Hitting a 1 yr old?

Carlita - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Cheryl:

Child abuse is not an acceptable form of parenting, and parents who abuse need to either recognize their behavior or get turned into authorities who can do something about it. Its not nasty or vicious or putting people down to be concerned and/or upset at such postings.

LOL! I think you all lost it seriously LOL! I also stated "WHILE I DO NOT AGREE WITH SOME OF THE OPINIONS ON HERE" etc etc etc I did not WANT TO GET INTO AN ARGUEMENT OVER THE INTERNEt, && ESPECIALLY FACEBOOK OF ALL PLACES!

Apparently you all like to skip that part && just try to find something to argue about. At least thats what it seems like to me. I am not condoning the behavior or anything of the sort. If you really feel this strongly about what these ppl are doing to their kids, THEN CALL THE AUTHORITIES YOURSELF! Don't preach how they should be called, ACT! Don't attack me bcos all I said was "I wanted an opinion, not arguements"

Yes I believe ppl like that should be turned into authorities. I myself was a victim of child abuse for 12yrs, so I think I would know a bit on why it WOULD BE WRONG TO HIT A CHILD 1yrold or under;

I am not going to go any further into this, cos I believe this kind of argueing is not beneficial to anyone. Its all back && forth, && OBVIOUSLY, everyone has their own opinions on the matter.

Amie - posted on 05/25/2009

I don't believe in spanking, hitting, smacking... whatever you wish to call it any child. My hubby on the other hand believes in it. He spanked our 4 year old son the other day. I freaking lost it, I'm sure the neighbors heard me screaming at him I was so enraged. There is absolutely no good reason to hit a child, none whatsoever. He sure didn't like that I stepped in but I had to point out up until that moment I had left it to him. When I heard him spank our son I was up in a shot and down the hallway. I came close to hitting him to see how he liked it. This is the only time he's ever done it (even though he thinks it's beneficial) and it will be the last. He knows that I will leave him if he ever does it again. That is how strongly I feel on this subject. Hitting a child, for whatever reason, does not teach them, it inspires fear. While some fear is needed in all people there are better ways to teach them fear than to strike a child. This is my opinion though, others may not agree and that's fine. You deal with your kids, I'll deal with mine.

Cynthia - posted on 05/25/2009

No! I have been a mom for 12 years and you should try and let the child no that he or she has done something wrong by talking to them and saying no! after some time your child will know not to do that again, you have to stay on them for your child to start understanding you. make sure that you are looking at them face to face,when you are talking to your child so that thay will no that you mean what you are saying!

Melissa - posted on 05/25/2009

I agree Cheryl I personally would be more worried about how people are admitting they abuse there kids in an illegal and horrrifying way instead of a post made intended to stand up for the inocent children.

Cheryl - posted on 05/25/2009

Child abuse is not an acceptable form of parenting, and parents who abuse need to either recognize their behavior or get turned into authorities who can do something about it. Its not nasty or vicious or putting people down to be concerned and/or upset at such postings.

Anita - posted on 05/25/2009

I used to get smackedby my parents all the time...and I would always do the opposite of what they wnted but that was just my personality...of course i was at least 4 or 5yrs old...As an adult I understand that my parents did what they did and said what they said so to better myself...I myslef now a parent hve no issue with a light smacking but to smack a child thats only 1yrs or under is certainly out of the qtn...

Teaching a child is hard work..u win some u lose some...u get things down pat and they change on u...

You teach them from day one...its all about being consistant, repeatitive, and patience...

My lil one is almost 21 mths and I will admit that I have smacked him a couple of times (didnt help much) so i use othr methods. I found the more i smacked him the more stubborn he would get (gets tht from me i guess)....methods use is hand holding, time outs, ignore, taking toys away etc...depending on situation...

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

agreed. your right Carlita, what are we teaching our children if we are resorting to being nasty to others. some of the things said on here i dont always agree with but you respectfully let them know if they are clearly wrong otherwise you respectfully tell them your opinion.

Carlita - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Angie:

WHOA, ladies. This conversation is getting very ugly. I don't think this is the place to attack each other. None of us is perfect so it's best that we not make such nasty comments to each other!

I agree; I didn't ask for an arguement. All I asked was why do you do it or not do it etc. Its ashame that we feel the need to attack one another like this.

