hispanic and white child

Susan Faith - posted on 06/14/2012 ( 143 moms have responded )

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ok i am sorry i am new at this site so i have a few questions about my daughter. i have never had an hispanic child before and alot of people are saying that my daughter isnt hispanic because she is to white has light brown hair and blue eyes. when she was born she also had blue eyes but jet black hair. but her dad is hispanic but in the whiter side except for where the sun hits. i am a white woman and i am just wondering if a hispanic man and white woman can have a child who looks more white than hispanic i guess.

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DeserRai - posted on 06/17/2012

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Yes. I'm Hispanic and my husband is white. Although our son (14 months) looks like me features wise, he definitely has lighter skin like his dad, light brown hair and hazel eyes.

Jeanette - posted on 06/16/2012

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Yes, we can because I am hispanic and my husband is white. Our oldest son was born with caucasion skin.

Reece - posted on 06/16/2012

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I'm black and my sons sperm donor (yes a donor not a deadbeat) was white. He looks white, I joke that people aren't going to believe he mine, he has blond hair growing in right now.



It is possible, she's still hispanic, just exotic about it lol

Pamela - posted on 06/16/2012

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Yes. There are many African American and White children who look white too! My maternal grandfather was a slave born of slave and his mother's master, who had his way with her while married himself. That was accepted behavior back in the 1800's. He passed for White and worked as a barber in the white community. At night he went home to his Black family. This happened a lot in the south at that time. More than whites want to recognize.



My uncle, who was very light skinned, passed for White and married a White woman. My Mom, his sister and our family, could only go to visit him at night when the white neighbors couldn't see the skins as we went in their house. That's how backwards things were in the 50's in the mid-west....Kansas City to be exact!



Who cares what the ethnicity of the child is? Why make a big deal about it? BTW, sounds like you need to hang out with different people. You say 'a lot of people' say.... If they are not your friends, why pay any attention at all? If they are your 'friends' and are making these kinds of comments then it's time to find a new set of friends.

Paige - posted on 06/16/2012

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Gosh, ppl can be rude eh! My daughter is half white half caribean. Her dad is on the lighter side and me I'm stark white. She has a light complexion and only a wave in her hair. I assumed she would be dark skined and have the gery curls...knowone would even guess she was mixed race!!!! I think a lot with hispanic and white mixes they can have blue eyes and light skin, I've seen two punjabi people have a fair skinned child with green eyes. So really there is no predicting what your going to turn out with for a mixed child. I think the genetic behaviours are something more so inherrited by the child...

Tereesa Marie - posted on 06/16/2012

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I have a granddaughter and grandson they are both half white half mexican. My granddaughter has blond hair and blue eyes and tans very easy, my grandson has the typical mexican look with brown skin and brown, both have the exact same mother and father but are completely different. Yes your child can definately look white as the baby can take after the mother too. I am a nurse as well. People are ignorant they automatically assume a person has to look a certain way however you and you significant other know and that's all that matters if he's in doubt he's an idiot not being mean but get a paternity test to shut him up. When your daughter grows up and has children she can marry a white man and have a mexican/hispanic looking baby. I hope this helps.

Yoli - posted on 06/16/2012

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Susan,

There is really no "hispanic" look. When you travel to the interior of Mexico you will see plenty of Mexican's/hispanics who have blue eyes and blonde hair or even green eyes and red hair. It just depends on whatever genes you got from your ancestors. Hispanics are part Spanish, part French after all. I am hispanic and I married a white man and our children take after each of us in different ways. They don't look like "dark" hispanic children at all....of course my mother is very light and I have a fairly light compexion too.

Your children are beautiful to you and that is all that matters.

Janet - posted on 06/16/2012

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I am as white as you can get, blonde, blue eyes and Very pale skin. My twins have dark hair, dark eyes and dark skin. Their father is Turkish. They just have more of his dark genes then my light ones. My kids are now 20, but I also received those kind of rude comments when they were little, I just told the ignoramus that was questioning their heritage (or my faithfulness) that they were perfect and healthy and to go screw themselves.

Shelly - posted on 06/16/2012

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Why don't you just say that she is racially mixed? She doesn't have to be one or the other. My children are also mixed; my husband is Chinese. I don't call my children Chinese or white. They are mixed. To label mixed kids as one or the other, isn't that essentially denying half their heritage? I have seen many mixed children that strongly favor one parent over the other. We have neighbors where the mom is white, and the dad is black (well really, I'd call him racially mixed as well). Their older son is blond haired and blue eyed, and the second looks like dad. You'd never guess they are brothers. My daughter has a friend whose dad is also Chinese. She looks almost completely white, but her sister looks decidedly mixed. Again, you'd never guess they're sisters.
As for your family, just enjoy your child for the uniqueness that makes her who she is.

