early am and crying for a shorter amount of time when she does wake. I'm hoping she'll get it straightened out soon. Oh, and I was also told that after the midnigh-ish feeding to not feed her again until it's been 5 hours or more. Hope some of this helps, good luck!

Daisy - posted on 01/25/2009

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Quoting Julie:

Hi!!! when he wakes up do you pick him up? If you do that's a bad thing to do....just try putting some music on or just robbing your hand in is face just to re sure them that mommy's there...the doctor said to me if they wake up in the middle of the night your not suppose to give them a bottle of milk...they suppose to sleep all night.,,,my little girl started to sleep all night when she was 2months....anyways I hope that I give some tips
Bye


I have to completely disagree with this last post. If a child is continuing to fuss, you need to pick him up. If you just stand there and ignore him while he continues to fuss more and more, he is in distress, and that is not a good thing. It's bad for him physically, emotionally, mentally. It's one thing if he's playing a bit and you give him a little time to soothe himself. If he is crying, though - don't ignore him. Sometimes the rubbing can help. But sometimes they need to be comforted, which might just mean picking them up and loving on them. If my little guy wakes up and becomes distressed, you bet I pick him up. And sometimes that is all he needs - to know that I am there for him and to be comforted. Then he will relax and lie back down and soothe himself to sleep. You should not let your baby be distressed like that.



And I would disagree BIG TIME with any doctor that said a baby should NOT get fed during the night. All babies are different, and most DO need to be fed more than once in the middle of the night at two months. I can tell the difference between the times my baby wakes up and wants to play and when he is downright hungry. Babies go through growth spurts at different times, and they may sleep through the night and then start waking more to eat. (Formula fed babies do sleep through the night earlier typically, and my little guy is breastfed, so I can't speak to that - but mine does go through growth spurts and will need to nurse more often sometimes.) A doctor should know better than that - and should not encourage you to not feed an infant if he wakes up hungry. You should find another doctor, if that's the case.



I'm glad your little girl slept through the night at 2 months, but that is not the case for all babies. Each one is different. They are individuals and should be treated as such. It is completely normal for babies to continue to wake during their first year (and beyond). They can be taught to self-soothe and go back to sleep, but they should not simply be ignored. And there are ways to teach them that without ignoring. Without crying. I endorse those methods - which include feeding your child if he is hungry and picking him up if he is distressed.

Megan - posted on 01/25/2009

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I'm so comforted to know its not just my little boy, he's 7 months old and is waking up minimum 4 times a night. He goes to sleep at 6:30pm, I've tried to keep him up later but he just falls asleep no matter what. Then once 11pm hits, he's up and quite a few times. I think I spoiled him a bit when he was little because I let him sleep with me. Now i'm paying for it. Last night I tried letting him cry it out and after about 45 minutes he feel asleep so i'm going to try it again tonight. I wish you luck, your not alone!

Julie - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hi!!! when he wakes up do you pick him up? If you do that's a bad thing to do....just try putting some music on or just robbing your hand in is face just to re sure them that mommy's there...the doctor said to me if they wake up in the middle of the night your not suppose to give them a bottle of milk...they suppose to sleep all night.,,,my little girl started to sleep all night when she was 2months....anyways I hope that I give some tips

Bye

Barbara - posted on 01/25/2009

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I am a mother of 3 children the youngest being 20 months.  I know that sleep is very important to mother and child, however I wouldn't wait much more than 10 minutes if the baby is crying due to possible abandonmant issues later in life.  Leaving a baby to cry for 2 hours in my opinion is not a recommended strategy from my point of view for either you or your child.  We do a fruit bedtime snack then after brushing teeth we give them a warm bath, warm p.j.'s and spend 1/2 hour doing stories and cuddling or singing calming songs then off to bed with a kiss goodnight and then turn out the lights.  We have not a problem with any of the 3 children that we are raising.  Consistancy is definately the key with bedtime.  Kids run on and look forward to routine.  The more routine you can incorporate into their bedtime schedule the better. 



I do hope that you can get some rest soon!



 

Rosie - posted on 01/23/2009

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you can try so many different ways however at the end of the day every child is different, you need to work whats good for you and your baby!! My daughter is 8 yrs and sometimes still does not have a full nights sleep, I know it is hard but believe me enjoy it while you can time goes so quickly and before you know it they dont "NEED" you anymore. I miss my daughter  as a baby!!



Good luck!!

