How bad is childbirth.. really?

Oka - posted on 11/01/2012 ( 641 moms have responded )

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How bad is childbirth... really?



MEDICATED childbirth.



I have ZERO interest in natural childbirth. ZERO. None. I will not do that.



I want all the medication and epidurals possible.



How awful is a first time MEDICATED childbirth?



Is it an absolute nightmare, even with meds and epidural?



Do you feel like you're being hit by a semi truck? A terrible flu level of pain? Or is it not as awful with epidural and pain meds?



I know everyone says "one you see the baby, it's worth it." Sure, but just how PAINFUL is a medicated childbirth during the process? Is it so painful it's traumatic? Is it unbearable and so painful you feel like you won't make it? Is it somehow not so bad?



Does the medication help enough that it's not the worst pain of your life?

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Claudia - posted on 11/01/2012

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My labor and delivery was smooth sailing. I was induced due to having gestational diabetes (at 38 weeks) and only felt intense contractions for maybe 30 minutes before they came in and gave me the beloved epidural. After that, I felt nothing and it was GLORIOUS. My labor only lasted 5 hours total. I'm told that's fast for a first timer. As for delivery, since I was numb from the waist down, I felt no tearing or anything traumatic. People say that you can't enjoy your baby because you're drugged and yada yada, but that's dumb. I was able to fully enjoy my baby girl, no problems there whatsoever. I also feel like I recovered super fast, despite tearing and having stitches. Btw, everyone is different. Every labor and delivery is different. Don't let anyone's story scare you, even if it was traumatic for them. You'll do great! :)



PS: Just because you get an epidural does not mean you're weak or not a good mother. You're strong for having a baby PERIOD. You should be proud of that in itself. And just because you get the pain meds doesn't mean you're not doing it "on your own". You're still pushing the baby out yourself! I didn't need to prove anything to anyone, and it worked out famously for me.

Denikka - posted on 11/01/2012

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I had 2 babies, one with a shot of morphine and some laughing gas, the second with just the gas.

Yea, it hurt. It hurts a whole lot. But it's a..different type of pain. I've broken my arm, had rope burn, burnt my fingers, sprained my ankles, etc..and childbirth is a totally different kind of pain altogether. For me, the biggest difference was that it was pain with a purpose. That's what really stuck with me. Like it wasn't as bad, because if I stuck with it just a little longer, I would have this huge reward, instead of the *pointless* pain of a general injury. It's really not comparable to any other type of pain.



What I CAN describe contraction pain as is more pressure than pain. Like someone is pushing, hard on your stomach, or like there's a hand inside you squeezing your insides.

Actual childbirth, bearing down pain, is a whole different type of pressure. It's like. . .stretching pain. Like...when your neck, back, knee etc pops, but it's a bad pop and it hurts for a while, it was like that for me, but the pain didn't go away immediately, it stays.

It seems like forever (and my first labor, from first contraction to birth, was just under 5 hours, my second was just under 4 hours and I only spent 8 minutes pushing). Then, when the head is coming out, it's this HUGE stretch pain, I felt like I wasn't going to be able to do it, and just when I felt like I couldn't anymore, it's over and there's this big, shakey sense of relief and the pain recedes to almost nothing. The shoulders are almost nothing in comparison to the head, and by that time, I felt so detached from the pain that it was almost an after thought.



I've heard that induction makes the contractions worse, and I've heard that for some people, the pain of getting the epidural was way worse than the contractions at the time they got it. It's really different for each individual, so really, you'll just have to wait until you go through it yourself.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 11/01/2012

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I had my first one with an epidural, and ended up with a c section. I had my second one fully natural no meds whatsoever. NONE! It hurt like hell. I am not going to lie. For some women it is not bad, and others it is unbearable. Every women is different. If I were to do it again, I would wait until I absolutely could not stand the pain anymore before getting an epi....or try not to at all. I was one of the women it was unbearable for. But, epidurals seem to increase your chances of a c section.



Warning, often they will give you a drug before giving you an epi to take the edge away. It is suppose to last 4 hours. Fuck that. Mine lasted not even 45 minutes and when my contractions were at full force, they were 2-3 times as bad after I took the meds than before the meds. I would NEVER do that again. It is not worth it. I think back and realize THAT is the reason I got an epi so early on.