Donna - posted on 06/16/2012

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hispanics range from black to white. You can have a very fair latina or a black latina or many shades in between. Many latin countries are a beautiful mixture of African Indian and European.
There are many hispanics that have blond hair and blue eyes. Your daughter is a wonderful mixture of cultures. My husband is Latino and I am African American. My children are darker and they rejoice in both of their cultures.

Short answer is hispanics vary in there looks:)

Grammie - posted on 06/16/2012

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You have a child together.... so yes you could have a child that looks more white.. if she has blue eyes and black hair... yes she would be a Very beautiful daughter... and I would not worry what the people say that she is not hispanic... If the father is hispanic.. she is hispanic...

Love her and take care of her...........

Chanda - posted on 06/16/2012

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Yes it is possible. I have two daughters the oldest has very fair skin blonde hair which was jet black when born and blue eyes and the youngest has dark skin jet black hair and dark blue eyes. Their father is Hispanic. I've had a lot of people say that there is no way they could have the same dad but they do just the eldest took after my side of the family and the youngest took after her dad.

Lisa - posted on 06/16/2012

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BTW: If you are questioning if this can happen, does that mean he may not be the father? If he's the only one you were with when she was conceived, then how could it NOT be possible? You know?

Lisa - posted on 06/16/2012

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Oh, and another friend of mine that's white is married to a Hispanic man. They have 3 children. Two of them look COMPLETELY white. The middle son looks 100% Hispanic. My poor friend, though, people think they have different fathers - like she's "that type," but she's not. He's definitely the dad, but 2 of them are white. This stuff happens all the time!

Lisa - posted on 06/16/2012

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Absolutely!! A friend of mine that's black had a child with a white man, and her son is white with blonde hair and blue eyes!! Many of his facial features take after his mom, but people always think he's adopted because the father is not in the picture, so most of us friends have never seen the dad. What a great kid, though. He's 10 now & has such a great sense of humor about his race. Glad my friend has a good sense of humor, too! :)

Ashley - posted on 06/16/2012

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It is 110% possible. I am white and my fiance is 100% Puerto Rican. Our 3 year old son is white with grey eyes and red hair. Unless you hear his last name, you would never know he is Spanish. I've heard millions of comments, some from my own family, saying that he isn't my fiance's child and that it is impossible. The reason being is that I have brown hair and brown eyes, while my fiance has dark brown hair with red highlights and brown eyes. He had red hair as a child. My point of all this is that it is possible. It doesn't matter what other people think. Unless they are paying to raise your child, then they have no right to comment on anything such as that. It's your life and as long as your daughter is loved, that is all that matters.

ANNA - posted on 06/16/2012

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to answer your question yes take me for example Im a hispanic / white girl half and half and I look white as snow but just enouugh latin to be beautiful

Chaunee - posted on 06/16/2012

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At first I was like what is she asking but after you explained the comments you get from other I understood. I have four kids, two are mixed. My first with a black man came out with blue eyes and as white as can be. His hair was light too until he was about a year. My two mixed kids had dark eyes from the get go and dark hair that got a little lighter. Their dad has green eyes and dark blond hair. But people are always surprised that all four kids are mine. People think my younger son looks hispanic and my younger daughter looks just white. I have to say the comment I hate the most is mixed kids are so beautiful! I think all my kids are beautiful thank you! Also a guy once asked why my older son didn't have cool hair like his brother...WTH? People just don't think before they speak sometimes and unfortunately you have to deal with the crap that comes out! Anyway you did the right thing getting these people out of your now before your daughter is old enough to understand their comments!

Joanne - posted on 06/16/2012

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I'm sorry why does it matter if she looks hispanic or not? I have a half white and half oriental baby. She looks mixed and she had different charactristics than me and her father. You can tell she is a mixed child.
Those people that are commenting on her colouring need to back off. She's a happy, healthy, beautiful littel girl right? Who cares if she looks hispanic or not?

Sherry - posted on 06/16/2012

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Yes, that's possible and totally normal. Your next child, if you have another, could look just like his/her father.

Zoe - posted on 06/16/2012

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I don't know anything about your situation but wouldn't a doctor know the answer.
Or a genetic expert?
Some sites have live chat with experts.
Hope this helps in some small way.