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Hi,



Just make sure your baby is getting enough sleep during the day, if they dont get enought sleep during the day they wake through the night frequenty because they are overtired. Its a tip that I learned from a colleague of mine who is an early childhood nurse. I can alway tell when my daughter has not had enough sleep during the day, she's a shocker at night. She also has a dummy for bed time only and she is 21 months old. During the day, she is having anywhere between 2 sleeps for 1 1/2 hours each time or 1 sleep for 2-21/2 hours. She has only just started dropping to one sleep a day but I find after a few days she gets too tired and I need to give her some catchup sleep. I have to admit Im pretty anal about her naps and what time she goes to bed at night but I think she has thrived on it and she doesnt give me any problems when its bed time.  Hope that is helpful.

Lesley - posted on 01/23/2009

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I agree with the lady that said you can take the dummy away but you can't take their fingers. My 9mth old is teething & if she hasn't got her dummy she sucks & chews on her fingers & I've noticed she's loosing the skin on a couple of them, so she's doing it more than I've seen obviously. I also have a cousin that sucked her thumb until she was a teenager( it's not a good look), & she's had to have bracers to correct the damage. Also he'll understand when he's a bit older that it's time to give it up, I've heard a few different ways but 1 was they left the dummy out for Santa so santa would leave them their presents. In the end you need to find something that you're happy with & go with that.

Lori - posted on 01/22/2009

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Been there , done that. I wish I had answers. My daughter was like that for 9 months. If you are brest feeding take a look at the foods you are eating. Salads and broccoli made my daughter worse. I wish you all the best.

Amanda - posted on 01/22/2009

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He could be teething also. my son started getting teeth about that age. The teething tablets worked great for that. They are in any local drug store. They are all natural and I actually would desolve under his tongue instead of in the spoon.



Recently I had to let him learn to cry it out too. I couldn't make it past two hours either. By then I was going in to help him sleep too. It works itself out though and you both end up happier!!

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2009

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You could buy a sound spa. My hubby and I sleep with one and it is the best sleep we've ever gotten. My daughter is almost 4 now & she loves it too. Ours was bought at Walmart I believe for about $15.00 and has 7 or 8 sounds like the rain, ocean, white noise, a heartbeat(which creeps me out) haha. We only use the rain mode but it is so soothing to all of us.



Good luck with everything, I hope you find something that works for you.

Jodi - posted on 01/22/2009

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Quoting Tiffany:

HELP!!!! I NEED SLEEP!!!!

HELP!!!! My son will be 7 months old Jan. 28th... He is waking up 4 or more times a night most of the time his eyes aren't open but he is fussy and then starts crying !!!! I put his passy back in his mouth if it is out... I give him his baby and cover him back up and he goes right back to sleep... But he will still wake up several more times and do the same thing... I have added cereal to his cup before bed i have giving him his bath before bed... I feel like I have tried every and anything! If you have any advice please let me know!! Thanks!!!!



Do you have a night time routine to really let him know that it is night time (time to sleep a while)? Try doing the same thing every night before bed to let him destinguish between naps and bed time. Try playing womb sounds in his room. You can download some on the internet and play it through and mp3 "ihome" type radio. My son really relaxes with that. Good luck! 

Daisy - posted on 01/22/2009

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Tiffany, Thanks for the compliment on my little one! I hope you like the book and that it helps. Also, if you really want to take the paci away, the book helps with that, too. It helps teach the child how not to need the sucking to help at night - if that is something that is desired. If you want to take it away and encourage thumb or finger-sucking - just keep in mind that you can take away the paci at some point (it's recommended by age two to not interfere with teeth and oral development), but you can't take away the thumb or finger. Just a thought.

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i know this may not sound to good but will he suck on his thumb instead of his dummy? its just tat a friend of mine her baby would fuss wen she lost her dummy but wen she found her thumb she would just suck on it instead of fussin. but with my daughter she is 8months now i was breastfeedin n she would just not sleep i found out my milk was dryin up so i started her on a bottle n each night i cannt let her sleep after 3pm ten keep her up as long as i can up til 7pm ten give her a bottle n she goes to sleep ten at 10pm i go in n give her another bottle n a dry bum n she wil now sleep til 5.30am its great but she also wont sleep on her back she sleeps on her tummy with know blankets on her cause she get caughts up in tem, i just have to get t room temp good 4 her. well darl hope i helped a bit good luck.

