Home school or public school???

Tanya - posted on 01/22/2009 ( 59 moms have responded )

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Hello ladies!

I'm wondering what your opinions are about home schooling? I've heard it's better then sending children to public school. What do you thing about it??

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Tara - posted on 01/22/2009

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I went to public school, and still felt like an outsider. It was and still is part of my personality. I go to a large church, and still have not made what I consider a close friend. I have yet to feel comfortable enough with a person to call them up just to chat.



Homeschooling experiences can be good or bad just like school experiences. It just depends on the teacher! Again, I say it is a personal decision. If I felt like my dd was not learning anything in school then I would have no qualms about pulling her, and homeschooling her. Homeschooling doesn't work for all families, nor does public school.

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I am an elementary school teacher and I would advise public school for the socialization and teachers who have had training to cover the curriculum. Just my opinion :) I've seen the results of both situations.

Angee - posted on 01/22/2009

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It is a personal decision and I do believe it has everything to do with the teacher. It the teacher and your child clicks and she loves it. Let her go. Kindergarden rarely has drug/bully problems. A good teacher will leave them loving school. If however the child and the teacher don't connect and the child hates school, I''d suggest switching classes 1st. If that doesn't work out, pull them out and homeschool! There are lots of others doing it and places and times to meet up with them, museums, library programs, county/city sports give your child the opportunity to socialize. It will only be a problem if you don't give them the opportunity to interact with other kids.
I am very serious about insisting your child be with the best teacher, whether it's at the school or you, it makes all the difference in what and how much your child loves to learn.

Katie - posted on 01/22/2009

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My husband was homeschooled with 3 other siblings and from what he has told me he would have rather have gone to public school. His parents put him in sports and boy scouts to get the social interaction but he always felt like an outsider. Now being older and helping our daughter with homework he realizes how much he did not learn about. Most of the homeschooling guide lines are pretty basic and unless you expand your lines to teach the kids don't learn as much as a child would in a class room.
Good luck :)

Tara - posted on 01/22/2009

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It is a personal decision to make. I VERY strongly disagree that homeschoolers have trouble with socializing. They have so many homeschool groups that you can join. There is the Y and other sports organizations. There are boy scouts and girl scouts. The list is endless. If the kids aren't being socialized, then it is the parent's fault, not the fault of homeschooling in and of itself. I've been a stay at home mom since my dd was born 6 years ago. My children have gotten plenty of socializing from church, playgroups, and the like. Since I found a good school for my oldest, I opted to send her to school. She has not had any problems making friends. Of course, she's had friends since she was 3!



Anyway, it is a personal decision to make, and what works for your family and your situation may or may not work for others!

Mildred - posted on 01/22/2009

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There are a lot of different home school programs available.  I think you should evaluate your reason(s) for wanting to homeschool and look into the various programs avail.  I know 2 friends of mine that did a program where the kids were part time school/part time home.  I think it was something like 3 days home 2 days at school (to help with the social skills and group environment) Not sure if this is only offered through private schools only or not.  Homeschool has completely evolved since way back when we were being raised.  I wish I could homeschool my kids.  I have 2 kids of my own & 2 stepdaughters.  The things they are exposed to in public school are UNBELIEVABLE!!! (and we live in a VERY good neighborhood, suburb area all grade A schools) but some of these parents, teachers and students are just out of this world.  Let me  know if you'd like me to get you the website info and I'll gladly find it for you....Good luck in everything!!!

Natalie - posted on 01/22/2009

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I think starting out in public schools is best for building social skills. Elementary school usually isn't a time to worry about who your kid is coming into contact with. Plus by this time you & your kid need a break from each other, if you've been a full time stay at home mom. After Elementary school, I think it just depends on the quality of education your child would get either way, and what problems with violence/drug use...etc...are prominent at your local schools. Also remember..kids need to be involved in social activities at all ages, so if they're being home schooled..make sure there are plenty of community events ...sports, theatre..etc. that they can participate in if they can't participate in school events.

Velvet - posted on 01/22/2009

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I think it depends on the area you live in and how patient are you. I homeschooled my daughter for 9th grade because she has a hard time with her social life. She was making very bad decisions on who to hang out with so I tied her down to me 24/7. It worked out well but only because she is a ver intelligent person and has always had good grades. She is back in public school now and making better decisions socially. Children do need to have a social life, and homeschooling is not going to give them that. Hope this was helpful.

Amanda - posted on 01/22/2009

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Home schooling doesnt allow a child to interact with their peers, so learning social skills doesnt happen. This is very important. I kept my kids with me until they went to school and my son is still learning to adapt and make friends. He is now in grade 3 and he finally has friends. It was a hard process for him. So I would say public school is the best. That and you need time for yourself too.

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