Amy - posted on 06/15/2012

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Susan,
I have three children by my ex-husband who is from Mexico. All of them physically take after their father. I do understand the comments that people can make and how it can hurt your feelings. I have had people ask me if I am their babysitter, and if they are internationally adopted! When people ask me where my kids are "from" I always say they are "from" my belly! So I know people can be hurtful with their comments, particularly about childrens looks, I have just learned to look for the compliment in some ignorant comments. I have even had some hispanic people tell me that my middle son looks too "puerto rican" to have a mexican daddy. Some people do not understand that it is hurtful and that I take their comments as an accusation that I cheated on my husband, and he has a different daddy. Their daddy and I love our kids, just as I am sure you love yours, so what others say really shouldn't matter. Kiss your babies and thank God for the blessings you have, and don't let others opinions of what a baby should or shouldn't look like bother you.
Best of luck to you and your babies.
Amy

Nina - posted on 06/15/2012

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I am half Hispanic and half Italian so I am fairly dark. My husband is Irish. Both my kids have red hair and freckles and look nothing like me. I find it kind of funny when people say,"oh they're yours!" They could favor anyone in your family it doesn't even have to be a parent. Happens all the time.

Susan Faith - posted on 06/15/2012

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thanks i get what you all are saying. i know who the father of both of my babies are the one i have and the one i am going to have in october. i just dont understand why the same people say the same thing over and over again. i mean my daughter looks like her daddy but if you look at my profile picture you will see about the color thing. everyone we know and we no longer talk to because of these things say there is no way that our daughter is his because she has blondish brown hair and bright blue eyes. their like she cant have hispanic genes in her but like i told them we know who her parents are and they can shove it. first of all when i was born i had white blonde hair and now its almost black its so dark. she gets her blue eyes from me. like today we went to the grocery store and some old lady was like was she adopted and we are like no why she said because she looks so white she cant be hispanic. i was soo mad. people just need to respect other people and not say those kinds of things about their children IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY KEEP IT TO YOURSELF is how i feel about it

Shawnn - posted on 06/15/2012

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LOL...No, Brittany, that's when you say that you share them with the baby that lives next door...tomorrow will be her day to see...or something like that!

Again...Ladies, only follow my advice if you're already a touch "off"...LOL...I'm ok with getting myself into hot water sometimes...but I don't want anyone to join me if I can help it!

Michelle, You got that right! no sugar coating or sweet stuff here, ma'am :)

Michelle - posted on 06/15/2012

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shawna Lively,

If you show that you aren't gonna take it , People usually back off. Don't feel bad...I can have a big mouth too, but I like telling the truth on it. If someone don't like it...Tough shit

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I got a milk man comment from someone when my daughter was around 6 months. She had blue eyes and my husband and I have brown. Her eyes are now hazel like my grandmother's. I still get comments on "Oh where did those eyes come from?" I often respond with, "Genetics." If I'm in a snippy mood I simply say, "Does it matter?"

Here's the thing. Your husband most likely has a lot more Spanish than Native blood in him; hence the litter skin. In the end it doesn't really matter. Genetics isn't as simple as so many people think (which is a good thing).

I had a teacher in high school, who was black, his wife was white, they had twin girls, one had dark skin the other had very light skin.

It just plain happens, so your daughter got a lot of recessive DNA.

Shawnn - posted on 06/15/2012

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I also should note that I'm the queen of the sarcastic come back...Sometimes it does get me in a wee bit of trouble! (but it works SOOOOO well!)

Michelle - posted on 06/15/2012

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Gotta agree with Shawna Lively too.
Too many people are insecure...so they gotta pick on someone else. It doesn't matter what other people thinks, It matters what you think that is all.

Shawnn - posted on 06/15/2012

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You just tell those people who are saying "there's no way your daughter could be..." with "Oh, were you at conception?" Yes, its rude, and obnoxious, and a teenager response, but they're being rude and obnoxious be even assuming that they have the right to comment on your daughter's skin color!

Another response: "I didn't realize that humans had to fit into a pie chart of racial "norms"! Thanks for letting me know that my daughter is more special than I realized!"

The thing is, those people who feel the need to comment on such things, have no class. They're inconsiderate bitches who feel better by belittling others. You need to feel sorry for them, because they are doing that to make themselves the "better" one in their own little petty minds.

Think of it this way. Sandra Bullock adopted a child last year. He's not caucasian. He looks NOTHING like her. He is the cutest little guy I've ever seen, though, and its quite obvious that he's a very loved and wanted child. Is it the color of skin that's important? The "racial norms"? Or is it that the child is loved, wanted, and cared for?

