Hi Everyone, just need a bit of advice. My 19 month old twins don't talk at all. They don't even say Mamma or Dadda. They understand everything we say to them and can make themselves understood through actions and gestures but they don't/can't say any actual words. They communicate between themselves or my 3 and a half year old son talks for them. They make the usual noises but no attempts at actually saying anything. Is this normal with 2nd/3rd children/twins or should I be concerned. Just wondered what eveyone thought x

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Vicky - posted on 02/04/2009

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Thanks everyone for your messages. I've read them all and it's given me alot to think about but the main thing is that I feel a little less worried about it now. I live in the UK and they have a development review at 2 years old so I think I'll wait and talk to the Doctor until then as it seems like it's a  prity common thing by the sounds of it and then go from there. Hope you're all well and thanks again for taking the time to message me xx 

Kelly - posted on 02/03/2009

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My son was the middle child and he was 18 months and not talking after a while and many evaluations his was diagnosed with dyspraxia, where the brain doesn't send all information correctly (misfires). I saw an earlier post, most states have programs like "Help me Grow" until 3 years old, because let me tell you speech therapy and similar programs are not cheap and insurance usual only covers a certain number of visits. My doctor labeled it as a "cognitive defective" like since birth so insurance paid for like 90% of 20 visits. Check it out. Get it diagnosed early whatever it is because children learn the best from birth to 3 years old. Good Luck to you.

Emma - posted on 02/03/2009

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my third son is 2 years and six months and he is just know starting to put words together to form sentences ithink he was about two when he started to say mummy he is still having problems with some words but usually can make me understand, his brother is nearly 4 and does alot of talking for him but he is getting there, he has just started nursery and within the fist couple of weeks i have noticed a difference in his independance which i think is very good for him so i should nt worry to much

Lauren - posted on 02/03/2009

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I have  twins boy/girl and my daughter was the exact same way.  I had her evaluated at about 22 months and they said that she did not qualify for services although she never spoke a word the whole time, she understood everything.  She is 3 1/2 now and never stops talking.  I think it is pretty common and I think it is much more common for twins.  Call your school district and have them evaluated if you are concerned.  Good luck.

Camie - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi Vicky- I would reccomend having his ears checked at a good ENT. My mothers neighbors little boy is 4 years old and didnt talk really at all and was kinda aggressive. So they finally took him and had his ears checked and they had so much stuff in them, so they had them cleaned and now is slowly starting to talk. Not being able to hear effects everything and thats why he was aggressive. They waited so long that it has slowed his speach. But he is doing really well now. Just a thought but worth checking out.

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Hi, I have 18 month old twin boys and they barely say a word yet, Samuel will say hiya and Jacob has started saying mama, but most of the time they point at what they want and grunt they do constantly babble with each other but I really am not concerned at the moment I think some twins are delayed with a some things. My mum is a twin and she tells me that her and her sister had their own special language until they started school, so I am not overly worried, I will wait a few more months and see what happens if you are very worried I would consult your doctor and discuss speech therapy.

Sarah - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi Vicky. Chances are they're not talking because they know your older child will speak for them. The main thing is that they can understand what you are saying as this shows there are no developmental problems. I have 4 children aged between 8 and 16 months and all of them started to speak at different ages, although i have noticed that the girls seem to be more forward with their speech. Believe me, when they have something to say they will say it, and they they'll never be quiet!! Try not to worry!

User - posted on 02/03/2009

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I would definately bring it up to a doctor, but don't freak about it.  Lots of kids with older sibs take longer to talk.

Michele - posted on 02/03/2009

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Don't worry.  They will talk when they have something to say and when they are ready.  I have a daycare and all kids talk at differerent stages in their lives.  I watched plenty of kids and believe me, they all talk eventually.  Once they start, they don't stop.  They will have lots to say.  Good, bad, funny, interesting, enlightening, etc. 

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A lot of twins have their own language. A lot of toddlers that have older siblings don't talk much because they know somebody else will do it for them. My 3 year old son didn't talk much when he was that age, his siblings always offered him things until they figured out what he wanted. My 16 month old daughter, on the other hand, talks up a storm. One of the reasons is I teach her baby sign language. It's American Sign Language but they have it in board books with pictures and she loves it. I started with my son at about 18 months, but didn't really get into it until he was almost 2 and I wished I had started it sooner. I have been reading signs to my daughter since about 9 months old and she started picking them up really early. Now she talks and signs all the time, both in regular english, ASL and in her own babble language that you just know she is trying to say something. Babies communicate with their hands and bodies much sooner than their words because that part of their brain is much more developed. Try the sign language, it might suprise you how well they pick it up, as well as your other kids. Look on amazon.com for "sign about" books, they're about $5 each.