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2009

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Hi Tiffany, I have a little boy who 7months on the 27th Jan. I had the same problem too. I tried everything that everyone else has suggested already and finally, i tried dream feeding him (where you feed them while they are still asleep) even if he wasnt hungry, as that was what my health care nurse suggested to do. I did this once a night before i went to bed(he's bottle fed not breast) for 2 nights and then the 3rd night he slept right through as he had done from 6 weeks old. They say its a comfort thing more than anything as sometimes that's the only problem - they just need to know your there. If your still struggling it might be worth a go, i know its not everyone's cup of tea but it might work with him. With the pacifier i wouldn't get rid of it just yet it may hinder the problem, rather than help. You might want to sort out this issue first. When he gets older you can take the pacifier away, you know do the whole pacifier pirates take it to babys and he gets a toy in return for them taking his pacifier, and if you are worried about his teeth i took my son to the dentist as soon as he got 2 teeth so he becomes familiar with them, and i asked the dentist about his pacifier and he said that as long as it goes before he's 2 he'll be fine as his mouth and jaw isn't fully developed till then. Anyway i hope all that helped. Hope it all gets sorted for you soon and you can get some sleep! Good luck. Sarah

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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Quoting Tina:

Tiffany, My son had a pacifier until he was 2. I didn't allow him to walk around with it because it was a comfort thing for him and I wanted him to use when he wanted to go to bed. My son also took 2 naps. He did until he was about 10 months old. These are okay things. Don't worry, there are much more things to worry about. Your child will likely not be a SIDS victim as he appears from the pictures to be a very strong little guy! My son also woke up at night when he would loose his pacifier. When he was a little older than your son, I safety pinned the pacifier to the bed (with a pacifier line attached) so he wouldn't loose it on the floor. He always found it if it wasn't on the floor. He did not sleep through the night until he was over a year old. This is a tough time, but enjoy him while he is young because he will grow quickly -- my son is now 12 almost 13 and is VERY independent. The pacifier didn't hurt him one bit. He is very bright and he still needs a lot of sleep -- it is good for them to get good sleep! :)



I'm thinking about just taking the pacifier away all together! what do you think?

Carla - posted on 01/21/2009

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My son is 22 months old and I just recently got him to sleep through the night. I bought an e-book, which had a 6 month money back guarantee. This book contains a lot of the advice already listed. The nice thing is that it gives specific plans for different aged children. Here is the web-site. http://www.sleepsense.net/do-it-yourself...



My son is older, so I could tell him what we were going to do. The author suggested drawing pictures of your bedtime routine steps. So, that's what I did. Max loved it. I made him part of the story. Example: First Max gets his bath. Look at the bubbles. Then, we brush Max's teeth. etc. I also had the task of weening him from nursing. I made the mistake of always nursing him to sleep and we both thought he couldn't get to sleep with out it. For this, she suggested making it a part of the routine, before the bedtime story. She advise to not let him go to sleep on the breast. After the story, I told Max it was night night time. The first night he stood in his crib and sobbed. After 5 minutes, I went in and told him that I was there, but it was night night time. The book's author said it's important to use the same phrase and not to engage them in conversation. So, for 35 minutes, I did the same thing over and over again every 5 minutes. Finally, the last time, I lay him down and he went to sleep. During the night, he woke once. She suggested waiting 10 minutes and then doing the same thing I did at bedtime. It worked! After going in once, he went back to sleep. The next day, I happened to be home for nap time and went through the same procedure minus the bath. He cried for less than 5 minutes and went right to sleep. That night he didn't even fuss and slept through the night. He's been sleeping great since and doesn't even want to nurse to go to sleep. I had a hard time letting him cry at first. But in the book, it says how important good sleep is for them, so I stuck to the plan and it worked! I hope this might help you and others having the same problem. I went for almost 2 years without a good night's sleep. Best of luck!!

Carla - posted on 01/21/2009

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My son is 22 months old and I just recently got him to sleep through the night. I bought an e-book, which had a 6 month money back guarantee. This book contains a lot of the advice already listed. The nice thing is that it gives specific plans for different aged children. Here is the web-site. http://www.sleepsense.net/do-it-yourself...