I am not saying I side with some of the opinions on here or anything, but as adults, shouldn't we act in an adult manner? For our children's sake at least. We preach how we want to teach our children, but vicious nasty comments, that doesn' teach them. Idk, maybe I am going off the wagon here, its just I hate to see ppl get put down like this.

I agree tho with what most of you are saying about not hitting a 1yr old.I don't do it to my son, I mean I admit, I get a little flustered when I move him away from something that might hurt him, && he goes back to it again && again etc etc. I control it tho, by taking deep breathes, counting to 5 or even 10. I even prayed a few times {If you are not religious in anyway I am sorry if this offends you} && it helped. It just takes patience, love && understanding.

I didn't mean to upset anyone by my comment if I did :-)

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

and thankyou Angie :)

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Amanda:

Quoting Melissa:

i think what Sarah just said is right there is a big difference between hitting and giving them a tap on the legs and belly. this isnt abuse at all. It is a personal choice and we've got to respect everyone else's views. i often find myself angry that my partners parents never used hittting in their family then i think to myself that was their way of doing it as long as their kids respected them it is their business and how they chose to raise their kids. Anyway Just because some of the people here are against smacking, or just tapping their kids doesnt mean its wrong in any way if they are doing the wrong thing. Pleas respect everyone else's views we are not here to judge others just to give own opinions on the question! My mother almost killed me by shaking me as a baby but my dad stopped her, she also broke my brothers collar bone and told everyone he fell, she has thrown a knife at me at one point, threatened to kill me, ripped me earrings out of my ears, dragged me around the hosue by my hair, does it make her a bad mother? No it makes her human, someone who does not deal with naughty kids very well and has some issues with patience. Even my father in law is the one who made me realise when i was younger, he said your mum is not a bad person and shes not a bad mum she just didnt know how to deal with situations, and she finds it hard to say sorry and to admit some things she has done have been the wrong thing

so if a mom in a rage of shaking her child accidently kills the kid does that not make them a bad mom? I would say your mom was a shitty mom if she did thoes things to your family. that is probably where you get your ideas from.

Melissa the fact is that there are some BAD MUMS, baby peters mom for example, sure she never hit him but she never really gave a damn forhim and let her sadistic partner murder him after months of torment and abuse.  can you honestly say baby peters mom is just human? Well I can say I think she is a bloody evil bitch who should rot in hell and be tortured everyday just like that baby was.

No i read about those babies and see the groups on facebook. it makes me sick and almost want to cry when i read the stories of what has been done to these poor innocent little babies. there was one on the news in australia last night where a 15 week old died of dehydration in his cot and the place they were living with their 6 kids was not fit for anyone to be living in. there are questions as to why no one stepped in earlier and if this babies death was preventable. how horrible would it be for an infant that young to die because the mother is not feeding him, how unfair for him to be in this world for only 15 weeks and have such a terrible experience and not understanding why. I am thank ful he is no longer suffering.

You see those on the nws who accidentally kill their kids too and i have trouble being fully angry with those mothers because they just needed the support. i saw one who killed her 4 week old and the dad tried to revive him she said no he is better off dead leave him. she made it clear to everyone in court that she didnt not kill him because of post natal depression but because of bipolar and mental illness she had been off her meds since getting IVF. sometimes i just wish she and others had more support to make sure these things never happened and that innoecent lives never got taken for no reason.

Some of the thing my mum did made me hate and resent her but when i got older i matured now we have a great relationship when we see each other

Cheryl - posted on 05/25/2009

Hitting a one year old child because you cannot get them to sleep is abuse. Throwing a baby is abuse. People can have differing opinions on many things, and in the long one most choices of which brand formula, when they got their ears pieced etc are relatively unimportant, no matter how much we fuss. But hitting babies is not a parenting style and breaking your brothers arm and dragging you around the house IS illegal , immoral and abuse. And no matter which parent does it yes they are a bad parent, and yes - the arm breaking mum should be in jail. Some issues in life are simply not debatable, and this is one of them.

Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Angie:

It's okay to get angry, we all do. I just think it's best to think before we send comments that are not helpful.

I was very helpful. I told her not to do it anymore, why she shouldn't be doing it, and that she needed parenting classes. 

I just wasn't very nice about it.

Angie - posted on 05/25/2009

It's okay to get angry, we all do. I just think it's best to think before we send comments that are not helpful.

Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Angie:

WHOA, ladies. This conversation is getting very ugly. I don't think this is the place to attack each other. None of us is perfect so it's best that we not make such nasty comments to each other!