Lacye - posted on 11/01/2012

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When I had my daughter, I was all for natural. I was scared that the drugs would mess with my baby and I just didn't want them. Ended up, I had to be induced because my contractions would not start on their own and my water had already broken. I was having a really bad reaction to the patocin (I know that's not how it's spelled but oh well) and the nurses kept having to turn it down because it was causing me so much pain (please keep in mind that not every person who is induced has this issue!). They ended up giving me a choice, c section or epidural. I chose epidural because I wanted to at least try to have my child as natural as possible.



I have said this many times and I will say it a million times more, I LOVE THE EPIDURAL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! After they had given it to me, I was much more relaxed during my labor, my blood pressure lowered because I wasn't as stressed, and it wasn't much longer after it kicked in that I had my daughter. Pushing was no problem. They even had to sew me up a little bit because my baby girl had a big ass head (just like her damn daddy!) but that was alright. It was a little uncomfortable for a bit but the next day I wasn't even sore. Right now I am 26 weeks pregnant with my second child and Monday when I go to preregister at the hospital, I fully plan on telling them that I want another epidural!

Michelle - posted on 11/01/2012

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I personally didn't want to be heavily medicated. I am against an epidural full stop! There is NO WAY someone is sticking a needle into my spine.



I feel that it's better for the baby having less drugs in the system. I also found that the pain was bearable. I had a big baby for my first and am proud that I did it on my own.

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Ashley - posted on 12/02/2012

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Medicated child birth isn't painful hell your numb from under your boobs down to your feet! But I like natural so I can feel how close I am to pushing and how close to the baby coming out

Claudia - posted on 12/02/2012

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I can tell you it's like Denikka explains. Yes it is painful...but NOT like the pain of an injury. It is the pain of giving LIFE...so is not bad if you see it in that light. It is like the largest bowel movement you will ever have in your life type-of-pain...For me it was quick...6 hours and when it got intense, then it was over, with both births. You cannot be afraid of it or it will be worse...It is mother nature taking over and if you look at it as a natural process and relax, let it go then you will find the experience much better. Embrace it...giving birth is a gift and if you look at it in that light you will be better with it. If you must have the epidural then go for it but I will give you an example of why I was glad I didn't:



Both (two children) I had natural ...Our second child came out with the umbilical cord wrapped around her neck, cutting off her oxygen. The Dr. told me to push a little, and then to stop pushing at a crucial moment so he could cut it around her neck. He said "Ok PUSH!!!.then STOP!!!! "



If I had continued pushing (which is a very strong natural urge) she might not have made it...but I think because I didn't have the epidural I had the control I needed to stop pushing at the exact moment the Dr. told me to. Yet I cannot be sure I wouldn't have that control...I just know it was timely when he said "STOP PUSHING!" My daughter was blue in the face for 3 days even as a result...I thank God to this day she was OK.



Good luck and go with your intuition!

Claudia

Johanna - posted on 12/01/2012

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My 1st (My Son Caleb) was an emerg c/s at 36wks due to pre-e..

My 2nd (My Daughter Haifa) water broke while taking a bath day of my last ob appt lol, she was a successful Vbac w/ Epidural.. I had horrible back labor, labored as long as I could w/o epi but the back labor was unbearable.. once I had the Epi.. labor moved very quickly and she came in less than 20 mins.

My 3rd.. (My Daughter Amiya) I labored at home while getting My other 2 kids ready to go, trying to wake up hubbs on a work night lol and crawling around the floor for a total of 20 mins before we made into the hossy, walked in 8.5cm.. got in room was ready to push, no time for meds, they broke the bulging bag of water and had her in one big push MED FREE... successful Vbac again.. she was My Proudest Birth.. being 1 push med free :)



I'd say, I enjoyed My 3rd baby the most. Was not horrible at all. With My 2nd though Epi eased up the back labor immediately, and I did not mind being pain free. BUT still easiest and fastest labor of all was with Amiya Renesmee. :)



Each woman is different. Each woman has a different pain tolerance. I live in constant daily severe pain, with fibromyalgia.. medical pain I'm a wimp with.. and I dealt with med free with Amiya. My Pain tolerance with other things are fine, ex: I have 21 tattoos and 8(used to be more) piercings.. and I don't so much as cringe with ink.. but my hubbs tears up with his tattoos. Put a shot in me, I cringe.. give me an iv I'm a baby, fibro pain, I cry... so it varies on how well your pain tolerance is.