The people (including your doctor, how ignorant is that?) commenting on the color of your baby's skin are nothing but ignorant asses that should be ignored. But, since it does bother you, develop the sarcastic replies.

Michelle - posted on 06/15/2012

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Susan, I get what you are saying..

If I were in your shoes and people are running their mouths to me about my daughter.. Well, I would have already told them that first off it is none of their business whatsoever wether my child had hispanic in her or not. I know who the father is and that is all that matters. What they say don't mean crap to me. They need to keep their noses in their own business. What you do and what goes on in your family is between you, your husband and daughter.
You are happy with your daughter and happy with your husband...Don't worry about what others say. They may just be jellous or don't like that you are happy. Some people likes to try to start trouble. But , if you speak up to them, They will back off. They usually do, for the simple reason, people don't like someone talking back to them. They like to run over people.
I would tell them it is none of their business and if they don't like it...kiss it where the sun don't shine...Plain as can be.

Sometimes, I know that certain things can upset you for how someone may act or what people may say. But, if you show that it doesn't bother you and ignore them after you tell them what you think, that will make them back off, for they know that they can't get to you anymore. Know what I am saying?
Your daughter is healthy and happy...that is all to worry about. Like I had said in an earlier post, your genes are just showing more than the fathers. My father had indian in him, I didn't see it in myself, but there will still be a little in there, for he is my father. So, your daughter just carries more of your genes. But, still she will have a little of her father in her wether you can see it or not.
Besides, if it is family whom is putting you down about you cheated on your man....Tell them to go kiss it....You don't need to explain yourself to anyone at all! Your husband knows that you didn't cheat. You have proof of your baby's birth certificate that your daughter is your husbands baby. Blood proves it. If it is someone else running their mouths, just tell them it is none of their business and go on.
Genes even down the line can come out into your child. My mom's sister had dark brown hair and her husband had dark brown hair too. Well they had 3 children. 2 of them had dark brown hair. The other one had red hair.. My grandmother had red hair.. Genes can pass down from generations. See what I am saying.. Just because your daughter don't look hispanic, don't mean she don't have a little in her, she just shows the more dominant gene.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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Or when people are rude to you about it, then just tell them your daughter is perfect and beautiful and walk away.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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Michelle "Susan, I wouldn't worry about the way you worded it. Some people make a big deal out of nothing."

You are right Michelle, and that is EXACTLY what I think Susan is doing. Making a big deal over nothing.


It doesn't matter any that you have not had a hispanic child before. This line of questioning is truly absurd in my opinion.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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I don't understand why you think you should "expect" anything. Your baby is your baby. It does not matter what color she is, or what people think she "should" look like. Why does it matter?? just love her the way she is. She doesn't need to be dark to be hispanic. If you DID cheat, that is when you should worry. Otherwise tell people you are sorry she does not live up to their racial standards, and essentially to fuck off.

My daughter is so light, it is ridiculous. No one questions that. Not even her Mexican family. They may comment how light she is, but they NEVER may any innuendos about how they think she "should" look.

Susan Faith - posted on 06/14/2012

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my baby she is very healthy little 11 month old. she is my world she means everything to me. ijust get so tired of people telling me there is no way your daughter is hispanic look at her with blondish brown hair and blue eyes and white skin. it hurts me that people have actually jtold me that her dad isnt her dad and i cheated on him and on and on and on you get what i am saying

Michelle - posted on 06/14/2012

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Susan, I wouldn't worry about the way you worded it. Some people make a big deal out of nothing.
I wouldn't worry about what the characteristic is of hispanic. I would be worried about your daughter being healthy. This is what is important. But, if your daughter has the characteristic of white, she can still have a hispanic side to her. It doesn't always show. Put it this way, my dad had indian in him. He was white, but he had red also in his skin.

It all depends on the gene..of what is more dominant than the other. If your child is healthy and happy go lucky..That is what matters.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 06/14/2012

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Um, yes. I mean, you HAVE a child that is hispanic don't you? My husband is Mexican, fair but can get very dark in the summer, and my heritage is Italian. But I am also fair. It really doesn't matter what others think. I guess I don't understand how you could ask "i am just wondering if a hispanic man and white woman can have a child who looks more white than hispanic i guess" cause clearly you did.

Michelle - posted on 06/14/2012

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yes, it is. Your genes is just more dominant over the hispanic gene. In many cases this is true. There is even whites with black and sometimes a white baby comes out and sometimes it is a black baby. So, it all depends on the genes. Your baby is just taking more after you. That is all.

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