HELP! My 8 1/2 yr old stepson has been pooping his pants.

Jill - posted on 07/23/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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This has been going on for 3 years now. He tells us he doesn't know why he's doing it and we have tried EVERYTHING we can think of to make this stop. He's been to a therapist who was of the opinion that no inappropriate touching was occurring, but he wasn't able to offer anything to help us. We've also been to a specialist who confirms that my stepson is "full of poop" and needs extra help because he may have a stretched colon. But even after he poops his pants, he SITS IN IT until others smell it! IT IS DISGUSTING! Punishment and Rewards have both failed. Kids are starting to pick on him and I feel terrible for him. Can anybody help us please?? :-( I truly am desperate.

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Tracy - posted on 07/23/2010

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I'm with Rachelle, book a consultation with a chiropractor immediately. A good chiro will examine him, talk with you both, do a thorough consult and answer all your questions, then follow through with an adjustment then and there.
Good luck!

Jill - posted on 07/23/2010

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Jodi - he was on a powder that helped to keep him pooping regularly...That was after he was given a solution (diaretic) to help clean out his intestines/colon. No real improvements seen there though except that his poop stays "soft". We know that it could take awhile for the colon to return to somewhat normal, but again, he sits in it... I honestly am not sure whether he knows if he has to poop or not. There are times, when i make him sit on the toilet, that he is SURPRISED that he had to go. (Still doesn't answer the question of why he sits in the poop - he knows that it smells and that others CAN smell it.) :-(

Rachelle, how old was your son who had the sublaxation in his spine? I will have to google this...never heard of it. Thanks ladies.

Rachelle - posted on 07/23/2010

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Take him to the chiropractor right away! I had the same problem with my son and after only 2 adjustments he was going to the potty to poop every time. If he has a sublaxation in his spine it could be pinching a nerve,specifically the nerve that controls his bowels. I know 2 other little boys who this has also helped.

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2010

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Jill, I can understand your frustration :) But it is definitely puzzling. What are the specialists doing? You mention they have said it may be a stretched colon and he needs extra help, but exactly what medical help are they recommending? The therapy is probably no help because it is a medical issue.

Definitely don't punish him when he poops, because at that age, there is no way he means to do it, and I am sure he is doing the best he can, but yeah, the lying about it and sitting in it is an issue. I don't understand that either.

Can you instead try to reward him when he notices it immediately? Maybe that will work?

Jill - posted on 07/23/2010

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The therapist wasn't helpful AT ALL. He offered nothing in the way of what we should be doing. So, we've decided NOT to punish my step son for having an accident... He does, however, get into trouble when he lies about it, or sits in it. He's better about not lying (although he still does) but he still sits in it. Although he says he realizes we're trying to help him, he still fights us about sitting on the toilet. I asked him if it hurts to poop and he says no, so I don't understand his reluctance. In fact, we just had an issue about an hour ago.... I'm really at my wit's end here.... Thanks for "listening".

Jodi - posted on 07/23/2010

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Jill, what does he say when you ask him why he sits in it? Maybe he is worried about being punished?

Jill - posted on 07/23/2010

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Yes and the doctor noted that he does have a stretched colon as I noted in the original post. We put him on the toilet after every meal and even various times throughout the day...We can't understand why he SITS in it knowing he's got poop in his pants.
What other type of medical treatment should we be seeking?

Joanna - posted on 07/23/2010

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Have you taken him to medical specialists? He may have a stretched colon... have you sought other medical treatment?

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