We are TTC Love Baby #4 (well after I'm done nursing Amiya) and I hope I have another med free fast labor like I did with her. :) It wasn't as bad as I expected.. and I'm petite, very small framed, 5'3 100lbs soaking wet size 00 jeans.. and I healed less with both Vbacs then I did with c.s and healed much faster with one push no meds, then I did with epi and longer labor with Haifa. Body shape can play a role, my sil is petite but has wider hips then me.. she wouldn't do vag. birth with her last 2, she elected c/s.. me I prefer vag. delivery.



Get all your info, read up, do your research.. being knowledgeable about all your choices is best and once you know exactly what you want, write out your Birthing list for your OB and Your Hossy, and do what you feel is best. :)

Krista - posted on 12/01/2012

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I had my son naturally and I'm so glad I did. It is totally doable. It is the most intense and amazing experience of my life. If you go medicated I'm sure you will be fine. Women are amazingly strong. The contractions are intense and unmistakable when they are finally happening. Of course, I dilated to 8 right away so that was pretty intense. If they are more gradual and you have time to get the epidural before they get too strong then I'm sure it wont be too bad. The best advice I can give you is to practice staying calm and look at it as a positive experience with every contraction bringing you closer to your baby. So many people enter the delivery room in fear of the pain and I think that only adds to it. I told myself from the get go that I was going to have a fast labor, that I was going to have minimal pain and that I was strong enough to handle it. That is exactly what happened. I had a five hour labor. It was intense, but totally manageable. I only considered medication for a sec and I quickly pushed the thought out of my mind. We were built to do this. You will do just find.

Brianna - posted on 12/01/2012

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I was dreading it through my whole pregnancy. But it was great! I had the epidural and didn't feel a thing! It wore off but you can give yourself more with a little button. I didnt even feel it! I want to go back because it was so peaceful and a trully wonderful moment, lol. You'll be fine :) Breathe through contractions, what you should be worried about is healing cause childbirth was a piece of cake to me (with epi) BUT HEALING WAS A ******

Zaynab - posted on 12/01/2012

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I had the epidural, it worked well until I got to 8 cm dilated, after that I could feel all the pressure, it took me 45 mins to deliver my son. It was a bit painful , but not horrific, like I thought it would be.

I know people who says they didnt feel anything while on the epi, however that wasn't in my case. I guess it depends how early/late they give it, and how much.

Jess - posted on 11/30/2012

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I have three kids, ages 16, 12, and 6months. With the first I can’t remember the name of the med I had (it was 16 years ago), the worst part was how sick it made me, and the pain wasn’t great either. With my second, I had no meds and it was horrible for me. With my third I decided to have the Epidural, and I will never regret doing it. A lot of people tried to make me feel guilty for choosing the Epidural, but I had no side effects, it did not affect my daughter at all, and it honestly was for the first time, and amazing experience. I was less tired than with the previous two deliveries (and I was so much older this time) and felt like I was more “there” or “with it” when it came to the first few hours spent with my daughter. What you do, how you do it is a personal decision, just make sure you’re comfortable and that it’s right for you. Oh, and I want to add; the mind has an amazing ability to make you forget the details of the pain pretty quickly; I noticed that with all three.

Christina - posted on 11/30/2012

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I'm sorry, but if you expect to have a fully medicated delivery, you're mistaken. Your doctor has a right to take away the meds if you are not making any progress because of it.