Normally, I agree with you. But when a woman admits she hits her infant child because they won't go to sleep, I tend to get angry.

Angie - posted on 05/25/2009

WHOA, ladies. This conversation is getting very ugly. I don't think this is the place to attack each other. None of us is perfect so it's best that we not make such nasty comments to each other!

Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

yes a family member of mine hit hers and threw them down onto the bed from 10 months, i think soem mums get more easily frustrated then others. we have been hitting ours (not hard) from i dont know maybe 9 months. Just a tap on the legs or belly. reasons id say would include nowadays since shes 13 months, climbing on things after us saying no over and over, and fussing a night when shes supposed to be asleep, crying when my partner is trying to put her to sleep etc. for some reason it is harder to see my partner do it then me. Maybe because i do ti out of anger not sure. i dont believe in doing it hard enough to leave marks at this age and i dont believe they fully understand at this age either. i think that comes a bit later. i also think everyone has very different opinions on here so you may get some major controversy.

What the hell is wrong with you? You don't hit a baby because they won't go to sleep! You NEVER EVER EVER hit a child of any age on the legs or belly. Spankings, if a parent feels they are warrented, should be administered to older children who have a concept of punishment and consequences to their actions.

By "tapping" your child on the legs and stomach for not sleeping you are traumatizing her. She's trying to tell you something is wrong and instead of helping her you hit her. Lady, you need a parenting class. And so does your partner.

Kate CP - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

yes a family member of mine hit hers and threw them down onto the bed from 10 months, i think soem mums get more easily frustrated then others. we have been hitting ours (not hard) from i dont know maybe 9 months. Just a tap on the legs or belly. reasons id say would include nowadays since shes 13 months, climbing on things after us saying no over and over, and fussing a night when shes supposed to be asleep, crying when my partner is trying to put her to sleep etc. for some reason it is harder to see my partner do it then me. Maybe because i do ti out of anger not sure. i dont believe in doing it hard enough to leave marks at this age and i dont believe they fully understand at this age either. i think that comes a bit later. i also think everyone has very different opinions on here so you may get some major controversy.

What the hell is wrong with you? You don't hit a baby because they won't go to sleep! You NEVER EVER EVER hit a child of any age on the legs or belly. Spankings, if a parent feels they are warrented, should be administered to older children who have a concept of punishment and consequences to their actions.

By "tapping" your child on the legs and stomach for not sleeping you are traumatizing her. She's trying to tell you something is wrong and instead of helping her you hit her. Lady, you need a parenting class. And so does your partner.

Angie - posted on 05/25/2009

What can a 1 year old possibly do wrong? They don't know right from wrong. I admit there are times they need to be redirected but hitting in any way is certainly not the answer.

Krista - posted on 05/25/2009

Melissa, there's being human and making mistakes; and then there is being neglectful, irresponsible, and abusive...I think your mother fits into the latter category. It IS possible to be a bad mom and everything a mother does cannot be explained away as just another style of parenting. Yes, everyone has an opinion, but some things, such as hitting, shaking, and threatening, should NEVER be passed off as parenting techniques. I think that your laid back attitude is allowing your mother, and possibly even yourself and your fiance, to get away with unacceptable behaviour without having to feel any guilt. Parenting is not always black and white, right and wrong, but there are some things no child should have to experience.

Amanda - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

i think what Sarah just said is right there is a big difference between hitting and giving them a tap on the legs and belly. this isnt abuse at all. It is a personal choice and we've got to respect everyone else's views. i often find myself angry that my partners parents never used hittting in their family then i think to myself that was their way of doing it as long as their kids respected them it is their business and how they chose to raise their kids. Anyway Just because some of the people here are against smacking, or just tapping their kids doesnt mean its wrong in any way if they are doing the wrong thing. Pleas respect everyone else's views we are not here to judge others just to give own opinions on the question! My mother almost killed me by shaking me as a baby but my dad stopped her, she also broke my brothers collar bone and told everyone he fell, she has thrown a knife at me at one point, threatened to kill me, ripped me earrings out of my ears, dragged me around the hosue by my hair, does it make her a bad mother? No it makes her human, someone who does not deal with naughty kids very well and has some issues with patience. Even my father in law is the one who made me realise when i was younger, he said your mum is not a bad person and shes not a bad mum she just didnt know how to deal with situations, and she finds it hard to say sorry and to admit some things she has done have been the wrong thing

so if a mom in a rage of shaking her child accidently kills the kid does that not make them a bad mom? I would say your mom was a shitty mom if she did thoes things to your family. that is probably where you get your ideas from.