My son is older, so I could tell him what we were going to do. The author suggested drawing pictures of your bedtime routine steps. So, that's what I did. Max loved it. I made him part of the story. Example: First Max gets his bath. Look at the bubbles. Then, we brush Max's teeth. etc. I also had the task of weening him from nursing. I made the mistake of always nursing him to sleep and we both thought he couldn't get to sleep with out it. For this, she suggested making it a part of the routine, before the bedtime story. She advise to not let him go to sleep on the breast. After the story, I told Max it was night night time. The first night he stood in his crib and sobbed. After 5 minutes, I went in and told him that I was there, but it was night night time. The book's author said it's important to use the same phrase and not to engage them in conversation. So, for 35 minutes, I did the same thing over and over again every 5 minutes. Finally, the last time, I lay him down and he went to sleep. During the night, he woke once. She suggested waiting 10 minutes and then doing the same thing I did at bedtime. It worked! After going in once, he went back to sleep. The next day, I happened to be home for nap time and went through the same procedure minus the bath. He cried for less than 5 minutes and went right to sleep. That night he didn't even fuss and slept through the night. He's been sleeping great since and doesn't even want to nurse to go to sleep. I had a hard time letting him cry at first. But in the book, it says how important good sleep is for them, so I stuck to the plan and it worked! I hope this might help you and others having the same problem. I went for almost 2 years without a good night's sleep. Best of luck!!

Carla - posted on 01/21/2009

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My son is 22 months old and I just recently got him to sleep through the night. I bought an e-book, which had a 6 month money back guarantee. This book contains a lot of the advice already listed. The nice thing is that it gives specific plans for different aged children. Here is the web-site. http://www.sleepsense.net/do-it-yourself...



My son is older, so I could tell him what we were going to do. The author suggested drawing pictures of your bedtime routine steps. So, that's what I did. Max loved it. I made him part of the story. Example: First Max gets his bath. Look at the bubbles. Then, we brush Max's teeth. etc. I also had the task of weening him from nursing. I made the mistake of always nursing him to sleep and we both thought he couldn't get to sleep with out it. For this, she suggested making it a part of the routine, before the bedtime story. She advise to not let him go to sleep on the breast. After the story, I told Max it was night night time. The first night he stood in his crib and sobbed. After 5 minutes, I went in and told him that I was there, but it was night night time. The book's author said it's important to use the same phrase and not to engage them in conversation. So, for 35 minutes, I did the same thing over and over again every 5 minutes. Finally, the last time, I lay him down and he went to sleep. During the night, he woke once. She suggested waiting 10 minutes and then doing the same thing I did at bedtime. It worked! After going in once, he went back to sleep. The next day, I happened to be home for nap time and went through the same procedure minus the bath. He cried for less than 5 minutes and went right to sleep. That night he didn't even fuss and slept through the night. He's been sleeping great since and doesn't even want to nurse to go to sleep. I had a hard time letting him cry at first. But in the book, it says how important good sleep is for them, so I stuck to the plan and it worked! I hope this might help you and others having the same problem. I went for almost 2 years without a good night's sleep. Best of luck!!

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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thank you so much for the advice and help!! I will get the book and I hope it will help!! And by the way your baby is BEAUTIFUL!!!!!

Tina - posted on 01/21/2009

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Tiffany, My son had a pacifier until he was 2. I didn't allow him to walk around with it because it was a comfort thing for him and I wanted him to use when he wanted to go to bed. My son also took 2 naps. He did until he was about 10 months old. These are okay things. Don't worry, there are much more things to worry about. Your child will likely not be a SIDS victim as he appears from the pictures to be a very strong little guy! My son also woke up at night when he would loose his pacifier. When he was a little older than your son, I safety pinned the pacifier to the bed (with a pacifier line attached) so he wouldn't loose it on the floor. He always found it if it wasn't on the floor. He did not sleep through the night until he was over a year old. This is a tough time, but enjoy him while he is young because he will grow quickly -- my son is now 12 almost 13 and is VERY independent. The pacifier didn't hurt him one bit. He is very bright and he still needs a lot of sleep -- it is good for them to get good sleep! :)

Irma - posted on 01/21/2009

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The advise my mother gave me with my two children was to give them a warm bottle of "Chamomile" herb tea with a touch of honey before bed or nap time.  I've tried the Celestial Seasonings it's 100% natural herb tea that's caffeine free.  I myself when I feel as if I have an uneasy tummy or can't rest I make myself a cup.  Good Luck!!!!

Thais - posted on 01/21/2009

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Does he have teeth yet? If not then check his gums b/c this is what my son does whenever he's teething. He may not wake up but he just starts screaming like he's in pain. And sure enough, after a few days of this, he has another tooth pop up. Good luck, hope it gets better.

Alice - posted on 01/21/2009

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Mine didn't sleep through fully for a long time, either. My solution was to put a futon in her room and sleep in there with her until she was asleep. Some nights. I spent a lot of the night in there, other nights no time at all. but it seemed easier for her to soothe herself with company. When she got older, she started sleeping longer and didn't need the help any more, maybe about 11 months, when she started waking just twice, and once by about 14 months, and then not at all a couple of months after that. I know  y ou feel just DESPERATE for sleep right now, but it will get better.