Lauren - posted on 11/30/2012

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I didn't have any pain relief not even a panadol and I wish I had! It was the worst pain that i'll ever experience during my lifetime lol but from what i've heard from many people you don't feel a thing with epidural. Your completley numb and you can adjust the dosage if you don't want to be completley numb. Gas doesn't help as much but again it depends how your body will react to it, u may find u dont need anything else and that it will do just fine to get u through it. I think everyones different at how they manage the pain through labor but if you need to take pain relief then why not. It's there to help you and if it wasn't safe then they wouldn't allow u to take it in the first place. Hope this helps :)

Kristian - posted on 11/29/2012

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I did it all naturally.. it's healthier for you and your baby. It hurts but not like your getting hit by a semi truck and ive heard epiduarls hurt horibly!! you should try it natually at first and you could always get a little bit of pain medication that would last a half an hour at at time. I would totally do childbirth again it hurts but once you have that baby you forget about it

Nicole - posted on 11/29/2012

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I had both my boys with NO drugs at all. an both were super fast. the contractions feel like u have a super bad stomach ache an cant go to the bathroom. It gets more intense. My 1st son I was 35wksan it was way faster then my second. started haven contractions at 4am an thought it was a stomach ache an went on with my day ect. buy 8am I calledmy doc. because I had contractions ever 2 to 3 mins. Had to wait till 11 to go to the hospital. I had my brothers girls an had to go get the oldest from school. so by 11am I made it to the hospital an was at 5cm at 1 oclock I had my son. with my baby boy #2 I went into labor at 35 wks sun nov 3rd. I stopped at 4cm. an got sent home. My doc put me on bedrest for a wk to get me to 36wks I had contractions 24/7. friday I was off bedrest. so sat I went got out of the house. Sunday woke up at 7 went pee an went back to bed. I started haven a stomach ache. so I kinda knw It was gonna be soon. I went back to bed woke. at 7:45am my water broke in bed. got the he hospital at 8am was at 5cm. an I had no drugs no Ivs nothing this time either. I had my son at 12:58pm

My son was 6Lbs 154ozs. 20inches long an healthy. my fisrt was 6lbs 1oz and 19inches long an healthy. It all depends on what u want an how much pain u can handle. My 2 was painful bt I didnt want my son to bt drugged up. an Im more into the natrul birth.

Julia Robin - posted on 11/29/2012

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Hey- the pain related to the contractions is intense,

but once you get the epidural you will be at ease.

no more pain. but once you are ready to push

you are going to feel this pressure,

and at that time all you need to do is push when told to.

Just know that you need to push the baby out just in time

because if you refuse to push could create distress to the baby.

I had no clue how my level of pushing at 8:50 in the morning was gonna help the baby come out,

My water broke at 1:30 in th morning, and once i got there I decided to ask them to

keep the epidural away. i should have just taken it, but being a first time mommy i did

not know what was at store, thn around 5:50 in the morning i got a epidural, it was a relief.

but rt when i was 10 cm dilated his hrt rate started decellerating

(he had a cord around the neck) so the whole L & D nurses came storming into my room,

got me ready in a few seconds, n they went "Now Push" n i knew that i needed to, but the 1st thing came to my mind ":are they kidding, i have been up the whole night, where am i going to get the energy to push his big head out, but within no time i gave it all i got, n my lil one was out in my arms shaking n crying out loud not knowing what was happening.now he is almost a month, smiling as he sleeps against my chest, n me typing this out to u with one hand.

but the whole pain process seems like a bad dream which i can barely remember.

so wishing you the very best, as you push and get ur lil precious out, n offcourse the pain is the sides you dont like which comes free with the birthing process, happy holidays.

Lindsay_vincilione - posted on 11/29/2012

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Honestly, I think I had one of the most text book labor and deliveries ever. I started labor at 8 am on a Friday morning, and had contractions until that Sunday when I went to the hospital. (They wouldn't admit me until I was four centimeters) That was when I got the epidural. It was a god send! Seriously the anesthesiologist was my best friend. lol Anyhow, I got to the hospital at around 2 got my pain medication, and six hours wonderful hours later, had my daughter at 8 pm. Three pushes and she was out. The doctor had to ask me to not push because my daughter was working her own way out! And it was my first delivery too! Couldn't have gone better in my opinion. Everyone is different. And honestly afterwards you won't even remember, once you see that face you won't even remember the pain. Really, I promise! GOOD LUCK!