Melissa the fact is that there are some BAD MUMS, baby peters mom for example, sure she never hit him but she never really gave a damn forhim and let her sadistic partner murder him after months of torment and abuse.  can you honestly say baby peters mom is just human? Well I can say I think she is a bloody evil bitch who should rot in hell and be tortured everyday just like that baby was.

Krista - posted on 05/25/2009

My son is too young to even consider spanking or hitting...but even when he's older, it will not be something that happens in our house. As mentioned above, I also agree that a tap or smack when a child is endangering his/herself is sometimes appropriate, but never more than that. I was spanked as a child, and I remember it vividly, and it only served to make me fear and resent my dad. I want my children to choose to behave because they know it is right...not to act out of fear on a daily basis. I figure if I can teach a room full of twenty grade one students and keep them in line without laying a finger on any one of them, I can raise my children to behave without resorting to violence. So, no, I don't think it's okay hit a one year old, or a child of any age!

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

i think what Sarah just said is right there is a big difference between hitting and giving them a tap on the legs and belly. this isnt abuse at all. It is a personal choice and we've got to respect everyone else's views. i often find myself angry that my partners parents never used hittting in their family then i think to myself that was their way of doing it as long as their kids respected them it is their business and how they chose to raise their kids. Anyway Just because some of the people here are against smacking, or just tapping their kids doesnt mean its wrong in any way if they are doing the wrong thing. Pleas respect everyone else's views we are not here to judge others just to give own opinions on the question! My mother almost killed me by shaking me as a baby but my dad stopped her, she also broke my brothers collar bone and told everyone he fell, she has thrown a knife at me at one point, threatened to kill me, ripped me earrings out of my ears, dragged me around the hosue by my hair, does it make her a bad mother? No it makes her human, someone who does not deal with naughty kids very well and has some issues with patience. Even my father in law is the one who made me realise when i was younger, he said your mum is not a bad person and shes not a bad mum she just didnt know how to deal with situations, and she finds it hard to say sorry and to admit some things she has done have been the wrong thing

Sarah - posted on 05/25/2009

I smacked my eldest son when he was 1. And my second son is soon to be 1 and he has had a few taps on the leg during change time when he is being a little rat bag. There is a huge difference between smacking/spanking and hitting though.

I use a spank when they are being completely disobedient and have had previous disapline (time out or a warning) or if they are endangering themselves. ie my son went to open the oven when it was on and I smacked his hand.

I guess its a personal choice. You don't have to agree with a persons parenting style but you have to respect that its thier right to do it their way.

However if your friend "hits" her child that is a totally different story and its abuse. If there is any excessive force or violence I would be contacting the authorities.

Melissa - posted on 05/25/2009

I came here earlier and was shocked now I amm completely disgusted Melissa did you read about baby peter or baby brianna things go wrong these are bad signs honestly I hope you get help seriously and the fact you have to keep saying you are A good mom seems like you yourself have to reassure yourself of this. No 1 year old child ever deserves A hit I admit my daughter had one spanking I was 8 months pregnant just got off of work we were walking home for like an hour and played at the park on the way home she went and road her bike on the road up to far and almost got hit I dropped my groceries ran after picked her up spanked her then cried for doing it the driver parked there vehicle and actually helped me carry my groceries my daughters bike and her I cried so hard for hitting her I was so ashamed this is not ok not right in anyway, I know I did it out of fear and not anger that makes me feel not so much like a monster but that was my worst day why would you want to hit does it really make you feel better if so they should find somebody there own size Id like to see that

Amanda - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

Quoting Amanda:

Quoting Melissa:

i was only posting an answer everyone has different opinions on the topic as with the biting thread. she cries before bed while she's bein put to sleep and sweats and just upsets herself. its not nice seeing your baby do this to herself for at least 15 minutes before falling asleep

so you smack her? maybe a cuddle and shh mommys here would work just as good. maybe she is terrified of bedtime because she knows there is a smack comming