Angie - posted on 01/21/2009

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Getting him off of the passy as sooner than later is easier.  It will take a couple nights for him to get used to it then he will forget about it.

Erin - posted on 01/21/2009

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has anyone tried the electronic pacificer ..it's a teddy bear that can hang on the side of the crib or sit in the crib and it is sound and motion activated so if they start to fuss it plays the sound you record whether it be you making "shh" sounds or you singing a soothing song ..it may help

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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aww! I hate that! I cant imagine 6 MONTHS OLD THAT!! I'm goin to try and let him cry it out tonight!! Im really hoping I can do it!!!

Daisy - posted on 01/21/2009

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you'll like the book, kushla. it IS fabulous!



also - it explains about babies sleep patterns and what should really be expected. and it addresses breastfed babies (who do wake more than formula fed - in most cases) and cosleeping babies, which is great if you have either. my little one has ALWAYS fed frequently, so i know what to expect with him. but i still sleep fairly well.



and it's normal for little ones this age to still get up to eat some. or to wake up without needing to eat. you can teach them to get back to sleep on their own without making them cry, though. my little one hardly ever cries - day or night. and we both get plenty of sleep. and he can soothe himself when he needs to. :)

Dawn - posted on 01/21/2009

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Tiffany, I feel your pain! My son was 6 months old last week and has been a terrible sleeper. I feel like we've finally turned a corner and he's making progress but it has been a long six months and I am one tired momma! I finally decided that he had to learn to get himself back to sleep. I simply could not get up to give him his passy every time he fussed. It took more than a week of letting him cry it out, but he figured it out and is now waking up once (usually) in the night to feed and then goes right back to sleep. It is torture to listen to him cry but we both survived and he still absolutely loves his mommy. =)

Lisa - posted on 01/21/2009

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No suggestion! We are in the SAME boat! Up almost every 2 hours to nurse! Just enjoy the time as they get too big too quick...

Daisy - posted on 01/21/2009

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hi there! i have a five and a half month old. i can NOT do the cry-it-out method. just won't do it. i don't think it teaches a child to feel secure with his parents, which is very crucial. i would HIGHLY recommend the book The No Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley. It is fabulous. I started using it to help with naps. Within a week my baby (three months at the time) was soothing himself to sleep when before he would have to nurse to sleep and would wake after 20 minutes, only going back to sleep if nursed more. After just that week, he was going to sleep completely on his own and sleeping longer. And with NO CRYING. there is no NEED to let a child cry. really - there isn't. the book isn't just a plan you have to follow - you create your own and it helps you understand how and why. we have a naptime routine and a bedtime routine, both very consistent. he knows exactly what to expect each time, and he can soothe himself to sleep (i mean within just a couple minutes!!). it's really amazing at how well they can learn that without having to cry.



 



the lady the mentioned using the paci and SIDS is absolutely right. it is recommended to use one while they sleep to help prevent SIDS. so i would not take it away. but he still needs to learn to soothe himself back to sleep - with or without the paci. please try this book before letting your little one cry-it-out. it really will help. all the moms from my moms group have read it and we all agree that it has worked wonders for us. and NO CRYING. :) she does address waking in the middle of the night, too - not just getting to sleep the first time. i think it would really help you!!

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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WOW I didnt know that about SIDS!! That scares me now.... he takes about 2 naps a day... from about 30 to hour and half sometimes it just depends on how he is feeling... The crazy thing is... he goes to sleep fine!! I'll put him in his crib around 9ish and give him his passy and baby and cover him up turn on his mobile and he goes right to sleep...

Andrea - posted on 01/21/2009

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I had the same issue with my son and I was BFing him every 3-4's, but I was at my wits end around 7 months. This is when I finally decided to wean him off his night feedings since she was growing a very heathy level. I decided to just let him cry it out. As harsh as this sounds, it seemed to work much faster with him at 7 months, then it did with my daughter when she was 15 months. It is something you will have to decide, but i really think the cry it out method is a very good plan so they can learn how to calm themselves down!! gl and I hope you get some good rest soon!!

