Hey my daughter is 16 months and she is still not on a set sleeping schedule.Its always changing and lately ive noticed she is waking up later taking a later nap and going to sleep later.ive tried making her not nap once it gets late but then she is very cranky and i feel bad.any advice?are all ur kids on set schedules at this age or were they?
Bobi - posted on 12/04/2008
I would suggest you get her up a little earlier in the mornings and have her naps early and not for a long time. I have a two and a half year old and i made the big mistake of letting her fall into the same situation as your little one. Now she stays awake til ridiculous hours of the night and sleeps til around eleven in the morning. It is a nightmare and we are desperately trying to get her back in a routine. Get it early is my best advice. Speaking from experience. Good luck
Natalie - posted on 12/04/2008
wow..thank u every1..my daughter is very active i take her outside everyday.i do the after dinner play 4 a lil while n then give her a bath.for a while this was working she was goin to sleep at a decent time...not great but decent time.she never sleeps completely thru the nite she will wake up atleast once 4 a bottle.i agree that it mite be becuz she is not full she dont eat too too much..i dont think she eats enuff but my dr said at her age its not a problem not shes not eatin alot.i do read to her everynite regardless of how late she took that nap.i think one day of her missing her early nap n takin a later one realli messedup the schedule.so tomorrow no matter wat time she goes to sleep im wakin her up bright n early n ill let her take a earlier nap.im also guna try to see if i cud either get her to eat a lil more or atleast maybe give her oatmeal a lil be4 bedtime so i kno shes full.i hope this works.thank u guys so much i wil let u z know wat happens..i have alot on my hands for the next few months..i wana get her on a sleepin schedule ,potty train her and get her off the bottle completely!!!
Kristi - posted on 12/04/2008
Sounds like maybe she is just trying to change her nap schedule a bit? When mine changes his napping schedule, like when he went from 2 to 1 it took a couple of weeks or so of some weirdness until it worked itself out. Routine is great; I agree with everyone that said this, but it needs to allow for some flexibility during your baby's 'changes'. As her development changes so will her sleep needs. I have a late napper now. He used to nap 12-2 or so, every day, but now naps 3-5 and still goes to bed at 7:30 and sleeps fine, so... Do a nap routine just like a bedtime routine, just change it up a little so it's not the exact same. We have 2 books about naps we read before our nap time and do a quiet sleepy dance to a song we both love (and one that I always played for him in the womb).
Lay down with her at the same times every day and at bed. Have consistent routines set in place before nap and bed. Make sure she is eating her solid foods at around the same times every day. If you so this for 2-4 weeks you will find that it will all work itself out. Also, make sure she is getting plenty of stimulation in the morning - this is when kiddos her age need their most stimulation. Get her out of bed and up and running, maybe go to the park or do a stimulating activity together. If you 'wear her out' early she'll likely nap earlier cuz she's so tired! GL!
Hilary - posted on 12/04/2008
I have had my kids on sleep schedules since they were a around 6 months old. Sometimes they seem to need to sleep later or an extra nap during growth spurts, atleast mine did. One thing I would not change is her nap time. If she wakes up later still put her down at the regular nap time, even if she doesn't sleep. Then I would make sure that she had a set bed time, regardless of how tired or not she would be, get her to bed at the same time every night. My kids started with a bedtime of 7:30 and it has been pushed back to 8 now, during the summer we make it 8:30. Kids at her age need around 15 hours of sleep. Good luck and don't get discouraged!!
Jennifer - posted on 12/04/2008
i say u shouldnt worry to much either, my oldest daughter is a cat napper only needs half hour naps so had to stop her naps early so that i could get her in to routine my other daugter is now to n out of her naps because she would not go to sleep at bed time but i use to have her nap in the morning for 45 minutes no longer otherwise she would be a nightmare at bedtimes or complainin coz she never napped irts ur choice u will no wen she is ready to cut out the naps just prehaps try morning naps rather then afternoon like late mornings.
Emma - posted on 12/04/2008
Hi Natalie, I dont want to alarm you but my middle daughter is 8yr old and she still has unsettled slepp patterns, sorry for that. some times babys sleep well and some times they dont. My other 2 children have always had brilliant sleep patterns, each child is different, try not to worry or feel bad you just need to keep trying to encorage as normal routine as possible but really dont think you are doing any thing wrong if the routine changers it happens, and good look......
Sandi - posted on 12/04/2008
Hi Natalie. Children need routine, no matter what age. Routine makes children feel safe and contained. Generally speaking, at your child's age she needs a set bedtime as well as a nap during the day. It is useful to create a predictable routine around bedtime, which should start earlier rather than later (as she'll most likely fight her exhaustion). Creating a routine that encompasses some kind of a 'ritual' for want of a better word is a tangeble process for your child which will help her to identify cues that suggest it is nearing bedtime. She will process these cues on a cognitive level and begin to associate them with bedtime. Perhaps you could start off with dinner, then a relaxed bathtime, followed by some quality time with you (reading, talking, cuddling), and then finally bedtime. Use suggestive phrases such as "it's quiet time now". It's good to enable children to fall asleep on their own, so leave her bedside while she is awake but ready to go to bed. Remind her that you are close by. It helps not to give into tantrums. If she starts to become upset, let her know that you are available to her. Stroke her, rub her back, or stand by the doorway, but don't give in to picking her up or allowing her to climb out of bed etc. Children test boundaries all the time and are quite skilled at the art of outwitting their parents!!!! Try to facilitate this routine at the same time everyday with as little interuption as possible. Its vital to make quality time with her, as children often test boundaries as a way of telling you they need something from you. If you fulfill this need regardless, she will be less inclined to test boundaries or throw tantrums as a way to communicate her needs. Lastly, a set bedtime routine will mean that she is happier, and inevitably that you are happier.
Jessica - posted on 12/04/2008
I sometimes have the same problem and i let my son sleep even if its late if hes really tired but then i wake him about an hour before his normal bedtime so he will stay in his routine, but i feel bad for waking him so i dunno if i should be leaving him or not
Rania - posted on 12/04/2008
when my daughter was born and till now ( 1 yr 11 months now) she is on a set schedule! i am very strict,, it keeps on changing,, sometimes she hates sleeping but when i say u have to sleeps and there is no escape then there is really no escape,, she cries and tries to run away but i dont let,, according to me,, she has to sleep for about 10 to 12 hours at night and for 2 hours in the day,,,, now she is used to it and she knows that when mama says sleep then i HAVE to sleep...
try telling her a story or sing her a song,, keep repeating the same story or song till she sleeps,, coz to make a child sleep u have to be boring,, and when u repeat she will get bored and sleep.... give it a try and tell me what happened ... :) best of luck
Ronise - posted on 12/03/2008
You should have a sleep schedule for your daughter by now. Though it seems backwards, you should put her to sleep earlier rather than later. I recommend the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth, MD. We got that to help improve sleep for our twins when they were 4 months old and were pleased with the outcome, even though we didn't follow the book strictly. Good luck!
Hayley - posted on 12/03/2008
Hi Natalie, your daughter is at that ge now where she starts testing her boundries with you. It would be better for you if you try to get her in a set sleeping pattern, try waking her up earlier in the morning, she will be cranky but it doesn't last. Also try making going to bed fun, read her a story, but also make her understand that the limmit is only three or four pages, and then its bed time. it does take about a month sometimes two, but it will so be worth your while to keep at it.
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