 

sometimes i do want to cuddle her but my fiance doesnt let me he puts her to sleep and wants to be the one holding her and settling her down. sometimes i wish i could. its mainly just the problem with her waking herself up by throwing up. sometimes after he puts her down i want to go in and give her a cuddle to let her know everything is ok, but i know i have to let her go to sleep. never said i was perfect but sometimes you dont know how to deal with a situation that arises every single night and its not as if she hit every single night, its very very rare. my family didnt want me doing in home child care because they said it is too dangerous these days you do or say anything they can take your rights away and report you, they didnt like the terms and condition, i then spoke to my in home carer and said my concerns, she said your an excellent mother your great with her and theres nothing to worry about there, e are only referring to seeing a mother beat her kids or something. i felt reassured after that and its good to hear how much of a good mum i am and i get the same sorts of comments from the hospital

if you do not know how to deal with the situation maybe you should seek help. take a parenting class or read some books. I do not disagree with spanking but you mentioned hiting your 1 yr old in the belly and legs when she is fussy at bed time. even if it is only once and a while this is not ok.

Oh and taking advice from the family member who tossed her 10 month old and hits him/her is not what I mean by getting help.

I assume this is the infamous cousin you have spoke of so often in other posts. Remember just because she is older does not mean she is wiser.

It is not ok to use corpral punishment on a child as young as brianna, maybe you should tell your boy friend that

Kylie - posted on 05/25/2009

Mellisa your obviously young and have a lot of maturing to do. Just because your partner is older it doesn't mean his views and methods are right. Like you said yourself, they don't understand at this age. Please stand up for your child, go with your maternal instinct and protect your baby and tell your partner to keeps his hands off her. Walk away when you feel angry. Not only is she just a baby she has had it tough in her short life with her tube feeding and doctor visits so she should be getting extra extra gentle caring treatment from her daddy and you. Maybe we should get together for a meet and you can watch my children, whom i have never smacked and see they are respectful and well behaved.. well my eldest anyway..my son is still a little bubba and can do nothing wrong or naughty. Smacking does not equal good children.

Kylie - posted on 05/25/2009

What could a one year old possible do that would warrant being hit..i have no clue. Your friend needs a wake up call. I'm not a big fan of smacking as discipline, i think its the easy way to make your point and teaches nothing. It's often done out of anger and it sends mixed messages to a young child. Put yourself in that position - my mum is my world, she loves and cares for me, I go to her when I'm scared or upset, she protects me from people hurting me but then she hits me in anger when I'm doing something she doesn't like. There are much more effective ways to discipline that may take a little more effort but are fair and teach children. People who hit babies are low on morals and education.

Cheryl - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

Quoting Amanda:

Quoting Melissa:

i was only posting an answer everyone has different opinions on the topic as with the biting thread. she cries before bed while she's bein put to sleep and sweats and just upsets herself. its not nice seeing your baby do this to herself for at least 15 minutes before falling asleep

so you smack her? maybe a cuddle and shh mommys here would work just as good. maybe she is terrified of bedtime because she knows there is a smack comming

 

sometimes i do want to cuddle her but my fiance doesnt let me he puts her to sleep and wants to be the one holding her and settling her down. sometimes i wish i could. its mainly just the problem with her waking herself up by throwing up. sometimes after he puts her down i want to go in and give her a cuddle to let her know everything is ok, but i know i have to let her go to sleep. never said i was perfect but sometimes you dont know how to deal with a situation that arises every single night and its not as if she hit every single night, its very very rare. my family didnt want me doing in home child care because they said it is too dangerous these days you do or say anything they can take your rights away and report you, they didnt like the terms and condition, i then spoke to my in home carer and said my concerns, she said your an excellent mother your great with her and theres nothing to worry about there, e are only referring to seeing a mother beat her kids or something. i felt reassured after that and its good to hear how much of a good mum i am and i get the same sorts of comments from the hospital

This is your child and if you want to cuddle your child you do, your fiance is not your boss.
 If you child is a throwing up every night that is a medical problem that needs addressed, not a reason to smack a child.  All the quotes are a bit confusing, but  excellent mums do not smack babies , no matter how annoying or how often they do something.

Heather - posted on 05/25/2009

Child abuse is a crime punishable by law. No you absolutely should never ever hit a baby! I have 3 kids, 16 yrs, 8 yrs and 4 months and I have had no need to hit them or throw them on a bed like someone else said they witnessed for Christ sake! A tap on the hand that is not painful is as close as anyone should get to hitting. If a parent feels they need to hit their baby then it is the parent that needs to seek help for themself. Time outs will work even if you have to hold your child in the time out chair the first few times.

