Help with pregnancy announcment for baby #3.

Crystal - posted on 04/24/2013 ( 32 moms have responded )

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My husband and I are expecting baby #3. We planned this, spaced our children 3 and a half wonderful years apart. I didn't tell my mom that we were trying, but hinted, and in turn she hinted her negative opinion. I'm 28, I have one of each gender, money can always be better but we aren't hurting for it. This is our picture perfect family and we don't plan to have any more. Mother's day is around the corner and I plan to tell her then.

Do any of you have any creative, tension relieving, ways to reveal my emotional news? I'm looking for a humorous or sentimental memory to be made.

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Christina - posted on 05/03/2013

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I think you may be better off not sharing on Mother's Day. I know the joy of sharing such news that is supposed to be good is really your choice, but on the other hand, you need to consider how the others receiving the news will react. If your mother is negative about it, do you really want to spoil your own enjoyment of Mother's Day with a negative reaction?

I have been in the other boat -- struggled with primary infertility for 4+ years before we adopted our daughter and heard the announcement of a sister's pregnancy with her third child right around Christmas. While the news was wonderful for my sister, I spent my entire Christmas holidays weeping due to all of the negative emotions that her news conjured in me (not her fault, mind you, but still a seriously painful situation for a woman experiencing infertility). You have to remember that the news of a new baby, while it's a good thing, is also a huge change for people, and because it's a change, it's a form of stress (usually POSITIVE STRESS), but if you know people might not be as happy for you as you want, it's not as great to share around holidays. That would help you avoid some negativity, too. People are more likely to react negatively when they are stressed.

Maybe wait a week after Mother's Day and come up with some other cute way to share? Like a little poem or a cute little T-shirt or something?

Jeri - posted on 05/07/2013

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Our son and his wife announced to us on Grandparent's Day with a delightful Card from "peanut" complete with a sentiment written from "peanut" to us about how much he/she was looking forward to meeting us, etc., along with a copy of the sonogram. I still have it five years later! It was both humorous & sentimental! We were very excited, but if your mother may not be that way right now, with a card and some humor, it has to prompt at least a thank you! Then maybe a great big smile!! Enthusiasm is very catching!!
You may even go so far as to have each of your other children present her with (or mail, if you have to) their own card, then giving the card from "peanut" to her jointly, which would involve them and their excitement as well.
Good luck, and God Bless you and your family!

Adrienne - posted on 05/07/2013

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We told our family the news about our 4th child in a photo. We had been through a late miscarriage about a year and a half before, so we were scared to break the news too early. We waited to tell EVERYONE (grandparents, our older kids, etc.) until after our first ultrasound. We told the kids first, and then had our youngest hold a sign that said "I'm gonna be a BIG BROTHER!" with a copy of the ultrasound taped to it. Then we emailed the photo to the ones we wanted to tell first, and later posted it to Facebook for the rest of our family and friends. We hadn't even been trying, so everyone was completely floored!
Best of luck on your announcement, and a big CONGRATULATIONS on the coming addition to your family!

Janessa - posted on 05/01/2013

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I've never been the big announcing type, so I don't know that I can help you, but given that I am about to have my 5th and my family has always been the 2 no more than 3 type, I understand the difficulty of getting past the negativity. My husbands family are just like us, so it is easy with them. I have always just waited for my family to find out themselves, and I stand up for us if negative comments come, and point out how much better our lives are with each child and can they really imagine a life without them, because they do love their grandkids. I also know that no child is an accident and God is in control of all of this because especially with this last one it would have had to take a miracle.

AndyandBelle - posted on 05/01/2013

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I say give her a Mothers Day card and sign it,
"Love Always, Husband, You, Kid 1, Kid 2, and BABY!!"
I always wanted to do that :)

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Bex - posted on 05/07/2013

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Hi Crystal... Know what I did? Bought crystal pacifiers, boxed and wrapped (Im one for random surprise gifts, so that alone isnt note-worthy) handed one each to my mother, his mother and my nan... lets just say it was the longest quiet period whilst they were figuring it out, followed by a deafening scream!! Just let what she says, go in one ear and straight out the other, she has had her kids and I bet she didnt take any crap ;o) On the other hand, thank the Lord above you arent getting pestered to HAVE more kids, jeez, my mums does my nut in!! Good luck and congrats!! :oD

Amy DuMont - posted on 05/07/2013

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When my oldest daughter got pregnant with her second son, we were all together for Thanksgiving dinner. The prayer had been said before we ate. While it was still quiet, my daughter made the announcement just by saying they were pregnant. It was the paternal grandparent's first biological grandchild. When she got pregnant again, she sent everyone a text message that started out, "Knock, knock." When we answered, her response was, "Buninoven." I caught on right away, but my husband did not!