ParkswayVoodoo - posted on 11/28/2012

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i had my first with and epidural, i went in at 3 centimeters and tried to go as long as possible without the epidural. finally i gave in at about 6 cenimeters and fell asleep. i woke up with the urge to push and popped him out in 20 minutes. it hurt to push him out very bad, but i couldnt feel my contractions. my second i went in at 7 centimeters and hardly had any pain, so the nurse told me id be fine, and i believed her. 20 minutes later when i got to 8 centimeters the REAL pain came it was unbearable, and i was too late for the epidural or ANY pain medication. i was a screaming crying vommitting mess, my husband even said he felt like the light was leaving my eyes. i was such a mess they made an exception to give me the epidural at 9 centimeters, but the ane. was so impatient, i got a contraction right when he was gonna poke me and of course i started moving, i mean the pain is so bad i couldnt stay still, i asked him to wait until the contraction was over and he got angry and left i started bawling and the nurse called in 4 more nurses to help calm me down, then finally my doctor and i was so relieved to see her i hugged her and finally i had to push and it was nothing compared to the contractions! it hurt, yes, but not like with my first! i recomend the epidural if you arent good with pain management! becuase it takes it all away!

Paula - posted on 11/28/2012

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Every woman is different. Bottom line is this. If you do not have to be put on pittosen or the PIT as they call it it won't be that bad, if you do need to be put on the pit (like i did) then it makes your contractions 10 times as bad as they are naturally. I just had my daughter November 3rd 2012. I went to the dr for a regular OB apt on nov 1st 11 am and I was admitted for preeclampsia my bp was very high I was 38 weeks my due date was the 14th. They induced me at 3 pm and again at 3 am cause the first induction wasn't doing anything for me. I had very slight contractions felt like light period cramps to me, but I wouldn't dilate. They put me on the pit because I wasn't even getting any real contractions from either induction. I spent 58 hrs in labor no typo FIVE EIGHT! I was forced pretty much to get an epi because of my bp and I felt like it wasn't working but my mom and husband said it did all I remember was the contractions in the end were so so so hard and strong I thought I was going to pass out WITH an epi and with the added medication button I could push. But! By the time you get the feeling "I want to push" it's so much better, once they actually let you push that is. The contractions start high And move down low until you feel like you need to push and DON'T push till they tell you to. Bottom line not to be gross it feels like you have to poop really bad. Once you get to push its so much better you just feel like your getting out the pain I only pushed through three contractions and it all happens SO Fast and by that point I was so so so tired I don't even remover everything. Once they lay your baby on your chest it's all over and you just want your baby and don't feel anything else. Now for me like I said don't push till they tell you cause even though I didn't i still tore pretty bad I was rushed to OR and was in for an hour being stitched back up (again not to be gross) it was from butthole to top of cervix. All in all I'm probably only having my daughter cause that was enough for me, but this isn't typical for most women. My mothers labor and deliver was almost identical. So they say most likely what your birth was like will be what your child's will be like also. So ask you're mother, if you are able. Good luck. And I hope it's not too much info, just a realty :)

Vanessa - posted on 11/28/2012

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I did natural both times- the first time I had no clue what I was doing so it hurt like heck. The second time I worked on some relaxation and breathing techniques and it was much more comfortable. I think either way, drugs or no drugs, you will have some unglamorous encounters and uncomfortableness, it's really just up to you how you go about it. In the end, you'll have that baby in your arms and all that you went through won't matter.

HeatherJ - posted on 11/28/2012

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I started with contraction at 5:30, went to the hospital around 7:30, felt him crowing as they were giving me my epidural, but there was no way I was having him naturally. That slowed things down, but I start pushing around 9:45 and he was here at 10:25 p.m. and it was amazingly easy. He kept getting stuck in the birth canal so they lowered my bed back and I pushed a few more times and he came out with no problems. Good Luck. It really isnt as bad as they show on TV :)

Leslie Kristine - posted on 11/27/2012

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I read recently that the human body is capable of tolerating 45 units of pain. During childbirth the average woman experiences 57 units of pain. Which is the equivalent of fracturing 20 bones at the same time. Does THAT answer your question? They don't call it labour for nothing! I am a cancer survivor and was told I would never have kids. I have 2! My first came so quick she didn't have time to tuck in her elbow so she tore me. My pregnancy was a dream and very fast labour, 45 minutes and I had laughing gas. My second was difficult and high risk all the way. She was a preemie and had laughing gas again... BIG mistake! I did not keep up with my pelvic floor exercises... BIG mistake! It was a difficult labour where I had no complications but baby did. Try not to stress too much. Do your exercises and remember mind over matter, if you don't mind, it won't matter! Good Luck!

