Liza - posted on 03/08/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )
I have a 14yr old daughter who is intent on destroying my family, She has had behavioural problems for a long time and have had alot of help in the past through the school's she has been in but none of the help offered has seemed to work. She is an extremely violent child when she has one of her tanturms. I have had a vaccuum cleaner thrown at me when pregnant with my 2yr old daughter, my 7yr old daughter had her arm broken when she was 4 just for being in my daughter's way, my 5yr old was recently thrown head first from a top bunk for being in the same room and my 15yr old son is punched in the face everytime she walks past him. Over recent months she has had my husband arrested for beating her up when none of the events took place and they were fully investigated by the police. She attacked my husband then phoned police to say he had attacked her when she had to be restrained, she constantly smashes things up in the house and beats her siblings up and denies she has done it even when she has been seen to attack someone she will turn it round on them, we have video'd her behaviour and to be told that wasn't her. My husband is no longer able to live in the family home we spent 10yrs working hard to get and is no lodging with friends and coming to visit the other children when my daughter is'nt in the house as it's not safe for him to be here when she is. This weekend i have had to call out the police to her yet again as she keeps running of with 18yr old lads to find out she had been involved in an arson on a local park and a youth worker had to return her home. We have been in constant contact since July'09 with social services who keep promising to help yet we're still waiting and i phone them most weeks begging for help. My family did take her in for a couple of weeks to give us a break but have said they can no longer do this as she is too much of a problem. Over the years we have tried all the advice we have been given ie: grounding, taking things away, making her earn pocket money, taking her mobile, make-up, nothing works as when we take anything from her she goes and steals from someone else. When she behaves she gets all the praise in the world so she knows we are proud that she has done something right but this is just thrown back in our faces and the constant swearing from her is getting really bad especially when it is aimed and the younger children as it is starting to affect them. Even friends and family no longer come to the house because of her behaviour.. I feel completely alone in all this at the minute and really struggling to hold things together for the rest of the family.