Theresa - posted on 05/06/2013

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Place clues all over the house and have the last one lead to a I love Grandma newborn's onesie with her Mother's Day presents.

Debbie - posted on 05/05/2013

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We had the whole family around for "Thanksgiving Dinner" -In Australia we have a National Day of Thanksgiving (May 18th) that a lot of people don't even know exists. We all sat around the table & before eating, expressed something that we were thankful for. We believe in God, but not all our family do, they were Ok with this as they were not "Thanking God" but just expressing thankfulness in their lives. We kept our thanksgiving till last & announced that we were thankful to be having our 3rd baby! Everyone was in such a thankful mood, appreciating that the greater things in life are truly family and friends. Life is so precious, and adding to your family multiplies the love, even if it does add to the grocery bills. We now have 5 beautiful children and try to remember that people are more important than things. An addition to the family is so much better than a take-away, and the more the merrier! (but for us 5 is enough! you have to stop somewhere!). All the best - congratulations btw!
Also - we already had a boy & a girl, and I often had people comment why would I want another? I was shocked! I love having babies and raising my children, it is such an honour to see them grow up under our care.

Melinda - posted on 05/05/2013

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I was nervous telling my parents as well since they always say that I have enough with my two boys and don't need anymore kids. Just literally come out and say it! But, I sucked it up and told them all on Valentines day!. I got some wood frames at the craft store with the letters BABY and painted them (white frame, blue B, yellow A, pink B, and green Y). I then stuck an ultrasound picture in the frame and gave them a heart pendant necklace that had the three birthstones on it. I ALSO took a picture of my kids, when they were at their happiest, wearing shirts that said "I'm a big brother!" and included this in my package. On the gift card I wrote a little note saying something like "We are now complete and couldn't be more happy!" To my surprise, I got nothing but positive comments, even from the one parent that criticizes me the most. Good luck! I announced my second child on mother's day and it was perfect. I had my oldest give the moms a flower as well... Go for it!

This is the necklace I gave them... http://www.meijer.com/s/sterling-silver-...

Claire - posted on 05/03/2013

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My sister in law did something really cute. She took a picture. And her first born was hold a sigh with a 1 on it, her 2nd with a 2, and she was holding a sign that had a 3 with an arrow pointing to her belly. It was so creative and cute!

Margaret - posted on 05/02/2013

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My daughter announced her second pregnancy to us with an ultrasound photo in our anniversary card. I immediately identified it was thrilled. My husband took a while as he turned the picture round and round thinking it was some sort of gift certificate. It truly was... the greatest gift of all.

Abby - posted on 05/02/2013

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I told my MIL by giving her some fabric to make a blanket that said I love grandma. She thought it was odd until she read what it said. ( she is a manager at a fabric store so sewing is her thing plus this was her 1 st bio grand kid ) you could also have a card made by the kids that says we love you grandma from your 3 little ones or something like that. Hope your mom is excited for you. Good luck

Becky - posted on 05/01/2013

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Someone we knew gave a late valentine to their mother when expecting their 4th saying .......roses are red violets are blue this card is late and so is Sue!

Of course, you would have to make it work for your name but I thought it was so cute.

Terri - posted on 04/30/2013

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Its just ur mother opinion although important want is important 2 remember is this is a gift from God that belongs 2 God but he wants u and ur husband 2 bring it up and cherish it reming her how children r a blessing from God and what a gr8 blessing 2 come in2 ur wee family unit gav u mum something about psalm 139 how we r formed in r mothers womb how God allowed her 2 know u first b4 any other human being and want a joy it will be 4 her 2 share in another precious life just think be4 this world began God knew u would hav3 children and ordained how many grandchildren she wud hav the pleasure 2 know let her know she is blessed indeedxx

Faye - posted on 04/30/2013

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In July 1994, We were attending an anniversary party in a different state. I packed the one maturity top I had kept. I then wore that shirt on the day of the party. As I am sitting at the table for breakfast, my mom walks in and starts crying. She knew why I was wearing that shirt but did not know the due date. She thought it was a cute idea. We had drove separate cars as we lived in different states.

As it turned out two of my cousins were pregnant at the same time, one due any day, one due in Oct and I was due in Jan. Now all three second cousins are graduating High School within 12 days of each other.