Ema - posted on 02/03/2009

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My twins are two years old and they speak mainly between themselves, one of them will make an effort towards others,but limited, the other prefers to be silent around people. Yet they can talk in sentences if they want especially if it is something they do not like. I would not worry, my friends twins talk constantly (they are two weeks older), yet they do not have the need for special communication between themselves. So as Angela said if they babble between themselves or communicate in a way that they find satisfying they will start talking sooner or later. Believe me they are not deaf or anything, they just prefer not to speak.

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I have three children. My eldest is four and my second is 21 months. He only says 3 words and he only started saying them in the last month. My eldest talks for him all the time. He understands what is being said to him and he can make himself understood he just didnt start talking till recently. I did not see any speech therapist, I just waited till he was ready. I have an older brother and my mother said I didnt say a word till I was 3 then I just started all of a sudden with sentences. I think they will start talking when they are ready.

Judy - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi. I have taken care of 75+ children in my home daycare through the years and I've had many children like this. If your children are making sounds, can follow directions and know what you are saying then please try not to worry too much. They will talk when they are ready and unlike most babies who talk one word at a time, chances are that your kids will talk in sentences from the beginning. Their needs are getting met without needing to speak right now so there is no reason for them to talk. I've had many moms who worried constantly that their kids would never talk and now they wish the kids would stop talking so much, lol. The only thing I would suggest is tryingto get the older child to stop talking for the twins. Also, I sometimes acted like I didn't know what the children wanted so they would have no choice but to speak if they really wanted something. Hope this helps and good luck.

Thepenut - posted on 02/03/2009

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hi. i have13yr old twins. just wondering do your twins bable between themselves. mine did not really talk to anyone til later. i was told ia was cause they understood each otherand because they had other ways of getting themselves across, they saw no need to speak. thing is I can't shut hem up now!



 

Missy - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi there. I don't have twins, but I do have a 5 1/2 year old. Have you ever got their hearing checked? When my son was 1-2 years old he had around 10-12 ear infections. THis caused a lot of blocking in his ears restricting his hearing capabilities. By the time the doctor finally made the referral to a specialist, he was already 2 years behind in speach. And just like yours, my son had to make sounds or gestures to communicate. We have worked really hard with him, and his speach is coming beautifully now, but it's been a struggle.



So, just have their ears checked out (get a hearing test done) just so you can rule that out.

Kristen - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hi there...I am not sure where you live, but ALL states are required to have early intervention programs for children from ages birth-3. I live in Indiana. Here if you call with a concern (your twins are communicating) they will come out and do an evaluation for them both. After that it can be determined if they could benefit from some form of service (speech therapy or developmental therapy). I am a developmental therapist. Some kiddos don't really start to use functional verbal communication until almost 2. And children with older siblings will sometimes rely on them to do their communicating. I would share your concerns with your peditrician and see if your state will come out and do an evaluation. Hope that helps a little!

Mahalia - posted on 02/03/2009

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It may depend on how many weeks premature they were at birth. You might have to adjust their age to that because it has a great deal to do with it. If they can hear and understand you then that's a good sign. I can't remember at what age my children started talking, but I think 19 months is still early to be concerned, and you can't compare one kid's development to another's. Your best bet is to voice your concern to your pediatrician. If you're uncomfortable with their answer, you can always request that a speech/hearing therapist evaluate them.

Kathy - posted on 02/03/2009

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Hey Vicky,



You know - talking and children can all very by child.  Some talk sooner than others and it is all just normal.  I have three girls, 9, 5 (almost 6) and a 2 year old.  Each one talked at a different stage.  What I do find can work is to stress with them to "say the word".  If they want something bad enough, they will try to say the word for you.  =]  It might be hard for the first few days, but it does work. 



Best to you with a 3 yrd ols and twins!  You go girl!

Laura - posted on 02/03/2009

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I do not have twins but I do not think that late talking is uncommon with them at all. If you are able to fill their requests and they can communicate with each other-what else do they need? I have a sister with toddlers about a year apart, the older one didn't speak until after he was two. Everyone was worried about him. He started pre-school recently and his teachers told my sister he talks mnore than any of the other children. I would not worry!

Farrah - posted on 02/03/2009

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have you heard of "selective mutism"?



check out these sites for signs/symptoms. my daughter is 9 and has SM...since she was very very young. it's not a scary thing, your children can get help for it if it is SM, especially since they are so young. i have a community here on SM, just type "selective mutism" into the circle of moms search box and it will come right up.



 



selectivemutismcenter.org



selectivemutismfoundation.org



selectivemutism.org



i have heard of this happening with twins before...

Dj - posted on 02/03/2009

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My son wouldn't talk around this age. I had to send him to a speech thereapist. I made a flip book with common pictures like carrots, chair, car etc. And tried to get him to name the pictures or repeat after me. Lots of praise for when he actually tried and moved on when he wouldn't. This actually helped a lot. In a few weeks he was naming most of the pictures by himself without prompting.

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