Linda - posted on 11/27/2012

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No it doesn't feel like being hit by a semi truk it feels like nothing if your going down the medication route ya won't feel a thing epidurals are amazing don't listen to peoples horror stories you'll be grand

Kylee - posted on 11/27/2012

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i was 18 years old when i gave birth to my son completely natural! i went to lamaze classes & learned how to breath to help through the pain. and i had my very supportive husband next to me the entire time. try to have yor baby naturally! its the best feeling in the world! you feel like superwoman!! like you can do anything you want to in the world. and it is true, once i seen my son, i didnt even remember the pain!! the adrenalyn almost numbs your vag anyway!!

ANDREA - posted on 11/27/2012

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i would really say is the most wonderfull thing ever i did not feel anypain but its different for every person good luck:>

Jamie - posted on 11/26/2012

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i was in labour for 12 hrs with my daughter who was my first all i had was pethadine, but by the time it came to pushing it had worn off, and i needed stitches. with my son i was in labour for 3hrs and because it happened so quickly all i was able to have was gas, but when i came to pushing i was only biting down on the nozzel part, and no stitches needed..im only small in stature, and quite petite but the worst part i hated was when the head was crowning, it felt like it was on fire, after that and before i didnt feel like it was too bad, i was still able to cope...and after they were both born it was if the pain of labour had gone away, like it was tender and sore considering what just happened, but nothing like the pains before.. everyone is different and with different pain tollerences, Good Luck with everything,

Michelle - posted on 11/26/2012

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I have 3 girls and each one was different. With my first I had the epidural and it was still really painful. REALLY painful. My second girl come so quick that there was no time for any pain meds and honestly it was so fast It really didn't hurt bad. My third girl I wanted to try to do all natural but the pain was so bad my husband insisted that i get the epidural and after that i felt only a little pain but it was managable. All in all when you are there having the baby the pain is really not your concern it is get this baby out! www.myfamily1st.advancingwithus.com

Helen Bently - posted on 11/25/2012

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we all are different...urs might be alot more easier, dont just listen to those with 100hours of labour, urs can be jst an hour or minuetes...or u might not even feel/know u are in labour...God will see u through. i had my 4th child in may, d labour was different from d rest..but really happy after the push... am an optimist, u can do it anyhow...takia

Denise - posted on 11/24/2012

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Have gone into labor 3 times without receiving epidural.....sure it hurts....but it wasn't that bad and I'm a wuss!

User - posted on 11/24/2012

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I had natural childbirth with both my girls. There was some pain but honestly, the moment your baby is in your arms, you forget about all the pain. My daughter is 3 months old now and I really can't even remember it. Don't stress. They can give you medication that will help you rest during contractions or epidural which gives you no feeling. It's not the worst pain of your life :) The worst thing you can do is to worry about the pain. If you go into the hospital relaxed and with a positive attitude about childbirth, the labor will be quicker and less painful.

Ashlea - posted on 11/24/2012

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Mine too. My mom had me all scared talking about how she was in labor for days. Also how the contractions hurt 10 times worse than period cramps. I was super scared. It actually wasnt that bad. It felt like period cramps and i was only in labor for 5 hrs and 35 min. I only used an epidural cause my mom left me at the hospital all by myself. I was scared to be there all by myself. Everyone showed up 5 min before i started to push.

Ashlea - posted on 11/24/2012

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Mine felt like peiod cramps before the epidural. After the epidural i was calm and didnt feel any pain. I could have taken a nap if it wasnt for the annoying machines beeping and the nurses coming in and checked on me every 20 min.

Ronni - posted on 11/24/2012

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I had to be induced with my first and second child and I had back labor with both. With the first I was only in labor went very quickly only about 6 hours total from when they induced me, although with the second it was around 24 hours. My doctor had turned off my epidural (at my request) when it was time for the delivery so I could experience the birth. For me the labor was more painful than the actual delivery. I recommend the epidural, just from my own experience. You'll know what to do when it happens..we're all stronger than we think. Good luck!