Casie - posted on 01/21/2009

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Okay...this happens very often. My best advice would be to stick to a routine each night...feed, bath, read book in a quiet place...then kiss good night lay down in crib...repeat every night...When he wakes up fussing give it some wait time before going in there...about 5 minutes then go in queitly and stand beside the crib and say it is okay mommy is here and it is time for bed...pat the bottom and leave...even if he is still crying...wait another 5 minutes...next time don't pat just let him know you are there...eventually work yourself to just stepping into the doorway to let him know you are there...I had to do this and after a good 3 to 4 nights of hearing the cries and stick to my plan he gave in and eventually realized I wasn't going to pick him up but would be there if he needed me...Hope it works...it does get better...Hang in there:)

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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okay... he has a night light mobile that plays music for up to 18 mins... he has his baby... He has been sleeping in his own crib and room since he was 2 months old... and he was sleeping through the night from 10 to 9 or so... until the past month or so... I just dont know how it got this bad...

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Wow, i have just joined this group thingo and this is my problem at the moment too. My lil man has slept through the night since he was 9 weeks old (hes now 20 weeks old), then the weather got hotter and suddenly hes waking 3 - 4 times a night.

Im feeling like a zombie. Hes also not sleeping very well during the day.

Last night he was so overtired he would go to bed then wake up after 15 minutes, id settle him and it would keep happening. So i had to let him cry for a while but when i went in there he was so hot and distressed i felt bad.

Settled him again, and sure enough he woke up again, i let him cry a bit again and then slept through till 4.30am, woke for a feed, then through till 8am.

I think we were spoilt in the begining with him sleeping through the night straight away.

Thanks for all the tips ladies, im going to have to be alot stricter with him i think

Candice - posted on 01/21/2009

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My ped recommends that children should keep their pacifiers for the first year, because of their role in decreasing the risk of SIDS. The best advice I have gotten about sleep for my daughter is to lay her down drowsy, and walk away, if she cries, wait 5 minutes, use a watch so you don't rush back in after 2:)!, then go comfort her, walk away, if she cries again, wait 10 minutes, go comfort, leave, and keep building up minutes until she finally learns to soothe herself back to sleep. Most babies have many wakeful periods through the night, parents who get a full night's sleep don't neccessarily have babies who sleep through the night, but babies who can self soothe when they do wake up. I was also advised on the "no lights, no playing or talking with the baby when they wake up in the night rule" this lets the baby know that nighttime is rest time, and not play time. Also, how much sleep is he getting during the day? My daughter started out sleeping all day, then she would wake up at 1 or 2 and want to start her day, so I tried playing with her, and playing upbeat music to help keep her awake during the day, and she started sleeping much better at night. I hope some of this is helpful.

Karen - posted on 01/21/2009

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Yes. Take it now. If you wait it is going to be a fight that you probably won't win.

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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he sleeps with his "baby" which is his elephant/blankety!!! so yall think i need to take the passy NOW!!! right?

Lesley - posted on 01/21/2009

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my oldest had her dummy till just before 2. She was always throwing it & now my 9mth old does the same. My girls really like/liked their dummies when teething & that also was how I got my oldest to give it up because she'd chew on them & deflate them in the end she got given a deflated 1 for a week & told she'd broken it & there was no more & then it got lost, & she got over it. If it helps to get him back to sleep I wouldn't be rushing it. The way I got my oldest to sleep through was when she'd cry in the night I'd go & change her nappy & put her straight back into bed, found out by fluke needed the loo myself 1 night quickly changed her dashed off came back to finish what I was doing & she'd gone off to sleep. Hope you find something that works for you soon.

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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I usually feed him once at night to make sure he is full... I know 2 hours is alot it felt like a lifetime... He is very big for his age he is in the 85% in weight and 95% in height... maybe it is from him growing... he just started doin this about a month or so ago....

Tiffany - posted on 01/21/2009

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I sure will check that web site out!! I WILL TRY ANYTHING!! lol I am goin to try and take the passy tonight and try and let him cry it out....we live in an apartment so hopefully the neighbors will understand!!

Shelley - posted on 01/21/2009

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Someone else suggested "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" and I completely agree. My son will be 6 months on Jan 30th and was sleep trained at 4 months. I just stopped going to him when he fussed at night and he learned to deal with it himself. Neither of my kids cared for a pacifier but my friend recently took her almost 7 month old off his. She just stopped giving it to him and because he was so young it wasn't too hard. It may be rough at first but he should get over it quickly. Good luck.

Susanne - posted on 01/21/2009

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I'd leave a nightlight on for him and teach him how to find his passy and put it in himself. That way he can learn to put himself back to sleep. My son had one of thoes glowing singing crib attachments, he'd just whack it, find his suckie and go back to sleep. Can't remember exactly how I taught him to do it.

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