Help !! Im going broke buying pull-ups !!!

Starla - posted on 06/13/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I have a 3 yr old girl (just turned in May) but she refuses to use her potty. We have one upstairs and another down stairs. So theres no excuse that she couldnt "make it " to the potty. We got on a roll just before he was 2 and now its like it doesnt exist anymore. I can put her on the potty and she says she "cant go". The minute I get doing something she says 'mom,I need to be changed". Im going out of my mind !!!


What do I do???

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Minnie - posted on 06/13/2009

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So don't buy them. Get some training pants, change them if they're dirty, and wash them.

Pull ups are glorified diapers, they just give her an excuse to potty in her pants- she's been trained from day one to potty in a diaper.

Amanda - posted on 06/13/2009

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My friend's son was four and not really invested in potty training. I unfortunately had to stay with him one day and was sick at the time, I didn't wasn't up to deal with changing his pull ups while being nauseated so I looked him in the eye and told him that he was a big boy and more than able to go potty on his own. I made him get his big boy undies out and that was that. He had no accidents any more from that day on. Good Luck! Now if I can just get my son to sleep through the night without an accident my life would be happy!

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Sherrie - posted on 06/17/2009

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This may sound a little odd, but does she like the idea of being dirty? My youngest girl, she's about to be 4, is sort of a clean freak for a child her age. We can barely get her to finger paint bc she ha to put her hands in the paint. Anyway, when we were potty training her at 2, she would do the exact same thing. So being that it was summertime and we had a private yard, we stopped putting them on her. We dressed her in her underwear and her clothes and after she went pee in her pants for the 2nd time and had to wash herself (with our help), she hasn't worn a pull up or went in her pants since!! Might be worth a try.

Jessica - posted on 06/15/2009

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Don't use them/buy pull-ups, buy a bunch of underwear and just keep washing them. They are like a diaper anyway so I never understood the point. She may just not be ready. The harder you push the longer it will take you. The best way to make her want to keep trying is to make a HUGE deal out of it when she does! She'll be proud of herself and know you are proud of her too, then she'll want to keep at it.



Good luck!

Kyla - posted on 06/14/2009

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They are too expensive. Never bought them. Just let them use under pants and if they get wet/soiled, just throw them in a bucket and wash later.

My son never liked his potty so we just threw him onto the toilet. Doing No.1's was easy for his to learn,,,just brought a step for him to use and lift he up so he would not miss the toilet. No.2's was harder for him to learn. We ended up doing a "Good Boys Chart" for different things, including doing no.1's and doing no.2's in the loo. What the winner in the end was leaving books in the toilet room for him to read whilst learning to push and do no.2's. Once he learnt this and had done a whole week or two...he got a present for his good work. He is 4 now and still loves to read whilst going to the toilet. So in the end he learnt how to go to the toilet and loves reading books on and off the toilet...lol.

Let us know how u go.

Renee - posted on 06/14/2009

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It seems that we are all in agreement that Pull Ups are nice in theory, but don't do the job. Going straight to undies (even for overnight, with an absorbant pad on the matress) worked much better for us. If someone had an accident, I would throw them in the shower- clothes and all. They would strip down in there I would give them a soapy washcloth to clean themselves with. I used the shower instead of the bath because I didn't want them to feel like they were getting playtime. For us, my kids were potty trained in a week this way. It made for lots of laundy so make sure you've got lots of detergant. Also, try not to take her out of the house where she will have to use a strange toilet for the first few days until she has adjusted to your own toilet first.

Francesca - posted on 06/14/2009

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my ss is 4(he has developmental delays), me and my husband potty trained him as his mother wouldn't and still wouldn't carry on with putting pants on when we got him dry. he was going to pre school in pull ups until we told them he is dry with us day and night, they spoke to mum and now he no longer wears them, although we found out she still puts them on him at night.pull ups are a waste of time. she needs to feel the wet on her skin. i would say scrap the idea of pull ups,

what we did is ask every 10 mins if he wanted to go, and still if he said no we would just put him on then keep going every 10 mins till he got used to it. it didnt take him long. if he messed we left him a few mins with them wet and he soon didnt like the feeling.

goodluck

Alyssa - posted on 06/14/2009

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i work in a child development center in the 2 yr old classroom and this is how i get through potty training...if the child is able to say i need to be changed she is just as able to say i need to use the potty...try this...tell your daughter that she is a big girl and big girls only peepee in the toilet..tell her that you are no longer going to buy pull-ups because she is going to use the potty from now on...and once your go to underwear DO NOT go back to pull-ups for any reason...yes she will mess up her clothes a few times before she totally gets it but just clean her up and put her on another pair of underwear...children understand more than parents think they understand

Mi'Kia - posted on 06/14/2009

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Stop buying oull ups and start buying panties... i know there an extra hassle of when she wets or messes herseflf theres extra cleanup but its worth it. with pullups it feels just like adiaper so its not really agood way to potty train a child they are more of a convience for the parents. With princess panties or spiderman underwear lol when they have a mess they fel it and eventually they will notice that it doesnt feel good and they make plastic panty covers u can find them at walmart or target and they go over the panties to help hold in the leaks if that happens.