Tami - posted on 11/23/2012

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My first was a c-section, second I had Demerol because I wanted to be "in control" of the pushing (this one was a VBAC), the third, who was the biggest one I had an epidural. All I can say is...go with the epidural!! It was heaven sent. No complications whatsoever.

Hedydd - posted on 11/23/2012

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I had pethadine with my eldest (now 11) and it did take the edge of the contractions away. Then with my other 3 (ages 9,8 and 2) i had natural births to younger ones were home births. I would reccomend natural all the way as those labours were short (4hrs,2hrs and hr and half)compared with 8hrs 45mins with my eldest. But as already said all women are different and have different pain thresholds.

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Honestly? I had my son naturally, no meds, and it wasnt nearly as horrible as some of the horror stories ive heard. IT HURTS. yes it hurts, but its different for everyone. Im having another one so it cant all be bad! yuo have to let your body do the work. you are a woman, and its natural, so do it naturally. I disagree with med for myself personally. but some people think they are alright, and they really help. I THINK YOU SHOULD GO THROUGH AS LONG AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN BEFORE JUMPING ON THE MEDS. the epidural can be given in late labour and you can get shots of demerol through the whole thing, but i thnk you should try without, i think everyone should because we are women, WOMEN ARE MEANT TO GIVE BIRTH

Alisha - posted on 11/23/2012

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I'm 20 I had my son when I was 18 and absolutly can't stand pain but i told myself it would be the worst pain of my life the whole pregnancy so I was prepared to feel the worst thing possible. So once it came it ended up not being as bad so prepare yourself mentally first. I had the epidural and iv meds it wasn't that bad. Once the head is right at the end ready to come out was the worst for me. because I needed to push so hard and long that each time i stopped he went back in but i pushed and came back up and it took a few times and I completely felt like giving up and that was the worse painful part but still not what I expected. put I ripped slightly..Don't let that scare you though I didn't know I ripped until they told me.

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"All in all, it wasn't as bad as some people make it out to be"



It was for me. My mental health people even think it's part of my PTSD. Of course I was happy as all get out when he was finally born but he took 40 hours to do so and I was truly in agony the entire time. 30 hours without any pain relief, at home, taking baths, showers till we ran out of hot water, walking, having hubby give back rubs, etc. but nothing cut that pain.

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Well I had to have my daughter natural with absolutely no choice because I didn't know I was pregnant until I was in active labor and had the worst abdominal pain EVER! The contractions were the worst. Honestly it feels like your insides are falling out and your dying. I was so happy to push because I didn't really feel the pain, I just wanted the baby out. The doctor did give me a shit down there so I didn't feel anything when she cut me down there. Then my 5lb 5oz baby popped out and there was no more pain other than her stitching me up. Immediately after birth they have me some medicine that knocked me out because I'm AB- and I lost too much blood.



All in all, it wasn't as bad as some people make it out to be.

Caroline - posted on 11/21/2012

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Although there are stories about long labours, especially first ones, some mothers are only in labour for a short time. My first one was about three hours once it finally started, though I don't remember how long it took to begin after I was induced. The second pregnancy was around two to three hours in labour and I wasn't sure if I would make it down one floor from the ward to the labour ward as the policy is for a ward orderly to take the mother-to-be down in the lift. I would have preferred to walk!



Whilst not all pregnancies go well, most do and result in a happy, healthy baby. I hope your midwife is able to put your mind at rest about the most suitable methods of pain relief for you, your baby and your circumstances.

All the best

Eliza - posted on 11/21/2012

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Dear Oka,



Dennika Green said it BEST! PAIN with a purpose! You get the best reward. And, for me, the joy of seeing my beautiful baby girl completely erradicated any pain I had.

AAAAANNND, women LOVE to tell their 40 hour labor stories.. don't listen, PLEASE! Everyone IS different. Every baby's position is different which may cause them to slow down labor.

Just remember you're working for a purpose! And having a baby is going to hurt, somewhere!!

