help me please i have a 16 month old who ALL SHE WANTS TO DO IS NURSE! she literally will scream and cry unless i nurse no matter what distractions i do or when i say no she cries forever it feels like. She will eat and drink from a sippy cup and bottle, and is fine whenever i am not around but the minute she is with me and wants to eat she wants to nurse...i am so ready for her to be off of me, and its driving me crazy.. any advice??? i will try anything, and she is up alot at night to nurse too.

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Dove - posted on 12/30/2012

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I hate to break it to you, but.... there is absolutely nothing wrong with her still nursing at only 16 months. WHO recommends nursing til 2 years or beyond for a reason.

If you want to be done.... just tell her no and stick with it. Otherwise... listen to what she is telling you. Comfort is a very real, legitimate need... especially at only 16 months.

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Dove - posted on 12/30/2012

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No one said you were a bad mom or even tried to insinuate it....

Just telling you that your daughter's behavior is normal.

Amy Nicole - posted on 12/30/2012

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i understand that but its just so frustrating when she wants nothing to do with my husband and only wants me and i cant get anything done and she just wants to nurse. i dont mind nursing her but its the constant all the time and when i say no its the crying, screaming climbing all over me, i feel like i am a bad mom cause i always give in to her all the time. i have to walk out of a room to get a second to myself... i just wanted to do it till she was one and i thought weening would be easy --- i am pregnant and it makes me want to formula feed, cause this is so hard. i am sorry if you feel like i am a bad mom but i have an older daughter to and i feel like she can never get my attention. the crazy thing is when i am not around and she is with my dad or mom or husband she is great for them its just with me cause she just wants to nurse.........

Amy - posted on 12/30/2012

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I agree with Dove if you are done then stick to it. My daughter nursed till she was two and basically stopped, when she did want to nurse it was just a minute or two and she was off and running again. The comfort nursing never bothered me maybe because I knew she will still getting all the benefits of nursing and she was being comforted at the same time.

Amy Nicole - posted on 12/30/2012

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sometimes she will just want to nurse for like 2 min then she is done... so weird i think i am going to have my parents keep her till i dry up that way she physically cant do it it may be the only way to break this ....

Amy Nicole - posted on 12/30/2012

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if we are out in public she doesnt really ask me to nurse its really just when we are at home, i was only nursing in the morning and at night, then she got sick and then it was all the time and that is where we are right now. Personally i think other then morning/nap times/bedtime she doesnt really need it its more of a comfort thing for her... i just want to stop doing it i think she is at the age i dont need to be nursing her especially when i feel like it is for comfort..... just so frustrating sometimes she will be up like 5-6 times throughout the nights=.....ugh

Amy - posted on 12/30/2012

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Instead of telling her no try putting time limits on it. Say ok but only for 7 minutes and then slowly decrease the time. Or when you do tell her no tell her when she can nurse again. That way you aren't denying her completely.

Dove - posted on 12/30/2012

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That was my son... except he didn't cry for it much at that age cuz I never said no unless I HAD to (like when I was driving). MY advice would to be nurse her when you can and when you can't... tell her why and when you can... and then stick to what you've said whether she cries or not. By telling her no and no and no... and then giving into the fits... that's why she's throwing the fits so much. She knows you'll cave.

Have you tried a day where you only tell her no when you absolutely can not put off whatever else you are doing? How often is she actually nursing when you don't tell her no? Just trying to get an idea of how 'severe' the situation actually is before I can add anything else... If I can.

Amy Nicole - posted on 12/30/2012

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i have tried the setting limits on her, (i am home witih her all day) and she will follow me around screaming and crying hyperventilating till i give in to her. She really makes it unbearable for me to deal with. i tell her no and she screams.She wont take a pacifier unless to bite on it and play with it for awhile. I have litrally tried everything i can, it is driving me and my husband insane. She wants nothing to do with him when i am here, and wants to be attached to me all the time. i do think alot of it is comfort because she nurses so much i dont think she is really getting anything from me at times. Its really hard for me because I didnt nurse my first child, and it was easier to break her of a bottle. I am pregnant again with my third and this whole experience is making me want to formula feed the next one. i am at my wits end to the point I want to cry. I am just not that mom that can let my child cry it out when i can soothe her, but i am afraid that if i dont get her off me she will never stop. I wanted to stop after a year and that didnt happen and now we are going on 17 months.......

Ariana - posted on 12/30/2012

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Put parameters on the nursing. I don't know what you think is reasonable but just make specific times when she can nurse and times when she cannot. Start off with her being able to nurse a lot of the time and slowly ween her to less and less times. If she is wanting to nurse but it's during one of the 'non nursing' times just don't let her. You can pick her up and cuddle her if she wants, or if she refuses to let you do that I would ignore the crying and go about your day.

Does she have a pacifier? I know some people are really against those, but when I breastfed (although not as long as you did) my son was trying to use me as a pacifier for a while. He would get me to nurse him and then fall asleep, I don't think he was even hungry. She may just love the sucking sensation. A pacifier may help her get that sensation somewhere else. You can put jam on it if she doesn't like it. At least a pacifier you can ween off as well and it's not attached to your body...

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