Jenni - posted on 05/25/2009

absolutely not!!! first off... a 1 year old does not yet understand the concept of right or wrong... and at that age until about 2 1/2 until 3 yrs they act on impulse... so even if they realize what they are doing is not acceptable behaviour it is very hard for them to stop themselves and at 1 years old, near impossible...



hitting does not teach them *why* their behaviour is not acceptable

hitting is primitive, there are much better, more effective methods of discipline out there

hitting and other violence on a child creates a violent, angry, insecure, fearful child

hitting breaks the bond of child/parent trust

hitting teaches them violence is the answer and not communication



im sure i could think of many many more arguements against hitting if given the time... but to sum it all up... hitting a one year old is just plain cruel and ignorant

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

i think the world is how it is because in the old days we used to use physical punishment even in schools now we are not allowed to do this in schools and are not allowed to do it to a certain extent at home, hence the reason we have so much violence and trouble with the world these days

Vanessa - posted on 05/25/2009

i would never hit my child.

whats that teach them...??? when you can no longer communicate your resort to physcial violence.....geez, no wonder the world is in such a state!

Tamara - posted on 05/25/2009

Two words...HELL NO! I wouldn't even hit an older child, let alone a one year old. X( Its just not right.

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Amanda:

Quoting Melissa:

i was only posting an answer everyone has different opinions on the topic as with the biting thread. she cries before bed while she's bein put to sleep and sweats and just upsets herself. its not nice seeing your baby do this to herself for at least 15 minutes before falling asleep

so you smack her? maybe a cuddle and shh mommys here would work just as good. maybe she is terrified of bedtime because she knows there is a smack comming

sometimes i do want to cuddle her but my fiance doesnt let me he puts her to sleep and wants to be the one holding her and settling her down. sometimes i wish i could. its mainly just the problem with her waking herself up by throwing up. sometimes after he puts her down i want to go in and give her a cuddle to let her know everything is ok, but i know i have to let her go to sleep. never said i was perfect but sometimes you dont know how to deal with a situation that arises every single night and its not as if she hit every single night, its very very rare. my family didnt want me doing in home child care because they said it is too dangerous these days you do or say anything they can take your rights away and report you, they didnt like the terms and condition, i then spoke to my in home carer and said my concerns, she said your an excellent mother your great with her and theres nothing to worry about there, e are only referring to seeing a mother beat her kids or something. i felt reassured after that and its good to hear how much of a good mum i am and i get the same sorts of comments from the hospital

Amanda - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Cheryl:

Quoting Melissa:

yes a family member of mine hit hers and threw them down onto the bed from 10 months, i think soem mums get more easily frustrated then others. we have been hitting ours (not hard) from i dont know maybe 9 months. Just a tap on the legs or belly. reasons id say would include nowadays since shes 13 months, climbing on things after us saying no over and over, and fussing a night when shes supposed to be asleep, crying when my partner is trying to put her to sleep etc. for some reason it is harder to see my partner do it then me. Maybe because i do ti out of anger not sure. i dont believe in doing it hard enough to leave marks at this age and i dont believe they fully understand at this age either. i think that comes a bit later. i also think everyone has very different opinions on here so you may get some major controversy.

Anyone who hits and throws a baby ANYWHERE is guilty of child abuse and should be turned into children services.   If you leave a mark on any child under 18, you can be prosecuted and your children taken away.  Its not controversial, that is the law in just about any country you name.
A baby under two has no clue what is wrong, 5 is the earliest they understand anything and basic reasoning doesn't start until 7, so its pointless and cruel to hit a baby.

I so agree with this. This is just plain abuse and it has to stop. it is not an opinion it is a story of abuse

Cheryl - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

yes a family member of mine hit hers and threw them down onto the bed from 10 months, i think soem mums get more easily frustrated then others. we have been hitting ours (not hard) from i dont know maybe 9 months. Just a tap on the legs or belly. reasons id say would include nowadays since shes 13 months, climbing on things after us saying no over and over, and fussing a night when shes supposed to be asleep, crying when my partner is trying to put her to sleep etc. for some reason it is harder to see my partner do it then me. Maybe because i do ti out of anger not sure. i dont believe in doing it hard enough to leave marks at this age and i dont believe they fully understand at this age either. i think that comes a bit later. i also think everyone has very different opinions on here so you may get some major controversy.