Marilyn - posted on 04/30/2013

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When my daughter and son-in-law were expecting #2, they brought my grandson to my house wearing a t-shirt that said "Big Brother". I took off his jacket and when I saw it I burst into tears of happiness! It was a great moment! Good luck!

Patricia - posted on 04/29/2013

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Since my mother was going to react negatively, I decided to tell her right before we were walking into Sunday Mass. She had to sit through mass and really think about her reaction. Now my sister's and I look back and laugh because it is rare for our mother to have a speechless moment.

Jessica - posted on 04/29/2013

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When we had our 3rd I got a picture frame that held 3 pictures and I posted pictures with details about each child's birth in the first two slots, then in the third I wrote in yellow To Be Announced . . . , our parents loved it. (They were not really excited about a 3rd either) That way they got a little piece of remembrance from the two older ones, and to look forward to the finished frame when it was all done. Now they both have their frames proudly displayed at home, Good Luck!

Kathleen - posted on 04/28/2013

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My dear sister had 5 kids. My mom totally disapproved of any more than 2. My sister just did her thing and has a beautiful family. If says anything let it go in one ear and out the other.

Karen - posted on 04/28/2013

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I have 3 grandsons but there is no way in heck I'd ever be upset at having MORE!! I've relished every minute I've had with them but I respect that my son and his wife didn't want to have anymore...3 is plenty for them although I could have been pretty happy to welcome more...I'm not really sure why your mother would be negative? Is she thinking she'll have to babysit ? And she doesn't want to?

Christy - posted on 04/28/2013

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I got the same reaction when we debated a 4th child...but after we found out that we had gotten pregnant, we waited until Mother's day to tell everyone. I printed a picture of a bun in an oven, and on the back I wrote out a little poem that said something like... This bun hasn't been baking for very long but should be done and fully baked around Dec. 4th, 2008. It was the funnest way for me to tell both our mom's :) Congratulations and good luck!

Rachel - posted on 04/27/2013

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I was in a similar situation just recently (2011)! We had one of each and when I told my mum we were talking about having another she freaked! When I got pregnant that December (an accident, actually, but we were talking about it so we weren't upset) I was so afraid to tell my mum that we kept it secret for months. When we finally did tell, I made a Powerpoint slideshow on my computer that started with a photo of my older kids and a caption that read "Sir Alexander and Princess Abigail have an announcement" (the picture was of them playing dress up) and was followed by the caption "Mommy is expecting!", then the Ultrasound picture, then a caption of my due date. I e-mailed it to our entire family all at once, so that if my mum freaked out again I might get some positive feedback to counter it. Thankfully, she was no where near as negative when faced with reality as she had been when faced with a possibility. Hopefully your mum will be the same! BTW, I now have two boys and a girl, and my girl is in the middle:) Baby Sebastian is now 7.5 months and big brother is already looking forward to sharing a bedroom wth his little brother.

Tracy - posted on 04/26/2013

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I don't know why, but this image popped into my head: Maybe a family BBQ or even a restaurant gathering with your mom for mother's day. Just a normal day/meal together. Maybe give your mom some little gift. Just after she opens her gift, have someone representing a stork (maybe a costume or a t-shirt that says "stork") come in and tie a little string around your finger with a ribbon the color of the birthstone for which you are due. LOL, "stork" doesn't say a word. Just walks in, ties this around your finger, and walks out.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/26/2013

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My birthday is in december, that is a blue topaz. If it falls in January it will be a garnet (red)

Crystal - posted on 04/25/2013

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Thank you!!!!!
I have decided to give my mom a birthstone necklace. It's is designed in a way that you can add or remove stones. I'm due the last week of December so I won't know which stone for sure since it's possible to carry over. ;)
I'm sure she'll notice the extra stone.
I'll update and let you know how smooth it goes.

Minet - posted on 04/25/2013

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Have child #2 tell her that he (for explanation sake, your second child is a boy) will finally be a big brother -or- make/buy a t-shirt that says "future big brother" and have him wear it on Mother's day.

Congratulations!

Evelyn - posted on 04/25/2013

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Not sure if you go to church or not but my mom did this to tell my grandmother she was going to have a great-grand on the way. During church announcements she said congrats great-grandma. It took my grandmother a while to get the idea that she was getting a new great grand kid. By the way, it was also Mother's Day too. Nine months later in January, we gave her a great-grandson who got her father's first name as his middle name. And just recently, my son told me he preferred his middle name to his first. If my grandmother were alive today she would have been proud to hear that.

CONGRATS!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/25/2013

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Give her a card saying happy grandmothers day with a picture of the ultrasound in it.

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