Best wishes for a HEALTHY baby!! ♥♥

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2012

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I delivered my son without an epidural 2w ago-not by choice. I wanted an epidural very bad & they tried 5x's. I didn't think I had a high pain tolerance, but the doctors said I did better than some of the women who get epidurals. I was only in labor for 9hrs, & my OB didn't get there on time to cut me... It did hurt, but it wouldn't have hurt as much if they didn't stab me in the back 5x's. My next pregnancy I will be doing everything naturally. To me the contractions hurt a bunch worse than the actual birth-like EXTREME menstrual cramps. The only thing they gave be was a very low goose of demeral in my IV because they thought I'd be able to get the epidural-all that did was make me fall asleep between contractions. Honestly for me it wasn't that bad. The epidural can paralyze people. It made everything worse for me that they tried because my back muscle hurt so bad it was hard for me to pick my son up the first week or do much of anything. Good luck!!

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I agree with Marie. No matter how much it may hurt, a day later you will be thinking about the next baby ;) While it was happening I was thinking 'ok maybe 1 is enough!' but after she was out and I was holding her that attitude change :D

It's not that you forget the pain and discomfort, it's just that after they are born you don't care so much about it.

Carol Louise - posted on 11/20/2012

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I had my twins with natural child birth the 1st came so fast the doctor had not arrived yet .NO pain no nothing

Marie - posted on 11/20/2012

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I had my twins naturally without any pain medication or epidurals etc at all. There wasn't time. The whole process - start to finish- was 2 hours. Yes, it hurt alot and I mean alot...I felt like my hips were being torn apart and it was one huge contraction that never stopped. I cried and I begged for someone to help me. However, it was only about a day or so later that I was ready to do it again if I had to. And, no I wouldn't take pain medication this time either. It was painful but I felt in control of what was happening.

Leanne - posted on 11/19/2012

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Listen childbirth isn't painful at all when its done naturally, i had no choice but to have a natural birth without gas and air or the other pain relief they give you because mine happpened that fast it was too late for me to go to the hospital as my daughters head was already out. Childbirth is worth it when you look at the beautiful bundle you've just popped out and if you need pain relief than your pain barrier just isn't that good, mine wasn't good before i got pregnant but when i was giving birth to my baby it was better than i thought and i was in complete shock with how fast i delivered her and how long i was in labour for. 2 hours labour and 20 mins to push her out and that happened in the early hours of the morning.

Natasha - posted on 11/18/2012

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I had both my kids all natural. Childbirth is very painful but if you put your mind to it you can bare through it. 15 hours with my son and 8 hours with my daughter. My daughter was the worse because they induced me, that is harder than going in labor all on you own.

Stevie - posted on 11/18/2012

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Honestly... Every person its different.. But being in delivery rooms multiple times with me only having one son,i have noticed young girls (teen moms) make less of a fuss...my labor was easy and everything but my nurses sent me home for 9hrs in active labor... My doctor said I should have refused to leave but I didn't know exactly what was happening either.. After sleeping in between contractions I can say I think I could have gone all natural.. The epidural just relaxed me and helped take stress off of the baby.. That's why I choose medicated and the only reason.. Labor is, to me, only as bad as you make it.. I stayed active the entire pregnancy... Including things I was only allowed to do because they got my regular routine.. Like biking.. Very difficult but fun because it took the weight off of My legs and still provided expercise.. Hope this helps even though it doesn't really explain...

Carol Louise - posted on 11/18/2012

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I LOVE THE WAY YOU SAID THAT IT IS BEAUTIFUL WORDING AND COULD NOT HAVE BEEN SAID BETTER THAN THAT. I am a mother of four grown daughters and 11 grandchildren

Julie - posted on 11/18/2012

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OKA - I have really enjoyed reading all the Moms' stories out there that you generated! PLEASE let us know when you have your baby how everything went. Lots of love, prayers, and encouragement - almost 600 replies! Wish I could have read all this before my first baby :o)

Julie - posted on 11/18/2012

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Sweetheart, if you got that baby into this world it was a "normal" birth. I know what you mean that you would rather have done it naturally but don't beat yourself up if you had to have a c-section. I'm sure your doc had a reason in there somewhere. As long as you brought the baby into this world the best and safest way you knew how, NOBODY has a right to judge you - c-section, no meds, meds, epidural, whatever, as long as it gets our little angels here. :o) (This post was a response to Roxi Roman-Santiago's post)

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