Anyone who hits and throws a baby ANYWHERE is guilty of child abuse and should be turned into children services.   If you leave a mark on any child under 18, you can be prosecuted and your children taken away.  Its not controversial, that is the law in just about any country you name.
A baby under two has no clue what is wrong, 5 is the earliest they understand anything and basic reasoning doesn't start until 7, so its pointless and cruel to hit a baby.

Amanda - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

i was only posting an answer everyone has different opinions on the topic as with the biting thread. she cries before bed while she's bein put to sleep and sweats and just upsets herself. its not nice seeing your baby do this to herself for at least 15 minutes before falling asleep

so you smack her? maybe a cuddle and shh mommys here would work just as good. maybe she is terrified of bedtime because she knows there is a smack comming

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

i was only posting an answer everyone has different opinions on the topic as with the biting thread. she cries before bed while she's bein put to sleep and sweats and just upsets herself. its not nice seeing your baby do this to herself for at least 15 minutes before falling asleep

Amanda - posted on 05/25/2009

Quoting Melissa:

yes a family member of mine hit hers and threw them down onto the bed from 10 months, i think soem mums get more easily frustrated then others. we have been hitting ours (not hard) from i dont know maybe 9 months. Just a tap on the legs or belly. reasons id say would include nowadays since shes 13 months, climbing on things after us saying no over and over, and fussing a night when shes supposed to be asleep, crying when my partner is trying to put her to sleep etc. for some reason it is harder to see my partner do it then me. Maybe because i do ti out of anger not sure. i dont believe in doing it hard enough to leave marks at this age and i dont believe they fully understand at this age either. i think that comes a bit later. i also think everyone has very different opinions on here so you may get some major controversy.

MELISSA! YOU WACK YOUR BABY ON THE LEGS AND BELLY WHEN SHE CRIES AT NIGHT!

why are you telling people this. do you think this is ok.

you need help girl.

I try to mind my own but this is just to much. first  alcohol for babies and now wacking babies in the legs and tummy. please stop these posts

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

i agree that kids do resent you growing up if you hit all the time but form what ive seen when they become an adult they are as close as ever to their mum and end up hitting them own kids. not quite the right way to go, hitting shouldnt be used as an every day all the time thing at all

Amanda - posted on 05/25/2009

your friend is f$cked up. every sane person knows you never hit a baby.

look how much my mom loves me, so much she hits me. i bet thats how her baby thinks

Mel - posted on 05/25/2009

yes a family member of mine hit hers and threw them down onto the bed from 10 months, i think soem mums get more easily frustrated then others. we have been hitting ours (not hard) from i dont know maybe 9 months. Just a tap on the legs or belly. reasons id say would include nowadays since shes 13 months, climbing on things after us saying no over and over, and fussing a night when shes supposed to be asleep, crying when my partner is trying to put her to sleep etc. for some reason it is harder to see my partner do it then me. Maybe because i do ti out of anger not sure. i dont believe in doing it hard enough to leave marks at this age and i dont believe they fully understand at this age either. i think that comes a bit later. i also think everyone has very different opinions on here so you may get some major controversy.

Erin - posted on 05/25/2009

Well spanking in my house seems to be a joke to my almost 2 year old daughter, so we try to make her sit in her chair alone, or if we are out she has to sit somewere(in a buggie) without touching anything or talking to anyone(doesnt always work), im lucky for the most part i have a good girl but when she is bad watch out she throws, kicks, hits and sometimes bites if she isnt getting her way and saying NO does nothing but make her laugh, so really she thinks everything but the babd baby chair is funny

Cheryl - posted on 05/25/2009

There is no point in hitting a 1 yr old, they haven't a clue - so its absolutely a waste of time. Saying no and simply removing them for whatever they are doing makes far more sense.



I always reserved smacks on the butt for older kids for very serious offenses - like letting go of my hand in public. One swat was a spanking and two swats a beating. I think my oldest son got spanked about twice and beat about once. The younger ones paid strict attention and never were spanked.

Erin - posted on 05/25/2009

Spanking, or smacking as we say in Australia, is pretty controversial at the best of times. But I struggle to see how it is an appropriate form of discipline for such a young child. And it depends what you mean by 'hitting'?!?! I guess a tap on the hand if a child that age is touching something dangerous is a way to distract them, but actually smacking at that age is unacceptable to me. For the record I am not completely against smacking, but as my daughter is only a baby it hasn't been an issue for me yet. I do think though there are other more effective ways to communicate to a child that their behaviour is wrong. For me, smacking should be a last resort, NEVER done in anger, and assessed for its effectiveness on each different child.