Louise - posted on 06/14/2009

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Have you tryed nothing on at all, my daughter was 3 when she was dry tryed everything but didnt work, when they have nothing on they know there is nothing to catch the wee or poo she soon started using the potty from then on.

Victoria - posted on 06/14/2009

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I understand the "broke"! Tell her she is a big girl now and it is time to start wearing big girl clothes. (Buy pull-ups only for long trips or back ups when you are out!)



Here a few things I did with my kids when they went through that:

1. I told my daughter (she was a mature 3!) that mommy didn't have money for Pull-Ups any more so she would have to wear the big girl panties just like ALL the other big girls.



2. If she wets her self, tell her that now that she is a big girl, she will have to clean herself up, too. Provide her with cleaning wipes or a wash cloth to wash her legs, too.



3. If she soils her self, ask her to teach you how to clean her--play dumb and allow her to clean her self while "modeling" for you! Ask her what to do through every step, including flushing and washing her hands! If she misses a spot, or makes a mess, ask her what needs to be done to clean up. (The following sessions: tell her "I still don't remember. Can you show me again, please??)



4. Reward her with tons of love (and maybe a treat or special time with mom) every time she does this on her own.



Other options: Cloth underpants. Requires a little extra washing, but saves on the $$$.

Alicia - posted on 06/14/2009

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my son was 3 in march and still wets occasionally. the only thing that seemed to work for us was bribery! he had a special tin full of little chocolates (like quality streets or miniture heroes) and everytime he went wee in toilet he got 1, then we moved onto whenever he does a poo in toilet then he gets 1 but he used to start doing it in his pants so now he gets a sweet when his pants are clean and dry when he goes for a poo.

I know its not the best way to train but we tried EVERYTHING!

Erica - posted on 06/14/2009

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i have a son who will be in august and we have been working on potty training too he is more then cable of going but he gets lazy when he has any kind of pants on so I have just been letting him run around naked, my parents dont seen to like it but it gets the job done, he has not had one accident when he is naked, but if he wears underwear or anything he pees in them all the time so my advice go naked

Heather - posted on 06/14/2009

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I might not be much help because I am not doing so well myslef with the whole potty training thing! My son will be 3 July 3 and well we are just recently (last week or so) beginning! He usually runs around the house naked because he will not keep his diaper on! I refuse to buy any pull-up 1 they are wayyyy to expensive and I can get 2x the number of diapers for the price of pull-ups! 2 In my own opinion I think they are toooo close to being like a diaper in the first place. 3 My son has a really hard time getting his clothes off and a pull up. Diapers he can take off within seconds and thats kinda how long he has before there is an accident! :) I dont know how it would work with your daughter but I have notice my son "trying" harder if we just let him wear either nothing or whatever he wants to wear. (we make deals like: your a big boy so if you wear these you have to go potty in the big boy potty now!") Sometimes it works! I am beginning to believe that potty training is something the kids have to decide to do on their own and the more we push the more they DONT TRY! :) (Wow does that give me something to look forward to! :) LOL!) I hope I either helped you or AT LEAST made you feel better because I know how frustrating it can be! I feel ya! Good Luck! :)

Katie - posted on 06/14/2009

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Potty training in undies is a GREAT way! Not only does it make them feel how uncomfortable it is to go in your pants but it keeps you on your toes about reminding them to "go" more often because you don't really want to clean a mess off of the carpet etc!!! Worked GREAT with my son at age 13 months. He has used the potty since.

Traci - posted on 06/13/2009

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I totally agree. I think Pull Ups hinder potty training. Even the ones that are supposed to let them feel wet, don't do the job. It's hard, and you may have to keep your steam cleaner handy, but use undies from day one and potty training is much easier.

Crissy - posted on 06/13/2009

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Did the samething with my son. Told him he was a big boy now he doesn't need those diapers anymore. Thankfully it worked! He turned 3 in feb. but the experts claim girls train by 2-3 boys 3-4 good luck

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Wal_Mart has cloth "pull-ups" they are like thick underwear with a plastic outer to keep them from leaking through. They were great for my little one.

Kim - posted on 06/13/2009

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Many kids regress in some area as they grow up and gain new skills. I thought my son would start school in a pull-up. We still had issues for several years with bed wetting. She could also be looking for some attention if there has been a change in the house.



You might want to tell her she will have to stay wet because you are busy. Then praise her when she does go potty.

Lindita - posted on 06/13/2009

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hi there i would recommend letting her without a pamper that worked with my son in 2 weeks he even during the night waked up to go in bath and he was about that age

Lindita - posted on 06/13/2009

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hi there i would recommend letting her without a pamper that worked with my son in 2 weeks he even during the night waked up to go in bath and he was about that age

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